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Too many verifications !!!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys and girls it's been a long time since I've posted anything on here but have reached a point in my FAB career where the amount of verifications I have seems to scare off as many as it attracts i display them with pride but recently have been considering hiding a vast number of them .would love to know everyone's views on it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, we had someone say, after chatting for a while and we suggested actually meeting, that they didn't want to meet us because we had verifications 
Why not just say they don't want to meet us, we could have ended the chat much sooner.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, we had someone say, after chatting for a while and we suggested actually meeting, that they didn't want to meet us because we had verifications
Why not just say they don't want to meet us, we could have ended the chat much sooner.
Mrs "
So true common courtesy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes, we had someone say, after chatting for a while and we suggested actually meeting, that they didn't want to meet us because we had verifications
Why not just say they don't want to meet us, we could have ended the chat much sooner.
Mrs "
well for me it's even got to a point where I'm meeting people leaving them a veri and there displaying it and thinking oh fuck it he's got enough he won't miss my one but I don't know how others feel about this but it really grinds my gears 5 in 4 weeks and only 1 has a good enough excuse not to verify me its starting to take the piss lol the quality of the players in this game seem to be going downhill |
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It wouldn't be the amount that would put me off,more over the top really graphic ones.
It's your profile though and you'll never please all
I've seen men state that they won't meet women with loads of veries too,so it deffo does put some off.It us a swinging site though after all.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can understand why it would put someone off. I don't meet others with large amounts of actual meet verifications ( not counting social, club ). It's more for my safety really, rather than a reflection of them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide most of mine not because I am ashamed of who I meet but because of the judgemental prats who see the number and make the wrong assumptions."
for a woman tho its different for some strange reason women are judged if they have a lot of meets in a week whereas i get single guys congratulating me on my success lol some of us are just more hungry than others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, we had someone say, after chatting for a while and we suggested actually meeting, that they didn't want to meet us because we had verifications
Why not just say they don't want to meet us, we could have ended the chat much sooner.
Mrs
well for me it's even got to a point where I'm meeting people leaving them a veri and there displaying it and thinking oh fuck it he's got enough he won't miss my one but I don't know how others feel about this but it really grinds my gears 5 in 4 weeks and only 1 has a good enough excuse not to verify me its starting to take the piss lol the quality of the players in this game seem to be going downhill "
So you're only meeting people to rack up more veris?
What 'quality of players' do you want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hide most of mine not because I am ashamed of who I meet but because of the judgemental prats who see the number and make the wrong assumptions."
Assumptions that you will meet anyone who asks because you have lots of veris? Just ignore those types. They out themselves pretty quickly. |
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I don't show all mine and I do wonder about the profiles that show all theirs, however that's just my own nosiness.
If you are happy with it, leave it be. If people don't want to play/meet because the number you've displayed, you've likely to have saved yourself time with someone who may not be compatible with you.
I do get turned off by some of the Incredibly graphic ones but I would consider myself quite vanilla/ mild kink to what happens on the site.
I feel someone ultra kinky wouldn't have the experience they wanted with me and it should be fully satisfying for all involved. Hope that makes sense.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hide most of mine not because I am ashamed of who I meet but because of the judgemental prats who see the number and make the wrong assumptions. for a woman tho its different for some strange reason women are judged if they have a lot of meets in a week whereas i get single guys congratulating me on my success lol some of us are just more hungry than others"
Unfortunately it's down to the fact, that men have to work much harder to get sex or intimacy, where as women don't. Everyone woman on this site could literally get sex tonight if they wanted to, and have a pick of men too. Men couldn't. That's why men are respected and revered when they get a high count, and women are disgraced, because they get their pick of the litter. It's the unfortunate truth.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had a lot within a very short time on our previous profile yet they were all socials...
The amount of play veris doesn't put us off but if it looks like someone will sleep with anything it does. |
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"I hide most of mine not because I am ashamed of who I meet but because of the judgemental prats who see the number and make the wrong assumptions.
Assumptions that you will meet anyone who asks because you have lots of veris? Just ignore those types. They out themselves pretty quickly. "
I attend alot of socials and each one could gain me several veris. I also chat to people at clubs and parties who have verified me too. I learnt to ignore judgemental people long ago on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hide most of mine not because I am ashamed of who I meet but because of the judgemental prats who see the number and make the wrong assumptions.
Assumptions that you will meet anyone who asks because you have lots of veris? Just ignore those types. They out themselves pretty quickly.
I attend alot of socials and each one could gain me several veris. I also chat to people at clubs and parties who have verified me too. I learnt to ignore judgemental people long ago on here."
yes and this is my dilemma and the reason im hesitant to hide them as most people with high numbers tend to be mainly passive veris gained by chatting with someone in a club or social event whereas all but two of mine are from private meets on here that is an achievement not many have achieved especially by someone who can't accommodate and isn't hung like a horse |
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I think if people are put off by it they’re in the wrong place. To us it shows experience, someone who is evidently nice if they have so many, so I’d use it as a case of the more positive veri’s the better! But each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How many is too many though???
The amount doesn't/wouldn't bother me but the graphic nature of some are rather off putting x
Some of what's said in some veris is very 'off-putting'.   "
but this is a sex site if they all put what really went on delicate flowers like yourself would be mortified |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if people are put off by it they’re in the wrong place. To us it shows experience, someone who is evidently nice if they have so many, so I’d use it as a case of the more positive veri’s the better! But each to their own "
By the same token, people with high verifications, judging others for not wanting to meet based on this factor, is hypocritical. Saying people shouldn't be here because they don't want to be with people with high numbers, is silly. We all have own our idea of what we want out of this place. Some want to meet with many, some want to meet with few. Some are exclusive to clubs, some don't do clubs at all. etc etc
I don't condone insulting people based on these factors, like high numbers (sexual numbers that is), but calling people judgemental prats, says more about them, than the ones actually rejecting them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hide most of mine not because I am ashamed of who I meet but because of the judgemental prats who see the number and make the wrong assumptions.
Assumptions that you will meet anyone who asks because you have lots of veris? Just ignore those types. They out themselves pretty quickly.
I attend alot of socials and each one could gain me several veris. I also chat to people at clubs and parties who have verified me too. I learnt to ignore judgemental people long ago on here."
Agree with judgemental. I sometimes get, why have you no veris showing. Each to their own.
I learnt to avoid judges am not here to be tried. Rather another kind of going down.. Your honour  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi guys and girls it's been a long time since I've posted anything on here but have reached a point in my FAB career where the amount of verifications I have seems to scare off as many as it attracts i display them with pride but recently have been considering hiding a vast number of them .would love to know everyone's views on it "
Fab career is their a job description for this career
What is it you exactly asking us all OP? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iv literally just seen someone who’s had an account for 18 hours and has 21 veris. I understand they may be from old meets but that’s a lot of people to search and find in such a short space of time |
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125 verifications checking in here..I've heard it said about me that people "don't wana be with somebody who everybody has been with" what I don't think people realise is that verifications are not an automatic link to who u have been with in the bedroom. If u attend a social u can get verified in the double digits very easily, if u are chatty to people who approach you. Many's the weekend I have attended a party and a social in the same weekend so my verifications flew up before I knew what was even happening.
If u presume large numbers of verifications means the fabber will sleep with anybody with a heartbeat I can tell u that is an incorrect assumption at least in my experience & if u are that judgemental & presumptuous I don't think fab is the place for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hide most of mine not because I am ashamed of who I meet but because of the judgemental prats who see the number and make the wrong assumptions.
Assumptions that you will meet anyone who asks because you have lots of veris? Just ignore those types. They out themselves pretty quickly.
I attend alot of socials and each one could gain me several veris. I also chat to people at clubs and parties who have verified me too. I learnt to ignore judgemental people long ago on here. yes and this is my dilemma and the reason im hesitant to hide them as most people with high numbers tend to be mainly passive veris gained by chatting with someone in a club or social event whereas all but two of mine are from private meets on here that is an achievement not many have achieved especially by someone who can't accommodate and isn't hung like a horse "
Then show them all. I won't meet people with more than 4 veris showing, preferably none at all showing. We are merely not compatible.
You will attract the type of people who want to see loads of fuck veris and put off those who don't. Win win.
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Majority of mine are from socials. (That includes people I meet at clubs and parties, but don't play with)
I have a few verifications from same person, but that was 1 social and 1 play.
If I've met someone multiple times, I don't see the point in putting up a verification for each time we meet.
Looked at a profile recently with 8 verifications. 5 were from the same person |
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In some respects, I'm glad we lost our old profile. We had a break for a cpl of years and decided when we came back to approach things in a different way.
Hence there's only a fraction of the veris on our profile that used to be.
What can we say, we are much more " choosey" now days.
But that's justuss. Xx |
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I think sometimes people find convenient excuses such as you have too many verifications as a get out of jail free card when they get cold feet about someone.
Although with regards to single women I think (despite being no strings) some don't like the concept of guys that have been too much around the block or someone else's guy (even with permission). Some like the feel of exclusivity or at least not being another bed notch. So too many verifications can dispell this illusion. Remember not ever single woman on here is her for tradition swinging as such. Maybe more what you'd call vanilla hook up. Often on the forums of popular parenting sites users signpost single mums here as a place to find causal hook ups.
I don't think their value in hiding your verifications, you count still shows doesn't it even if the verification texts aren't visible. So may just look shady and there's more to lose hiding good verifications than showing them. I think maybe you should ask more if the kind of woman who is put off by your verifications is right for you in the first place and if you actually want the same thing. I think for most on here and arguably more the right type for what you they don't care whether you have 3 or 300 verifications as long as they seem genuine and good. Hidden verifications tell nothing. |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
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Other sites refer to them as feedback. Personally yes lots of verifications are a turn-off. A verification should be simply - this person is genuine! This person looks like their picture! Hopefully this person is not a psycho as far as I'm aware lol. One or two verifications.
People - guys especially want a whole list of conquests to display their sexual prowess - look shag me all these others have so I must be amazing . |
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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago
Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me |
I have many verifications and not all through play. Some are hostesses for events at clubs which also help people see each other experiences.
With many of us also swingers it means when we do play these verifications also go in with them. So I guess don't judge a book by its cover type thing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on the quality off verifications not the quantity which just tells me you'll just shag anythink that moves lol "
What makes a quality verification? |
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"Hi guys and girls it's been a long time since I've posted anything on here but have reached a point in my FAB career where the amount of verifications I have seems to scare off as many as it attracts i display them with pride but recently have been considering hiding a vast number of them .would love to know everyone's views on it "
With respect , you think you have problems with 62 verifications. Try being a single bloke aftwr being on herefor over a year with zero meet verifications. I know which problem I would rather have .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Depends on the quality off verifications not the quantity which just tells me you'll just shag anythink that moves lol
What makes a quality verification?"
well it's very easy to spot the difference between a good veri and someone just being polite a quality veri is a paragraph not a sentence you see one too many on people's profiles that just say
"Great guy nice cock would meet again"
now to me that just tells me either the person writing the veri is very lazy or he was just shit I like to think mine are of a bit better quality |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
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Frankly sod em! We're at around 60 and the majority we haven't played with. They're more about how we interact with people we meet, so in honesty possibly one's we value more.. Quite confident on how naughty we are  Mrs |
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Most of ours are social meets, if I get 2 from the same person I hide that one I don't see lots as off-putting unless they were all graphic sexual ones but then again I could be put off by just 1 of those.
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Lots of veris means one of two things for me.
They are very social
They like to have a lot of sex
Neither of those would phase me on a site designed to facilitate that. People infer things based on their preferences just like any other aspect of your profile. So no problems there either.
I got 25 veri's in the space of two weeks. It is what it is. |
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"Most of ours are social meets, if I get 2 from the same person I hide that one I don't see lots as off-putting unless they were all graphic sexual ones but then again I could be put off by just 1 of those.
Mrs "
Two veris off two meets from the same profile is good, it means they wanted to meet you again. 5 or 6 would be too much. ( Two profiles on here have verified each other 14 times up to now ) |
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If someone doesn’t want to meet because I have too many verifications then it’s their loss. All of them are play verifications and I display them all and lots of them are repeat. It just shows I’m reliable and people like to meet me again and again. I always read verifications and it gives me an idea what I’ll be expecting if I arrange to meet this person. At the end of the day it’s your profile and you choose how to run it. You can’t please everyone on this site. |
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Ideally I'd like to meet a couple with no veris as they'd be as inexperienced as me. Less interested in those with either loads of veris or an active club life, good luck to them but not the kind of thing I'm looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on the quality off verifications not the quantity which just tells me you'll just shag anythink that moves lol
What makes a quality verification? well it's very easy to spot the difference between a good veri and someone just being polite a quality veri is a paragraph not a sentence you see one too many on people's profiles that just say
"Great guy nice cock would meet again"
now to me that just tells me either the person writing the veri is very lazy or he was just shit I like to think mine are of a bit better quality "
Or they understand privacy and being discreet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If someone doesn’t want to meet because I have too many verifications then it’s their loss. All of them are play verifications and I display them all and lots of them are repeat. It just shows I’m reliable and people like to meet me again and again. I always read verifications and it gives me an idea what I’ll be expecting if I arrange to meet this person. At the end of the day it’s your profile and you choose how to run it. You can’t please everyone on this site. "
It's not their loss at all. They don't want to meet you. |
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