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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"So In a club do we just go up to people? Is there some sort of etiquette?
Other than talk to others as you'd like them to talk to you.. No not really.. x"
We went to send you a PM with this, but blocked.
Honestly understand the trepidation, what ifs and how to's.
Clubs are honestly the last place you should be concerned about within this lifestyle, like-minded people who will by virtue of their interest will welcome you.
Yes they may want to fuck you, but your boundaries are yours at any given time and conversation is exciting and frankly honest.
You asked about etiquette there's no checklist, but uncomfortable with anything and no should suffice, unheeded simply walk and inform management.
Don't feel in anyway guilty for doing so!
We hope this is helpful x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Clubs are fun but can be daunting when you first go, a lot of clubs do couples and single ladies only on Saturday nights. Fridays tends to have single men allowed which can be off putting to some. I found Fridays better to be honest, friendlier for some reason, perhaps because a lot of newbies go on Saturday and no one know how to speak to the next couple.
Everyone on here and in the clubs are on the scene for a reason similar to yours. So don’t worry about feeling judged here at all.
As for etiquette - women rule this world and what she says goes. She says no it’s a given not to do it.
Chat with people as friends on here and in clubs, if everyone feels a spark they may ask if you want to play, meaning they want to sleep with you. You can say no anytime and no offence will be taken, they will just move on to the next. Equally feel comfortable with your own boundaries and stick with them.
Keep feelings at the door, it’s just sex, jealousy can happen, keep it in check.
Enjoy the epic sex together afterwards as that is probably the best part about swinging as a couple.
Just speaking from my own experience when I was swinging as part of a couple over the sat decade.
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Thanks all, it’s nice to talk about these kind of things with other people especially when it’s a new adventure for us both. It is quite daunting for our first time, but it’s something we want to explore as a couple. Just wondering, has anyone gone to a club and bumped into people you know? Can’t imagine how we would react  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Thanks all, it’s nice to talk about these kind of things with other people especially when it’s a new adventure for us both. It is quite daunting for our first time, but it’s something we want to explore as a couple. Just wondering, has anyone gone to a club and bumped into people you know? Can’t imagine how we would react "
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I'd say bumping into someone you know just makes things easier and probably laughable between both |
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"So In a club do we just go up to people? Is there some sort of etiquette? "
Treat it like you are in a bar or at a singles night
Nowt is guaranteed but everyone's there for the same reasons
Chat to folk to get to know them, have a drink and a laugh
If you click, then great, if not, you move on and talk to someone else
You might not find anyone of mutual interest/mutual attraction at 1st but don't let it put you off
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"Do many single females go to the clubs/socials? We would like to test the water with a woman for the first time as Jane wants to explore her bi side  "
All of our single woman encounters have been in clubs. Clearly numbers won’t be on your side but if we want to meet a single bi woman clubs is where we head. |
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OP I would approach people on here or at a club. Don’t approach someone out in real life and try to “sound them out” - I really can’t see that working out well for your first time.
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