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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

We’re looking for another couple to meet and play with but this is proving to be more difficult than single guys are we asking to much

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By *eyeYCouple over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Honestly we found the same but managed one rather unsatisfying one.. We we tried a club had a fantastic time and haven't looked back.

Clubs allow you to actually meet rather than just message, and folk can't edit what they say as they can when they message so you're sure of attraction

You'll build a 'network' from there.. Hope it's helpful and don't take it personally x

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

"Honestly we found the same but managed one rather unsatisfying one.. We we tried a club had a fantastic time and haven't looked back.

Clubs allow you to actually meet rather than just message, and folk can't edit what they say as they can when they message so you're sure of attraction

You'll build a 'network' from there.. Hope it's helpful and don't take it personally x"

Yeah that’s what we’re starting to think we have already had a bad experience we are members of xtasia

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By *irty-pairCouple over a year ago

South Essex

Couples are tough nuts to crack, we think because there needs to be all round attraction. We’ve met a few great couples on here but it mostly just fizzles out (or convos don’t even get off the ground). We’re increasingly thinking clubs are the way forward.

Good luck with your endeavours! Xx

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By *eyeYCouple over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Exactly what we were about to say.. Attraction via the site is superficial and we sometimes find we find half the couple hot the other not so much, but as we all know that is half the equation as attitude and character go a long way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know im not what ur looking for but maybe some nice pics of the both of you together thats not of a sexual nature, doesnt need to be face pics, when i was part of a couple and met other couples id much rather have seen that gives me more of an idea if id be into both the couple

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

Finding meets with other couples on here is hard, 4 way attraction is hard especially if you can only see a vag and cock.....

We don't actively seek meets anymore I find chats fizzle and its just a waste of time, don't get me wrong we have had some great meets off here mainly with women though, I prefer meeting at socials at face value than on here.

Mrs

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By *eyeYCouple over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Finding meets with other couples on here is hard, 4 way attraction is hard especially if you can only see a vag and cock.....

Mrs "

Yup! That and aligning diaries.. Becomes awkward and conversation/excitement wains..

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By *archelCouple over a year ago

A field somewhere

We're a year in and having no luck at all via here and clubs. Me being straight seems to be a massive problem, plus I feel zero attraction to our age group...I'm finding myself only attracted to younger guys lol

We do love the club social side though and we've met some great new friends. I just don't want to shag them.

Mrs M

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

Exactly the problems we are encountering. Having been quiet for a while we are now in a position to start sorting meets again.

The trouble is we live quite remotely from much of the action that takes place. So we have to arrange travel and hotels. Often we find we are not treated seriously unless this is already in place but invariably the dates don’t match when we do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reading through the comments here we seem to have been lucky with the meets we have had from here , it’s been a LOT of fun . Our biggest problem is time or lack of it . xx

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

You're not asking for too much wanting to meet couples.

You ask where you're going wrong. Are you contacting the couples that interest you? People will check photos first and you're represent you both which is a big plus. They'll then read your profile to see if it's welcoming, positive and if it shows you're all compatible.

Good luck

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

"We're a year in and having no luck at all via here and clubs. Me being straight seems to be a massive problem, plus I feel zero attraction to our age group...I'm finding myself only attracted to younger guys lol

We do love the club social side though and we've met some great new friends. I just don't want to shag them.

We’re in the same boat lol

Mrs M"

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman over a year ago

Belfast

I might be a single profile now but I did previously had a couple profile on this site which we used to meet other couples.

Like most couple profiles on this site, to me it just reads “us us us” - what you want and don’t want and nothing about what you can offer other people. It just reeks of an inexperienced couple looking for others to please them and spark their sex life by jumping through their hoops. Case in point - the line about Mr looking for anything with a wide mouth is crass and objectifying. If I was the female in the couple I’d skip right past and look for someone interested in genuine swinging rather than treating people like things.

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

"I might be a single profile now but I did previously had a couple profile on this site which we used to meet other couples.

Point taken obviously people have no humour and our sex life is perfect the way thanks

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman over a year ago

Belfast

"I might be a single profile now but I did previously had a couple profile on this site which we used to meet other couples.

Point taken obviously people have no humour and our sex life is perfect the way thanks "

…if this is your reaction to some constructive criticism on a thread where YOU asked for advice, I’m not particularly shocked that you’re struggling to get any interest. Best of luck with that.

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

"I might be a single profile now but I did previously had a couple profile on this site which we used to meet other couples.

Point taken obviously people have no humour and our sex life is perfect the way thanks

…if this is your reaction to some constructive criticism on a thread where YOU asked for advice, I’m not particularly shocked that you’re struggling to get any interest. Best of luck with that."

Don’t assume our sex life is no good then thanks for your advice will do a profile revamp in coming days see if that helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I might be a single profile now but I did previously had a couple profile on this site which we used to meet other couples.

Point taken obviously people have no humour and our sex life is perfect the way thanks

…if this is your reaction to some constructive criticism on a thread where YOU asked for advice, I’m not particularly shocked that you’re struggling to get any interest. Best of luck with that.

Don’t assume our sex life is no good then thanks for your advice will do a profile revamp in coming days see if that helps "

The poster never said ur sex life is no good, they gave advice as to what they saw on your profile, you came on a forum and asked.

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

"I might be a single profile now but I did previously had a couple profile on this site which we used to meet other couples.

Point taken obviously people have no humour and our sex life is perfect the way thanks

…if this is your reaction to some constructive criticism on a thread where YOU asked for advice, I’m not particularly shocked that you’re struggling to get any interest. Best of luck with that.

Don’t assume our sex life is no good then thanks for your advice will do a profile revamp in coming days see if that helps

The poster never said ur sex life is no good, they gave advice as to what they saw on your profile, you came on a forum and asked."

We did ask correct and now have some great feedback to act upon

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By *oyahandrussCouple over a year ago

Nr Rugby

It's really not easy to get that 4 way attraction.

We are finding it very difficult to meet couples.

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

"It's really not easy to get that 4 way attraction.

We are finding it very difficult to meet couples."

Mad ain’t it cause you can get 3way attraction all day long im not being naive here saying we’re a good looking couple lol well we make cute babies lol

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By *rMrs84Couple over a year ago

Doncaster

If I can be honest we’ve looked at your profile before and went to message, as you have filters set to site supporters only we couldn’t.

Not the end of the world but it will definitely be hindering your response rate. We’ve found we have more luck filtering messages by age, gender or whatever but allowing anyone else.

Your mileage may vary of course.

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By *ilth N KinkCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

We’ve been on the site a few months and have had 1 meet off here that went well. We’ve been to clubs and have chatted to people but haven’t actually played with another couple in a club setting.

Don’t be put off just be you and the right people will come along

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly what we were about to say.. Attraction via the site is superficial and we sometimes find we find half the couple hot the other not so much, but as we all know that is half the equation as attitude and character go a long way."

Spot on.

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

"If I can be honest we’ve looked at your profile before and went to message, as you have filters set to site supporters only we couldn’t.

Not the end of the world but it will definitely be hindering your response rate. We’ve found we have more luck filtering messages by age, gender or whatever but allowing anyone else.

Your mileage may vary of course. "
Thanks will have to have a look at that

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

swingings a dangerous game obviously there has to be attraction there but that could be done on a social before right

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By *alentino7Man over a year ago

London

"We’re looking for another couple to meet and play with but this is proving to be more difficult than single guys are we asking to much "

I suggest trying other channels outside fabs, ie clubs

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By *ootyful2023 OP Couple over a year ago

Walsall/birmingham

"We’ve been on the site a few months and have had 1 meet off here that went well. We’ve been to clubs and have chatted to people but haven’t actually played with another couple in a club setting.

Don’t be put off just be you and the right people will come along "

Pretty much the same but only been to club once and it was quiet gonna have to visit again

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By *jsecoupleCouple over a year ago

AYLESBURY

as All above has said finding chemistry for all 4 can be tricky, we've had good meets and meets where it wasn't right for 1 ,2 out of four but is our preference so we keep meeting, a social usauly confirms or not as long as everyone's honest!, we're all grown ups and not everyone is attracted to everone , saying that if it goes further or not always had a good night as the was somthing there to meet in the first place. and funny enough we have a couple we've known for years and meet regularly which we thought was the least likely to happen when we where initially chatting but you never know what's going to work or not

sorry for the ramble just our humble thoughts.

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

Won't advise on your profile since you did not request any specifically on it, but feel'll free to DM if you'd welcome any. Also, unclear if you receive many messages from couples or few, or how much you message couples and how many responses you get.

But as a couple I can say how we would look at your profile if you were a couple closer to our area. Nothing on your profile as it is now would stop us from contacting you or responding to your messages.

However, we would wonder what you are about, what sort of things you like to do with another couple, what's your ideal meeting for social and)or play. We would prefer to see more pictures of you two with clothes on, to get a feeling for who you are, to give us clues if we would be compatible. Faces of course can be exchanged privately.

I wonder also how much you approach other couples. At the start this is what we did sending many messages. We also tried clubs and discovered that it is a great way to meet couples but clubs are very different depending on the day of the week and the theme, and clubs vibes very different from each other, so try more than once and learn from the bad experiences, which are guaranteed, and enjoy the good times.

Parties are good but I would recommend for you to attend those with at least 8-12 couples, parties with very few couples can be cliquey. Hope this helps.

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