Hey people. 
I’m unsure if there’s been a surge of fakes (or whether it’s just me)…
I’ve made an active attempt to meet up with people I’ve been attracted to online over the summer on my comeback FS tour (as my previous account was very inactive to the point I justified deletion). 
But in recent months, I’ve seen a surge in accounts that have reached out to me having been active for 5 weeks, received 10 Meet verifications from 10 hidden accounts. 
I’ve met two people whose accounts were alike to the above description and they didn’t match their pics at all - to the point one was a man cosplaying as a woman (if I weren’t 6’2 and athletic, I’d have been intimidated to leave their presence - I was already uneasy). 
I know safety is a precaution best practised by oneself and I continue to do so, but wondering if I’m singular in this feeling or if this is a shared experience? 
Regardless, please stay vigilant. 
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Everyone has their own definition of what they consider personal safety. You chose to meet a couple of profiles despite recognising they were only here a few weeks and had a number of verifications.
Most would choose not to meet those profiles.
Some people will only meet in their own homes because they feel it is safer.
I refuse to meet anyone asking to meet in their own home because I don't see anything safe in inviting me as a complete stranger into that home.
In regards to a surge in fake profiles I've honestly no idea because I've never chatted to one in 7 years here so I wouldn't be aware of surge patterns. |
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It’s always a concern though sounds like you saw red flags and went ahead anyway (was it curiousity? Something else?)
You’re fortunate in being tall and athletic, so you can imagine how a single F might feel about that experience. Or myself even (5’ 6 and can barely spell athletic).
My own (biggest) safety concern is the experimental ‘straight’ guy who lashes out feeling shame or guilt (or is just a basher as friends have unfortunately met). I’m not sure how I would spot those flags. |
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https://m.fabswingers.com/content/safer-meets.html
This link is at the bottom big the home page and contains some useful information and advice.
If you think a profile is fake or not who they claim to be report it and if admin can determine that it's a wrong un they'll take action. I suggest that if you have suspicions about someone you discontinue contact and don't meet them. In any case always meet in a public place first. |
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"Everyone has their own definition of what they consider personal safety. You chose to meet a couple of profiles despite recognising they were only here a few weeks and had a number of verifications.
Most would choose not to meet those profiles.
Some people will only meet in their own homes because they feel it is safer.
I refuse to meet anyone asking to meet in their own home because I don't see anything safe in inviting me as a complete stranger into that home.
In regards to a surge in fake profiles I've honestly no idea because I've never chatted to one in 7 years here so I wouldn't be aware of surge patterns. "
Appreciate you for such an insight. This makes absolute sense to me. I guess the risk threshold for each differs a tad and I probably would be wise to be a bit more.. “wary” |
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"It’s always a concern though sounds like you saw red flags and went ahead anyway (was it curiousity? Something else?)
You’re fortunate in being tall and athletic, so you can imagine how a single F might feel about that experience. Or myself even (5’ 6 and can barely spell athletic).
My own (biggest) safety concern is the experimental ‘straight’ guy who lashes out feeling shame or guilt (or is just a basher as friends have unfortunately met). I’m not sure how I would spot those flags. "
Curiosity and also perceived attraction. You’re absolutely right - I can only imagine so. Ah I can see how someone feeling uncomfortable can not only be detrimental to themselves but to others. That’s a very valid point I hadn’t thought of. |
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"https://m.fabswingers.com/content/safer-meets.html
This link is at the bottom big the home page and contains some useful information and advice.
If you think a profile is fake or not who they claim to be report it and if admin can determine that it's a wrong un they'll take action. I suggest that if you have suspicions about someone you discontinue contact and don't meet them. In any case always meet in a public place first. "
Wise words throughout. Agreed and will seek to uphold. I think I’ve played the ignorance is bliss card a tad too long in letting some go without addressing them/not knowing how to. Thanks for the link. |
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