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We are a couple who have had lots f fun playing as soft swap. We are looking to move our boundaries but are very nervous. We want to move to full swap. Do we just do it?  |
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"We are a couple who have had lots f fun playing as soft swap. We are looking to move our boundaries but are very nervous. We want to move to full swap. Do we just do it? "
Tough one, only you can decide what you want out of swinging, talk about it with each other and talk some more,
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"We are a couple who have had lots f fun playing as soft swap. We are looking to move our boundaries but are very nervous. We want to move to full swap. Do we just do it? "
Dunno, it all depends on what's stopped you doing it before. Is one more keen than the other etc.? |
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Thanks for that. We have tried planning meet with the intention of full swap then get very nervous. Should we just go to a club as take it as it comes? xx |
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"We are a couple who have had lots f fun playing as soft swap. We are looking to move our boundaries but are very nervous. We want to move to full swap. Do we just do it? "
You do it when it feels right to do it. Don't force it or do it for the sake of it.. You'll know when it's right and who the right people are. |
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Make sure you are both ready for moving your boundaries and not just doing it to please the other.
Sometimes best to discuss before meeting between yourselves that if you both feel comfy at the time then just go with the flow...if you dont then just limit to soft swap...until you are both comfy at the time...dont rush it for the sake of it because as you say you can have just as much fun with soft swap and you can move between both depending on how you feel at the time |
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"Thanks for that. We have tried planning meet with the intention of full swap then get very nervous. Should we just go to a club as take it as it comes? xx"
Try not to rush these things, and don't set expectations of what your going to do on a meet, as I have said only you can decide if you want to go further, and if you don't then don't worry about it, plenty of couples that just soft swap! |
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"Thanks for that. We have tried planning meet with the intention of full swap then get very nervous. Should we just go to a club as take it as it comes? xx"
Probably best not at a club for your first time...but thats just our feeling. |
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"Thanks for that. We have tried planning meet with the intention of full swap then get very nervous. Should we just go to a club as take it as it comes? xx"
Can I ask what it is that you fear will happen by making the move from soft to full swap? Is it that it may have an irreversible effect on your relationship? That is often what's at the bottom of it. Well, that's a relationship issue - NOT a swinging/swapping issue.
Think you need to have a really frank talk about it between yourselves and BE HONEST with each other. If you make the move to full swap, and one is not as keen as the other, or worried, then it will start to show up any problems within your relationship faster than speeding bullet.
Talk your fears/nervousness through openly first. |
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We started our swinging together by visiting a club. We went to La Chambre every month and soft-swung for nearly a year because Rose didn't feel ready to take the final step. She was very happy to swap for foreplay but needed to be totally happy with fucking someone else, and we'd always get back together when it was time for that. One night we were 4soming with another couple and she just went for it, and afterwards said it was the right moment and she was glad she hadn't rushed it. That was years ago and we've been hard swinging happily ever since.
Just take it easy and go at your own pace, you'll both feel happier about things. If you rush it one of you might feel pressurized and not want to go on with swinging. |
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"We are a couple who have had lots f fun playing as soft swap. We are looking to move our boundaries but are very nervous. We want to move to full swap. Do we just do it? "
thats exactly what we did..just went for it Was horny no doubt lol
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