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If you're unsure, maybe hide your profile, take a break and come back when ready.
Easier to come back and carry on from where you left off, than begin again. |
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"If you're unsure, maybe hide your profile, take a break and come back when ready.
Easier to come back and carry on from where you left off, than begin again. "
Not unsure but I know people will react personally instead of subject matter as it’s easier to be a key board warrior |
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"If you're unsure, maybe hide your profile, take a break and come back when ready.
Easier to come back and carry on from where you left off, than begin again.
Not unsure but I know people will react personally instead of subject matter as it’s easier to be a key board warrior "
Are you ok? |
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"If you're unsure, maybe hide your profile, take a break and come back when ready.
Easier to come back and carry on from where you left off, than begin again.
Not unsure but I know people will react personally instead of subject matter as it’s easier to be a key board warrior
Are you ok?"
Perfectly ok lol
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"If you're unsure, maybe hide your profile, take a break and come back when ready.
Easier to come back and carry on from where you left off, than begin again.
Not unsure but I know people will react personally instead of subject matter as it’s easier to be a key board warrior
Are you ok?
Perfectly ok lol
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Do we get a clue as to the subject? |
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"If you're unsure, maybe hide your profile, take a break and come back when ready.
Easier to come back and carry on from where you left off, than begin again.
Not unsure but I know people will react personally instead of subject matter as it’s easier to be a key board warrior
Are you ok?
Perfectly ok lol
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?"
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person |
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person "
Are they on the site?
I only ask, as was it a casual hook up or are they expecting something regular? |
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person "
Get a mate and dp her |
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Are they on the site?
I only ask, as was it a casual hook up or are they expecting something regular?"
No offcourse not I will never put it here as first and foremost I am a gentleman |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Get a mate and dp her"
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Get a mate and dp her
Fixed...
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Intelligence is the word lol offcourse its that simple |
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Are they on the site?
I only ask, as was it a casual hook up or are they expecting something regular?
No offcourse not I will never put it here as first and foremost I am a gentleman"
Then you will know that being tactfully honest is the way forward ie you say clearly and unambiguously that you would like to be her friend but no more. |
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Are they on the site?
I only ask, as was it a casual hook up or are they expecting something regular?
No offcourse not I will never put it here as first and foremost I am a gentleman
Then you will know that being tactfully honest is the way forward ie you say clearly and unambiguously that you would like to be her friend but no more. "
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person "
Did you enjoy it?
If yes, then include other sexual acts or positions to see if can be even better.
If no, then just tell them that you didn't enjoy it or it wasn't what you hoped it would be.
You can be honest respectfully. You dont need to tell her that her size was an issue. If she pushes further and demands an answer you could say "you how people say 'bigger isn't always better'? Well that applies to women too" and leave it there. |
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"^^ I wouldn't recommend the above. No need to tell someone you didn't enjoy sex with them, especially the first time.
"Let's be friends" is a backhanded way of saying the same. "
Yes it is but it allows for dignity and saves face. "The sex was bad" does not |
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"^^ I wouldn't recommend the above. No need to tell someone you didn't enjoy sex with them, especially the first time.
"Let's be friends" is a backhanded way of saying the same.
Yes it is but it allows for dignity and saves face. "The sex was bad" does not"
"I didn't enjoy it" and "it wasn't what I hoped for" isn't the same as the sex being bad.
Saves who's face? Maybe it's just me but if I had sex with someone for the first time and after it they "we should be friends and nothing more" I'd think the least they could do is be honest and say straight. |
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I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person "
Sorry but I just dont believe you. |
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Sorry but I just dont believe you."
Haha. Is this your way of saying "prove it"  |
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"^^ I wouldn't recommend the above. No need to tell someone you didn't enjoy sex with them, especially the first time.
"Let's be friends" is a backhanded way of saying the same.
Yes it is but it allows for dignity and saves face. "The sex was bad" does not
"I didn't enjoy it" and "it wasn't what I hoped for" isn't the same as the sex being bad.
Saves who's face? Maybe it's just me but if I had sex with someone for the first time and after it they "we should be friends and nothing more" I'd think the least they could do is be honest and say straight. "
You think saying you want to be friends and nothing more isn't straight? To me it's clear and unambiguous. But I'd truly rather not be told that someone didn't enjoy sex with me after just one occasion.
Any old how, we're all different |
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"^^ I wouldn't recommend the above. No need to tell someone you didn't enjoy sex with them, especially the first time.
"Let's be friends" is a backhanded way of saying the same.
Yes it is but it allows for dignity and saves face. "The sex was bad" does not
"I didn't enjoy it" and "it wasn't what I hoped for" isn't the same as the sex being bad.
Saves who's face? Maybe it's just me but if I had sex with someone for the first time and after it they "we should be friends and nothing more" I'd think the least they could do is be honest and say straight.
You think saying you want to be friends and nothing more isn't straight? To me it's clear and unambiguous. But I'd truly rather not be told that someone didn't enjoy sex with me after just one occasion.
Any old how, we're all different "
It gets to the same point but its the long way around. It makes the person saying it feel better but the person hearing it feels the same no matter how it is said to them.
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"^^ I wouldn't recommend the above. No need to tell someone you didn't enjoy sex with them, especially the first time.
"Let's be friends" is a backhanded way of saying the same.
Yes it is but it allows for dignity and saves face. "The sex was bad" does not
"I didn't enjoy it" and "it wasn't what I hoped for" isn't the same as the sex being bad.
Saves who's face? Maybe it's just me but if I had sex with someone for the first time and after it they "we should be friends and nothing more" I'd think the least they could do is be honest and say straight.
You think saying you want to be friends and nothing more isn't straight? To me it's clear and unambiguous. But I'd truly rather not be told that someone didn't enjoy sex with me after just one occasion.
Any old how, we're all different
It gets to the same point but its the long way around. It makes the person saying it feel better but the person hearing it feels the same no matter how it is said to them.
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An interesting point.
I still say I'd rather hear the tactful version |
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"^^ I wouldn't recommend the above. No need to tell someone you didn't enjoy sex with them, especially the first time.
"Let's be friends" is a backhanded way of saying the same.
Yes it is but it allows for dignity and saves face. "The sex was bad" does not
"I didn't enjoy it" and "it wasn't what I hoped for" isn't the same as the sex being bad.
Saves who's face? Maybe it's just me but if I had sex with someone for the first time and after it they "we should be friends and nothing more" I'd think the least they could do is be honest and say straight.
You think saying you want to be friends and nothing more isn't straight? To me it's clear and unambiguous. But I'd truly rather not be told that someone didn't enjoy sex with me after just one occasion.
Any old how, we're all different
It gets to the same point but its the long way around. It makes the person saying it feel better but the person hearing it feels the same no matter how it is said to them.
An interesting point.
I still say I'd rather hear the tactful version "
I don't think you are wrong or in the minority at all. I probably just have an emotional disconnect to this stuff. For better or worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"^^ I wouldn't recommend the above. No need to tell someone you didn't enjoy sex with them, especially the first time.
"Let's be friends" is a backhanded way of saying the same.
Yes it is but it allows for dignity and saves face. "The sex was bad" does not
"I didn't enjoy it" and "it wasn't what I hoped for" isn't the same as the sex being bad.
Saves who's face? Maybe it's just me but if I had sex with someone for the first time and after it they "we should be friends and nothing more" I'd think the least they could do is be honest and say straight.
You think saying you want to be friends and nothing more isn't straight? To me it's clear and unambiguous. But I'd truly rather not be told that someone didn't enjoy sex with me after just one occasion.
Any old how, we're all different
It gets to the same point but its the long way around. It makes the person saying it feel better but the person hearing it feels the same no matter how it is said to them.
An interesting point.
I still say I'd rather hear the tactful version "
Agreed.
I think tact in this situation is far more important than our own viewpoint on the person.
Being blunt in this manner does not help the situation in the slightest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Are they on the site?
I only ask, as was it a casual hook up or are they expecting something regular?
No offcourse not I will never put it here as first and foremost I am a gentleman
Then you will know that being tactfully honest is the way forward ie you say clearly and unambiguously that you would like to be her friend but no more. "
This 
Especially considering its a hook-up - why do you feel intent on hurting someone's feelings?
If she had BV, then it's a different thing - you should tell her so she could get treatment.
But on this occasion I think it's completely unnecessary.
Just say you aren't sexually compatible or you just want to be friends. No need to smash someone's confidence.
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"^^ I wouldn't recommend the above. No need to tell someone you didn't enjoy sex with them, especially the first time.
"Let's be friends" is a backhanded way of saying the same.
Yes it is but it allows for dignity and saves face. "The sex was bad" does not
"I didn't enjoy it" and "it wasn't what I hoped for" isn't the same as the sex being bad.
Saves who's face? Maybe it's just me but if I had sex with someone for the first time and after it they "we should be friends and nothing more" I'd think the least they could do is be honest and say straight.
You think saying you want to be friends and nothing more isn't straight? To me it's clear and unambiguous. But I'd truly rather not be told that someone didn't enjoy sex with me after just one occasion.
Any old how, we're all different
It gets to the same point but its the long way around. It makes the person saying it feel better but the person hearing it feels the same no matter how it is said to them.
An interesting point.
I still say I'd rather hear the tactful version
I don't think you are wrong or in the minority at all. I probably just have an emotional disconnect to this stuff. For better or worse. "
Ah right. I understand |
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I'm with the peeps saying use tact!
The lady can't do anything about the size of her vagina (I agree it's a different matter if it was BV or similar)
I also think the anal suggestion was good. It's been my go to, if the fella has been a bit small for me to feel.
Another suggestion would be to use the excuse that your not really into repeat meets, hence on a swing site! That way you don't have to get into why you don't want a second meet! X |
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"Maybe she wasn't the issue and it was a case of the tool wasn't up to the job ,!!! How rude of you to slag off a meet, I'm sure you are not perfect, one for the block list !!"
I came to the conclusion that this thread is not controversial but ungentlemanly, maybe even flaming.
With the mention of intelligence and the term gentlemen used by the OP, this thread expresses anything but.
An intelligent gentleman would not need to bring such a topic to the forum, claiming keyboard warriors may disapprove.
Nope, they would instead deal with the situation in a gentlemanly, intelligent manner. (Shrugs) |
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"I'm with the peeps saying use tact!
The lady can't do anything about the size of her vagina (I agree it's a different matter if it was BV or similar)
I also think the anal suggestion was good. It's been my go to, if the fella has been a bit small for me to feel.
Another suggestion would be to use the excuse that your not really into repeat meets, hence on a swing site! That way you don't have to get into why you don't want a second meet! X"
I do think it's unfair that the assumption is the lady needs to do something about her size. My "bigger isn't always better" comment earlier was definitely in jest. Many people enjoy what she has to offer and if she is a confident, mature person, she will be aware of her body and that some will love it and some not so much.
Whatever the OP decides to do with regards to avoiding the unbelievable burden of having to have sex with who he says is a great person and obviously thinks is physically attractive, I dont think the woman needs to worry about exercises or giving up her butt just to keep a guy interested.
I can imagine most women here would have a response to someone suggesting "tighten yer fanny or let me in your erse if we are going to fuck again"
And before anyone says it, no I don't think that would realistically be said by any person with decency. |
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How can it even be a question??
You don't insult people's genitalia or bodies in general
I actually feel a bit sick that this is any sort of "dilemma "
Vomit
The good thing about forums is you can see who you would definitely avoid by their attitude
Dude I can guarantee you that criticising a woman's body will stay with her for life.
Don't be that guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do think it's unfair that the assumption is the lady needs to do something about her size. My "bigger isn't always better" comment earlier was definitely in jest. Many people enjoy what she has to offer and if she is a confident, mature person, she will be aware of her body and that some will love it and some not so much.
Whatever the OP decides to do with regards to avoiding the unbelievable burden of having to have sex with who he says is a great person and obviously thinks is physically attractive, I dont think the woman needs to worry about exercises or giving up her butt just to keep a guy interested.
I can imagine most women here would have a response to someone suggesting "tighten yer fanny or let me in your erse if we are going to fuck again"
And before anyone says it, no I don't think that would realistically be said by any person with decency."
I think you've misunderstood me. I've said the lady can't do anything about the size of her vagina. And I can only comment on the information the Op has given us.
Neither was I referring my comments to your post. |
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I'm really not sure why you need to ask on here how to turn down someone you don't want to have NSA sex with again  Surely - being gentlemanly and intelligent - you could figure that out yourself? That you'd do it politely and tactfully regardless of the reason?
Unless of course you couldn't help yourself from telling everyone about her "looseness" or the humblebrag about your size.
Distasteful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Sorry but I just dont believe you.
Haha. Is this your way of saying "prove it" "
No I just think hes talking mince is all. Nothing to back that up obviously but...didnt feel anything? Aye ok pal lol
Smacks of him being pretty disrespectful towards women he meets, assuming this person actually exists, I think not meeting him again would be the least of her worries. |
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"I'm really not sure why you need to ask on here how to turn down someone you don't want to have NSA sex with again Surely - being gentlemanly and intelligent - you could figure that out yourself? That you'd do it politely and tactfully regardless of the reason?
Unless of course you couldn't help yourself from telling everyone about her "looseness" or the humblebrag about your size.
Distasteful "
I find so many forum responses humble brags. Agree this is distasteful. I wonder a lot of the time if people do actually need advice on what they're asking |
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"Maybe she wasn't the issue and it was a case of the tool wasn't up to the job ,!!! How rude of you to slag off a meet, I'm sure you are not perfect, one for the block list !!
I came to the conclusion that this thread is not controversial but ungentlemanly, maybe even flaming.
With the mention of intelligence and the term gentlemen used by the OP, this thread expresses anything but.
An intelligent gentleman would not need to bring such a topic to the forum, claiming keyboard warriors may disapprove.
Nope, they would instead deal with the situation in a gentlemanly, intelligent manner. (Shrugs)"
I'm with you on this one. if an gentleman, intelligent or otherwise has ro ask for advice on how to let someone down after 1 meet, I'd say they're in the wrong place. Or just posting for a reaction.
Either way, not a good reflection on the OPs empathy. |
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"I'm really not sure why you need to ask on here how to turn down someone you don't want to have NSA sex with again Surely - being gentlemanly and intelligent - you could figure that out yourself? That you'd do it politely and tactfully regardless of the reason?
Unless of course you couldn't help yourself from telling everyone about her "looseness" or the humblebrag about your size.
Distasteful "
I did say it was controversial but any how fab will always be fab nothing anyone do about it
It’s ok to say no Asian no Blacks on the name of preference but me talking about a loose vagina is cardinal sin lol |
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"I'm really not sure why you need to ask on here how to turn down someone you don't want to have NSA sex with again Surely - being gentlemanly and intelligent - you could figure that out yourself? That you'd do it politely and tactfully regardless of the reason?
Unless of course you couldn't help yourself from telling everyone about her "looseness" or the humblebrag about your size.
Distasteful
I did say it was controversial but any how fab will always be fab nothing anyone do about it
It’s ok to say no Asian no Blacks on the name of preference but me talking about a loose vagina is cardinal sin lol "
It isn't controversial, you're flaming, looking for an argument so you can be the keyboard warrior.
A massive red flag. |
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"Did your 15 year old son hack and write this thread?
No I am bloody foreigner with poor grammar punctuation and writing skills lol "
No I meant you bragging about this subject matter lol. Its so cringey |
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"Did your 15 year old son hack and write this thread?
No I am bloody foreigner with poor grammar punctuation and writing skills lol
No I meant you bragging about this subject matter lol. Its so cringey"
It does exits but no one wants to talk about it lol but any how I had enough fun for Sunday |
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over a year ago
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol. "
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you |
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you"
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
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By *rigbyMan
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
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That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though  |
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though "
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you"
Sould crushing is a bit dramatic.
I'd say it's shrug worthy at best. |
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"I'm really not sure why you need to ask on here how to turn down someone you don't want to have NSA sex with again Surely - being gentlemanly and intelligent - you could figure that out yourself? That you'd do it politely and tactfully regardless of the reason?
Unless of course you couldn't help yourself from telling everyone about her "looseness" or the humblebrag about your size.
Distasteful
I did say it was controversial but any how fab will always be fab nothing anyone do about it
It’s ok to say no Asian no Blacks on the name of preference but me talking about a loose vagina is cardinal sin lol "
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By *rigbyMan
over a year ago
Skelmersdale |
"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself. "
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same |
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over a year ago
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself.
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same"
You're talking about Mrs A here, this is the Mr, and trust me I'm punching above my weight.
If you value yourself by your looks, you're missing out on a whole lot more about you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person "
How about be a grown up and just tell them! I’d hate to be on here reading this if I was the encounter. Not very nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person "
Just say you don't think that you clicked with each other
No need to make it personal
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By *rigbyMan
over a year ago
Skelmersdale |
"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself.
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same
You're talking about Mrs A here, this is the Mr, and trust me I'm punching above my weight.
If you value yourself by your looks, you're missing out on a whole lot more about you. "
Not sure how else you can value yourself on here,absolutely no one cares about a single older mans personality if he hasn't got the looks... no one, and if you don't believe me just go to your account and go to the women online now,or couples online now and have a good look at exactly who is being looked for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear. "
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference |
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference"
Still a lie. Just with different intentions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions. "
It is a lie but its different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear. "
Brutal honesty is fine and has it's place. Sometimes tact is preferable.
"Sorry. I had a great time but I'd rather we left it as a one off"
vs
"Sorry. You're a lovely person but you're vagina is just far too loose and even my considerably large cock felt nothing up there"
Both are true. One is just unkind and uncalled for |
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over a year ago
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself.
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same
You're talking about Mrs A here, this is the Mr, and trust me I'm punching above my weight.
If you value yourself by your looks, you're missing out on a whole lot more about you.
Not sure how else you can value yourself on here,absolutely no one cares about a single older mans personality if he hasn't got the looks... no one, and if you don't believe me just go to your account and go to the women online now,or couples online now and have a good look at exactly who is being looked for"
If you're feeling this way, maybe practice self help and leave this place behind. |
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different "
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
"
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things |
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things "
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable. "
It's not the same and we both know it's not the same
Saying to someone "I don't think we are compatible" isn't necessarily a lie
Vs saying "I think your fanny is really baggy and I didn't feel anything when we had sex" isn't a lie either
However the former is preferable as it spares the persons feeling |
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable.
It's not the same and we both know it's not the same
Saying to someone "I don't think we are compatible" isn't necessarily a lie
Vs saying "I think your fanny is really baggy and I didn't feel anything when we had sex" isn't a lie either
However the former is preferable as it spares the persons feeling "
What about it isn't the same? The lie, the intention or the outcome?
The only thing to me that is the same is that they are both lies.
Lies can hurt or heal. So can the truth. |
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over a year ago
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable.
It's not the same and we both know it's not the same
Saying to someone "I don't think we are compatible" isn't necessarily a lie
Vs saying "I think your fanny is really baggy and I didn't feel anything when we had sex" isn't a lie either
However the former is preferable as it spares the persons feeling
What about it isn't the same? The lie, the intention or the outcome?
The only thing to me that is the same is that they are both lies.
Lies can hurt or heal. So can the truth. "
Neither of them are lies, how ever one is kinder than the other |
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable.
It's not the same and we both know it's not the same
Saying to someone "I don't think we are compatible" isn't necessarily a lie
Vs saying "I think your fanny is really baggy and I didn't feel anything when we had sex" isn't a lie either
However the former is preferable as it spares the persons feeling
What about it isn't the same? The lie, the intention or the outcome?
The only thing to me that is the same is that they are both lies.
Lies can hurt or heal. So can the truth.
Neither of them are lies, how ever one is kinder than the other "
I agree, neither of those last two examples are lies. I don't personally think he should comment on the size of her. When telling her he is no longer interested or even bringing it to a forum in the efforts to be controversial for conversation. Other examples given have been lies though.
Personally I think it's almost unanimous that this thread didn't go the way OP most likely hoped or expected it to go.
Additionally, since a lot of people like to complain about how men are treated here, let's consider how a thread about how small a guy's dick was would go down with the men with insecurities.
Whatever the original intention of the post was, I agree with others that it is tasteless. Like the guy on the other forum post complaining about a woman having a "Whistling growler". |
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Hey, thanks for taking the time to meet me earlier today. I really don't feel we are sexually compatible so its best we just leave it at a one time thing.
Truth, but not hurtful or mentally damaging
Listen, you've got a big fanny and I couldn't feel a thing so won't be seeing you again
Truth, hurtful, mentally damaging.
And if you are saying you can't distinguish between the two you're either lying to troll, or have zero emotional intelligence |
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over a year ago
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable.
It's not the same and we both know it's not the same
Saying to someone "I don't think we are compatible" isn't necessarily a lie
Vs saying "I think your fanny is really baggy and I didn't feel anything when we had sex" isn't a lie either
However the former is preferable as it spares the persons feeling
What about it isn't the same? The lie, the intention or the outcome?
The only thing to me that is the same is that they are both lies.
Lies can hurt or heal. So can the truth.
Neither of them are lies, how ever one is kinder than the other
I agree, neither of those last two examples are lies. I don't personally think he should comment on the size of her. When telling her he is no longer interested or even bringing it to a forum in the efforts to be controversial for conversation. Other examples given have been lies though.
Personally I think it's almost unanimous that this thread didn't go the way OP most likely hoped or expected it to go.
Additionally, since a lot of people like to complain about how men are treated here, let's consider how a thread about how small a guy's dick was would go down with the men with insecurities.
Whatever the original intention of the post was, I agree with others that it is tasteless. Like the guy on the other forum post complaining about a woman having a "Whistling growler". "
I both agree and disagree
People are allowed preferences in terms of genitals especially on a site like this
It's how people voice those preferences that makes it tasteless
Although if the thread was started by a woman who meet a guy with a small dick it probably would gone a bit differently although there is a slight difference that you can't necessarily tell how big or small someone's vagina is by looking at pictures lol |
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By *rigbyMan
over a year ago
Skelmersdale |
"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself.
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same
You're talking about Mrs A here, this is the Mr, and trust me I'm punching above my weight.
If you value yourself by your looks, you're missing out on a whole lot more about you.
Not sure how else you can value yourself on here,absolutely no one cares about a single older mans personality if he hasn't got the looks... no one, and if you don't believe me just go to your account and go to the women online now,or couples online now and have a good look at exactly who is being looked for
If you're feeling this way, maybe practice self help and leave this place behind. "
practice self help and leave this place behind ?
Have you the remotest idea how insulting that is? Thats saying get over it and leave the site to the people who this is supposed to be for
Self help for God's sake |
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself.
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same
You're talking about Mrs A here, this is the Mr, and trust me I'm punching above my weight.
If you value yourself by your looks, you're missing out on a whole lot more about you.
Not sure how else you can value yourself on here,absolutely no one cares about a single older mans personality if he hasn't got the looks... no one, and if you don't believe me just go to your account and go to the women online now,or couples online now and have a good look at exactly who is being looked for
If you're feeling this way, maybe practice self help and leave this place behind.
practice self help and leave this place behind ?
Have you the remotest idea how insulting that is? Thats saying get over it and leave the site to the people who this is supposed to be for
Self help for God's sake"
That was not my intent, that is how you took it.
You are talking like this place is making you feel deflated, defeated even.
Avoiding such places and focusing on my own self worth lifted me from feeling the way you have expressed to feeling the way I now express.
Why oh why stick around if this place has you feeling the way you describe? It's close to self harming.
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable.
It's not the same and we both know it's not the same
Saying to someone "I don't think we are compatible" isn't necessarily a lie
Vs saying "I think your fanny is really baggy and I didn't feel anything when we had sex" isn't a lie either
However the former is preferable as it spares the persons feeling
What about it isn't the same? The lie, the intention or the outcome?
The only thing to me that is the same is that they are both lies.
Lies can hurt or heal. So can the truth.
Neither of them are lies, how ever one is kinder than the other
I agree, neither of those last two examples are lies. I don't personally think he should comment on the size of her. When telling her he is no longer interested or even bringing it to a forum in the efforts to be controversial for conversation. Other examples given have been lies though.
Personally I think it's almost unanimous that this thread didn't go the way OP most likely hoped or expected it to go.
Additionally, since a lot of people like to complain about how men are treated here, let's consider how a thread about how small a guy's dick was would go down with the men with insecurities.
Whatever the original intention of the post was, I agree with others that it is tasteless. Like the guy on the other forum post complaining about a woman having a "Whistling growler". "
About attitudes towards small penis's.
I absolutely agree, and if OP really want to create controversy, he should have posted about the similarities, and hypocrisy between Misogyny and Misandry.
Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity, to put it another way.
Society, and certainly fab forums are not ready for that conversation. |
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself.
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same
You're talking about Mrs A here, this is the Mr, and trust me I'm punching above my weight.
If you value yourself by your looks, you're missing out on a whole lot more about you.
Not sure how else you can value yourself on here,absolutely no one cares about a single older mans personality if he hasn't got the looks... no one, and if you don't believe me just go to your account and go to the women online now,or couples online now and have a good look at exactly who is being looked for
If you're feeling this way, maybe practice self help and leave this place behind.
practice self help and leave this place behind ?
Have you the remotest idea how insulting that is? Thats saying get over it and leave the site to the people who this is supposed to be for
Self help for God's sake"
It's not insulting in the slightest
If you feel like the site is getting you down and affecting you in a negative way then taking some time out is exactly what you need to do
What's your other option?
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable.
It's not the same and we both know it's not the same
Saying to someone "I don't think we are compatible" isn't necessarily a lie
Vs saying "I think your fanny is really baggy and I didn't feel anything when we had sex" isn't a lie either
However the former is preferable as it spares the persons feeling
What about it isn't the same? The lie, the intention or the outcome?
The only thing to me that is the same is that they are both lies.
Lies can hurt or heal. So can the truth.
Neither of them are lies, how ever one is kinder than the other
I agree, neither of those last two examples are lies. I don't personally think he should comment on the size of her. When telling her he is no longer interested or even bringing it to a forum in the efforts to be controversial for conversation. Other examples given have been lies though.
Personally I think it's almost unanimous that this thread didn't go the way OP most likely hoped or expected it to go.
Additionally, since a lot of people like to complain about how men are treated here, let's consider how a thread about how small a guy's dick was would go down with the men with insecurities.
Whatever the original intention of the post was, I agree with others that it is tasteless. Like the guy on the other forum post complaining about a woman having a "Whistling growler".
About attitudes towards small penis's.
I absolutely agree, and if OP really want to create controversy, he should have posted about the similarities, and hypocrisy between Misogyny and Misandry.
Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity, to put it another way.
Society, and certainly fab forums are not ready for that conversation. "
The forums may be ready for that conversation but the users who dominate the forums won't allow it. Far too heavy on the report button are some of them.
I've been ready for that conversation. |
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person "
Not even sure how this is possible. Couldn't feel anything at all? Really? Perhaps something to do with you - lost sensitivity in cock? Poor technique? I don't care how loose somebody is you can always move about/change angles so you can feel something.
That aside I don't get the dilemma really. If you just don't want to meet them again make polite excuses like people do all time. Like others have said really nothing to be gained from being direct about her physically. Just be decent kind human being. |
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"Just say you're not looking for repeat hook ups. Job done.
Or be honest. It seems like "men/women are liars" is a bad thing until the truth is uncomfortable to hear.
It's not necessarily about lying it's protecting someone's feelings.
There's a difference
Still a lie. Just with different intentions.
It is a lie but its different
And some people are OK with lies. It's all relative
It's not about "being OK with lies"
Sometimes it's preferable to spare people's feelings instead of saying certain things
Every lie can be explained with "I was protecting you from the truth"
I guess it's down to what the person hearing or telling the lie finds acceptable.
It's not the same and we both know it's not the same
Saying to someone "I don't think we are compatible" isn't necessarily a lie
Vs saying "I think your fanny is really baggy and I didn't feel anything when we had sex" isn't a lie either
However the former is preferable as it spares the persons feeling
What about it isn't the same? The lie, the intention or the outcome?
The only thing to me that is the same is that they are both lies.
Lies can hurt or heal. So can the truth.
Neither of them are lies, how ever one is kinder than the other
I agree, neither of those last two examples are lies. I don't personally think he should comment on the size of her. When telling her he is no longer interested or even bringing it to a forum in the efforts to be controversial for conversation. Other examples given have been lies though.
Personally I think it's almost unanimous that this thread didn't go the way OP most likely hoped or expected it to go.
Additionally, since a lot of people like to complain about how men are treated here, let's consider how a thread about how small a guy's dick was would go down with the men with insecurities.
Whatever the original intention of the post was, I agree with others that it is tasteless. Like the guy on the other forum post complaining about a woman having a "Whistling growler".
About attitudes towards small penis's.
I absolutely agree, and if OP really want to create controversy, he should have posted about the similarities, and hypocrisy between Misogyny and Misandry.
Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity, to put it another way.
Society, and certainly fab forums are not ready for that conversation.
The forums may be ready for that conversation but the users who dominate the forums won't allow it. Far too heavy on the report button are some of them.
I've been ready for that conversation. "
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"Maybe she wasn't the issue and it was a case of the tool wasn't up to the job ,!!! How rude of you to slag off a meet, I'm sure you are not perfect, one for the block list !!"
I'm not sure if it is a slag-off or his personal preference. Like how some people only want 9-inch black cocks. All the other men can't change their race or their cock size like that.
I've been with men who are maybe not as hard as I would like but I focus more on the connection and enjoying each other's bodies more than penile penetration.
But...as a male friend once said "I like what I like" and the thought of forcing someone into any kind of sexual practice that they do not like triggers my trauma survivor response.
I'm going to go with sexually incompatible. Of course if you are open to bringing the compatibility more aligned that's one thing. Only the Op can know if he want to approach the subject and use different techniques, toys and positions.
From my personal experience, I know my vagina tightens the more aroused I am so if it's not tight, it might be a case of me not being aroused enough? I can't speak for every woman's body especially those who have had children, complicated pregnancies, birth labours, and women who do practice fisting and vaginal stretching. |
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself.
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same"
Christ on a bike..I dunno what you mean by demographic but I know plenty of age 60 and over men who look very fuckable.
My looks are something that will change with age so I can't let my life revolve around other people's "kind" comments on my looks.
Women/People like confidence. |
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"Could it get you in trouble with admin?
Off course not
I fucked some one today who was so loose that I could feel any thing and before keyboard warrior kick in I am told I am. Quite thick lam
now in dilemma how to turn them down sexually as they are nice person
Not even sure how this is possible. Couldn't feel anything at all? Really? Perhaps something to do with you - lost sensitivity in cock? Poor technique? I don't care how loose somebody is you can always move about/change angles so you can feel something.
That aside I don't get the dilemma really. If you just don't want to meet them again make polite excuses like people do all time. Like others have said really nothing to be gained from being direct about her physically. Just be decent kind human being. "
From my perspective, it's hard to demand certain positions/techniques/toys from people the first time we are playing together. With the types of meets I have, I look at is as an exploration of intimacy that we do together so even if it doesn't go as mind-blowingly as expected, I can approach it on the next meet as sensitively as possible and in most cases not even mentioning the other person but simply saying I really like this technique/position do you think we can try it? If they say no then you can move on to something else or say you are sexually incompatible.
I think we should all aim for a sex-positive attitude as much as possible.
I get the accusatory side of it as I had a man tell me that I wasn't arousing him enough.....well this was before I had psychotherapy and my trauma survivor fight/defend response was triggered and I lashed out and said "Well I fucked 3 different men last week and they didn't have a problem with arousal around me? What about all the women you fucked last week?" He didn't have sex with anyone else that week...oops.
True and factual but with zero subtlety, tact and diplomacy. yeah, I try not to go down that road now. Best not to compare sexual partners.  |
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"I've had to knock people back after a first meet before.
I just said your a lovely person but I don't think we're sexually compatible. I think you can be tactful whilst being truthful. There is no need to embarrass her over something that she has no control over. Well keegle exercises would probably help but that's on her lol.
If you say to someone you're a lovely person,but... then reject their advances in any further way at all then you might as well just punch them in the face,because the feeling is just as bad.
And I do speak from the experience of being rejected ,its soul crushing no matter how kindly or gently its presented to you
Whereas I take rejection well, and appreciate any efforts made to make it easier.
That's good you can,I don't think the majority of people can be so sanguine about it though
Your value/worth is not measured by another person's opinion on whether or not you're sexually compatible.
It begins with you, how you see yourself.
Its all well and good saying that when you look like you do.. you don't need the complement of others.
I on the other hand can only go off the kindness of others comments with my looks and I bet there's a lot of others in my demographic that feel the same
You're talking about Mrs A here, this is the Mr, and trust me I'm punching above my weight.
If you value yourself by your looks, you're missing out on a whole lot more about you.
Not sure how else you can value yourself on here,absolutely no one cares about a single older mans personality if he hasn't got the looks... no one, and if you don't believe me just go to your account and go to the women online now,or couples online now and have a good look at exactly who is being looked for
If you're feeling this way, maybe practice self help and leave this place behind.
practice self help and leave this place behind ?
Have you the remotest idea how insulting that is? Thats saying get over it and leave the site to the people who this is supposed to be for
Self help for God's sake"
Sorry you feel this way. People take breaks from the site all of the time. Family is visiting me in August and I'm visiting family in September...I won't have a lot of time to spend on Fab or meets.
Obviously, I can't comment on how you look because you don't have any pictures. I'm not everyones cup of tea but I'm confident that there's nothing wrong with my looks. Cellulite and saggy skin and all.
I don't know if it's a generational/cultural gap because my mother's cousin who is 70 American is always reading self-help books and I've seen how it has changed his life and he's happier even though he's single/divorced. He went from being an orderly to being a nurse to being a doctor to a businessman traveling the world every month.
Clearly this is distressing you so I don't think it will be so easy to "get over" I mean I have other things in my life so that when things on Fab don't go to planned, it has less of an impact on me.
I go out to the gym, swingers groups, swingers clubs, mental health group, women's football/soccer and community events....Every once in a while I'll just take myself alone on a little outing. I managed to go to Brighton nudist beach for the summer solstice and there were some guys there who looked over 60 and they looked incredibly happy to me and I spoke to them asking the local advice.
My parents are over 70 and they still go out and see all their friends and do community stuff....
I don't know if you feel invisible. Someone said that to me who was 55 that they felt invisible.
it takes time and effort to meet people on Fab it doesn't magically happen like many people believe it does but if you are not happy better to find more happiness in your real life than online. |
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