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Unsolicited friend invites.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something I’ve never done . Surely the only reason people do it is to chance there arm to see the friend only pics "
Exactly this is why and it's not a big deal to either ignore or just bulk delete. Job done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They want us to wait until they're offline, accept the request, look at their Friends pics (generally genitalia pics), then delete as Friends...don't they?  "
Basically this |
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To be fair, we have actually had a few Meets as a result of people randomly Friend requesting us, so we don`t mind (our profile states that as well.) Mind you, we are a couple of slappers. We don`t have any Private pics, so it`s not so they can perv them. |
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By *t0600Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"Something I’ve never done . Surely the only reason people do it is to chance there arm to see the friend only pics
Exactly this is why and it's not a big deal to either ignore or just bulk delete. Job done."
I would agree |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
Fairytale Wood |
There are those that like a friends list a mile long because it makes them look popular. More friends they can enlist the better. Others are simply picture hunters, either looking fo wank pictures or more nefarious activities.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it fun. Accept them when they’re offline, check out the photos then unfriend them. Hotlist the ones you like and Bobs your uncle.  "
Smart! I vaguely remember receiving one once. Lol.
Why would anyone accept one without having conversations first though!? |
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"Without even a conversation first, what is that all about.
Are these people being rude ignoring profiles, or are they just really really thick and can't read words of more than three letters??"
Most likely both. |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
Just trying their luck to have a look at your friends only pics, I say on my profile I don't accept them and I still get them I just bulk delete them, its a feature on fab and people will use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s odd that people don’t look at the profile first. All the reasons above are great examples of why they do it. But I wonder how many people have done it. Got added then seen that the friends only were heavily into kinks and such.
Teach them to read |
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I don't mind getting or sending,purely because Id like to see more of the profile that I sent 1 too and for them to check more of mine . It's easy enough not to accept, but the ones that do have at least shown some interest and for me that's a better time to send a message |
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"I don't mind getting or sending,purely because Id like to see more of the profile that I sent 1 too and for them to check more of mine . It's easy enough not to accept, but the ones that do have at least shown some interest and for me that's a better time to send a message "
But you are sending a cold friend request and have not even chatted to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do not send them and never would."
Absolutely agree ... never send until had a meet, asked in message first then after getting a reply that gives permission to send would i then send request |
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"I don't mind getting or sending,purely because Id like to see more of the profile that I sent 1 too and for them to check more of mine . It's easy enough not to accept, but the ones that do have at least shown some interest and for me that's a better time to send a message
But you are sending a cold friend request and have not even chatted to them. "
Most people are attracted to the look of someone, by accepting the request it gives both profiles a chance to see if they would be more or less attracted by seeing more of that person. Its not for all but I've had more chats this way so it works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tell you what and this is genuine, ive done it about 6 times tis week. Gone to hit send message or look at the gallery, cursor slips boom you've sent a wink... sorry |
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"I do not send them and never would.
Absolutely agree ... never send until had a meet, asked in message first then after getting a reply that gives permission to send would i then send request"
I meant I would never send a message or meet, but that is me I am not here looking but only to post.
But if I was to change my mind, I do it your way.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tell you what and this is genuine, ive done it about 6 times tis week. Gone to hit send message or look at the gallery, cursor slips boom you've sent a wink... sorry"
Ignore me I woke up and im dumb, disregard my completely off track post |
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"I don't mind getting or sending,purely because Id like to see more of the profile that I sent 1 too and for them to check more of mine . It's easy enough not to accept, but the ones that do have at least shown some interest and for me that's a better time to send a message "
Why not do the polite thing and send a message first??
So we are guessing that your everyday social life is full of friends that you have never met??
Highly unlikely isn't it?
Have we lost the concept of "good manners" on here?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not do the polite thing and send a message first??
So we are guessing that your everyday social life is full of friends that you have never met??
Highly unlikely isn't it?
Have we lost the concept of "good manners" on here??"
I will always actively seek permission 1st... unless already talking in a thread where member publicly encourages that they are welcomed |
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"Without even a conversation first, what is that all about.
Are these people being rude ignoring profiles, or are they just really really thick and can't read words of more than three letters??"
I just delete them |
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I usually just delete them. Occasionally I will double check with someone if we have met, if they are local. Most of the time we haven't.
Don't bother me too much, unless I've declined and they send multiple requests. Then I just block. |
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"I don't mind getting or sending,purely because Id like to see more of the profile that I sent 1 too and for them to check more of mine . It's easy enough not to accept, but the ones that do have at least shown some interest and for me that's a better time to send a message
Why not do the polite thing and send a message first??
So we are guessing that your everyday social life is full of friends that you have never met??
Highly unlikely isn't it?
Have we lost the concept of "good manners" on here??"
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Instant delete from us , if they can’t be bothered to read our profile or if they do and chance it anyway why would we just add them as friends .
A guys 1 picture profile of a Cock along side a Sky remote isn’t going to entice us to share everything with them I’m afraid . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a clouds white lining. It’s unfortunate how many times this has happened to all of you. But the amount of stunning profiles in here I can’t blame people for trying |
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We leave them unaccepted so they can't send another. We only have friends that we've met or that we've been in contact with and made a connection.
Had never thought about waiting until they were offline to look at their friends pics and then unfriend though lol...
Thanks for the tip  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s annoying. I let them build up.
Sometimes i’ll randomly accept one when the other person is offline, take a look, and then delete them.
But yeah I currently have hundreds that I haven’t responded to, because if you reject the request they just send another. |
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"Without even a conversation first, what is that all about.
Are these people being rude ignoring profiles, or are they just really really thick and can't read words of more than three letters??"
I've accidentally done it. I use the desktop version on my mobile because I prefer it and the wink/message button are right next to each other  |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"We wait til they’re offline, accept then fab all their pics then remove from our friends list
Sneaky, but effective
Usually get a message afterwards moaning about it but I find it funny "
Do ne exactly that a few times.. |
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"Without even a conversation first, what is that all about.
Are these people being rude ignoring profiles, or are they just really really thick and can't read words of more than three letters??"
I think they usually just want to see private galleries. I ignore them. |
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We clearly state will only friend people who we have met on the scene. Doesn’t stop them trying though.
Even when I told one guy the other day that our private gallery wasn’t really that different to what was out there in public more a place to put old pictures/vids, he still persisted with messages. |
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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago
Redhill |
"We wait til they’re offline, accept then fab all their pics then remove from our friends list
Sneaky, but effective
Usually get a message afterwards moaning about it but I find it funny "
And you'd be disappointed if you didn't get the message, it's the final reward. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"We wait til they’re offline, accept then fab all their pics then remove from our friends list
Sneaky, but effective
Usually get a message afterwards moaning about it but I find it funny
And you'd be disappointed if you didn't get the message, it's the final reward. "
Ha ha.. Be sure to Fab a few friends only pics before unfriending to really throw em.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think they are just chancing their luck to see the private stuff. I just ignore them."
Worth a try I suppose
Don’t ask don’t get but there is something called mannors xx |
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"I think they are just chancing their luck to see the private stuff. I just ignore them.
Worth a try I suppose
Don’t ask don’t get but there is something called mannors xx"
We don't friend wall any pics, yet we still get unsolicited friend requests |
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"Without even a conversation first, what is that all about.
Are these people being rude ignoring profiles, or are they just really really thick and can't read words of more than three letters??"
I think some see it like Facebook and others use it to try to see Friends Only photos.
Either way, we just ignore them.
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It's well worth reading this entire thread. We just used to let them sit there. As others point out, it stops them sending further requests.
But, there is additional fun to be had during the odd dull moment, as pointed out by several people. You can periodically go through all your invites, finding ones who are offline, accept the invite, perv their friends only stuff, and then unfriend. Or, for extra spice, and to leave them with a mystery to solve, Fab all their friends only stuff. Great entertainment for a dull Saturday afternoon, thanks to some great posts above for suggesting  |
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I just don't get WHY?
Well maybe I understand that people like a sneaky peaky into your freinds only content. However what makes people think anyone will just add unsolicited requests?
We ignore them. Plus it's likely something we'd veiw as a red flag. |
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"I just don't get WHY?
Well maybe I understand that people like a sneaky peaky into your freinds only content. However what makes people think anyone will just add unsolicited requests?
We ignore them. Plus it's likely something we'd veiw as a red flag."
Just lots of chancers on fab, so they take the view that if they don’t ask they don’t get. You can be sure that you won’t be the only person they’ll be sending a request to.  |
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"It's well worth reading this entire thread. We just used to let them sit there. As others point out, it stops them sending further requests.
But, there is additional fun to be had during the odd dull moment, as pointed out by several people. You can periodically go through all your invites, finding ones who are offline, accept the invite, perv their friends only stuff, and then unfriend. Or, for extra spice, and to leave them with a mystery to solve, Fab all their friends only stuff. Great entertainment for a dull Saturday afternoon, thanks to some great posts above for suggesting "
I like to accept the invite when they’re offline, check out their private pics, then unfriend. Don’t get mad; get even |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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My thoughts why
1. They wanna see any private pics you have
2. They like a long "friends" list makes them appear popular
3. They have face pictures in their gallery for you to see if theres interest
4. Other reasons only they can answer
If you don't deletr the request they can't send another  |
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Hi all,
This is a really interesting subject for us, as we are new to this and thinking of deleting our account as a lot of profile are photo collectors in our opinion.
It annoys us when we get a friends request and accept it on the basis of a potential good chat only to then get ghosted or get 1 or 2 messages, but when people have no public photos we have sent a random friends request as we do not want to get into lots of dialogue before seeing if there could be a potential physical attraction.
Interested in your views.. |
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I used to get friend requests from women competing on hotpics.
I'd never spoken to any of them and some I'd never even heard of so I didn't accept any.
I rarely get them now but the last 10 or 12 have been unsolicited from complete strangers.
I don't delete any of them and that prevents them from sending another. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Hi all,
This is a really interesting subject for us, as we are new to this and thinking of deleting our account as a lot of profile are photo collectors in our opinion.
It annoys us when we get a friends request and accept it on the basis of a potential good chat only to then get ghosted or get 1 or 2 messages, but when people have no public photos we have sent a random friends request as we do not want to get into lots of dialogue before seeing if there could be a potential physical attraction.
Interested in your views.. "
Don’t accept the requests. Have a conversation first |
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Sorry, why does it matter, it's easy to delete a request. Guys have it tough on here. I always try to reply to everyone that messages even a polite thanks but no thanks, if I get a request I'll have a wee looky, sometimes even start a conversation if I like what I see. It's not hard clicking delete if that person is not what you're looking for. |
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I'll give the same answer as when this question arose some time ago and that is it's more a Fab problem than a member being ignorant. I think most friend requests are actually hotlist clicks in the wrong place so if Fab made the friend request an 'are you sure you want to do this' double click type section then false requests would probably be eliminated. |
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"I'd have no problem someone sending a friend request. It's not something I do, but don't think it's worth getting in a flap over."
There's ALWAYS something to get in a flap over
There will be people that accept such invites just like they're those willing to reciprocate fake verifications. And to send 100 friend requests and only 5 people accept. That's still 5 people I guess? Just like faf messages 9/10 will get deleted but there's always that one person...... |
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I'm not really sure what the benefit of having 'friends' is on here, I very rarely have any contact with most of them and the 'friends only' pics and videos are rarely any different from those in their public section. |
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As strange as this sounds, I've had numerous couples sending me invitations with zero communication first.
When I look more closely, the usual format is few or no prior verifications and almost all the photos are of a lady.
I'm sure most of you can draw an inference as to the type of member sending these out.
If fabs were to make these requests only possible for full members, and then to deduct say seven days membership for each request this problem would be corrected immediately |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"They’re trying to be nosy and see your friends only pics. I never accept them unless it’s someone who I’ve been speaking with for a little while. "
Same for us  |
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We get quite a few and just delete.but we do wait till they are not online and have a look at their friends only photos.
Would say that 95% of them don't have face pics on there either.
We do have face pics on our friends pics. |
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By *oxy jWoman 29 weeks ago
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"Without even a conversation first, what is that all about.
Are these people being rude ignoring profiles, or are they just really really thick and can't read words of more than three letters??"
instant delete for me those that keep doing it then blocked ive only people ive met on my friends list people im interested in go on my hotlist |
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We must get 5 a day without any conversation first
All single guys of course
Don’t expect any friends request unless we know them , played with them or are seriously considering playing with them
No wonder people don’t take them seriously
I think the way forward is just to block them |
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"Without even a conversation first, what is that all about.
Are these people being rude ignoring profiles, or are they just really really thick and can't read words of more than three letters??"
Most people say they wanna see friends only pics that’s why they do it  |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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"Instant delete as it shows that they haven’t read my profile "
Same. We don't just add anyone. We're not one of those that crave the fab likes when we post images. |
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e please don’t send random friends request and still get them everyday lol
Some people can be just daft 
I perv them before they can perv on me lol