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So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would! |
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Everyone has their own opinions and risk profiles, so it’s each to their own which is one of the joys of the scene.
It’s completely normal to not want to blow raw. I won’t do OWO. I know many that are the same. It’s her body her rules. If people don’t like it, they don’t need to play. There are a lot of guys on here, she won’t find it hard to get people who are okay with rubbers.
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over a year ago
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Hey! I get so much hate for being the safe sex nerd. The NHS states
You can catch an STI if you have just one sexual partner. However, the more partners you have, the greater the risk of catching an infection.
STIs commonly caught through oral sex are:
gonorrhoea
genital herpes
syphilis
human papillomavirus (HPV)
Infections less frequently passed on through oral sex include:
chlamydia
HIV
hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C
genital warts
pubic lice
What I would say on the matter is this, why play with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, if you want to find someone who wants a BJ with a condom then that works for you. If the person doesn't then they don't respect your boundary and as a result are undeserving of a blowjob. |
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"Hey! I get so much hate for being the safe sex nerd. The NHS states
You can catch an STI if you have just one sexual partner. However, the more partners you have, the greater the risk of catching an infection.
STIs commonly caught through oral sex are:
gonorrhoea
genital herpes
syphilis
human papillomavirus (HPV)
Infections less frequently passed on through oral sex include:
chlamydia
HIV
hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C
genital warts
pubic lice
What I would say on the matter is this, why play with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, if you want to find someone who wants a BJ with a condom then that works for you. If the person doesn't then they don't respect your boundary and as a result are undeserving of a blowjob."
This!!!!!! So much love for this post. Bravo! |
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Tbh she would have to make it a thing. Latex fetish, wanting to see the cum load at the end or something to make it appeal
I don’t think you’d be long satisfied with it either.
I think if there is a cock in front of you that you want to suck you will.
I think he is doing it for you not herbwhich wouldn't appeal to me at all |
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"Hey! I get so much hate for being the safe sex nerd. The NHS states
You can catch an STI if you have just one sexual partner. However, the more partners you have, the greater the risk of catching an infection.
STIs commonly caught through oral sex are:
gonorrhoea
genital herpes
syphilis
human papillomavirus (HPV)
Infections less frequently passed on through oral sex include:
chlamydia
HIV
hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C
genital warts
pubic lice
What I would say on the matter is this, why play with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, if you want to find someone who wants a BJ with a condom then that works for you. If the person doesn't then they don't respect your boundary and as a result are undeserving of a blowjob.
This!!!!!! So much love for this post. Bravo!"
Love both your replies - thank you! |
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"Hey! I get so much hate for being the safe sex nerd. The NHS states
You can catch an STI if you have just one sexual partner. However, the more partners you have, the greater the risk of catching an infection.
STIs commonly caught through oral sex are:
gonorrhoea
genital herpes
syphilis
human papillomavirus (HPV)
Infections less frequently passed on through oral sex include:
chlamydia
HIV
hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C
genital warts
pubic lice
What I would say on the matter is this, why play with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, if you want to find someone who wants a BJ with a condom then that works for you. If the person doesn't then they don't respect your boundary and as a result are undeserving of a blowjob.
This!!!!!! So much love for this post. Bravo!
Love both your replies - thank you!"
You guys do whatever makes you comfortable  |
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"Hey! I get so much hate for being the safe sex nerd. The NHS states
You can catch an STI if you have just one sexual partner. However, the more partners you have, the greater the risk of catching an infection.
STIs commonly caught through oral sex are:
gonorrhoea
genital herpes
syphilis
human papillomavirus (HPV)
Infections less frequently passed on through oral sex include:
chlamydia
HIV
hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C
genital warts
pubic lice
What I would say on the matter is this, why play with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, if you want to find someone who wants a BJ with a condom then that works for you. If the person doesn't then they don't respect your boundary and as a result are undeserving of a blowjob.
This!!!!!! So much love for this post. Bravo!"
We aren't all bad this side if the Severn bridge lol |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!"
Sure you would find somebody but it’s not normal for sure. Can’t ever recall seeing oral with a condom anywhere or someone suggesting. Some just dont do oral because of these concerns. Personally I would not meet if this was suggested but can imagine lots might, although may say yes as a way to meet and then try to do without. |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!
Sure you would find somebody but it’s not normal for sure. Can’t ever recall seeing oral with a condom anywhere or someone suggesting. Some just dont do oral because of these concerns. Personally I would not meet if this was suggested but can imagine lots might, although may say yes as a way to meet and then try to do without. "
Disrespecting boundaries before you even meet. Not cool, and probably frightening for many women. |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!
Sure you would find somebody but it’s not normal for sure. Can’t ever recall seeing oral with a condom anywhere or someone suggesting. Some just dont do oral because of these concerns. Personally I would not meet if this was suggested but can imagine lots might, although may say yes as a way to meet and then try to do without. "
Not normal? Based on what? Your experience? I think it's perfectly normal. If his and his wife's boundary is that they want the guy to rubber up you think it is wrong or not normal?
And also how many guys are so blowjob rich in life that they would turn down a blowjob? Lol
OP you guys do you ok. |
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over a year ago
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Hmmm I might just see how it works not given a blow job with a condom. Hmmm protection and safety are paramount.
Just reading the internet on it made me change my mind Op. |
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Sure you would find somebody but it’s not normal for sure. Can’t ever recall seeing oral with a condom anywhere or someone suggesting. Some just dont do oral because of these concerns. Personally I would not meet if this was suggested but can imagine lots might, although may say yes as a way to meet and then try to do without. "
We’ve had several guys do this. When I’ve said to rubber up, we get the face and the huffs. We just ask them to leave, there and then. It’s not worth the fumbling about while they cannot keep it up and it’s no fun for anyone. I’m not willing to put my health at risk for anyone.
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!
Sure you would find somebody but it’s not normal for sure. Can’t ever recall seeing oral with a condom anywhere or someone suggesting. Some just dont do oral because of these concerns. Personally I would not meet if this was suggested but can imagine lots might, although may say yes as a way to meet and then try to do without.
Disrespecting boundaries before you even meet. Not cool, and probably frightening for many women."
To be clear not saying I would but I can imagine some might. |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!
Sure you would find somebody but it’s not normal for sure. Can’t ever recall seeing oral with a condom anywhere or someone suggesting. Some just dont do oral because of these concerns. Personally I would not meet if this was suggested but can imagine lots might, although may say yes as a way to meet and then try to do without.
Not normal? Based on what? Your experience? I think it's perfectly normal. If his and his wife's boundary is that they want the guy to rubber up you think it is wrong or not normal?
And also how many guys are so blowjob rich in life that they would turn down a blowjob? Lol
OP you guys do you ok. "
Please do not put words in my mouth. I did not say it was wrong. OP suggested it might “be normal in the community” by which I suggest he meant common or expected. I was just saying it is not common. That is not to say OP is wrong to be concerned or wrong to what to want to do this. And before you ask I’ve been involved in this world in various guises and various countries for getting on for 30 years including early days on Fab so seen a fair bit. I am trying to think back and perhaps it was more of a thing maybe 20 years ago when HIV was more prevalent and a greater concern. |
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By *rbifunMan
over a year ago
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"Hey! I get so much hate for being the safe sex nerd. The NHS states
You can catch an STI if you have just one sexual partner. However, the more partners you have, the greater the risk of catching an infection.
STIs commonly caught through oral sex are:
gonorrhoea
genital herpes
syphilis
human papillomavirus (HPV)
Infections less frequently passed on through oral sex include:
chlamydia
HIV
hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C
genital warts
pubic lice
What I would say on the matter is this, why play with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, if you want to find someone who wants a BJ with a condom then that works for you. If the person doesn't then they don't respect your boundary and as a result are undeserving of a blowjob.
This!!!!!! So much love for this post. Bravo!
Love both your replies - thank you!"
I'd definitely be happy with this. I worry about sucking other guys without a condom too. Considering some of the awful STIs you can catch from oral, I can't see the problem. Also, some condoms these days are so thin, the sensations are still extremely good. |
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Is it normal/commonplace? Honestly I’d say I’m unsure. Based on clubs we have been to (home and abroad) I’d say not but as to what goes on behind 1000s of closed doors, it’s anyone’s guess - plus it’s impossible to work out how many abstain from oral due to STI risk - so maybe don’t worry about what’s ‘normal’ and just do what you are comfy with.
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When we started out I insisted on a condom for oral. Flavoured are preferable and the teat can make you gag.
The number of people who will give grief to people who enjoy unprotected penetration but practice unprotected oral is astounding to me.
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"When we started out I insisted on a condom for oral. Flavoured are preferable and the teat can make you gag.
The number of people who will give grief to people who enjoy unprotected penetration but practice unprotected oral is astounding to me.
Play by your rules. If others don't like them they don't have to meet you"
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"Hey! I get so much hate for being the safe sex nerd. The NHS states
You can catch an STI if you have just one sexual partner. However, the more partners you have, the greater the risk of catching an infection.
STIs commonly caught through oral sex are:
gonorrhoea
genital herpes
syphilis
human papillomavirus (HPV)
Infections less frequently passed on through oral sex include:
chlamydia
HIV
hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C
genital warts
pubic lice
What I would say on the matter is this, why play with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, if you want to find someone who wants a BJ with a condom then that works for you. If the person doesn't then they don't respect your boundary and as a result are undeserving of a blowjob."
All this
Also flavoured condoms are a thing, they don't taste great but better than normal ones |
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"Never sucked a guy off with a condom! I do get tested regularly. Can't imagine it will feel nice? 
Na it don't Be like sucking on rubber gloves or something! Won't be a have the sensation. Lol  "
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Never sucked a guy off with a condom! I do get tested regularly. Can't imagine it will feel nice?
Na it don't Be like sucking on rubber gloves or something! Won't be a have the sensation. Lol "
Haha exactly |
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"Never sucked a guy off with a condom! I do get tested regularly. Can't imagine it will feel nice? "
No it doesn't but as least flavoured condoms take the edge off |
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By *nly DickCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!"
Not the normal but yes she should only do what she is comfortable with, notcwhat others prefer to do  |
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By *luefunMan
over a year ago
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"Never sucked a guy off with a condom! I do get tested regularly. Can't imagine it will feel nice?
No it doesn't but as least flavoured condoms take the edge off"
I’ve never been sucked off wearing a condom but willing to try! |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!"
I totally agree with your wife as it’s her choice , I always carry my own condoms too |
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"What I would say on the matter is this, why play with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, if you want to find someone who wants a BJ with a condom then that works for you. If the person doesn't then they don't respect your boundary and as a result are undeserving of a blowjob."
He has a great point here and I agree, but I’d expect the mainstay ones that will want a covered bj will be guys that haven’t had one in a long time….and there will be reasons for that. |
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OP, If you are straight with folk about your health concerns then you will find people who will accept a covered BJ. You may not like the taste, and they the lack of sensation, but it should still work.
However, Please remember the other equally important health protections whilst considering your health safety during casual sex.
You should ensure they are freshly showered. You should inspect their body thoroughly for sores, warts, cuts, etc before contact to ensure nothing is not passed on during physical contact.
You must not kiss them as that is a sure way of risking infection. They should wear sterile gloves, or at least clean their hands and arms with Hibiclens soap if they are going to touch your vagina.
They must not perform uncovered oral sex on you at all. Obviously condoms for vaginal penetration and they should withdraw immediately after ejaculation and dispose of the condom before washing.
I am sure the Forum experts will add other suitable precautions. |
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Here's a question for those on here who've experienced this. So as you get to the point of climax would you rather keep going and cum in the condom in mouth or take it off and finish by hand with it spraying/dribbling freely? I'm going for the latter as really don't like cumming in condoms and tried to avoid as much as possible. |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!"
No thanks, body contact makes sex what it is, fluids and all  |
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Tbh, if someone wanted me to wear a condom for a blow job I probably wouldn't bother. What's the point of it if it feels shit?
If she insists that's the only way then of course that needs to be respected, and I'm sure maybe some guys would be okay with it. But it's definitely not for me personally.
I'd say, maybe get to know a guy well enough that you can build trust and enjoy a normal BJ. Or ask someone to go to a gum clinic and get checked out, in time for just before you play with them.
Just my two cents, anyways. Happy swinging |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!"
Hopefully you’ll encounter some guys who agree it’s her body, her rules. I’ve had oral with, wouldn’t be my preference but from a health point of view I’m more than happy to go with it. Hope you both have some fun you’re both comfortable with! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I know people who alwYs use protection regardless and so do you use them for blowjobs. It's not something I would do as I wouldn't enjoy the experience quite the same, but I'm sure there would be lots of guys it would be very happy to receive.
Like others have said, If it doesn't suit the gentlemen then he doesn't get the blowjob. Easy as |
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"Never sucked a guy off with a condom! I do get tested regularly. Can't imagine it will feel nice?
Na it don't Be like sucking on rubber gloves or something! Won't be a have the sensation. Lol
Haha exactly "
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"It's entirely the choice of the person doing the sucking.
If they insist on a condom, you wear one or get out.
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Or do other things perhaps - hand job, fuck with a condom, etc. Well unless discussed in advance. Can’t say would be too impressed if went and told to leave if I declined a condom blow job. |
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"It's entirely the choice of the person doing the sucking.
If they insist on a condom, you wear one or get out.
Or do other things perhaps - hand job, fuck with a condom, etc. Well unless discussed in advance. Can’t say would be too impressed if went and told to leave if I declined a condom blow job. "
The key words here were "if they insist"
If someone doesn't respect your wishes then yes, they should absolutely be asked to leave |
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This is why discussion of non negotiables is so important before you meet.
Nobody is in the wrong or more or less deserving of anything. There's compatibility and incompatibility, it's better to discover where you are before you meet |
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STIs are obviously a concern, but all you can do is protect yourself.
Would we do BJ with condom? Sorry, no.
But, we do take sexual health seriously and would use condoms for full sex. We also get checked frequently (despite being angelic!). Also the clinic will look after you - they know the score and will give you vaccines for HEP A, B, Monkeypox and even Prep for events "just in case".
Can't knock it....
But checks frequently
We've always been OK - though did think we caught something from an event or hot tub - they tested, same treatment for UTI or STI so gave us pills, nurses had a laugh about the hot tub etc. Infection cleared and results were just a hot-tub UTI not STI. Surprised us but Phew!
You also get a free party goody bag
(weirdly the vaccines and drugs are all free from the clinic, saved us a fortune on travel vaccines! ) |
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Everyone has different preferences and boundaries. I don't think people are entitled if they say no to something that they don't want to do or haved one, like some people have suggested.
Communication, safety and comfort are what is important.
I personally don't do oral sex with condoms. I test regularly.
There is no right or wrong, she just needs to stick to her boundaries and explore. I wish you luck with your swinging journey. |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!"
It wouldn't do much for me I'm afraid |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!
It wouldn't do much for me I'm afraid "
A blow job with a condom is the sort of thing that I'd expect to see in The Inbetweeners!
I'd rather toss myself off with a packet of ham whilst wearing a mask and snorkel! |
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OP, I hope that the sheer number of people saying that they would be fine with it puts your mind at ease.
You might wish to also consider similar minded couples who have the same approaches to OWO and testing as you do. Particularly those with a cuckquean element to their dynamic. That way both partners can enjoy watching their other half give/receive, while both being at ease.
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!
It wouldn't do much for me I'm afraid
A blow job with a condom is the sort of thing that I'd expect to see in The Inbetweeners!
I'd rather toss myself off with a packet of ham whilst wearing a mask and snorkel!"
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"OP, I hope that the sheer number of people saying that they would be fine with it puts your mind at ease.
You might wish to also consider similar minded couples who have the same approaches to OWO and testing as you do. Particularly those with a cuckquean element to their dynamic. That way both partners can enjoy watching their other half give/receive, while both being at ease.
Xx
K"
Agreed!
It's a shame people can't remain respectful while putting their opinions across |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
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I say no way, done it before and couldn't stand the taste! D has no input as he's never experienced one wearing a condom (and no I'm not going to.. )
But as has already been said your boundaries are yours and should as always be respected |
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Thanks for all the comments guys - I wasn’t expecting so many replies.
Tbh, some of this made me feel totally unprepared- clinics, inspections etc. the admin is slightly daunting!
I get that a bj with a condom won’t feel as good, but to those that would be annoyed to turn up and be asked - your sense of entitlement over the sexual boundaries of others is quite disgusting.
We’ll stick to hand jobs for now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me a blow job with a condom is a No. I get tested regularly and will always drop that into conversation before I play with anyone. But it’s up to you |
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"Thanks for all the comments guys - I wasn’t expecting so many replies.
Tbh, some of this made me feel totally unprepared- clinics, inspections etc. the admin is slightly daunting!
I get that a bj with a condom won’t feel as good, but to those that would be annoyed to turn up and be asked - your sense of entitlement over the sexual boundaries of others is quite disgusting.
We’ll stick to hand jobs for now."
What is wrong with being annoyed with something that goes against your expectation? (providing the annoyance is polite of course). Hopefully this thread has highlighted that blow job with condoms is not common practice, even if some are happy, and need to communicate beforehand if that is your wish. You can’t expect men to just turn up and be used as you wish. We are people too and not sex toys. As long as communicate before on something like this then all will be fine. Wish you luck finding the right people. |
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"So, my wife has agreed she’d like to try play, but is nervous about infections etc.
Tbh, watching her give a hand job would blow my mind. But a blowjob…omg…
So…since you can get STI from blowjobs, she’d want to do it with a condom. I’ve told her that’s probably normal in the community, but I don’t know…
Is that normal? Would guys still go for that? I would!
Sure you would find somebody but it’s not normal for sure. Can’t ever recall seeing oral with a condom anywhere or someone suggesting. Some just dont do oral because of these concerns. Personally I would not meet if this was suggested but can imagine lots might, although may say yes as a way to meet and then try to do without.
Not normal? Based on what? Your experience? I think it's perfectly normal. If his and his wife's boundary is that they want the guy to rubber up you think it is wrong or not normal?
And also how many guys are so blowjob rich in life that they would turn down a blowjob? Lol
OP you guys do you ok. "
Well I guess guys would rather no blowjob as opposed to a bad one one. |
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There are techniques for rubbered blowjobs that are fail-proof, and have had many positive compliments afterwards. If guys don’t want to try, their loss and saves me the drool and tongue ache. Win/win
Just because it’s different doesn’t mean it’s not fun. Please, can everyone remain respectful of the OP. They are nervous and new. We can all empathise with what that’s like I’m sure.
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