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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago
somerset |
how many times have you ladies and couples said no to guys because of attraction and then seen the same guy at a club or party and think ok we got that one wrong hes actually.. quite hot
me one recently and maybe a few in the pass where photos do no justice at all dont get me wrong i get most right but every now and then the camera really does lie
same goes for fuys who been compleate assholes online yet in clubs come across as really nice people lol is it just online fustration ??? 
also understand it can and does work the other way to when you think oh they are hot and then face to face its erm nope not happening |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this happens to me a lot I don’t think I’m that bad, slightly aesthetically challenged, be rough round the edges had a hard paper round, if you get the chance for the banter always seems to work out, blokes do it a lot too |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
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You must have an incredible memory if you are able to look at someone’s pictures on here and recognise them if you see them out at a club after that. I’m assuming you’re only looking at the pictures once or twice as you aren’t going to keep going back to look at them once you’ve decided you aren’t attracted to him. How soon after looking at the pictures did you see them in person?
Can you remember everyone whose photos you look at on here then? |
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Online we see static photos and a bit of text. All we can do is judge by things that are built in to our brains like symmetry or bone structure and the like, layered with a nuance of what we can guess of their characters from the text - the tone of which is easily misread.
In real life we see the organic growth of a smile, how it matches the twinkle in their eye, *how they respond to what we do and say*. And we can get a much better read on the compatibility of their character from a few minutes of conversation than a mile of text. All because we have senses that are attuned to these things that get absolutely no information from an online profile.
So it's not surprising there's a mismatch. |
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"All the time but. Never judge a book by its cover.
I do have a book fetishism especially libraries and the smell of a good book x"
All the way from sex clubs to book smell - congratulations on topic shift of the week  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All the time but. Never judge a book by its cover.
I do have a book fetishism especially libraries and the smell of a good book x
All the way from sex clubs to book smell - congratulations on topic shift of the week ."
Why thank you sir. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"how many times have you ladies and couples said no to guys because of attraction and then seen the same guy at a club or party and think ok we got that one wrong hes actually.. quite hot
me one recently and maybe a few in the pass where photos do no justice at all dont get me wrong i get most right but every now and then the camera really does lie
same goes for fuys who been compleate assholes online yet in clubs come across as really nice people lol is it just online fustration ???
also understand it can and does work the other way to when you think oh they are hot and then face to face its erm nope not happening"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You must have an incredible memory if you are able to look at someone’s pictures on here and recognise them if you see them out at a club after that. I’m assuming you’re only looking at the pictures once or twice as you aren’t going to keep going back to look at them once you’ve decided you aren’t attracted to him. How soon after looking at the pictures did you see them in person?
Can you remember everyone whose photos you look at on here then? "
. Best question i have read since being on here 2yrs.
We all are a process.sorry to burst the Balloon, 90% of the work goes on in the head & heart. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Online we see static photos and a bit of text. All we can do is judge by things that are built in to our brains like symmetry or bone structure and the like, layered with a nuance of what we can guess of their characters from the text - the tone of which is easily misread.
In real life we see the organic growth of a smile, how it matches the twinkle in their eye, *how they respond to what we do and say*. And we can get a much better read on the compatibility of their character from a few minutes of conversation than a mile of text. All because we have senses that are attuned to these things that get absolutely no information from an online profile.
So it's not surprising there's a mismatch."
( mismatch) word of the day.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the time but. Never judge a book by its cover.
I do have a book fetishism especially libraries and the smell of a good book x
All the way from sex clubs to book smell - congratulations on topic shift of the week ."
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A sharp shooter. The mind Boggles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Online we see static photos and a bit of text. All we can do is judge by things that are built in to our brains like symmetry or bone structure and the like, layered with a nuance of what we can guess of their characters from the text - the tone of which is easily misread.
In real life we see the organic growth of a smile, how it matches the twinkle in their eye, *how they respond to what we do and say*. And we can get a much better read on the compatibility of their character from a few minutes of conversation than a mile of text. All because we have senses that are attuned to these things that get absolutely no information from an online profile.
So it's not surprising there's a mismatch."
Thinking and observeing mind.
Man out of my own heart right here. |
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