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Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. |
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over a year ago
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its not so much about the site your on as the individual your talking to. ive had relationships from dating sites that were swinging relationships, aswell as from fab (my lady i met on fab and currently engaged!). i always found that the people ive dated from sites rather than nsa, its about the conversations before the meets, theres just something deeper about them, like becoming a friend before you meet. i may be talking crap but its difficult to explain the difference |
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By *unchalMan
over a year ago
Dartford |
"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
Sorry, I'm a bit confused. Your profile says your are not looking for single guys. |
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"its not so much about the site your on as the individual your talking to. ive had relationships from dating sites that were swinging relationships, aswell as from fab (my lady i met on fab and currently engaged!). i always found that the people ive dated from sites rather than nsa, its about the conversations before the meets, theres just something deeper about them, like becoming a friend before you meet. i may be talking crap but its difficult to explain the difference"
This ^^^
I think the bit about the conversations is the key, it's happened for me in the past (when fab had a sister site); neither of us looking for more, but we clicked in a bigger way.
So yes OP, I would and have dated someone from a contact site. I have also fallen in to fwb with someone from a dating site. Personally I think the name and type of the site are side issues, an open mind, enjoy what you find, and communicate as well as you can.
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I've seen it happen on here a few times, but from similar forum posts it seems some singles on here don't like to share when it comes to being in a relationship.
Although here should be easier to find than tinder if your looking for someone to enjoy the lifestyle with.
Good luck op.
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I married someone I met on a different site, years ago now. I didn’t go looking for it, perhaps that’s the difference with Fab over Tinder etc? We just clicked (well, for a while  ) and fell into a relationship after meeting regularly. |
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time.
Sorry, I'm a bit confused. Your profile says your are not looking for single guys. "
That’s because I’ve been looking for guys on dating apps recently and rewrote my fab profile to attract women. Nothing puts the single guys off anyway. I still get 20X as many messages from guys as women but at least I’m getting a handful of women contact me since I rewrote the profile. I’m just considering whether to rewrite it to reflect what I’ve written above. (Ie looking for a relationship) but I’m not sure whether to as I don’t want to give up my brief encounters that are just about sex either. I want both. |
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Yep we did
We met here ,it'll be 8 years in November .we took some time out for ourselves first for a while,then decided we wanted to stay in the lifestyle .
Here is as good a place as any to find someone .
Good luck
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There are definitely people here who've made it work.
It's not something I explicitly look for, although I do actively seek friends I also happen to have sex with - it doesn't work out with most people, because they're just after sex. But there are a handful of people I've met from this site who are among my dearest friends. (I suppose some of those could potentially be relationships, but it's something I'm personally allergic to) |
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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago
Colne |
If the opportunity arose I'd absolutely date someone from fab... Saying that I've also come across men from fab on the usual dating sites.
These days whether it's here or the dating sites, it all seems to boil down to sex. 
Like you I'm looking for that special connection but it seems it would be a miracle if it happened. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can happen..
FB devolping and evolving into a Relationship as You're both wanting the same thing as well as the Stability of a Relationship. (And hopefully You get off on hearing about their encounters)
I've not dated anyone I've Met through here (although I did get introduced to FAB by an Ex-Partner) but it's not completely off the books.
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
It can certainly happen, but if that’s what you seek it probably needs to be explicit on your profile. Most people here won’t be looking for anything beyond sex / casual friendships, so this will likely be why you’ve found the people you’ve met so far are uninterested in anything more. |
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By *94meeMan
over a year ago
Manchester |
Of course.
The no.1 best scenario on here would be to find a filthy woman or even couple on here where we both get on, enjoy fucking each other and team up to explore more swinging scenarios. Building a longer lasting partnership or relationship would be a bonus  |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
I have this kind of connection with two amazing people, both of whom I met in a club. It’s easier to find someone who is both your kind of weird, and into the same kind of sexual stuff as you, if you’re just getting on with life and not actually looking? |
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We did .... Met on fab , neither looking for a relationship , but it happened , been together 5 years now and married 2 , we still play when we can and have a very open flow of conversation in our relationship ..... |
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over a year ago
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I’ve had more casual encounters in the past but for the last few months I’ve wanted more. Was dating a guy off here but sadly life got in the way. So I know it’s definitely possible to find someone lovely and genuine.
My profile says exactly what I’m looking for now. I’m amazed how many guys are looking for more. They usually don’t necessarily expect to find someone on here. Hence actually saying so in your profile. I have to block messages occasionally as for most ladies, the interest gets too much.
Dating sites don’t work for me. Guys don’t talk, it’s fairly pointless. And if they do, in my experience they go more quickly to sex talk than on here and are far cruder. Also if a woman talks about sex on dating sites, I think you’re viewed as easy. Whereas if you’re on here you know everyone sees that as being important and up for discussion.
Had a few dates lately but not found the right chemistry. I’m happy being single and don’t necessarily need a relationship. But if one comes along, I’d be happy.
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I would deffo date someone if the connection was there. I’ve given up with the dating sites, and always wondered what I would do when I met someone from the vanilla world, and would then have to reveal my swinging side. It could be a deal breaker.
So anyone looking for a serious relationship in the south west area….Hi! |
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It is definitely possible- I met my partner on here, I even messaged him first! It didn't even put him off that about 2 days after we started chatting, I went and broke my knee, badly, granting me nearly a month in hospital and long term mobility issues. We have been together nearly 5 years now. So yes, OP, it definitely happens. |
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Entirely possible to meet people in the scene and stay together. This is us and how we met.
You just need to be totally upfront and honest, that neither side will try and make the other vanilla.
Because if one of you wants to stop swinging and the other wants to continue, that's a death sentence. |
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Hi
I would like the exact same relationship as you - am on the usual dating sites but its pretty dull and would be worried that if i mentioned my fab life it would put off prospective lady. But i do realise that couples have met from fab but i would love to meet a single lady who i could have serious long term relationship with who I could share with others but its seems such a hard ask. |
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"Hi
I would like the exact same relationship as you - am on the usual dating sites but its pretty dull and would be worried that if i mentioned my fab life it would put off prospective lady. But i do realise that couples have met from fab but i would love to meet a single lady who i could have serious long term relationship with who I could share with others but its seems such a hard ask. "
Feel free to date Muggles as well, just make sure you tell them about swinging at the beginning because if you string them along for months and they aren't into it, firstly you wasted their time and secondly you lied by not telling them. If possible bring it up during the first date, makes an interesting conversation. |
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"Hi
I would like the exact same relationship as you - am on the usual dating sites but its pretty dull and would be worried that if i mentioned my fab life it would put off prospective lady. But i do realise that couples have met from fab but i would love to meet a single lady who i could have serious long term relationship with who I could share with others but its seems such a hard ask.
Feel free to date Muggles as well, just make sure you tell them about swinging at the beginning because if you string them along for months and they aren't into it, firstly you wasted their time and secondly you lied by not telling them. If possible bring it up during the first date, makes an interesting conversation."
Would love to do that with muggles - but often it never gets beyond the first date as its clear there is no chemistry let alone any fab chemistry - but i would be also worried about bringing it up. Great thing about fab is everyone has the same liberal attitudes.. |
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"All dating apps and sites are crap. It’s hard finding your person. Had I known fab existed before my relationship, I probably would have used this for dating "
Sounds like a forum section all it's own, Fab Dating, for people that want to swing but also find a permanent partner. Someone make it happen, even if they don't work out you still hopefully get some great sex. |
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"All dating apps and sites are crap. It’s hard finding your person. Had I known fab existed before my relationship, I probably would have used this for dating
Sounds like a forum section all it's own, Fab Dating, for people that want to swing but also find a permanent partner. Someone make it happen, even if they don't work out you still hopefully get some great sex."
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
i dont think dating and swinging should mix ... people fall in love anywhere thats fine but seeking love on a open swinging site will just spell disaster for most...
dont forget only those who are sucessful in finding a partner via the scene talk about how good it is and 99% where not even looking .... its a tiny tiny few you donty hear the failed ones or the horror stories ... the amount of men on here who think this is the way to get into swinging is staggering a off the shelf relationship but guys where are all these women looking ?? there are a tiny amount looking ...
om not saying dont as its just my opinion and i do belive there enough for a dating section on fab and wish all well but someone need to be open and honest there not enough to go around for meets so relationship finding will be like finding gold in a tin of baked beans |
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I wasn't looking for it, but I found one of my partners on here.
I think if you're looking for a less traditional relationship, it's no worse than any of the other online dating platforms. But the best things happen along when you're not seeking them  |
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"i dont think dating and swinging should mix ... people fall in love anywhere thats fine but seeking love on a open swinging site will just spell disaster for most...
dont forget only those who are sucessful in finding a partner via the scene talk about how good it is and 99% where not even looking .... its a tiny tiny few you donty hear the failed ones or the horror stories ... the amount of men on here who think this is the way to get into swinging is staggering a off the shelf relationship but guys where are all these women looking ?? there are a tiny amount looking ...
om not saying dont as its just my opinion and i do belive there enough for a dating section on fab and wish all well but someone need to be open and honest there not enough to go around for meets so relationship finding will be like finding gold in a tin of baked beans"
I think a dating and swinging should mix - but agree the chances of that happening are slim - on vanilla dating sites i dont often click with someone and on fab/swinging sites there are lots of sexy ladies but often logistics means that long term relationship doesn’t make sense (ie other side of country, different hobbies etc) |
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I think about this regularly. I’d like a relationship but not sure how I will ever meet someone.
Vanilla world they’d be shocked and put off and fab world it seems lots are looking for hook ups.
Not sure what the answer is. |
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By *alsam1Couple
over a year ago
Caister |
"I think about this regularly. I’d like a relationship but not sure how I will ever meet someone.
Vanilla world they’d be shocked and put off and fab world it seems lots are looking for hook ups.
Not sure what the answer is. "
We met on a kik chat room. Usa to uk within a year. There's someone outvthere x |
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"I think about this regularly. I’d like a relationship but not sure how I will ever meet someone.
Vanilla world they’d be shocked and put off and fab world it seems lots are looking for hook ups.
Not sure what the answer is.
We met on a kik chat room. Usa to uk within a year. There's someone outvthere x"
What a lovely story |
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"We met on bumble, I was online dating for ages and told dates early on I was interested in getting back into swinging and would that be something you'd be interested in. Most weren't but Isobel was and the rest is history.  "
Wow - great story.Would love this |
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"Hi
I would like the exact same relationship as you - am on the usual dating sites but its pretty dull and would be worried that if i mentioned my fab life it would put off prospective lady. But i do realise that couples have met from fab but i would love to meet a single lady who i could have serious long term relationship with who I could share with others but its seems such a hard ask. "
But your profile blurb says you're looking for couples. |
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"Hi
I would like the exact same relationship as you - am on the usual dating sites but its pretty dull and would be worried that if i mentioned my fab life it would put off prospective lady. But i do realise that couples have met from fab but i would love to meet a single lady who i could have serious long term relationship with who I could share with others but its seems such a hard ask.
But your profile blurb says you're looking for couples."
That’s true! Another lady mentioned that today - post Covid - been having rethink - that would like long term relationship with a fab swinging element - my homework is to rewrite my profile |
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time.
Sorry, I'm a bit confused. Your profile says your are not looking for single guys.
That’s because I’ve been looking for guys on dating apps recently and rewrote my fab profile to attract women. Nothing puts the single guys off anyway. I still get 20X as many messages from guys as women but at least I’m getting a handful of women contact me since I rewrote the profile.
** I’m just considering whether to rewrite it to reflect what I’ve written above. (Ie looking for a relationship) but I’m not sure whether to as I don’t want to give up my brief encounters that are just about sex either. I want both.** "
** Say you're looking for both. Some people will lie to get a shag. If you say both then they are more likely to be honest. |
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time.
Sorry, I'm a bit confused. Your profile says your are not looking for single guys.
That’s because I’ve been looking for guys on dating apps recently and rewrote my fab profile to attract women. Nothing puts the single guys off anyway. I still get 20X as many messages from guys as women but at least I’m getting a handful of women contact me since I rewrote the profile.
** I’m just considering whether to rewrite it to reflect what I’ve written above. (Ie looking for a relationship) but I’m not sure whether to as I don’t want to give up my brief encounters that are just about sex either. I want both.**
** Say you're looking for both. Some people will lie to get a shag. If you say both then they are more likely to be honest. "
Already done that - what do you think of the new version? |
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"Hi
I would like the exact same relationship as you - am on the usual dating sites but its pretty dull and would be worried that if i mentioned my fab life it would put off prospective lady. But i do realise that couples have met from fab but i would love to meet a single lady who i could have serious long term relationship with who I could share with others but its seems such a hard ask.
But your profile blurb says you're looking for couples."
Updated my profile! |
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time.
Sorry, I'm a bit confused. Your profile says your are not looking for single guys.
That’s because I’ve been looking for guys on dating apps recently and rewrote my fab profile to attract women. Nothing puts the single guys off anyway. I still get 20X as many messages from guys as women but at least I’m getting a handful of women contact me since I rewrote the profile.
** I’m just considering whether to rewrite it to reflect what I’ve written above. (Ie looking for a relationship) but I’m not sure whether to as I don’t want to give up my brief encounters that are just about sex either. I want both.**
** Say you're looking for both. Some people will lie to get a shag. If you say both then they are more likely to be honest.
Already done that - what do you think of the new version? "
Looks good to me.
You will always get men who don't read or just want wank fodder but you can easily bin those types.
I think it reads really well and should entice the types you want. Good luck. |
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I think of you find a relationship on a swinging site, it's very unique and quite special in terms of sharing a common interest without lies and deceit. I've met a few couples who are in relationships from swinging and are very happy! |
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We met on here but we weren’t looking at all - we were FWB’s initially and we both got the feels and took it from there.
I think when you actively look for something it’s harder to find.
When we meet additional singles now we love socialising with them as well as playing - we spend weekends together so we can do both.
You are gorgeous - we’d meet you 
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"We met on here but we weren’t looking at all - we were FWB’s initially and we both got the feels and took it from there.
I think when you actively look for something it’s harder to find.
When we meet additional singles now we love socialising with them as well as playing - we spend weekends together so we can do both.
You are gorgeous - we’d meet you
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Great advice and yes agree with that... Not looking often springs a surprise! |
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"We met on here but we weren’t looking at all - we were FWB’s initially and we both got the feels and took it from there.
I think when you actively look for something it’s harder to find.
When we meet additional singles now we love socialising with them as well as playing - we spend weekends together so we can do both.
You are gorgeous - we’d meet you
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Lovely to hear |
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Nope we both had no intention of dating anyone when we met on FAB. It was just ment to be sex. But when you meet your weirdo, you meet your weirdo. Nearly 6 years together and engaged. It's great to be in a relationship where we can be honest about our desires without judgement and share our pursuit of those desires together. Some people where just not built to be vanilla and we deserve love too. |
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It would probably be easier to start off with a regular fb or and fwb and see where it goes from there, my ex was on here but she was more interested in chatting to people and wanking over the videos as found them better than porn. She could have had any man she wanted pretty muck but that didn't intrest her. |
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By *ryda18Man
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I think about this regularly. I’d like a relationship but not sure how I will ever meet someone.
Vanilla world they’d be shocked and put off and fab world it seems lots are looking for hook ups.
Not sure what the answer is. "
This is exactly how I feel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forgot to add "how we met" (sorry for any of the oldies that have heard this story a million times!)
Each Sunday there used to be a dating thread, just for dating, not hook ups and I would post every Sunday, nothing ever came of it, until Doughnut messaged me.
We met up for a date and have been together pretty much ever since and married 5 years ago.
Maybe the dating thread needs to be reignited.
Danish x |
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"Forgot to add "how we met" (sorry for any of the oldies that have heard this story a million times!)
Each Sunday there used to be a dating thread, just for dating, not hook ups and I would post every Sunday, nothing ever came of it, until Doughnut messaged me.
We met up for a date and have been together pretty much ever since and married 5 years ago.
Maybe the dating thread needs to be reignited.
Great idea!
Danish x"
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
I'm local to you xx
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I returned to Fab just over a year ago after my profile was hidden for a good amount of time.
I altered my profile saying that I ultimately wanted to meet someone for a relationship within this lifestyle. I met a couple of guys and then a guy that I had previously met about 8 years before from Fab.
I fell for him instantly and been together for a year in a committed relationship.
I'd been single for most of 17 years and never met anyone who I'd have a relationship with until this happened.
All thise people saying it will happen at some point, despite it being almost 2 decades, I just didn't believe. I was confident I'd be single for life. Now, with Buff, I have the best of both worlds.
Was it a surprise, yes but luckily I got my happy ever after.
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We met on here, neither of us looking for a relationship but it just sort of happened. It's coming up for a couple of years we've been dating now.
Maybe start meeting single guys and just see where it takes you
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"We met on here, neither of us looking for a relationship but it just sort of happened. It's coming up for a couple of years we've been dating now.
Maybe start meeting single guys and just see where it takes you
M"
I meet loads of single guys from here. Had some amazing hook ups and got plenty of people I’ve met a few times. Problem is always the ones I like the most are always too busy for anything more! Even had a couple of guys really get my interest who wouldn’t even meet me. Had two almost relationships purely based on phone sex. If only I could combine the best things from everyone I’ve met and make my own perfect date! |
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"We met on here, neither of us looking for a relationship but it just sort of happened. It's coming up for a couple of years we've been dating now.
Maybe start meeting single guys and just see where it takes you
M
I meet loads of single guys from here. Had some amazing hook ups and got plenty of people I’ve met a few times. Problem is always the ones I like the most are always too busy for anything more! Even had a couple of guys really get my interest who wouldn’t even meet me. Had two almost relationships purely based on phone sex. If only I could combine the best things from everyone I’ve met and make my own perfect date! "
Ah that's annoying. Hopefully you'll meet someone who's looking for the same thing as you.
For us it definitely works, we have a great relationship and both very much enjoy this side of our lives too.
Good luck x
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"It's not easy to find that special someone that you totally love and enjoy doing vanilla things together as well as swinging together. It takes time , love and trust . "
This is soooo true…its hard to find some to spend time with on the vanilla stuff and then I want the fab swinging stuff on top |
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"It's not easy to find that special someone that you totally love and enjoy doing vanilla things together as well as swinging together. It takes time , love and trust .
This is soooo true…its hard to find some to spend time with on the vanilla stuff and then I want the fab swinging stuff on top "
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"We met on here, neither of us looking for a relationship but it just sort of happened. It's coming up for a couple of years we've been dating now.
Maybe start meeting single guys and just see where it takes you
M
I meet loads of single guys from here. Had some amazing hook ups and got plenty of people I’ve met a few times. Problem is always the ones I like the most are always too busy for anything more! Even had a couple of guys really get my interest who wouldn’t even meet me. Had two almost relationships purely based on phone sex. If only I could combine the best things from everyone I’ve met and make my own perfect date! "
This is on you to a certain extent tho. Be picky. If they are just wanting to chat shit block them. If they aren’t meeting your exact requirements block them.
The first sign of any red flag block them.
Don’t be standing for any messing around. |
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"We met on here, neither of us looking for a relationship but it just sort of happened. It's coming up for a couple of years we've been dating now.
Maybe start meeting single guys and just see where it takes you
M
I meet loads of single guys from here. Had some amazing hook ups and got plenty of people I’ve met a few times. Problem is always the ones I like the most are always too busy for anything more! Even had a couple of guys really get my interest who wouldn’t even meet me. Had two almost relationships purely based on phone sex. If only I could combine the best things from everyone I’ve met and make my own perfect date!
This is on you to a certain extent tho. Be picky. If they are just wanting to chat shit block them. If they aren’t meeting your exact requirements block them.
The first sign of any red flag block them.
Don’t be standing for any messing around. "
Oh I am picky! Don’t you worry! But I do still want sex and lots of it so sometimes needs must. Lol. Finding a relationship and getting my needs met are two separate things.  |
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I met someone on Tinder a couple of years ago then we both realised we were on Fab. We dated 9 months and played together and I loved it. After that I realised I’d find it hard to be in a total vanilla relationship, and while I still chatted on other sites I mainly had dates from Fab.
I’ve met 2 guys in the past on here I’d have dated if they wanted to, but in the end we were just friends because it wasn’t what they were looking for.
Recently started dating someone who I am mad about and met on here!! We have agreed we will swing eventually, for now we are just potty about each other. So yeah, definitely - I think you can meet a BF on here. And worth stating it on your profile if that’s what you are looking for! |
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By *zlakMan
over a year ago
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I would like to meet someone on here who is into the same things as i am. Have had relationships before and mentioned swinging and being Bi and that seemed to put them off!
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time.
Sorry, I'm a bit confused. Your profile says your are not looking for single guys.
That’s because I’ve been looking for guys on dating apps recently and rewrote my fab profile to attract women. Nothing puts the single guys off anyway. I still get 20X as many messages from guys as women but at least I’m getting a handful of women contact me since I rewrote the profile. I’m just considering whether to rewrite it to reflect what I’ve written above. (Ie looking for a relationship) but I’m not sure whether to as I don’t want to give up my brief encounters that are just about sex either. I want both. "
You'd be welcome to chat up Hannah if you wanted. |
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"I would like to meet someone on here who is into the same things as i am. Have had relationships before and mentioned swinging and being Bi and that seemed to put them off!
Was just being honest "
The last time I was on Tinder I briefly set my sexuality as visible. I had a greater number of younger women match than normal, and their conversations turned to bisexuality quite quickly. Many women I'd previously matched with then unmatched, presumably because they revisited my profile. One woman actually used the phrase "Arthur or Martha", as if being bi somehow impacted my masculinity. |
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"its not so much about the site your on as the individual your talking to. ive had relationships from dating sites that were swinging relationships, aswell as from fab (my lady i met on fab and currently engaged!). i always found that the people ive dated from sites rather than nsa, its about the conversations before the meets, theres just something deeper about them, like becoming a friend before you meet. i may be talking crap but its difficult to explain the difference"
So true, we chatted before meeting and built up a rappor so when we met it was like we already knew each other and it's just got better since. Like P said in this tread, 8 months in and just going to his parents for the Bank Holiday xx |
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"What's more important to you...being in a relationship or swinging?
I think it's unrealistic to expect the relationship to be exactly the kind you want from the start "
If it's not what you want it to be at the start, it'll never be once you get further in... morning wrong with trying to find a partner who enjoys 'everything' you do |
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Thanks for all the kind and helpful replies. I have reported the abusive comment above to admins. Really unnecessarily nasty. We all have our kinks and I get a lot of offers from men and enjoy the sense of power that gives me. I’m looking for a stag & vixen type relationship rather than a cuck one, and I’m not sure where the commenter above got the idea that I was looking for someone rich. We’ve all got the same amount of money in our pockets once we take all our clothes off! |
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
I have, and it was amazing, but precisely because we didn't do any of the things you mention. She was having a lot of meaningless sex with multiple people, we connected on a deeper level, and had a great exclusive relationship (well, apart from her husband, but he was never involved in her lifestyle). It sadly ended for logistical reasons (amicably and we remain friends), but it can happen as long as you are both looking for the same thing. |
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Met my knight on fab, he melts me.
This Relationship is the most relaxing caring safe I've ever had.
There is hope you can have both.
We go clubs, play yet happy at home watching TV, dates, cinema.
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
Could have written your post myself. Feel exactly the same. Been on here for years and would love to find a man who also swings, but not a cuck. |
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I met my last gf on Fet, adored the heck out of her and still do. Age gap was chunky and she needed more than I could give.
That being said, she wasn’t part of the nsa/ casual scene, I don’t think I would ever form a relationship with someone I met here on fab. |
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I met my partner through fab , started of as meets and neither of us went looking for a relationship but it progressed into one ,that was 13 years ago , were still together and nearly 2 years ago had a baby together , .. like most relationships trust and understanding must be at the forefront , its worked for us , but both of us would agree a relationship was the last thing we went looking for and being honest both of us dragged our feet with it .
So I guess my point is when it happens it happens , and I've more trust in this relationship than previous ones due to we both knew what the other needed before hand and accepted that . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When dating a Muggle, you shouldn't tell them right away as you could be considered a predator or a whore and they will not get to know the mainstream you. The responsible thing to do is tell them before sexual intercourse has occurred and let them make informed decisions for themselves. If you do not then you probably are a predator and won't care about their choices anyway. If the Muggle likes you but is gut churningly offended by the idea of your sexual deviations, then it is best to set them free, back into the wild. If you are lucky, you can enjoy slowly integrating them into the fab community and expanding their sexual horizons. This could open their eyes to a new direction that you did not consider previously and they could leave you behind, broken, lost and ultimately disenfranchised from their fab personal journey. Leaving you heartbroken and washed up having put all of your time, care and attention into building the platform from which they could flourish. Don't date Muggles. |
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I'd like to, even if it's not swinging but I think on here your a bit more inclined to speak about what you really like, whereas on somewhere like tinder think it's alot harder to drop into conversation oh by the way I'd love it if youd sit on my face or bend me over and start rimming, well I mean you could but maybe not in the beginning lol |
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I heard that, I’ve been through the same cycle over and over for years, had relationships I believed in, give it everything I’ve got but there’s always something missing, in my mind they’ve been the hottest girl I could ask for, amazing sex too. I keep hearing stories about people who met the love of their life on some kinda dating app. I’ve never actually met anyone in person to prove it, I’m sure there is but for me it has to be someone I know in reality that I have a natural attraction to. |
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
It can happen. I've recently met someone on fab, and we're connecting on all levels. |
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It’s often thrown around “FAB is not a dating site” but I know a significant number of couples still active or have left that met on here.
When you’re looking for a connection with someone for something, ongoing, regular and exciting there’s always going to be a chance you’ll fall for each romantically.
In fact, I’d hazard a guess that some, obviously not all, of the ‘seeking FWB or want regular and long term’ are hoping to find more than that anyway. Label it however you want, but it’s definitely in the same format. |
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over a year ago
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Imagine putting so much effort into dating and then months in say.... so my kinks are.... then never hear from them again lol"
but theres the other view too imagine someone is only with you because they want to swing and by being a couple its easy peasy |
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Having been in a swinging relationship I think I would struggle to go back to a conventional relationship now.
The big issue is there are limited ladies in this area on here and dating apps are not really the place to look for this life style.
Want the chilled nights in, cuddles on the couch but also the freedom as a couple this offers with trust and respect. |
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
erm. Have you read my profile? I have exactly the same issue
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"100%
Imagine putting so much effort into dating and then months in say.... so my kinks are.... then never hear from them again lol
but theres the other view too imagine someone is only with you because they want to swing and by being a couple its easy peasy"
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
This is exactly what i want and why i want to date on here |
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"Would you date someone you met on fab? I’m not getting what I want on tinder or hinge, but not finding satisfaction on fab either. Don’t get me wrong, It’s easy to get laid, and I’ve met some lovely people - most of my meets now are repeat encounters - but what I really want is a deeper connection. Whenever I meet someone on a dating app I don’t know how to bring up swinging with them so always just end up back on fab where everyone just wants nsa. I want a “relationship” with someone fit as fuck who enjoys threesomes, wants to go to swingers clubs with me, and gets off on hearing about me meeting others for sex. Why is that so elusive? Hardly anyone I meet on fab seems interested in getting to know the real me or spending any time together outside of sex meets. Can’t even remember the last time I went out on a “date” as can’t get interested enough in the vanilla guys to want to date them, but none of the kinky guys seem to want to invest the time. "
I met my gf at a social event nothing to do with sex then found her on fab, so we hooked up and where together as swinging couple for two years before we split. Had fun. |
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