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Bi curious woman 1st time
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By *rizo OP Couple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
Hi all
What I'd like to know is how do you find another woman to test your curiosity out on? Where are these illusive sexy unicorns hiding? And why do so many of the men in couples have beards! Pmsl.
The idea of it (especially as a couple) is horny as f, but I don't know if it really is my thing and I want to find out
Anyone else having same issue?
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"Most single women don’t want to be someone’s experiment tbh, makes us feel like objects more then humans with wants of our own
Hence the majority refusing to meet couples "
This! I can’t speak for all the other couples but I’m not here to be used to see if another woman likes it or not. (fem) |
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By *rizo OP Couple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Most single women don’t want to be someone’s experiment tbh, makes us feel like objects more then humans with wants of our own
Hence the majority refusing to meet couples "
Would never be looking for someone to use as an object! If it's not horny and fun for all involved it's pointless and won't happen or progress.
I dont know your previous experiences with couples but that is not the kind of couple/people we are and are would be completely turned off by anyone who thought or felt like that |
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"Most single women don’t want to be someone’s experiment tbh, makes us feel like objects more then humans with wants of our own
Hence the majority refusing to meet couples "
Neither do cpls want to be used to test your curiosity. Works both ways. We have met a few ladies where she was the centre of attention and not us. We are still close friends with them to. Not all cpls use people as sex toys. |
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By *rizo OP Couple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
Maybe I worded it wrong from the start but just want to make it clear as a woman myself who would never want to feel like a couples experiment or toy this was not what I was meaning by this thread in any way!
What I was wondering is how do you find out if you are bi if you cant find another woman to be curious with? Another woman with loads of experience or expectations would terrify me ... so I was wondering if others had advice or thoughts ... that's all |
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I feel your frustration, as a straight guy I want to explore my bi curiosity and not sure if I will enjoy or not…
Couples don’t want bi male that’s looking to explore either. Not helped by some fake bi guys trying to get to the female.
Good luck and hopefully you find someone  |
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"Maybe I worded it wrong from the start but just want to make it clear as a woman myself who would never want to feel like a couples experiment or toy this was not what I was meaning by this thread in any way!
What I was wondering is how do you find out if you are bi if you cant find another woman to be curious with? Another woman with loads of experience or expectations would terrify me ... so I was wondering if others had advice or thoughts ... that's all"
It maybe better to try a club.
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"Maybe I worded it wrong from the start but just want to make it clear as a woman myself who would never want to feel like a couples experiment or toy this was not what I was meaning by this thread in any way!
What I was wondering is how do you find out if you are bi if you cant find another woman to be curious with? Another woman with loads of experience or expectations would terrify me ... so I was wondering if others had advice or thoughts ... that's all"
Just explain this to another couple where the woman is bi. Be open about it. Good luck. |
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My first few experiences happened when I was a teen!
My best friend at the time would stay over and we would share a bed (like most besties do, I suppose) and it started with light touching of boobs and eventually moved on to us fingering each other until we both orgasmed.
The other time, a different friend randomly decided she wanted to go down on me after we had a few sneaky drinks in my room during a bbq.
After that I never had any more experiences until joining fab and had no doubt in my mind about whether or not I was bi  |
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By *rizo OP Couple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"I feel your frustration, as a straight guy I want to explore my bi curiosity and not sure if I will enjoy or not…
Couples don’t want bi male that’s looking to explore either. Not helped by some fake bi guys trying to get to the female.
Good luck and hopefully you find someone "
Yes fakes are a nightmare were finding that out fast
It is frustrating, especially if many people feel like the few above who replied ...like couples are looking to use and abuse rather than appreciate and enjoy.
It's not all about a fast and furious shag or a few finger pokes and selfishness!
it's about making new like minded friends and exploring and finding out things about yourself and (if your part of a couple) learning new things to enhance your shared enjoyment, to figure out if it is just fantasy or reality.
We have seen women playing together openly in clubs and it's beautiful to admire but as a 'curious' it's also intimidating.
Really hope you find someone too!
Many started out as curious and found their way so there has to be hope for us |
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By *rizo OP Couple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"My first few experiences happened when I was a teen!
My best friend at the time would stay over and we would share a bed (like most besties do, I suppose) and it started with light touching of boobs and eventually moved on to us fingering each other until we both orgasmed.
The other time, a different friend randomly decided she wanted to go down on me after we had a few sneaky drinks in my room during a bbq.
After that I never had any more experiences until joining fab and had no doubt in my mind about whether or not I was bi "
I wish I had this experience! 
I think I only realised (or admitted to myself ... then eventually hubby lol) that I appreciated other women in more than a platonic way about a year ago, I love boobs! But beyond that I just don't know and can't wait to find out!
Can't wait to see hubby with another woman too ... always thought I'd be jealous type but seeing him kiss another woman was very hot!  |
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Same as one of the posters above, I would not mind being someone's "guinea pig" but they would need to be very clear to me that the lady is only just discovering her bi side and she is not sure how much she'd be prepared to do on a meet. That's how I started my bisexual journey, was chatting to a couple and was very open about my lack of experience but also my willingness to learn.
What I hate is the deceitful messages from couples saying "she's very bisexual with loads of experience" when in reality she's only happy with some very soft (and usually one-sided only) play.
OP, just be very honest on your profile and in any potential chats with people. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"Maybe I worded it wrong from the start but just want to make it clear as a woman myself who would never want to feel like a couples experiment or toy this was not what I was meaning by this thread in any way!
What I was wondering is how do you find out if you are bi if you cant find another woman to be curious with? Another woman with loads of experience or expectations would terrify me ... so I was wondering if others had advice or thoughts ... that's all
It maybe better to try a club.
Mrs "
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"Most single women don’t want to be someone’s experiment tbh, makes us feel like objects more then humans with wants of our own
Hence the majority refusing to meet couples
This! I can’t speak for all the other couples but I’m not here to be used to see if another woman likes it or not. (fem) "
Exactly. Us cpls dont want to be used either.  |
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"Most single women don’t want to be someone’s experiment tbh, makes us feel like objects more then humans with wants of our own
Hence the majority refusing to meet couples
This! I can’t speak for all the other couples but I’m not here to be used to see if another woman likes it or not. (fem)
Exactly. Us cpls dont want to be used either. "
Exactly. We agree. |
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"My first few experiences happened when I was a teen!
My best friend at the time would stay over and we would share a bed (like most besties do, I suppose) and it started with light touching of boobs and eventually moved on to us fingering each other until we both orgasmed.
The other time, a different friend randomly decided she wanted to go down on me after we had a few sneaky drinks in my room during a bbq.
After that I never had any more experiences until joining fab and had no doubt in my mind about whether or not I was bi "
I started the exact same way. Playing with a few friends and we just progressed to full on bi play. My first 3some was with one of the same friends and her boyfriend. Whilst we played he took turns fucking us as we licked each others pussy. Great times and lovely memories of me begining playing with other ladies |
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Hi OP - You could maybe visit a club that’s open for women only play (I know that Townhouse do a Ladies only event called Ruby Slippers). Or (closer to home) I think Unseen Lounge does?
I am sure if you are open and explain that you’d be really interested in experimenting you’ll find someone eager to help you?
Alternatively, go to a club and play in a group play area. If there is chemistry with people around you - ask if you can kiss/touch….. maybe just stick to kissing and breast play and see how that feels?
Finally - I’ve just noticed you are 1.5 miles away from us - drop me a message and we can chat more?
Mrs Brumeswingers x |
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I have never been bi curious, I was always bisexual without a second thought. So I can't imagine it. I love giving oral especially when I'm a woman's 1st so there must be others like Me who don't mind helping others experiment. My top advice would be go try out at a club |
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I completely get what you mean, I've been bi for as long as I remember, being sexually attracted to women but as I was in a monogamous relationship with a male from my teen years I've never had the chance to act on it and now feel it's too late because everyone will expect someone of my age to be experienced and know what they're doing. |
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"I completely get what you mean, I've been bi for as long as I remember, being sexually attracted to women but as I was in a monogamous relationship with a male from my teen years I've never had the chance to act on it and now feel it's too late because everyone will expect someone of my age to be experienced and know what they're doing. "
You’re never too old! If it’s something you want to explore then do just that. There will be people who don’t care about your age and that you aren’t experienced. Life is bad enough with bills, taxes etc you don’t want to add ‘what ifs’ to the list that you regret not doing
Enjoy |
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"Same as one of the posters above, I would not mind being someone's "guinea pig" but they would need to be very clear to me that the lady is only just discovering her bi side and she is not sure how much she'd be prepared to do on a meet. That's how I started my bisexual journey, was chatting to a couple and was very open about my lack of experience but also my willingness to learn.
What I hate is the deceitful messages from couples saying "she's very bisexual with loads of experience" when in reality she's only happy with some very soft (and usually one-sided only) play.
OP, just be very honest on your profile and in any potential chats with people. "
. It's all about mutual respect or surely it won't work out |
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I have always been bi-curious but until this year never tested my theory , so far 5 girls , started with just kissing, loved it , then feeling tits & ass loved it , then my last encounter was in Club in Rome with 1 of the hottest women I’ve ever met & wow .., wow wow wow ..,, I’m hooked & I couldn’t care less if I never see them again , they can use me or I’ll use them for fun & fro-“licking” lol |
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"I completely get what you mean, I've been bi for as long as I remember, being sexually attracted to women but as I was in a monogamous relationship with a male from my teen years I've never had the chance to act on it and now feel it's too late because everyone will expect someone of my age to be experienced and know what they're doing.
I’m 49 & only starting out on my bi journey … I haven’t had any complaints about lack of experience - way I look at it is , us girls know what we like so it’s easier to please a girl than a guy !
You’re never too old! If it’s something you want to explore then do just that. There will be people who don’t care about your age and that you aren’t experienced. Life is bad enough with bills, taxes etc you don’t want to add ‘what ifs’ to the list that you regret not doing
Enjoy "
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"Maybe I worded it wrong from the start but just want to make it clear as a woman myself who would never want to feel like a couples experiment or toy this was not what I was meaning by this thread in any way!
What I was wondering is how do you find out if you are bi if you cant find another woman to be curious with? Another woman with loads of experience or expectations would terrify me ... so I was wondering if others had advice or thoughts ... that's all"
Clubs are Defo the best I’ve found .., you click in a social situation it can progress organically , only go as far as you want there is never any pressure |
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Clubs are a great place to start, ask and you never know 
We took a true unicorn friend to a club last night we had a lot of fun together, we very much explored our bi sides and the 3 of us all enjoyed each others bodies...
Those unicorns are out there lol |
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"I have never been bi curious, I was always bisexual without a second thought. So I can't imagine it. I love giving oral especially when I'm a woman's 1st so there must be others like Me who don't mind helping others experiment. My top advice would be go try out at a club "
100% agree .., I wouldn’t mind if inexperienced or not possibly even better & club best way |
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"I completely get what you mean, I've been bi for as long as I remember, being sexually attracted to women but as I was in a monogamous relationship with a male from my teen years I've never had the chance to act on it and now feel it's too late because everyone will expect someone of my age to be experienced and know what they're doing. "
This is exactly my situation too! Have been lucky enough to have my first FF experience since joining fab, so wouldn't say I've got my "L" plates on anymore but seems an experience that's hard to come by  |
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By *rizo OP Couple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
Thanks for all the replies! It's lovely to just hear others experiences and to feel a bit more positive about it now.
We are members of a club but still pretty new and figuring it all out but when couples are all playing together in an open room it makes me nervous to try start that way because of my inexperience ... you don't really seem like you have chance to say I don't know what I'm doing lol and what if I'm crap or if it just progresses faster than I expect it to? I would at least like to have some idea what to do before jumping in face first  
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"Thanks for all the replies! It's lovely to just hear others experiences and to feel a bit more positive about it now.
We are members of a club but still pretty new and figuring it all out but when couples are all playing together in an open room it makes me nervous to try start that way because of my inexperience ... you don't really seem like you have chance to say I don't know what I'm doing lol and what if I'm crap or if it just progresses faster than I expect it to? I would at least like to have some idea what to do before jumping in face first
Z x"
It's best to have a chat beforehand to find out what people are into and boundaries. Everyone starts somewhere! You'll find most people in a club very friendly and respectful. |
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"Thanks for all the replies! It's lovely to just hear others experiences and to feel a bit more positive about it now.
We are members of a club but still pretty new and figuring it all out but when couples are all playing together in an open room it makes me nervous to try start that way because of my inexperience ... you don't really seem like you have chance to say I don't know what I'm doing lol and what if I'm crap or if it just progresses faster than I expect it to? I would at least like to have some idea what to do before jumping in face first
Z x"
I wouldn’t jump straight in try chatting to a couple first make sure she’s bi and explain your situation.I would think majority of women would be understanding about it |
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"Most single women don’t want to be someone’s experiment tbh, makes us feel like objects more then humans with wants of our own
Hence the majority refusing to meet couples "
Also why lots of bi women won't meet someone who's curious |
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