FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Who runs the couple's profile??
Who runs the couple's profile??
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
We are finding it really funny that when you get talking to a couple on Fab, you find out its alway the male half you're talking to!! Sometimes feels like we are the only couple that both actually use/message on the site!!! Lol is this true of most couples???  x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Depends....this is the fem now....but most of the time I cant be bothered because ive been on a computer all day . Hes told me now though to say its me rather than him when writing in forums.......especially when I talk about stuff like loving desperate housewives ! When we first started we agreed I would do all the communication but ermmmmm im a slacker so now I leave it to him mostly x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
"It's only me (Mrs) on the forums and mostly me replying to messages. Mr pops on every now and again for a nosy but leaves the talking to me.
X"
Thankgod.. after all the shag kiss shag threads  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It's only me (Mrs) on the forums and mostly me replying to messages. Mr pops on every now and again for a nosy but leaves the talking to me.
X
Thankgod.. after all the shag kiss shag threads "
It would probably be torture from Mr.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Wheels posts in the forums the most out of the two of us-I've asked him to sign his posts off with his name to make it clear to others who's posting but he just doesn't. I always sign my posts off so at least you can be certain when it's me posting!
Message wise-we both reply and send messages. We don't always check with each other what we're sending when we send it. We sometimes take it in turns to respond if it's an ongoing conversation but we both sometimes forget to reply and leave some people waiting maybe a little too long 
crystal |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It tends to be me. (Male).. the other half likes me to screen and filter out the pic collectors and time wasters. Then we decide together who we are going to meet ect..  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think this is true a fair bit. Happy when I know who I'm talking to, most annoying when a man is pretending to be the female half. You realise after a couple of messages that women don't tend to talk that crudely to eachother and the female seems quite insistent in making sure her hubby gets his share before anything else is agreed to. Quite often then it turns out wife can't make it but he can lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's only me (Mrs) on the forums and mostly me replying to messages. Mr pops on every now and again for a nosy but leaves the talking to me.
X"
same -- saves me typing it out  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Wheels posts in the forums the most out of the two of us-I've asked him to sign his posts off with his name to make it clear to others who's posting but he just doesn't. I always sign my posts off so at least you can be certain when it's me posting!
Message wise-we both reply and send messages. We don't always check with each other what we're sending when we send it. We sometimes take it in turns to respond if it's an ongoing conversation but we both sometimes forget to reply and leave some people waiting maybe a little too long
crystal"
Same with us. With the app on the bloody phone, its addictive, so we kinda both hop in and out. Forum-wise, its Joe mostly - as in right now - but messages are a fair split. Lola is more disciplined than me when it comes to signing off.
Then again, if we're looking together and commenting, I'll tend to write a response from us both, as will she.
It tends to lead to some confusion sometimes though. The amount of times I think she's sent a message back and she thinks the same of me. Oops x
Joe - ther, I did it that time |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We both work silly shifts so often on the site at odd times. T is more of the forum addict and head secretary as K is wildly dyslexic and would get eaten alive by the spelling police!! But all the decisions about meeting are jointly made and we chat 'fabs' lots |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"surely its a two way thing, with mutual agreement,
though the lady should always have the casting vote, in my opinion."
Hmm I'm not sure that a two way thing can result in just one person having the casting vote, with us if I'm not happy we don't do it and if Mr N isn't happy we don't do it either no matter how much the other one would love to .
We've met plenty of couples where despite what she says it's clear from body language and actions that the lady is not happy at all and it's very much teh guy in charge.....we run away from that very fast indeed...depending on how high my heels are |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"surely its a two way thing, with mutual agreement,
though the lady should always have the casting vote, in my opinion."
That. Its usually Mar on the comp. although our profile does make that pretty clear. I've never pretended to be Try on here. I don't possess the required skills |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"surely its a two way thing, with mutual agreement,
though the lady should always have the casting vote, in my opinion.
Hmm I'm not sure that a two way thing can result in just one person having the casting vote, with us if I'm not happy we don't do it and if Mr N isn't happy we don't do it either no matter how much the other one would love to .
We've met plenty of couples where despite what she says it's clear from body language and actions that the lady is not happy at all and it's very much teh guy in charge.....we run away from that very fast indeed...depending on how high my heels are"
I think he meant casting vote ad in the power to veto |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Mr G reads the forums but has only ever made about 2 posts in them - the rest are all me (Pink)
When it comes to messages, we both reply. Sometimes we'll both reply to the same conversation, but just follow on from whoever was talking last (so we'd never say - oh s/he's gone and it's the other one') as that's not usually necessary - although we'd say who was writing if asked. Regular friends of ours can usually tell which one of us it is, anyway. And we often don;t sign our messages off |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hmm I'm not sure that a two way thing can result in just one person having the casting vote, with us if I'm not happy we don't do it and if Mr N isn't happy we don't do it either no matter how much the other one would love to ."
Swinging, to me, is about mutual fun so if there's one person in a situation who is not 100% happy, then things shouldn't progress further in my opinion. It doesn't matter who it is that's not happy, me, wheels, any one else involved, we all have a say. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think he meant casting vote ad in the power to veto"
I see what you mean!
But I still think both the male and female's votes are equally important and as they will both be involved in meeting, they both have a say in wether or not things progress.
crystal |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"surely its a two way thing, with mutual agreement,
though the lady should always have the casting vote, in my opinion.
Hmm I'm not sure that a two way thing can result in just one person having the casting vote, with us if I'm not happy we don't do it and if Mr N isn't happy we don't do it either no matter how much the other one would love to .
We've met plenty of couples where despite what she says it's clear from body language and actions that the lady is not happy at all and it's very much teh guy in charge.....we run away from that very fast indeed...depending on how high my heels are"
We live by the same rule. Broke it just once and regretted it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think he meant casting vote ad in the power to veto
I see what you mean!
But I still think both the male and female's votes are equally important and as they will both be involved in meeting, they both have a say in wether or not things progress.
crystal"
are they equally important?
if both say yes then they are
if both say no then they are
if one's saying yes and one's saying no surely the latter carries more weight. The power of veto. no one wants or should have to take one for the team.truth is with us is that tra has vetoed far more than me and I've never once questioned it.that's what a partnership is |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Wife pops on from time to time reads messages and replays to them, browsers the profiles and posts on the forum. But I'm on here most the time.
* cReEpS rOuNd cRyPt * -|- |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"are they equally important?
if both say yes then they are
if both say no then they are
if one's saying yes and one's saying no surely the latter carries more weight. The power of veto. no one wants or should have to take one for the team.truth is with us is that tra has vetoed far more than me and I've never once questioned it.that's what a partnership is"
I understand and agree completely with you. If I wasn't happy and wheels was, I know he would be happy to listen to me and not question why I'm not happy and I would do the same for him. Thank you for further explaining what you meant,
crystal |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I do find it confusing when talking to a couple in private if they don't put their name at the end. It's disorientating when two people speak to you as you can tell it's different people but you don't have a clue which!
COUPLES!!! Put the fooking posters name at the end of a pm or face an uncomfortable chat about football (women) or my penis (men)!!!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think he meant casting vote ad in the power to veto
I see what you mean!
But I still think both the male and female's votes are equally important and as they will both be involved in meeting, they both have a say in wether or not things progress.
crystal
are they equally important?
if both say yes then they are
if both say no then they are
if one's saying yes and one's saying no surely the latter carries more weight. The power of veto. no one wants or should have to take one for the team.truth is with us is that tra has vetoed far more than me and I've never once questioned it.that's what a partnership is"
I think we're probably saying the same thing in a different way. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
i dont see what it matters which one your talking to, if your talking to a couple surely you address each message you send to the couple, and wouldnt you talk about things both could reply to anyway?
if i was the male half of a couple id say i was the women to see what the person said to me that they wouldnt if they knew i was the man lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I do find it confusing when talking to a couple in private if they don't put their name at the end. It's disorientating when two people speak to you as you can tell it's different people but you don't have a clue which!
COUPLES!!! Put the fooking posters name at the end of a pm or face an uncomfortable chat about football (women) or my penis (men)!!! "
I know that you are joking but it is surprising how w conversation can change when someone realise it is crystal messaging and not me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
When on our couples profile we both tend to take turns replying to messages and in our replies we usually talk about ourselves in a third person style, this is done to make people refer to both of us instead of just Morrigan. On our couples profile Morrigan is usually in chat and I post in the forums.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think we're probably saying the same thing in a different way. "
crystal
P.S. Mr Wheels-don't confuse the poor forumites by jumping in on a thread I'm posting in and not signing your name off! You might find someone wanting to talk about their willy with you!!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
", if your talking to a couple surely you address each message you send to the couple, and wouldnt you talk about things both could reply to anyway?
"
If only this were true. our profile says I'll see messages first but we get a lot solely addressed to Tra. I just bin em |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"i dont see what it matters which one your talking to, if your talking to a couple surely you address each message you send to the couple, and wouldnt you talk about things both could reply to anyway?
if i was the male half of a couple id say i was the women to see what the person said to me that they wouldnt if they knew i was the man lol "
I like to flirt and Mr N likes to see me flirt so I often have conversations with guys that he wouldn't have. He is always there in real life and virtuality but batting his eyelashes and promising to flash a stocking top doesn't suit him |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"i dont see what it matters which one your talking to, if your talking to a couple surely you address each message you send to the couple, and wouldnt you talk about things both could reply to anyway?"
Flip it round the other way though.
In the past I have been concurrently chatting to the male about one thing and the fem about another, quite happily until the fuckers forget to put their names on the end Grrrrrrr. It's amazing how crossed conversations can spiral with quite surreal results.
My pet peeve! PUT YOUR FOOKING NAMES ON! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It is always the female half on the forums but tends to be him messaging or winking. Due to his consistent workload we never really know when we can meet until the last minute, so I can't be bothered with flirting and small talk until I know we are going to meet.
If its forumites though then it tends to be Feebs answering those |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Me (mrs) on most of time but Mr pops in every now and again. Always me that chats and messages and if and when we actually get a meet we would both decide x  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We are finding it really funny that when you get talking to a couple on Fab, you find out its alway the male half you're talking to!! Sometimes feels like we are the only couple that both actually use/message on the site!!! Lol is this true of most couples??? x"
My gf usually talks on the couples account but it's hard to tell who you're speaking to as we answer as each other quite a lot. Sometimes it's easier, sometimes it's just fun |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
if i was the male half of a couple id say i was the women to see what the person said to me that they wouldnt if they knew i was the man lol "
I must admit in chat if I get messaged privately by a bloke assuming that it is crystal I rarely feel an immediate need to correct them... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
Leicestershire |
I run ours, but the decisions are joint.
I like posting, Dev likes reading when it comes to the forum. Neither of us keen on the chatrooms as it's just one more mountain to climb after years of internet mountain climbing with other chatrooms over the years, and so cba with it frankly - but hey each to their own
Wolf
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
if i was the male half of a couple id say i was the women to see what the person said to me that they wouldnt if they knew i was the man lol
I must admit in chat if I get messaged privately by a bloke assuming that it is crystal I rarely feel an immediate need to correct them... "
Same here!! Even if it is actually me Ms thats replying....... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's only me (Mrs) on the forums and mostly me replying to messages. Mr pops on every now and again for a nosy but leaves the talking to me.
X"
We're the same, unlike a lot of couples we do meet single guys so it makes sense for me to do the chatting - not surprisingly not many of them are concerned as to what David's preferences are!
Besides which Im a chatterbox and he isnt! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's only me (Mrs) on the forums and mostly me replying to messages. Mr pops on every now and again for a nosy but leaves the talking to me.
X"
Same here |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We don't live together so can sometimes be on at the same time,and have sometimes replied to a message together so they get 2 replies
Neither of us run it i would say its a joint effort we both mail on the site but when it comes to phone chats n txts its normally me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It's me, Ric, who usually has the comp on his lap and does the posting.
However, we're sat together on the sofa so both are reading and looking at profiles, Trace also posts on anything that grabs her attention or that she feels strongly about.
When it comes to meets, Trace always has the casting vote.
XXXX |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'd say it's almost 50:50, I tend to reply to the messages after we've both read them but then he probably posts more on the forums....... Depends what interests us really.
Does annoy us though when we get messages through and they are directed at me rather than us as a couple but that's a whole new topic! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Tends to be me, the Fem on this account most of the time, Mr will come on and read stuff, but we dont get many messages, we tend to stick to our single profiles as we are not an actual couple.
We both answer messages, but its mainly me and I prefer him to write verifications!
Its always me in the forums as I often forget I'm on this profile and people are used to seeing me as Purring Pussy!
Miss PP |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Mostly fem for us, do find most single guys always seem to think it the fem, couples seem to ask who they messaging with"
Have found the opposite - couples don't usually ask, just the men pretending to be couples. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We don't live together so can sometimes be on at the same time,and have sometimes replied to a message together so they get 2 replies "
haha have done that too - except that it's been when we're both sat next to each other! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Was going to start topic like this so saves time.
I met a couple after messaging etc got to their house turned out the female had no idea and her bf told her its ok she will enjoy. I apologised to her but if wasnt for her pleading I would have knocked her bf out.
I was embarassed to say the least and told her I had no idea she was unaware. She accepted it then I left.
Lesson learned. I left but wanted to smack her bf it could have been bad if I wasnt a decent chap.
It was not on fab by the way.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
i usually use chat rooms to chat to couples as luckily both are usually on cam, im not bothered if its just the male or the female on their own on cam as long as they been verified as genuine, and the other half even sometimes magically appears inthe background, so happy days when that happens, just always suspicious when in the day its just the male on cam and they been on for a while without any veri's or even photo verified. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We are finding it really funny that when you get talking to a couple on Fab, you find out its alway the male half you're talking to!! Sometimes feels like we are the only couple that both actually use/message on the site!!! Lol is this true of most couples??? x"
We both message and write in forums.... If he is away its more likely to be me, the female, but as a rule we both have an input.... xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I write most of the stuff on here ( male half ) because Mrs J will not wear her glasses.
I would know if she had tried to put anything on this site as the old bill would knocking on the door asking why we were hacking into the Pentagon or I get a bill for buying Moldova !.
I think she looks sexy with them on !!.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Both of us, we never reply to emails or winks unless both of us have seen it. This often leads to people think we are ignoring their winks/messages for a while, but so be it. We are a couple and make decisions on swinging as a couple. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Both of us...sometimes we are both logged in and responding to our messages at the same time...though im the forumite and the message tidier, and he's the cam/chat slut and finder of sexy peeps...what a dream team lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We are finding it really funny that when you get talking to a couple on Fab, you find out its alway the male half you're talking to!! Sometimes feels like we are the only couple that both actually use/message on the site!!! Lol is this true of most couples??? x"
It's always me jason that does the talking I make the arrangements and then spring it on Paula when we get to the pub and the other couple tour single guy turns up.
It works for us and that's what counts |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
