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First club visit for a single woman

By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Ok fellow fabbers, you have always been great with advice in the past. So here I go again asking for more.

I am becoming increasingly curious about the club scene. I live in Manchester and have read the club reviews and quite a few seem very interesting.

I would love to visit one as a single lady on a Saturday and want to know which is the best one for a newbie like me. I don't necessarily want to play, not yet at least. I am not looking for anyone to escort me, this is not a thread asking for a playmate.

Thank you all in advance.

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

think youll find it pretty difficult not to play unless you only stick to the social rooms

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Why is that?

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By *haunMan over a year ago

Halton

A lot will depend upon what your expectations are?

Clubs can be quite busy and appear overwhelming for a first visit, especially on a weekend.

And some clubs have more restrictions on the amount of single men in the club.

Yes, for all the clubs everyone should treat you with respect and appreciate (if you tell them) that it is your first visit.

But as a single woman you will automatically draw more attention.

So in my opinion...

Even in a social 'checking' out a club first time visit, make your choice based on what you think you will be most comfortable with.

(lots of men or a restricted number and then maybe more couples)

I have two main preferences for clubs (in Manchester or near by) but that is because they work for me.

The club review section will provide an idea of who normally goes to them.

The other thing I could suggest is that if you want to just visit a club to get a feel for it (when it is less busy)

Consider (if possible?) a midweek visit.

Some clubs do social nights or couples and single women only nights.

Maybe a gentler introduction to the club scene?

But a lot depends upon your expectations, wants and personality.

Hope this helps a little bit?

Please do let me know if I can provide you any more information?

I am sure you will have a good time when you make it along.

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Thank you for your advice, unfortunately due to work commitments I cannot go through the week.

Perhaps I will hold off for a while x

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By *ewcouplemidsCouple over a year ago

walsall

I know Manchester is 80 miles a way but you will find most clubs cater for single women we use chams this is a friendly club an many couples love an extra women it also has rooms for overnight stops don't be afraid to try

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By *kmale421Man over a year ago

wirral

Well Yohoho, there's a fair range of choice, I'll see if I can help.

The 2 Manchester clubs are Adam & Eves in Eccles and Cupids in Swinton, with Partners in Bury, Liaisons in Rochdale and No 3 in Chorley being a further distance out, you'll know how far with you living in Manchester.

All of the clubs are sauna style clubs which means either on arrival or shortly afterwards you will need to undress to either a towel (normally for guys) or into lingerie in it's various formats. To my knowledge, none of the clubs mentioned run couples nights over a weekend (Fri/Sat) though some do have couples only on Sundays or during the week.

All the clubs will welcome a single lady, and none would expect you to play unless you chose to do so. Indeed if you let the club management know it's your first time most will pay special attention to you as your a valuable resourse for thier club and they'll want you to return.

Adam & Eves is a smallish club based over 4 floors with 2 private payrooms, a jacuzzi & sauna and a pool table. It's not a club that meets everyones tastes, partly because it's a fairly basic club, but it's most redeeming quality is in my experience it's the friendliest club that I have been to. It attracts couples, single ladies and doea have a fair quantity of single guys that go to the club, so if you don't want to be in the company of single guys (not necessarily to play with them) then you might not like the club as much as some do. It's busiest days and nights are the usual Fri/Sat but it also hosts various parties normally on a wednesday which are well attended.

Cupids I went to recently. It's a large club split over 2 floors with lots of private rooms and a smaller range of public play areas. It has sauna & jacuzzi and the club looks good. More people will go this club than Adam & Eves, but because it's a bigger club unless it's got lots of people in it might look quieter than it really is. While I have no doubt you'll find plenty of people to chat to, it does seem slightly harder to get chatting to lots of people, though that might be a combination of the club layout, with it being larger than A&E and also with there being more people in.

Partners, I haven't been to for a very long time, but it's most famous feature is it's very large spa area. It also has a maze and lots of private playrooms.

Liaisons I haven't been to for a while now but last time I went, it looked somewhat tired and old to me and in need of some investment, so you'll have to get advice from someone who's been more recently than me and No 3 I haven't been to so can't camment.

All in all, whichever club you choose, you should enjoy, you can stay "dressed" on the basis of how I described above all night and you can safely venture into open play areas just to watch or to join in as and when you wish, with the option to go private if you want. If your looking for guys, all the clubs will be able to cater for you, and as for couples or other single females well again no problem.

Hope this helps, have fun and drop me a PM if you have a specific query.

Mark

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for your advice, unfortunately due to work commitments I cannot go through the week.

Perhaps I will hold off for a while x"

I'm going to my first club on Saturday, however, lucky enough to be going with a friend, to show me the ropes and look after me. Might be worth considering asking a friend to go with you.

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By *haunMan over a year ago

Halton

You are more than welcome.

Hopefully I did not put you off going?

As I said, this was my opinion as a single man.

I know many single women who visit clubs on their own, both during the week and at weekends and enjoy themselves a lot (socially and from a play point of view)

Maybe during the day you will get a couple of opinions from women, that hopefully provides a different view.

But if you feel drawn to a club from the reviews? And are curious about a visit.

Then go for it, contact the club and make your way down.

They don't lock you in once you get inside

sit around the bar or chill in a jacuzzi, clubs are good fun and a nice chance to relax.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"think youll find it pretty difficult not to play unless you only stick to the social rooms "

Its very easy not to play of you choose not to, there is a magic word you can use.........NO!

Honestly, what a way to try and put someone off going to a club!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would suggest Cupids on Friday rather than Saturday (it is a bit quieter) and arrange to meet someone there for moral support..

Ignore the comment about having to play, that is so untrue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally id not go to a club on my own, its nice to have company and its more of a laugh to take a friend as i found out.

You dont have to play at all. Even if you go into play areas, i didnt first time i went!

Some single men followed me about which was a pain in the arse so sont be afraid to say a polite no thanks, if they persist have a quiet word in a member of staffs ear all should be ok.

Stay safe... Dont get pissed.

Last and not least have a great time and just in case take some condoms

Good luck and enjoy whereever you go xx

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"Why is that?"

im not really a club goer, though I believe that after certain times everyone is expected to dress in robes - especially if they are walking around the various rooms, simply so other mombers dont feel pried upon.

As well as the fact that youre a woman.. youll undoubtedly attract a few guys/couples and unless you are very resilient, one thing leads to another

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

mombers was supposed to read 'members'.

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

What kind of things would you ladies wear?

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

women wear what they like - dressy, casual, flirty anything .. rarely tainers though

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

"women wear what they like - dressy, casual, flirty anything .. rarely tainers though

Oh man I was thinking of just wearing trainers. I will have to rethink that outfit.

Ladies though what do you wear normally?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wore a sexy dress n heels. Its all you need if not playibg but if going in play area to be a voyure you still need to be in "bedwear"

Second time i went i wore nice undies stickings heels and my silk black gown.

Depends what your cinfortable in x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry about typo still half asleep lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

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Don't believe what people say about you being followed around by slathering single men - I've been to Chams and Isis on my own several times and its never happened. If you do not wish to play stay at the bar and chat to people as they come up for their drinks. If you have no intention of playing then you don't have to change into towels or skimpy lingerie - thats only for playrooms.

And as said above, the word 'no' is your best bet against unwanted attention. I hope you enjoy yourself - clubbing as a single woman can be extremely enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well i was..... As long as you say a polite no things should be ok.

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

If you'd prefer a club where you can stay dressed consider crossing over to Gods own county and trying la chambre.

But whichever club let the staff know it's your first visit, get a comprehensive tour and ask for an introduction to some regulars.

Don't be afraid to speak your mind - politely! If someone is crowding you or being pushy tell them. If you get asked to play but are not interested then say thank you by no thanks. If you might be interested but not this time say perhaps another time.

A good club is something of a community, one which in a few weeks you might be a regular member of, so.keep it friendly and amiable and polite unless someone really crosses a line - uninvited touching is the big no-no.

As for dressing, in a clothed club like la chambre whatever you like - I've seen people in jeans. In a towel club the just a towel, your undies and a towel, or if like me you prefer to be a little more covered up the your undies with a little slip over the top.

Have fun. Oh, and don't be scared to talk to people, just say hello, it's my first visit and I'm nervous.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think youll find it pretty difficult not to play unless you only stick to the social rooms

Its very easy not to play of you choose not to, there is a magic word you can use.........NO!

Honestly, what a way to try and put someone off going to a club!!!!"

Totally agree, no one doesn't have to do anything they don't want to.

We have been to a club and not played and not felt that we have had to x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have (in the past) been to Chams on my own and it was always fine, i wore a towel as i liked to go in the jacuzzis so a towel was best for that but i prefer that anyway. If anyone gives you hassle then other people there will help and so would the staff but generally its ok there

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Thank you all for your advice xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe a quick trip to the seaside so much fun...too many choices and have a fab footy team a change is better then a rest

its twinned with Manchester so you will have fun x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

wow i think you're so brave going on your own. i'm looking to go for my first visit to a club too and i'm stuck as to which one to go for. i have had an invite off a lady and her friend to take me to la chambre. but i also like the look of partners and cupids. think it basically comes down to what's on the night you want to go to the club. enjoy whichever you choose

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jeeze we have to go on our own all the time us genuine singletons ..as we are not married or have a FB

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By *ay jay jayMan over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

"wow i think you're so brave going on your own. i'm looking to go for my first visit to a club too and i'm stuck as to which one to go for. i have had an invite off a lady and her friend to take me to la chambre. but i also like the look of partners and cupids. think it basically comes down to what's on the night you want to go to the club. enjoy whichever you choose

Perhaps we should go together as two single ladies?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps we should go together as two single ladies?

That could been fun. Although id struggle to get a Saturday night off as im a nightworker.

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Perhaps we should go together as two single ladies?

That could been fun. Although id struggle to get a Saturday night off as im a nightworker.

What about Fridays? I would feel better going with another woman. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd second la chamber, been on my own as a single girl and had a great time. Saturdays are the day to go as its couples/single ladies only. Ben on a Friday once but were a few too many touchy feely guys around for my liking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm loving this thread I'm from the north west and am a club virgin. I've learned so much from your posts. Just wondering if the clubs have towels to stretch around my too ample body

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great advice tempting devil247 !!

pity theres no more around who know how to treat a lady !!

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

My first visit as a single woman was cupids and the staff were great at making me feel comfortable.

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

"I'm loving this thread I'm from the north west and am a club virgin. I've learned so much from your posts. Just wondering if the clubs have towels to stretch around my too ample body

If in doubt take your own!

No club will mind and a few people do so you won't feel like you stand out (other than your own natural radiance).

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By *eet_the_spartanMan over a year ago

Manchester

You should check out Infusion in Blackpool. Not too far on the train (I live in Manchester and only go there). It's small, has a relaxed atmosphere and there's no compulsory dress down. They also have a couples and females night on either Friday or Saturday. Have fun wherever you end up x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps we should go together as two single ladies?

That could been fun. Although id struggle to get a Saturday night off as im a nightworker.

What about Fridays? I would feel better going with another woman. X"

Yes i can get Fridays off. I'll pm you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I went to a club on my own one time. I must say it was such a liberating experience! I was nervous at first, but soon got chatting with some people and playing. I definitely recommend single ladies going alone at least once. The club staff are there if you need any help with any nuisance people. I feel very safe at a club and now it's my preferred location for meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm loving this thread I'm from the north west and am a club virgin. I've learned so much from your posts. Just wondering if the clubs have towels to stretch around my too ample body

If in doubt take your own!

No club will mind and a few people do so you won't feel like you stand out (other than your own natural radiance).

Thank you I will take my own just to be on safe side

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I went in my own for years and found it to be great fun. The first time I went I arranged to meet another lady up there for moral suport but once I got over the initial nerves I would go up whenever I fancied a nice relaxed night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im back sorry for the delay lol

Blackpool as lots of choices and very accomadating

Utmp

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

I think I have decided now. I have also been lucky enough to find another single lady to come along with me.

Thank you for all your advice and help.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh you lucky ladies hope you have a great time. Let us know how you get on as I'm also considering trying a club.

Nikki x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blackpool Connections I could give you a one to one tour

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Lady 4 fun. I have sent you a PM.

Tarzan you do try hard! Good boy, but need to be a little more persuasive x

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

cupids is very good.....

i have been there loads of time as a single guy. I have seen lots of single women and couples.

Advice:

Get chatting to people...even if it is bar staff

don't get pissed

Don't be afraid to say no thank you.

Take some condoms

When i go sometimes i want to be a voyer sometimes an exhibionist so it make up your mind what your looking for and run with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Indoor doggin sounds fun

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Friday night is the night! I am so excited. Myself and another single fem are attending cupids, if any other single fem would like to join us for a bit of moral support, you would be welcome.

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By *john121Man over a year ago

staffs

"think youll find it pretty difficult not to play unless you only stick to the social rooms "

Tosh! If you just want to visit and watch that's your choice, nobody will force you to play.

However, it's possible that you may be so turned on as a voyeur for your visit that you won't be able to keep your hands off yourself! lol

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

Loved reading the thread.

Please tell us how you get on xxx

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By *els_BellsWoman over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"Friday night is the night! I am so excited. Myself and another single fem are attending cupids, if any other single fem would like to join us for a bit of moral support, you would be welcome.

Have fun and let us know how you get on x

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Will keep all you informed x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Woohoo DDay has arrived !!!

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

Let us all know xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

any news??

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

Well we went. Arrived early so it was a little quiet and we could calm our nerves. The staff were lovely and gave us a guided tour. I tried everything in the dungeon. Solo I hasten to add. Because of all the steps, the heels had to come off straight away.

I watched a foursome in one of the rooms, a gangbang in another. Used the sauna and jacuzzi. Even had time for a couple of games of pool.

It was incredibly easy to say no. I had a few guys try to have a few sneaky feels. For me though, there just was not enough single guys.

So we both left at the end of the night thoroughly enjoying our first club experience. But did not play.

I would recommend any single female to go along to a club though. It did make it easier going along with another female though. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh I'm so glad you had a great evening. Pity about the lack of single men I thought there would have been loads! Still sounds like you enjoyed yourselfs anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww guwd...dungeon sounded fun

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I would recommend any single female to go along to a club though. It did make it easier going along with another female though. Xx"

I've often said there should be a buddy system on here for nervous ladies to have someone to go to clubs with. It is a lot better to have someone to chat with than be sat alone fending off people.

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By *ohoho OP Woman over a year ago

Up North

It is great to have someone there. It only gets awkward when one is asked to play and the other isn't.

Then what do you do? Leave the other alone? I couldn't and wouldn't do that.

I think for a first time it is best to go with another woman if you don't intend to play. Now I would be fully confident to go by myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is great to have someone there. It only gets awkward when one is asked to play and the other isn't.

Then what do you do? Leave the other alone? I couldn't and wouldn't do that.

I think for a first time it is best to go with another woman if you don't intend to play. Now I would be fully confident to go by myself.

I agree, I went with my bestie for my first visit, she'd been before, and now I go regularly on my own. I'm having my party at cupids next Saturday ladies! Be brilliant to see you there!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

glad to see this thread answers a lot of the misconceptions... that women can go to clubs by themselves... and they need a male chaperone to go

nice to see you had a good time......

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I would recommend any single female to go along to a club though. It did make it easier going along with another female though. Xx

I've often said there should be a buddy system on here for nervous ladies to have someone to go to clubs with. It is a lot better to have someone to chat with than be sat alone fending off people.

This is such a good idea!!!! I've offered to take people to chams on their first time as I know it can be daunting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"....I think for a first time it is best to go with another woman if you don't intend to play. Now I would be fully confident to go by myself.

I'm so glad to here that you had a good time. And as Fabio says, you're living proof of the fact that women are perfectly able to go to swingers clubs on our own. Keep spreading the word!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would recommend any single female to go along to a club though. It did make it easier going along with another female though. Xx

I've often said there should be a buddy system on here for nervous ladies to have someone to go to clubs with. It is a lot better to have someone to chat with than be sat alone fending off people.

This is such a good idea!!!! I've offered to take people to chams on their first time as I know it can be daunting. "

Pick me! Pick me! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women power rocks even till today

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