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Just not good enough for fab!!
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So I have little self confidence and even less body confidence since a bodged operation when I was 14. Gained loads of weight and yo-yo massively since.
I’ve been single and not had sex since 2011
but have some kinks so joined here to try and push myself and step past my comfort zone.
I’ve got pics and vids up , I do chat n play on cam but find I get watched by mainly guys! (I’m not into guys)
I send messages and take part in the forums but get blanked or deleted.
I’m guessing there is something wrong with me, in fact I know there is….I’m FAT
And not geordie/Essex Chelsea standard !!
Maybe I should just give up? |
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I think also, you have to have a really thick skin to be on here so if you’re suffering from low self esteem or confidence then this may not the place to be. Don’t give up though. Try and be more positive. Not just here on fab but in general. Good luck  |
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Not sure what your expectations were OP, but as you have 3 veris by meet I’m not sure why you think you’re being blanked? I’d consider yourself fortunate that you’ve managed more than most guys on fab. Best not take it too seriously and if you are meant to get more meets, don’t sweat it. Try attending a local fab social or a club if you are comfortable doing so. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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sadly for men its a scene where there is ''not'' someone for everyone due to the total unbalance scene ...
confidence can be key on this scene to ..why do so many men think all women want super fit 6 packs ? alot of my meets are with larger men yes of couse there has to be sexual attraction as well as other stuff but a guy with a belly is not going to put me off ..however a guy whos not confident will put me off |
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"So I have little self confidence and even less body confidence since a bodged operation when I was 14. Gained loads of weight and yo-yo massively since.
I’ve been single and not had sex since 2011
but have some kinks so joined here to try and push myself and step past my comfort zone.
I’ve got pics and vids up , I do chat n play on cam but find I get watched by mainly guys! (I’m not into guys)
I send messages and take part in the forums but get blanked or deleted.
I’m guessing there is something wrong with me, in fact I know there is….I’m FAT
And not geordie/Essex Chelsea standard !!
Maybe I should just give up? "
All I can say is ,you have three meet verifications that's three more than me.
I have long since cone to the conclusion that I am ugly and will never have any success on here, that's why I gave up and just post on the forums now . |
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Thanks guys
I just thought I was was doing so bad as recently all my messages etc just get deleted!
I’m my worst own critic which really doesn’t help.
I am going to loose weight (6 stone) again but this time I’m gona keep it off and be more positive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard for us dad bods, I get it though.
I found fab great for chat but nothing more, clubs and kik was far more successful for actual meets.
Keep going though, you will tickle someone's fancy ?? |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
cheshire |
"It's hard for us dad bods, I get it though.
I found fab great for chat but nothing more, clubs and kik was far more successful for actual meets.
Keep going though, you will tickle someone's fancy ?? "
,,, i thought the ladies like a dad bod |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks guys
I just thought I was was doing so bad as recently all my messages etc just get deleted!
I’m my worst own critic which really doesn’t help.
I am going to loose weight (6 stone) again but this time I’m gona keep it off and be more positive. "
Well done you if that's what you want to achieve. You need to feel happy in your own skin, and it's obvious in your OP that you are not. And I'm referring to mental health as well as your body. Get happy first before you do anything drastic. You are who you are.
All the best
Jess xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do people set so much of their self value by fab?
It makes me sad to see folk beating themselves up about not being good enough or being torn down for having a bit of confidence.
When it gets to the point where its causing you to question ‘if you're good enough’ its time to check out and do something else for a bit. In my humble opinion. I don't mean to seem dismissive of the OP’s feelings but Fab shouldn't be taken so seriously. |
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"It's hard for us dad bods, I get it though.
I found fab great for chat but nothing more, clubs and kik was far more successful for actual meets.
Keep going though, you will tickle someone's fancy ?? ,,, i thought the ladies like a dad bod"
Some do, some don't, but it's about more than just body for most ladies! |
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"Thanks guys
I just thought I was was doing so bad as recently all my messages etc just get deleted!
I’m my worst own critic which really doesn’t help.
I am going to loose weight (6 stone) again but this time I’m gona keep it off and be more positive. "
Confidence is sexy. Plus you have way more veris than others I've seen on here.
If the website is giving you negative feelings, maybe have a break and continue with the clubs.
We dip our toes in and out. I like the pictures and forum.
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"So I have little self confidence and even less body confidence since a bodged operation when I was 14. Gained loads of weight and yo-yo massively since.
I’ve been single and not had sex since 2011
but have some kinks so joined here to try and push myself and step past my comfort zone.
I’ve got pics and vids up , I do chat n play on cam but find I get watched by mainly guys! (I’m not into guys)
I send messages and take part in the forums but get blanked or deleted.
I’m guessing there is something wrong with me, in fact I know there is….I’m FAT
And not geordie/Essex Chelsea standard !!
Maybe I should just give up? "
Don’t be so hard on yourself OP. You got this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sadly for men its a scene where there is ''not'' someone for everyone due to the total unbalance scene ...
confidence can be key on this scene to ..why do so many men think all women want super fit 6 packs ? alot of my meets are with larger men yes of couse there has to be sexual attraction as well as other stuff but a guy with a belly is not going to put me off ..however a guy whos not confident will put me off"
Can you give me what confidence is for women where men are concerned? |
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