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Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people just like to keep things as private as possible. We have pics of our kids on our WhatsApp so that can make us hesitant to give our numbers out. We still do swap numbers if we’re going to arrange a meet but we are quite cautious with it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while "
Verifications and chatting don't prove anything.
Men who want to take chat off the site usually only want wank chat at 3am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will always ask to take chat off here after a time and ask for a phone call or voice note.
It’s amazing how many verified accounts are fake. Couples who are not couples and woman who are in fact men, and yes I’ve been catfished by one.
I don’t know how these accounts get verified, but that’s a different topic.
So yes a phone call or voice note when it seems we are getting on well |
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"Some people just like to keep things as private as possible. We have pics of our kids on our WhatsApp so that can make us hesitant to give our numbers out. We still do swap numbers if we’re going to arrange a meet but we are quite cautious with it.
Totally understand that Mr T.
As I said it's a matter of gauging good genuine guys
Personally I'd never disrespect or message out of turn
Mr"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I generally only give my number to someone I'm going to meet.
At least if I need a break from here or social media, I can just not log in. But if people are texting and calling I'll have no peace.
There is no need for my number.
Idle chat can stay on here or Kik. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I generally only give my number to someone I'm going to meet.
At least if I need a break from here or social media, I can just not log in. But if people are texting and calling I'll have no peace.
There is no need for my number.
Idle chat can stay on here or Kik."
For me there has to be a balance in all of this or within everything.
If woman get the amount of messages they say they do then you can run the risk of your message not being seen.
The other thing is that for me by taking the chat off here shows an intent to want to know more of each other. And as I also say it’s a way to prove genuine even down to a video call to prove they look like their photos and not using someone else’s or ones way out of date.
I don’t have time or the want to talk to someone if it doesn’t work out. So block me. Move on. There is no way I would try and find people on other media platforms |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We use a 'fab' burner phone if we ever want to exchange numbers, that way we can just turn it off and leave it in the drawer for another 6 months if we can't be arsed. |
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"We use a 'fab' burner phone if we ever want to exchange numbers, that way we can just turn it off and leave it in the drawer for another 6 months if we can't be arsed."
Or you can simply block on whatsapp |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand why people want my number, when we could talk on here and arrange to meet on here. I never ask for anyone's number/other socials etc. Maybe if you meet someone and you carry on seeing each other etc and both choose to, but I'm constantly asked about other socials, when I'm more than happy to just talk on here. |
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We keep everything swinging related on here to separate it from our day to day lives. Based on the number and frequency of messages we get on here, if people had our numbers it would be unbearable. |
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"We keep everything swinging related on here to separate it from our day to day lives. Based on the number and frequency of messages we get on here, if people had our numbers it would be unbearable. "
That's fair enough
Do you not insist on phone chat before meeting then? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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So yes a phone call or voice note when it seems we are getting on well
What proportion agree to do this ?"
I’ve literally had 1 or 2 that don’t. But I think people are attracted to similar , if someone is not open and transparent and can’t speak in the phone I’m not really interested in chatting to them. |
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"We keep everything swinging related on here to separate it from our day to day lives. Based on the number and frequency of messages we get on here, if people had our numbers it would be unbearable.
That's fair enough
Do you not insist on phone chat before meeting then?"
We mainly go to clubs so it wouldn't be relevant but on the odd occasion it's been outside of clubs the only communication has been through Fab. |
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"We keep everything swinging related on here to separate it from our day to day lives. Based on the number and frequency of messages we get on here, if people had our numbers it would be unbearable.
Do you not insist on phone chat before meeting then?
We mainly go to clubs so it wouldn't be relevant but on the odd occasion it's been outside of clubs the only communication has been through Fab."
Ah OK thats different then
What if you meet a really great guy at the club you'd like to see again |
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We also like to keep things completely separate and have only given our number to a very select few after meeting a number of times.
Don't really want a burner phone and as someone else mentioned, don't need our number linking to any other social media.
There are plenty of other ways to stay in touch, hence we're happy to chat on here, Kik or Telegram.
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"We keep everything swinging related on here to separate it from our day to day lives. Based on the number and frequency of messages we get on here, if people had our numbers it would be unbearable.
Do you not insist on phone chat before meeting then?
We mainly go to clubs so it wouldn't be relevant but on the odd occasion it's been outside of clubs the only communication has been through Fab.
Ah OK thats different then
What if you meet a really great guy at the club you'd like to see again"
We keep in touch Fab |
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"We keep everything swinging related on here to separate it from our day to day lives. Based on the number and frequency of messages we get on here, if people had our numbers it would be unbearable.
Do you not insist on phone chat before meeting then?
We mainly go to clubs so it wouldn't be relevant but on the odd occasion it's been outside of clubs the only communication has been through Fab.
Ah OK thats different then
What if you meet a really great guy at the club you'd like to see again
We keep in touch through Fab"
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We tend to move off here for group chats just because it's awkward having 3/4 way conversation on here, much easier when everyone can chip in and know who's speaking.
We use telegram for those who don't like to give out a number or what's app for those that don't mind.
A number is easily blockable so it doesn't bother me handing it out, plus I don't have it registered to any social media.
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"We tend to move off here for group chats just because it's awkward having 3/4 way conversation on here, much easier when everyone can chip in and know who's speaking.
We use telegram for those who don't like to give out a number or what's app for those that don't mind.
A number is easily blockable so it doesn't bother me handing it out, plus I don't have it registered to any social media.
Mrs "
Exactly it's easy to block an arsehole lol
Agreed It's long the convo on here |
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over a year ago
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We will only give our number if we've had a social(s) meet and then agreed to have a play meet.
If after a few messages couples wanted to chat and get to know us better away from here before arranging a social meet they can, by either Kik or telegram and then we would create a group chat so all could join in
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"We will only give our number if we've had a social(s) meet and then agreed to have a play meet.
If after a few messages couples wanted to chat and get to know us better away from here before arranging a social meet they can, by either Kik or telegram and then we would create a group chat so all could join in
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That's fair enough
Just curious as to would you arrange a social without physically speaking to a guy or cpl |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"We use a 'fab' burner phone if we ever want to exchange numbers, that way we can just turn it off and leave it in the drawer for another 6 months if we can't be arsed.
Or you can simply block on whatsapp"
When someone has your phone number they can call from a private number, and keep calling as you can't block them. |
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over a year ago
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"We will only give our number if we've had a social(s) meet and then agreed to have a play meet.
If after a few messages couples wanted to chat and get to know us better away from here before arranging a social meet they can, by either Kik or telegram and then we would create a group chat so all could join in
That's fair enough
Just curious as to would you arrange a social without physically speaking to a guy or cpl "
Guys no as we're not looking for single guys
But couples yes, we have arranged a social without physically speaking to them before hand |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat |
"We use a 'fab' burner phone if we ever want to exchange numbers, that way we can just turn it off and leave it in the drawer for another 6 months if we can't be arsed.
Or you can simply block on whatsapp
When someone has your phone number they can call from a private number, and keep calling as you can't block them."
I am pretty relaxed about it. I am pretty heavy on the block button if someone cheeses me off and have only ever had one stalker that kept changing his number and bothering me.... But generally I have had no issues giving it out. |
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By *mtasticCouple
over a year ago
Coventry |
The issue with mobile numbers these days is that it links you to all sorts of other accounts. I very rarely give mine out after having people then message me on facebook etc.
We use kik to send face pics and chat, whilst a bit crap and buggy it's completely delinked from everything else. |
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over a year ago
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Definitely wouldn’t be giving our number out until we meet a few times and buid a friendship.
You can do all you’re chatting on here so don’t see the big deal to be honest? |
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I've cancelled meeting people if they won't swap another comms method in advance. I don't use fab outside the house, only on wi fi. I'm not leaving to travel somewhere without being able to get hold of someone.
Usually Kik or Snapchat - if it progresses I'm happy to swap numbers. I feel the majority of the time the conversation flows better off fab inbox.
I respect people's views not to share their number but they seem less impressed when I hold my own values aswell.
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"Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while "
To me the logical next step after talking for a while is trying to arrange to meet 
It pays to be cautious exchanging numbers for many of reasons stated above. WhatsApp in particular links to Facebook and Instagram and people can start showing up in your "Suggested Friends" section. Most people get on absolute fine without exchanging numbers and communicating on here and there are always other options where phone numbers are not required. Obviously some are less worried about privacy than others.
Also just in the last week some people have popped up talking about scams involving "ladies" getting men's numbers and then threatening all sorts so on the other end of the spectrum I'd be very cautious with a lady who wants an immediate exchange of numbers. |
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"We tend to move off here for group chats just because it's awkward having 3/4 way conversation on here, much easier when everyone can chip in and know who's speaking.
We use telegram for those who don't like to give out a number or what's app for those that don't mind.
A number is easily blockable so it doesn't bother me handing it out, plus I don't have it registered to any social media.
Mrs
Exactly it's easy to block an arsehole lol
Agreed It's long the convo on here "
It's easy to block one number but not easy to block if somebody is determined to give you grief and cause trouble. Messages from other numbers. From a friend's phone. From private numbers. Been there. |
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"I've cancelled meeting people if they won't swap another comms method in advance. I don't use fab outside the house, only on wi fi. I'm not leaving to travel somewhere without being able to get hold of someone.
Usually Kik or Snapchat - if it progresses I'm happy to swap numbers. I feel the majority of the time the conversation flows better off fab inbox.
I respect people's views not to share their number but they seem less impressed when I hold my own values aswell.
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This ?? |
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When I was meeting as a single ,I only gave my number to men I'd met a few times and trusted .I wouldn't give it out to just anyone as some abuse it,ie calling or texting at all hours and ending up blocked.
Some maybe have something to hide ie a partner and for others it's because once you have a person's mobile ,you can often find a lot of info out about them .
We tend to use telegram ,you can chat as a group on it too .
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over a year ago
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There’s too many crazy people on here to be giving out numbers.
Also, what’s the need when communication can happen via this site? Personally I’m not one for phone conversations with strangers, so I find the messaging system on this works fine.
If we meet and get along then I’m ok giving my number after that point. |
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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why people want my number, when we could talk on here and arrange to meet on here. I never ask for anyone's number/other socials etc. Maybe if you meet someone and you carry on seeing each other etc and both choose to, but I'm constantly asked about other socials, when I'm more than happy to just talk on here."
This for me too
I don't have a different play number for Fab and I don't want my 'real life' being mixed up with Fab fun creeping in with texts, calls, friend requests etc.
As the Offspring once said..... You gotta keep em separated  |
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I insist on a number when planning to meet and that's non negotiable.
Works well for me & I've never been hassled by anyone.
Though I do try to get to know them as much as possible before arranging a meet. |
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Why do I have to give a stranger from the internet my mobile number??? And why not willing to do that makes me "fake" or not interested in meeting???
I have learned my lesson in the past, gave my number to some and then got bombarded by messages at all hours, whenever they wanted to "chat". And if I didn't answer in time, they'd send even more messages. Yes, I know it's easy to block someone but I'd rather just keep my personal mobile number to myself. And no, I am not getting a burner phone just so I could give that number to people, thank you very much.
This site is good enough for initial conversations and arranging a potential meet. Further on, if you do take the conversation off site and things go wrong, you can't report the other person/people.
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
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"We tend to move off here for group chats just because it's awkward having 3/4 way conversation on here, much easier when everyone can chip in and know who's speaking.
We use telegram for those who don't like to give out a number or what's app for those that don't mind.
A number is easily blockable so it doesn't bother me handing it out, plus I don't have it registered to any social media.
Mrs "
Likewise! We feel we're trusting others with the most valuable thing (bar the kid's of course ) in our lives, so why would we not trust them with our phone numbers.
Never had any make us regret that choice, however the only couple to have flaked on us were one's who wouldn't share theirs.. |
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over a year ago
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I wont meet without talking on phone first, I have good reason. I just want to be sure he is who he says. Initially I was hesitant but then realised how many forms/ordering goods etc required my phone number.
I'd not exchange with just anyone obviously. |
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"We tend to move off here for group chats just because it's awkward having 3/4 way conversation on here, much easier when everyone can chip in and know who's speaking.
We use telegram for those who don't like to give out a number or what's app for those that don't mind.
A number is easily blockable so it doesn't bother me handing it out, plus I don't have it registered to any social media.
Mrs
Likewise! We feel we're trusting others with the most valuable thing (bar the kid's of course ) in our lives, so why would we not trust them with our phone numbers.
Never had any make us regret that choice, however the only couple to have flaked on us were one's who wouldn't share theirs.."
Exactly if I can share my body and my partner with them I've no issue sharing my number
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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago
Kingsbridge |
"Some people just like to keep things as private as possible. We have pics of our kids on our WhatsApp so that can make us hesitant to give our numbers out. We still do swap numbers if we’re going to arrange a meet but we are quite cautious with it.
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I think that’s fair enough. |
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We only give a number out to people we've already met more than once. And that's only if we like them enough to be real life friends. Everyone else gets messaged through fabmail or kik.
We gave a number to one couple, back in our early days, and the male half appeared in our friends suggestions on fb the next day.
We don't do phone calls as all our meets would be in a club anyway. |
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We keep all communication on here until the day of the planned meet when we will exchange numbers if required. We're more than happy to have a chat in the rooms on here or Skype to prove there's two of us and that we're both up for whatever we have sorted out. |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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I usually chat on here, if we both want to chat off here I have telegram for that. I only give my number out if I am going to meet someone, I just don't like giving my number out tbh. |
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over a year ago
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"Why do I have to give a stranger from the internet my mobile number??? And why not willing to do that makes me "fake" or not interested in meeting???
I have learned my lesson in the past, gave my number to some and then got bombarded by messages at all hours, whenever they wanted to "chat". And if I didn't answer in time, they'd send even more messages. Yes, I know it's easy to block someone but I'd rather just keep my personal mobile number to myself. And no, I am not getting a burner phone just so I could give that number to people, thank you very much.
This site is good enough for initial conversations and arranging a potential meet. Further on, if you do take the conversation off site and things go wrong, you can't report the other person/people.
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 I have had the same thing that is why I don't give out my contact details. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while "
We never give out actual telephone numbers. There are communication apps that do not require us to expose a detail we use for family and work related communications. Identity theft is a *very* real thing and we're not implying that is what you (OP) would do but there are people who do. Be safe online and do not expose your IRL details to anyone when there are much safer/smarter ways. |
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Coz just because it's too easy for them to find stuff about you on social media, n it don't mean anything even if you have chatted for ages can still mean they are fake /time waster, I never give my number out |
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
southeast , midlands, southern France |
I like to exchange Tel Nos pretty early on, I find it s out the fakes, I have two telephones,one is my regular and the other is my fab phone. A very select few get the regular phone number lol |
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over a year ago
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"Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while "
Same drama here. I like to have chat,laugh be free style to flow
Loads just want to type all day long.
I think its avoiding acccountability.
I say if you dont like my voice or picture. I will set you free myself. I aint got no time for whom aint got no time for me. |
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over a year ago
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"Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while "
It's for safety.
I've had a stalker in the past! Horrible experience. I had to keep the messages etc so I had evidence for the police! Kik is far safer for people! |
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"Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while "
If we are serious about meeting then move to WhatsApp , at the very least Telegram
Will never do kik
I personally think that if you are at the point of a definite meet then why would you not want to share numbers |
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"I don't give my number to anyone until we've actually met, they don't need that kind of access to me. Here is perfectly acceptable to msg on.
Do you not like to chat and verify before you meet?"
I chat on here, they need to be site verified, that works for me. |
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No-one gets my number until after I've met them....why would I want some random having it and then meeting to find out we aren't compatible in the flesh.
I've been on the site a few years and I can count on 1 hand how many people actually have my number. |
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over a year ago
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"Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while "
we never exchange numbers although we will chat on kik.
we have our fab lives and our our "vanilla" lives and we prefer to keep our privacy and security for our family. |
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"Just intrigued. .
Why are some people on here so reluctant to exchange numbers after you've spoken for a while.
And you are genuine verified.
Seems like the logical next step.
Personally, puts me off if there's no exchange of details after a while
If we are serious about meeting then move to WhatsApp , at the very least Telegram
Will never do kik
I personally think that if you are at the point of a definite meet then why would you not want to share numbers "
This is exactly my ethos
Once established everyone's cool then it's the natural progression |
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"I generally only give my number to someone I'm going to meet.
At least if I need a break from here or social media, I can just not log in. But if people are texting and calling I'll have no peace.
There is no need for my number.
Idle chat can stay on here or Kik."
This. When I was single I learned I should have at least kept all the guys I was chatting to on Snapchat or something, was a massive pain getting rid of everyone from every app! |
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"I generally only give my number to someone I'm going to meet.
At least if I need a break from here or social media, I can just not log in. But if people are texting and calling I'll have no peace.
There is no need for my number.
Idle chat can stay on here or Kik.
This. When I was single I learned I should have at least kept all the guys I was chatting to on Snapchat or something, was a massive pain getting rid of everyone from every app! "
Here that girl but you can block easily right |
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"I generally only give my number to someone I'm going to meet.
At least if I need a break from here or social media, I can just not log in. But if people are texting and calling I'll have no peace.
There is no need for my number.
Idle chat can stay on here or Kik.
This. When I was single I learned I should have at least kept all the guys I was chatting to on Snapchat or something, was a massive pain getting rid of everyone from every app!
Here that girl but you can block easily right "
Absolutely, a great feature |
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