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How did you bring it up
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I wish I'd brought up the subject years ago with my wife (now ex wife), but sadly I didn't!. With my new partner I brought up the subject when we were having sex; i just came out with it that my fantasy was to be seen with her in public in the nude and ultimately to join another couple to see her satisfied by another man or woman. It was as simple as that. She was not shocked, and we continue to talk about it from time to time. We have only visited a club once though so far. |
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over a year ago
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"This one’s for the couples on here. So how did you first bring up the conversation about Fab/Swinging.? If you didn’t meet your partner on here "
One of her friends was staying over and was scared of ghosts lol. She stayed in bed with us. When we woke up in the morning we were all chatting and could feel the sexual tension. Nothing happened but the wife (was GF at the time) remarked on it and how she wanted to jump the both of us. Rest is history. |
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"This one’s for the couples on here. So how did you first bring up the conversation about Fab/Swinging.? If you didn’t meet your partner on here "
We were talking about our bucket lists, and fab came into the conversation lol we've never looked back, and yes, I achieved the item on my bucket list, sadly Mr hasn't, but we're still hopeful lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It was easy for us.
Mr has previous experience here, though figured that was over and happy to go monogamous.
However, in those early months of our relationship, when we realised this is definitely going somewhere, we chatted about past relationships and experiences.
Mrs told a story and said she hopes Mr doesn't view her differently, and so Mr told Mrs a story.
She replied .... OMG, that sounds so hot.
The rest is history.  |
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For us, the conversation happened on our second date. Faye asked me some very direct questions about my sex life and wanted to know if I’d ever been to a swingers club. It was at that point I knew we were going to have a great future! As it happens I’d been to a club as a single guy for the first time a couple of weeks previously and she really wanted to know all the details. Fast forward a couple of lockdowns and we found ourselves like rabbits in the headlights at Remix in Swindon. |
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About 2 years ago D had a friend come over who is bi and we was drinking in the hot tub I untied D’s bikini top and she just let it drop her friend did same in no time we was all upstairs playing…. Nothing happened since this the friend moved away she came down to visit with her fiancé at Xmas last year je knew the story and all 4 of us went out round town and ended up in bed….from that we found this and then our naughty hobby snowballed  |
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I'd love to see you having sex with another man
"NO"
Waits for a year
I'd love to see you having sex with another man.
"NO"
Waits another year
I'd love to.....
"NO"
Repeat this process for about 20 years.
Decorating the kitchen one day I casually say.
I'd love to see you having sex with another man.
"Okay yes let's do it"
Ten years later and many fun times later here we are, still in love still having sex with each other 4/5 days a week plus Mrs has her own profile hotwifeing and she has regular playmate's.
The moral of this is simple.
You can't force anything,be prepared to play the long game and have patience when she's ready she'll be ready in her own time not yours. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
A month after dating we were discussing our other experiences on Bumble and Y told me she'd been talking to a poly couple and was going to meet them before she met me and had always known despite no experience she was bi.
So in the spirit I told her of my swinging experience.. The rest is.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couple of months after we got together she told me she was bi, when she told me I was bursting excitement and I told her I used this before I met her and now we’re just waiting to find the right person lol
Started up just before covid and still noting yet only come across fakes and time wasters |
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We were the same a discussion with my bf before we married a fantasy of 2 guys and that's how we came to be swinging but definitely needs discussing before anyone makes the decision, we stayed solid for 18 years 11 years married until he passed away last year |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
"This one’s for the couples on here. So how did you first bring up the conversation about Fab/Swinging.? If you didn’t meet your partner on here "
i really dont get this question i mean you should both know each other i knew very early on that my relationship with hubs was going to be exciting and sexually open i knew all this just by us dating .... the amount of people who cant be open with there partners is shocking ....no way id want to spend my life living like that ... we talk about anything and everything and we do ... you only live life once fantasy is no good if your only going to take it to you grave ...why get into a relationship and not know that person ....strange indeed |
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I said I’m going to fuck your mate with or without you, your choice.
Obviously not true. We talked lots about 3somes, which lead to discovering the swinging scene. Lots more discussion. Had some private meets and decided that wasn’t for us. Took the plunge and went to a club. We really enjoy the club scene |
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By *icknHMan
over a year ago
Ilfracombe |
"This one’s for the couples on here. So how did you first bring up the conversation about Fab/Swinging.? If you didn’t meet your partner on here "
I met my swing partner via POF and, having met and very quickly got to debauchery….we discovered a common interest in swinging and got ourselves started by going to a club. That was great fun. Met our first couple last week. Excellent |
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"This one’s for the couples on here. So how did you first bring up the conversation about Fab/Swinging.? If you didn’t meet your partner on here
i really dont get this question i mean you should both know each other i knew very early on that my relationship with hubs was going to be exciting and sexually open i knew all this just by us dating .... the amount of people who cant be open with there partners is shocking ....no way id want to spend my life living like that ... we talk about anything and everything and we do ... you only live life once fantasy is no good if your only going to take it to you grave ...why get into a relationship and not know that person ....strange indeed"
I don’t really get your answer tbh.. so the first thing you said when you met your husband was “hey I’m a swinger”.?
Obvs people are open with there partner but if you are attracted to someone and you didn’t meet them on a swinger site I don’t think one of the first topics your going to bring up is that your a swinger and you’d like to see that person and yourself involving someone else into the relationship ??????? |
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"This one’s for the couples on here. So how did you first bring up the conversation about Fab/Swinging.? If you didn’t meet your partner on here "
I was promoting dating sites and saw there were lots of couples on some so I told the wife (now ex) and said do you fancy trying it. We watched some documentaries on TV and spoke to some online people before taking the plunge. Nice thing was we both came out as bicurious too.  |
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"I'd love to see you having sex with another man
"NO"
Waits for a year
I'd love to see you having sex with another man.
"NO"
Waits another year
I'd love to.....
"NO"
Repeat this process for about 20 years.
Decorating the kitchen one day I casually say.
I'd love to see you having sex with another man.
"Okay yes let's do it"
Ten years later and many fun times later here we are, still in love still having sex with each other 4/5 days a week plus Mrs has her own profile hotwifeing and she has regular playmate's.
The moral of this is simple.
You can't force anything,be prepared to play the long game and have patience when she's ready she'll be ready in her own time not yours."
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Not long after I was married to my late wife one night having a drink and she asks about any girls I’d been with before we got together. Told her a couple of bits not much then I asked her about any lads knowing she was a virgin before we got together and o took her virginity I was a bit surprised when she told me about a lad from work who she had seen a couple of times and how they finished up naked him on top of her rubbing his bare cock over her pussy bit she wouldn’t let him fuck her as he had no condoms. Funny really as I fucked her bare when she lost her virginity. Any how she noticed how turned on I was and how i kept asking about how it felt him rubbing his cock on her and did she really want him to fuck her. I told her how I would have loved to have seen him fuck her. After months of this chat I asked her if she fancied going to a club. We went and watched a few couples then on a visit a guy caught her eye and I was lucky enough to watch him be only the second ever guy to cum in her. She loved it and as they say the rest is history |
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