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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So the post about a member getting racist abuse is removed and the racist still on here to abuse other people? Unbelievable well done admin! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Expected nothing less unfortunately.
People don't feel safe on this site because stuff like this just gets swept under the rug and ignored. They should be doing better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can anyone from fabs confirm that they have looked into this? And that action will be taken against the sender of racist messages? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its likely the admins that ban members and then the mods that delete threads that go against the rules. So 2 different sets of people.
I would hope that Admins get around to dealing with the alleged racism in due course. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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They don’t care got membership money and that’s all they care about!! What if people get abuse? Disgusting |
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It'll probably promote such behaviour |
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It is shame the thread got deleted as somebody seem to accuse me to being on the side of the racist before I had a chance to respond. Care to repeat that claim? |
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Are we getting one side of the story?
I'd imagine the mods deleted the thread because 'racism' threads always turn to shit.
That doesn't mean admin won't look into messages sent providing a report has been made |
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I can't remember for the sure the name of alleged racist abuser but I think the profile has been deactivated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't remember for the sure the name of alleged racist abuser but I think the profile has been deactivated. "
Nope, it’s still alive and kicking |
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"The person who received the racist abuse we have met a few times and as I said on the last post I asked the person and he said he did say it and so what! So it’s not alleged but funny enough he is still on here but not the genuine honest person who got abuse! "
Well I am sure if you report the post saying that along the the OP reporting it then admin will deal with it in due course. I say alleged because we on Forum just see one side and anybody could say anything about anybody. I could start a thread and post a status about you but doesn't make it true.
It is indeed a shame the person who got the abuse left - I was trying to reassure him that admin deal with things and just be patient (having had things like that myself before) as I feared he might leave or indeed get suspended himself. However, the Forum frenzy seems to have raised the temperature and not helped him. |
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We need to call out abuse wherever we see it. In this case I hope Fab deal with the abuser. Yes, we only hear one side of it, but in this case it seems to have been admitted by the profile.
It is possible to report any message, it is probably worth doing it more as certain subjects attract more abuse & it should be stopped. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The alleged racists have only been on the site for 4 days. Banning them from the site will do absolutely nothing. They will just create a new profile.
As I said on the deleted thread, call the police with screenshots of the conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe. "
Why don’t you feel safe? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe. "
That's a strange reaction but you should do what you feel you need to do.
The site has always been full of people with questionable motives and I suspect it always will be. It's up to you to keep yourself safe. |
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe.
Why don’t you feel safe? "
I have to ask this also.
Verbal abuse should not be tolerated, however with the tools, functions and your own gut instinct could easily navigate past any potential abuse. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I can't remember for the sure the name of alleged racist abuser but I think the profile has been deactivated.
Nope, it’s still alive and kicking "
And no doubt they are reading this, getting pleasure that admin is colluding with criminal behaviour, and know they can be racist without any recall.
If this is as it seems, I do feel uneasy with my paid membership here now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe.
Why don’t you feel safe?
I have to ask this also.
Verbal abuse should not be tolerated, however with the tools, functions and your own gut instinct could easily navigate past any potential abuse. "
Wow. |
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"The alleged racists have only been on the site for 4 days. Banning them from the site will do absolutely nothing. They will just create a new profile.
As I said on the deleted thread, call the police with screenshots of the conversation."
I checked and I think the profile cannot be found |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The alleged racists have only been on the site for 4 days. Banning them from the site will do absolutely nothing. They will just create a new profile.
As I said on the deleted thread, call the police with screenshots of the conversation.
I checked and I think the profile cannot be found "
As previously stated, the profile is still active. |
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I saw the post, I don't think it should have been deleted, it was highlighting an important issue and asking advice after reports didn't work.
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"The alleged racists have only been on the site for 4 days. Banning them from the site will do absolutely nothing. They will just create a new profile.
As I said on the deleted thread, call the police with screenshots of the conversation.
I checked and I think the profile cannot be found
As previously stated, the profile is still active. "
So as said Admin don’t care!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The alleged racists have only been on the site for 4 days. Banning them from the site will do absolutely nothing. They will just create a new profile.
As I said on the deleted thread, call the police with screenshots of the conversation.
I checked and I think the profile cannot be found
As previously stated, the profile is still active.
So as said Admin don’t care!! "
Or haven’t had the chance to review yet….. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Appropriate actions are always taken either by mods or admin remember it's a busy site hence can take up to 48 hours  |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire/Northwest |
I think the op of the original thread named & shamed the alleged abuser in their profile status. So they probably got a ban because that contravenes site rules. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So as said Admin don’t care!! "
If someone reports a profile usually there is then a block between the 2 accounts automatically. It will then be checked by admins when they are able to.
That takes time as they have plenty of other things to look at also I'm sure.
It is not in the admins best interests to ignore racism so I doubt they will ignore it if it did indeed happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From what I read on the previous post they called him a monkey , disgusting behaviour from so called adults ,admin needs to clamp down on that ,check the message and if true ,ban them |
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I was threatened by someone, and they were banned. Or at least they couldn't be found by a friends account, so action is taken, but it takes a little while. I hope this piece of filth gets deleted for the good of the whole site. |
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Well proudly the racist scum is still on here giving abuse to others! Well done admin sorted that one out then? Not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What was the name of the post |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well proudly the racist scum is still on here giving abuse to others! Well done admin sorted that one out then? Not! "
What have they done now? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately this is the ugly side of this site and it’s not the first time I have come across something like this on here. Nothing ever gets done about it.
I’ve had people be racist to me and then they block you so you can’t even report them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe.
Why don’t you feel safe?
I have to ask this also.
Verbal abuse should not be tolerated, however with the tools, functions and your own gut instinct could easily navigate past any potential abuse. "
How does someone navigate past being racial abused on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think every black or Asian person on here has been racially abused at least once unprovoked
This situation doesn't surprise me in the least |
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No idea who said what to whom and racism and any abuse in many forms is unacceptable.
If Admin have done whats been said clearly needs addressing.
However any member who came across the alleged racist member should report and then block the member themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think every black or Asian person on here has been racially abused at least once unprovoked
This situation doesn't surprise me in the least "
That's a sweeping comment to make. |
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe.
Why don’t you feel safe?
I have to ask this also.
Verbal abuse should not be tolerated, however with the tools, functions and your own gut instinct could easily navigate past any potential abuse.
How does someone navigate past being racial abused on here? "
Do not engage with anyone that may come across as offensive.
I don't know the full story, but I'm sure there was a build up between the two parties before the offensive comments were made.
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"Wow. Only had a day away. "
You'd be surprised what can happen in a day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe.
Why don’t you feel safe?
I have to ask this also.
Verbal abuse should not be tolerated, however with the tools, functions and your own gut instinct could easily navigate past any potential abuse.
How does someone navigate past being racial abused on here?
Do not engage with anyone that may come across as offensive.
I don't know the full story, but I'm sure there was a build up between the two parties before the offensive comments were made.
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I wouldn't bet on that.
It's a common occurance to get verbally abusive messages when politely declining people.... I'm not saying a lot of people are like that but when you have replied to a couple hundred messages there is usually at least 1.
Would not shock me in the slightest if it was motivated by a declined offer. |
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe.
Why don’t you feel safe?
I have to ask this also.
Verbal abuse should not be tolerated, however with the tools, functions and your own gut instinct could easily navigate past any potential abuse.
How does someone navigate past being racial abused on here?
Do not engage with anyone that may come across as offensive.
I don't know the full story, but I'm sure there was a build up between the two parties before the offensive comments were made.
I wouldn't bet on that.
It's a common occurance to get verbally abusive messages when politely declining people.... I'm not saying a lot of people are like that but when you have replied to a couple hundred messages there is usually at least 1.
Would not shock me in the slightest if it was motivated by a declined offer. "
We know what you mean. We have been on the receiving end of abuse however it has never been racial.
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Hi mrs here!
From the account that was allegedly abusive.
Every one on here only knows one side of the story naturally I saw both sides of the conversation and he started the abuse by calling my partner names, because my partner has tried to defend himself he’s being labeled as a racist!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi mrs here!
From the account that was allegedly abusive.
Every one on here only knows one side of the story naturally I saw both sides of the conversation and he started the abuse by calling my partner names, because my partner has tried to defend himself he’s being labeled as a racist!
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Did your partner use the phrase that the original OP said was used? |
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe. "
Can you please elaborate more on why you don't feel "safe" unless people know you and where you live it's pretty anonymous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think every black or Asian person on here has been racially abused at least once unprovoked
This situation doesn't surprise me in the least
That's a sweeping comment to make. "
Most likely true though. You only have to read on other race threads where other poc have commented that they've received racial abuse on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe.
Why don’t you feel safe?
I have to ask this also.
Verbal abuse should not be tolerated, however with the tools, functions and your own gut instinct could easily navigate past any potential abuse.
How does someone navigate past being racial abused on here?
Do not engage with anyone that may come across as offensive.
I don't know the full story, but I'm sure there was a build up between the two parties before the offensive comments were made.
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Not that easy though is it
A certain percentage of abuse on here is unprovoked and often out of the blue |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe. "
Why? I don't think people can crawl out of the screen just yet. There are a host of features on the site from blocking to filtering out people you're not interested in.
This site is fantastic if you want to meet likeminded adults for sex what its not is tinder/facebook etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi mrs here!
From the account that was allegedly abusive.
Every one on here only knows one side of the story naturally I saw both sides of the conversation and he started the abuse by calling my partner names, because my partner has tried to defend himself he’s being labeled as a racist!
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Defending himself with racism is still disgusting though. Never acceptable even if someone is being abusive. |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire/Northwest |
"Hi mrs here!
From the account that was allegedly abusive.
Every one on here only knows one side of the story naturally I saw both sides of the conversation and he started the abuse by calling my partner names, because my partner has tried to defend himself he’s being labeled as a racist!
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Obviously nobody who has commented here knows anything of what was said/not said so they really aren't in a position to pass any kind of judgement. |
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If fab is to reflect society as a whole then it is likely that there will be racial abuse in some form, as well as abuse towards other minority groups, not to mention those who dare to say no to the self entitled. It isn’t right but until the broader problem is addressed fab will just be a mirror of the outside world. |
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"We have had a chat and decided that we don’t feel safe on here anymore so think we are going to leave too. When no action is taken then it’s not safe.
Why don’t you feel safe?
I have to ask this also.
Verbal abuse should not be tolerated, however with the tools, functions and your own gut instinct could easily navigate past any potential abuse.
How does someone navigate past being racial abused on here?
Do not engage with anyone that may come across as offensive.
I don't know the full story, but I'm sure there was a build up between the two parties before the offensive comments were made.
Not that easy though is it
A certain percentage of abuse on here is unprovoked and often out of the blue "
Then report, block and move on.
If the abuse continues through the open forum then report and admin will make decision on what action to take.
If the the victim feels admins decision is insufficient, then they can report the incident to Police, where it will be dealt with off the site.
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
I have been on Fabs on my current profile nearly 6 years now.I guess I have been very fortunate in that only one lady gave me racist abuse who then quickly left. I am 55 years of age I don’t know how much time I have left in this world so it is with sadness that I say I don’t think we will get rid of racism in my lifetime |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.
******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).
Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.
Admin
PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.
Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:
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Your feedback has been saved.
A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.
By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.****** |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
All reports are checked and dealt with if needed no matter how many people say "nothing is done " I have pasted ( again ) what Admin say they do with reports on the post above.
Racism amongst other things is against site rules, just like starting another thread when one has been removed is also against site rules |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
PS using second and third profiles to continue the allegations is also not allowed. Just report and let Admin check it out |
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