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Husbands that are fixated with sharing their wifes
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In my life I have been the happiest when my partner agreed to actively seek other men for sex.
I'm bi and she willingly let my male FBs fuck her, she also met them solo, arranged random meets with men when I was at work and introduced me to sex parties and gangbangs. The impact on me was it became an addition and I wanted more and more.
Ultimately, this became a huge turn off to her and I feel I ruined my perfect idea of heaven.
I'm praying that in time and the right environment she may play again. Anyone else fucked it up like me by expecting too much of a good thing? |
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I think it's quite easy to be so keen on the idea that your partner feels that you're no longer interested in her unless she is fulfilling your sexual fantasy. Sometimes women just want to be wanted for themselves |
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Yep, I totally agree. Just didn't understand that at the beginning. I realise now that our minds work differently. Physical sex for me is driven by pure lust and self satisfaction. It means nothing emotionally and has no impact on my intimate love for my lady. She wants me and isn't interested in other cocks. So was basically trying to make me happy but not really enjoying the experience. That's the last think I want. |
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Feel I've mucked it up as she now knows she can fuck anyone she wants however she likes. So no risk or desire. Hoping her sex drive my come back and that will change but I now realise it's her call and I have to back off. |
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"Ultimately her to start seeing other men for lustful pleasure and a loving intimate marriage with me. "
She's not interested in other cocks you said and was doing it to keep you happy. She's unlikely to want to do it again I would think. |
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The swinging world likes to boast that all action is woman-approved and perhaps this is true, however the paradox is that as a whole casual sex is set up on male patterns of desire and IMHO doesn't serve the needs of women, apart from a miniscule portion who naturally or because of behaviour modifications manage to function well within these parametres. |
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over a year ago
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"I think it's quite easy to be so keen on the idea that your partner feels that you're no longer interested in her unless she is fulfilling your sexual fantasy. Sometimes women just want to be wanted for themselves "
Yep I agree.
Kid in a candystore springs to mind also! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The swinging world likes to boast that all action is woman-approved and perhaps this is true, however the paradox is that as a whole casual sex is set up on male patterns of desire and IMHO doesn't serve the needs of women, apart from a miniscule portion who naturally or because of behaviour modifications manage to function well within these parametres."
This is so well said!! |
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Me and my wife have met loads of guys and couples and she has always made the final decision on who we met. If she wasn’t up for it then we simply wouldn’t play. But she has said that she does enjoy me showing pics to other guys and talking about what we get up to |
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"Ultimately her to start seeing other men for lustful pleasure and a loving intimate marriage with me.
She's not interested in other cocks you said and was doing it to keep you happy. She's unlikely to want to do it again I would think. "
I fear you may be right. |
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"Ultimately her to start seeing other men for lustful pleasure and a loving intimate marriage with me.
She's not interested in other cocks you said and was doing it to keep you happy. She's unlikely to want to do it again I would think.
I fear you may be right."
So do you appreciate her for herself or not? |
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I also feel that too many men wanted porn sex with her. Don't get me wrong she does enjoy rough sex but only when in the mood. Too many guys wanted her to be a porn star and that way too male orientated for his enjoyment. She didn't like being used as a piece of meat for a guy to use and spunk in. |
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"I also feel that too many men wanted porn sex with her. Don't get me wrong she does enjoy rough sex but only when in the mood. Too many guys wanted her to be a porn star and that way too male orientated for his enjoyment. She didn't like being used as a piece of meat for a guy to use and spunk in."
The ultimate responsibility rests with the two of you. The men you met presumably assumed that was what you both wanted. |
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"Ultimately her to start seeing other men for lustful pleasure and a loving intimate marriage with me.
She's not interested in other cocks you said and was doing it to keep you happy. She's unlikely to want to do it again I would think.
I fear you may be right.
So do you appreciate her for herself or not? "
I adore her and want her to be happy. No more swinging or sharing. She is happy for me to see guys and my fetish about sharing her is fulfilled with her doing her sensual massage with clients. I just have to accept that sex with other men is a step too far at least for the time being. |
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"Ultimately her to start seeing other men for lustful pleasure and a loving intimate marriage with me.
She's not interested in other cocks you said and was doing it to keep you happy. She's unlikely to want to do it again I would think.
I fear you may be right.
So do you appreciate her for herself or not?
I adore her and want her to be happy. No more swinging or sharing. She is happy for me to see guys and my fetish about sharing her is fulfilled with her doing her sensual massage with clients. I just have to accept that sex with other men is a step too far at least for the time being. "
You clearly adore your wife OP, sometimes we can just get lost along the way I think. I hope you both find that harmony comes back in your marriage x |
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Obviously it's hard to give advice or suggestions from a one sided conversation however I will offer this, a fab break could be beneficial to you both, not just your wife, both take some time out and try looking at the whole thing with fresh eyes.
She could perhaps be saying it's ok for you to still swing as a test to see if you do (could be a little extreme thought process here) or she could just be saying she is happy just to make you happy? Not knowing either of you or your dynamic is difficult.
At the end of the day, as long as your marriage, love and friendship is still there, swinging is just an added bonus.
Danish x |
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"Obviously it's hard to give advice or suggestions from a one sided conversation however I will offer this, a fab break could be beneficial to you both, not just your wife, both take some time out and try looking at the whole thing with fresh eyes.
She could perhaps be saying it's ok for you to still swing as a test to see if you do (could be a little extreme thought process here) or she could just be saying she is happy just to make you happy? Not knowing either of you or your dynamic is difficult.
At the end of the day, as long as your marriage, love and friendship is still there, swinging is just an added bonus.
Danish x"
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I know for us fab and other sites gets quite overwhelming with all the messages, socials and failed meets.
Sounds like ot just got too much for her and now a turn off.
My hotwife now only plays with a few regulars, rarely checks in on fab. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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I may not be the perfect guy to answer here because I dont have a wife I share, or like the idea of sharing her like that BUT from what I have seen and heard during my meets, it's not unusual. For now she is doing it only for you, and you ahve asked too much and now she doesn't feel like doing it for you any more. She feels like you will ask for more and more and more and more.
What should help, and this is only coming from others, is to give her a break and after a while, flip it so it's her idea and not yours. Don't ask her, get her to ask you.
I think you can achieve this by talking about other guys, things she would like to try out (and thensay you won't do that just to get her to think about a different men playing with her that way) and such. You have to plant the seeds and wait for them to blossom.
But give it a rest for now, a little break for things to go back to normal between you.
There is still the possibility that she absolutely doesn't want that still, but you can only try. And if her answer remains no, maybe you need to look for a different wife, who can make you happy. |
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My hubby loves sharing me. At times we pretend to not know each other and watches me chat up other guys for sex and then asks to watch, of course I say yes so the other guy has to let him watch us |
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By *ikilovesCCouple 47 weeks ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"Well this week she has had 10 clients for sensual massage and I've managed to lick 3 guys cum off her tits. I'm a very happy man."
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Sounds like there's been a Fab happy ending to this thread  |
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By *ikilovesCCouple 47 weeks ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"I think it's quite easy to be so keen on the idea that your partner feels that you're no longer interested in her unless she is fulfilling your sexual fantasy. Sometimes women just want to be wanted for themselves "
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That was a great post  |
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I think things ebb and flow. Sounds like you are something of a cuckold wannabee, rather like me and suffer a bit from cuckold angst.
I think my issue is we've been together since early 40s and had an awful lot of fun. Now early 60s I get the feeling time is running out and life is far too short.
I find the best thing to do is keep talking and ensuring you provide trust. Somehow I have to accept that Mrs N doesn't want sex with other people like I do but when it does as always appreciate it for what it is. A joy and gift for all concerned. |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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I ruined my lady last relationship buy opening up about wanting to see her with others, was never something she would have considered but seemed open…we role played, fantasised and eventually started speaking with other men.
Then suddenly she ended our relationship, said it had taken over my life and I no longer saw her, just what I wanted her to be, that she no longer felt “enough”.
Was hard on us both as we were so deeply in love, it’s a dangerous world to open up about..I suppose that’s part of the thrill. |
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Good thread
I fucked up as my wife used to be very shy but fucking other guys ith me there or not made her more adventerous. I found out she had made good friends with a guy at work - it was an affair - we almost broke up and she blamed me.
So i stopped being a Cuck - how wrong was i to think that being fucked by by fitter and massive cocks would mean shed never cheat
after 20 years plus we are gently getting back in to her being touched kissed and fucked by men 30/40 years her junior and massive cocks - we've agreed theat when i leave her alone, it is up to her and up to her to tell me what happened etc |
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My fiancée is now seeing her first ever married boyfriend for lustful sex and I am so happy. I help out by buying sexy underwear for them and let her use my credit card for expenses. What an amazing woman. |
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"My fiancée is now seeing her first ever married boyfriend for lustful sex and I am so happy. I help out by buying sexy underwear for them and let her use my credit card for expenses. What an amazing woman."
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"I’d love my wife to have a boyfriend but although the idea turns her on massively she’s never gone further than kissing another guy "
Do you leave them alone? If not that is the key
Mrs used to get massage and then let me fuck her in front of the other guy and she said she did it for me - when left alone the first time she went all the way and said she did it for me and it was "ok," but a few moneths after having sex with several other guys she agreed it was good but doing it for me but she enjoyed it. More recently she addmitted she was not be 100% open and enjoyed the fucks 100% and also did it for herself from day one but too she to admit it - now much older, we are getting back into the swing of thens
i find on the whole men want to ssee their wives fucked a lot more than nost women want to be fucked.
She finds it a lot easier, less shy when we are at our hotel and has agreed to try something new - but we both agreed it will depend on how we both feel nearer the time and i dont want her to kiss but she loves kissing, so its give and take imo |
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my wife liked taht i was jealous when she told me that whe wanted to occassionally have a random fuck with a nasty hard hung guy just for her pleasure and expected me to be understanding about her needs As i learned to enjoy the intensity of being cuckolded she liked to keep me jealous by upping the ante of humilliaiton I think it was a turn off for her if showed any eagerness for her do it |
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"I’d love my wife to have a boyfriend but although the idea turns her on massively she’s never gone further than kissing another guy
She finds it a lot easier, less shy when we are at our hotel and has agreed to try something new - but we both agreed it will depend on how we both feel nearer the time and i dont want her to kiss but she loves kissing, so its give and take imo"
Do you feel that kissing is overstepping the mark? Interesting |
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"I’d love my wife to have a boyfriend but although the idea turns her on massively she’s never gone further than kissing another guy
She finds it a lot easier, less shy when we are at our hotel and has agreed to try something new - but we both agreed it will depend on how we both feel nearer the time and i dont want her to kiss but she loves kissing, so its give and take imo
Do you feel that kissing is overstepping the mark? Interesting "
I love teh way a guy looks at you after he has really deply kissed your wife and felt her esponding to him |
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It is a problem, when men (or woman) become fixated on a ideal and keep pushing it.
Being shared can be fun, but if it is all the time. It can become tedious.
Being pushed or pressured, will turn anyone off. |
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Her married boyfriend is getting worried about being found out. We may have to look for another. Someone she's attracted to and will take her out. She's after a proper boyfriend not just fuck mate. |
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