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What’s an acceptable amount of time to chat before meeting ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What would you say is an acceptable amount of time of chatting on here before meeting ?
Obviously people have lives outside of here and can’t meet up just like that but you don’t want to be chatting with time wasters either.
What would your timeline look like before you decide if they are time wasting and how do you know if they are ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on the Convo ...if the messages are backk and forth frequently over the course of a week then definitely time for a social meet at least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends how far away they are, I know when I was dating I wanted to get it over with so I didn't waste my time and occasionally I'd meet the same day if they were in the area |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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how ever long it takes...
but i normally get board by the 5th or 6th message so if im not interested by then then ill never be ...
some are so slow in coming forward i give in then others are str8 in to the wank stuff with in 2 or 3 messages my last meet from here i met after 7 messages a couple of really nice pics and that gut feeling hes not fake the met and shagging within 10 mins of meeting ..
im not one for socials they really bore me i done need to know the ins and outs of their life or job or anything else other than im sexually attracted and they are real .... |
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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago
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It all depends on time, distance and who you are meeting . Easy to meet a single guy, but can be tough with a cpl.
Max we have chatted is for 3 years for a special cpl .
Quickest meet was within hours with a single guy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When both are comfortable to, I find if someone is rushing to meet it’ll be a quick wham bam and not nice
At minimum I’ll want a good week or two of chatting before I’ll contemplate a social
The longest I’ve spoken to someone before meeting is a couple of years because of their situation
I have absolutely zero rush
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When both are comfortable to, I find if someone is rushing to meet it’ll be a quick wham bam and not nice
At minimum I’ll want a good week or two of chatting before I’ll contemplate a social
The longest I’ve spoken to someone before meeting is a couple of years because of their situation
I have absolutely zero rush
Sorrynotsorry "
Completely get that, we all have lives outside of here and can’t always be free, for me id only meet women. It’s been interesting to come back after a 3 year hiatus to see how somethings have changed and others haven’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When both are comfortable to, I find if someone is rushing to meet it’ll be a quick wham bam and not nice
At minimum I’ll want a good week or two of chatting before I’ll contemplate a social
The longest I’ve spoken to someone before meeting is a couple of years because of their situation
I have absolutely zero rush
Sorrynotsorry
Completely get that, we all have lives outside of here and can’t always be free, for me id only meet women. It’s been interesting to come back after a 3 year hiatus to see how somethings have changed and others haven’t. "
Yeah, good old fab, as full of surprises yet somehow the same as always too, kinda love that about here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social within 2 weeks of first chatting or we will never meet.
Think that’s reasonable, your profile pic is hilarious btw "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"how ever long it takes...
but i normally get board by the 5th or 6th message so if im not interested by then then ill never be ...
some are so slow in coming forward i give in then others are str8 in to the wank stuff with in 2 or 3 messages my last meet from here i met after 7 messages a couple of really nice pics and that gut feeling hes not fake the met and shagging within 10 mins of meeting ..
im not one for socials they really bore me i done need to know the ins and outs of their life or job or anything else other than im sexually attracted and they are real ...."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After pic exchange If it’s not moving to arrange a social pretty quickly I move on. In my experience if there’s no outward intent to arrange something it’s probably not genuine x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When both are comfortable to, I find if someone is rushing to meet it’ll be a quick wham bam and not nice
At minimum I’ll want a good week or two of chatting before I’ll contemplate a social
The longest I’ve spoken to someone before meeting is a couple of years because of their situation
I have absolutely zero rush
Sorrynotsorry "
What do you chat about for a week? |
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People will probably all say different about this.
For me when we feel comfortable and have the same day/eve off.
If I chat to someone on my own profile,I make it clear I'm not a prolific meeter and will want to chat for a bit first.
Some are happy with fast meets and some aren't ,it's all about finding these you're compatible with I think.
Miss
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very much depends - sometimes we'll chat with someone and meet them within a week.
This weekend we're meeting someone that we've been chatting to for nearly five months and have had a couple socials with.
xx Jess
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Personally don't like a lot of chat on here. Why? Simply because you never really know if you like a person/s or if the chemistry is right unit you meet them. There not much point in exchanging messages for weeks on an endeavour which may rapidly fall apart the moment you meet in the real world.
For us a few messages to see if they are your sort of person/s, are on the same wave length and genuine. An exchange of face photos. Then simply agree to you both want to meet and pick up the conversation when you meet in the flesh. Just keep any futher message going forwards about arranging the date and details.
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