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We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? |
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over a year ago
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
We have the same with finding a man to play with. Have plenty of messages but hard finding one to suit us and vice versa.
That’s why go to clubs now much easier. I’m sure there are plenty women who would take your fancy  |
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I feel your pain although you look a hell of lot more successful than myself...
I'm lucky to get a reply to a message and when it happens it's a 'thanks ' but no thanks lol which I understand but that's after being on here a while ... Im guessing the face has to fit
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
We have found this difficult.. we have been let down by single females more times than we have had hot dinners.. and cometimes find it hatd with couples as we initially have all the FF play but only soft swap between MF initially as we want to build a connection before full swap...
We have moments of seeking other meets though to not get disheartened.. you shouldn't have an issue though.. you look gorgeous xx |
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Thank you Hornycouple. I thought it would fairly easy but it’s a full time job ??. Yes I think you are right, we haven’t gone down that route yet of a club, heard mixed reviews about behaviour in some of them. |
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There is some amazing women on here we have been lucky to meet a few however we never go "searching" we chat as friends and go from there, some we've gone on to have sexual meets with and others we've made friends.
I wanted to ask as I couldn't understand in your profile so maybe women don't too, if it's just the woman that plays is it FF meets your looking for?
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You find a lot of females, are bi playful at best within couples, as I can be just as happy in bed with another woman minus a guy , even my own on occasions, I opt for single women quite frequently. Maybe I’ve just been lucky. |
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi  
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that "
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate |
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I hate the placatory "it is was it is" but... it is. If the right lady is out there for you she will come along but *trying to find her* doesn't end well as a rule. Be more chilled and laid back about it and the single ladies might feel more respected, and less hunted.
I get that they sometimes feel like they are being treated as pieces of meat by some on forums like this, and sadly us genuine couples who would love to enjoy the company of a lady stand less chance. |
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate "
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We have had the same problem. I think it's just down to finding a single fem or FEM from a couple that wants the same etc etc. We haven't given up we've met some amazing people from fab, I think perseverance is key.
Mrs S is still on the lookout.  |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"I hate the placatory "it is was it is" but... it is. If the right lady is out there for you she will come along but *trying to find her* doesn't end well as a rule. Be more chilled and laid back about it and the single ladies might feel more respected, and less hunted.
I get that they sometimes feel like they are being treated as pieces of meat by some on forums like this, and sadly us genuine couples who would love to enjoy the company of a lady stand less chance. "
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
We would recommend you try some club nights. Put status's up that you're going to a club, even start a thread saying so. There's generally plenty of Bi-fems in a club even if part of a couple. |
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
Shame your so far away as Mrs loves FF fun. She's had a couple solo meets so far of this nature, purely so she can explore this side of her sexuality more. Generally she ends up meeting females in relationships.
Its worth posting status updates from time to time, that'll catch the eye of someone nearby who is hopefully suitable. |
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"I hate the placatory "it is was it is" but... it is. If the right lady is out there for you she will come along but *trying to find her* doesn't end well as a rule. Be more chilled and laid back about it and the single ladies might feel more respected, and less hunted.
I get that they sometimes feel like they are being treated as pieces of meat by some on forums like this, and sadly us genuine couples who would love to enjoy the company of a lady stand less chance. "
Using inflamatory words like hunted doesnt help. The majority of couples in particular on here aren't here hunting women. They are simply looking for someone that maybe be interested in their couple dynamic and the same things and fantasies that they are. These comments do some single women a complete disservice.
Just because a couple is seeking out a women doenst mean they are treated with any less respect or like a piece of meat.
Plenty of couples oursleves included only seek to make contact with women when we have read profiles and believe they maybe looking for something similar to us.
Its unfair on both couples and women to suggest that it boarders hunting to seek them out. Everyone is here doing the same thing.. looking for something or someone that matches their kinks, fantasies or desires and it absolutely can and is on plenty of occasions done respectfully.
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate "
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By *andi19Couple
over a year ago
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said! "
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right? |
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?"
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx |
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A few people mentioned clubs and I saw you mention that you were unsure. Maybe try a social first, there's hampshire's most wanted in Fleet or the blazingstoke one. Or, for the best of both worlds, the London Surrey social at abfabs. Lots of opportunities to chat with like minded individuals and see if they are what you are looking for and vice versa  |
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx"
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view. |
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view."
Think we have a couple hater here |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view."
Honestly it’s the same every time these threads appear, couples refuse to listen to anyone not also a couple, the irony is nuts. Just watch, someone will shred you too pretty quickly |
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By *vilgasamWoman
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Think we have a couple hater here "
Damn that was fast, exhibit A |
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view."
I'm totally with you on this.
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By *andi19Couple
over a year ago
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Think we have a couple hater here "
If we have to accept one single true or If we all can’t expose our ideas I’m not sure why it’s called forum!
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Think we have a couple hater here
Damn that was fast, exhibit A "
In fairness, we have the opinion of ONE single female. It's hardly a comprehensive focus group. I am curious as to how you feel a couple should approach a single female (who makes it clear on her profile she meets couples) without becoming heinous predators?? |
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
Don't rely on fab, if your comfortable with it attend clubs |
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Op, I would try the clubs. Don't be put off by any negative comments about clubs, they all have their plus and minus points! Go, try it for yourselves, you will soon work out if they are the right setting for you! |
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By *vilgasamWoman
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Think we have a couple hater here
Damn that was fast, exhibit A
In fairness, we have the opinion of ONE single female. It's hardly a comprehensive focus group. I am curious as to how you feel a couple should approach a single female (who makes it clear on her profile she meets couples) without becoming heinous predators??"
Listening helps, taking on board what others say, paying attention to demographics different from your own and hearing out their pov, their experiences
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Think we have a couple hater here
Damn that was fast, exhibit A
In fairness, we have the opinion of ONE single female. It's hardly a comprehensive focus group. I am curious as to how you feel a couple should approach a single female (who makes it clear on her profile she meets couples) without becoming heinous predators??
Listening helps, taking on board what others say, paying attention to demographics different from your own and hearing out their pov, their experiences
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With respect, under the 'looking for' section of your profile you don't list couples. Therefore you're not part of the demographic we would be contacting.
We completely understand why you would feel aggrieved at couples approaching you as you don't say you're looking for them.
If a single female who we had actually approached wanted to offer advice as to why they didn't like our approach, we would be very happy to take the feedback onboard as it would be entirely relevant to us. |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Think we have a couple hater here
Damn that was fast, exhibit A
In fairness, we have the opinion of ONE single female. It's hardly a comprehensive focus group. I am curious as to how you feel a couple should approach a single female (who makes it clear on her profile she meets couples) without becoming heinous predators??
Listening helps, taking on board what others say, paying attention to demographics different from your own and hearing out their pov, their experiences
With respect, under the 'looking for' section of your profile you don't list couples. Therefore you're not part of the demographic we would be contacting.
We completely understand why you would feel aggrieved at couples approaching you as you don't say you're looking for them.
If a single female who we had actually approached wanted to offer advice as to why they didn't like our approach, we would be very happy to take the feedback onboard as it would be entirely relevant to us. "
I mean if you’re unwilling to listen, then you shouldn’t complain
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Think we have a couple hater here
Damn that was fast, exhibit A
In fairness, we have the opinion of ONE single female. It's hardly a comprehensive focus group. I am curious as to how you feel a couple should approach a single female (who makes it clear on her profile she meets couples) without becoming heinous predators??
Listening helps, taking on board what others say, paying attention to demographics different from your own and hearing out their pov, their experiences
With respect, under the 'looking for' section of your profile you don't list couples. Therefore you're not part of the demographic we would be contacting.
We completely understand why you would feel aggrieved at couples approaching you as you don't say you're looking for them.
If a single female who we had actually approached wanted to offer advice as to why they didn't like our approach, we would be very happy to take the feedback onboard as it would be entirely relevant to us.
I mean if you’re unwilling to listen, then you shouldn’t complain
I won’t reply to you again, take care "
We agree we should end it here. I mean you didn't actually acknowledge any of our points of the fact that you don't fall in to the demographic we are discussing but we wish you all the very best. |
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"I feel your pain although you look a hell of lot more successful than myself...
I'm lucky to get a reply to a message and when it happens it's a 'thanks ' but no thanks lol which I understand but that's after being on here a while ... Im guessing the face has to fit
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
We have trouble finding a couple for the lady in our profile.
As she won't meet or play alone until she's comfortable with them, and he has no interest in play with another woman.
Often, people view that as entertaining the man, when in reality, it's that he has much experience here, she has little and we're slowly finding our feet, plus he often works away and so a couple we both get along with will be great, for when she is comfortable to meet alone.
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
We’re the same here. We’re looking for a lady to play with us or a couple with a cuck and no luck at all! |
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"I do have my own female profile but that never gets looked at. My partner is a voyeur so I’m happy to play with couples but love FF meets "
Why do u guys have to be all the way in reading....
I've just check out your profile, to see if that was maybe part of the problem, it definately ISNT part of the problem! Youre hot as hell!
If it's any concellation, it's not easy for bi unicorns to find single females or even a couple were it's more than just light play with the female either!
Good luck with your search! Im sure a real gem will come along soon x
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I want to find a lady so I can watch her with Russ if bi I will watch the get involved later if she wanted that.Would be happy to do this with a couple with me watching MFM.Its been impossible to achieve so far  |
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"Kinkycream you are definitely lucky. I have just felt a little disheartened by it all. Fingers crossed I’ll find a gorgeous female to play with for my own pleasure "
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In my experience, when the F in a couple claims to be seeking FF meets, it doesn't take long before there are hints about the M watching / joining in etc, or the meet being filmed so the couple can watch together later.
There is a sudden lack of interest when I decline any filming or male involvement, and agree to FF only meet. |
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"In my experience, when the F in a couple claims to be seeking FF meets, it doesn't take long before there are hints about the M watching / joining in etc, or the meet being filmed so the couple can watch together later.
There is a sudden lack of interest when I decline any filming or male involvement, and agree to FF only meet."
Their loss!
Would love S to come back after meeting FF and telling me all about it... not sure how much of the story I would hear though! Lol |
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We feel your pain. We’ve been looking for a female for play but had no one interested that suits us I’m wondering if our age is off putting as there is a bit of a gap between the two of us.
Hopefully we shall all find who we are looking for. |
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"I hate the placatory "it is was it is" but... it is. If the right lady is out there for you she will come along but *trying to find her* doesn't end well as a rule. Be more chilled and laid back about it and the single ladies might feel more respected, and less hunted.
I get that they sometimes feel like they are being treated as pieces of meat by some on forums like this, and sadly us genuine couples who would love to enjoy the company of a lady stand less chance.
Using inflamatory words like hunted doesnt help. The majority of couples in particular on here aren't here hunting women. They are simply looking for someone that maybe be interested in their couple dynamic and the same things and fantasies that they are. These comments do some single women a complete disservice.
Just because a couple is seeking out a women doenst mean they are treated with any less respect or like a piece of meat.
Plenty of couples oursleves included only seek to make contact with women when we have read profiles and believe they maybe looking for something similar to us.
Its unfair on both couples and women to suggest that it boarders hunting to seek them out. Everyone is here doing the same thing.. looking for something or someone that matches their kinks, fantasies or desires and it absolutely can and is on plenty of occasions done respectfully.
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Some people get “hung up” on words that really isn’t necessary. Searched for instead of “hunted” here may have been better to some and not to others. How many times have you met someone that look’s better in person than their profile pic or just not like it at all? Same goes for words surely; they used something here because they were writing rather than talking.
To many people judge others before meeting them.
As swingers you should ALL know by now you cannot judge a book by its cover. How many times has someone touched you and made you feel different about them instantly? Well there you go! Get out there and MEET it doesn’t mean you’re going to shag unless you both consent! Profiles are a guide not as an instruction manual! They give a heads up to what is being searched for, better than finding someone on the street in person etc. |
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over a year ago
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that "
I'm a single guy & sent out a few messages but not had always had replies, but there again the few that have replied said No !!! So it works for both sexes |
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
I do meet other ladies alone, although I'm not looking to meet at the moment.
From my perspective, the fact that it's unclear exactly what the dynamics would be, would concern me.
I would clarify exactly what you're looking for and also recommend you try clubs. We find clubs are the best option for meeting.
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view."
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"We have been on fab now from the beginning of the year and we are finding it challenging to find a female, either unicorn or part of couple for me, female of couple to play with. Anyone else have issues? "
We also have the same problem ... looking for the same 
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Honestly it’s the same every time these threads appear, couples refuse to listen to anyone not also a couple, the irony is nuts. Just watch, someone will shred you too pretty quickly "
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"Kinkycream you are definitely lucky. I have just felt a little disheartened by it all. Fingers crossed I’ll find a gorgeous female to play with for my own pleasure "
OP, please don't take this the wrong way, but perhaps think about rewording your request? Saying that YOU want a female to play with for YOUR pleasure may make potential matches feel that you don't care about what they might want to get out of the encounter. How about rephrasing it that you are hoping to find a lady that would enjoy playing TOGETHER with you, for your MUTUAL excitement and pleasure? That your male partner could be available to join in if that is what SHE wants, but that it isn't obligatory and that you want HER to feel in control, you value HER desires and expectations? That she is not being regarded as a plaything for you, but as a unique person of enormous value. You are not doing HER a favour by ALLOWING her into your space for YOU to use. SHE is paying you an enormous compliment by choosing to join you when there are many other couples that she could choose to be with.
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over a year ago
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Honestly it’s the same every time these threads appear, couples refuse to listen to anyone not also a couple, the irony is nuts. Just watch, someone will shred you too pretty quickly
Agree. Couples telling single women how they should think and feel! "
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Honestly it’s the same every time these threads appear, couples refuse to listen to anyone not also a couple, the irony is nuts. Just watch, someone will shred you too pretty quickly
Agree. Couples telling single women how they should think and feel! "
I think you've completely missed the point at no point has anyone told anyone how they should think or feel. We were simply expressing how we felt that sweeping statements and the use of words such as hunted are unfair and we explained why. We also acknowledge d that not everyone was respectful. Equally we havent been dismissive of feelings as aside of agreeing with a shopping comment and stating thats why ALL females dont meet no actual feelings were expressed. Everyone men women and couples have the right to express their views on here! |
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"You all sound like your going to Aldi
Which is why all us single women don’t meet them, yet try explaining that
Slightly sweeping statement.. not all single women dont meet because they feel like they are being "shopped" for. its not about shopping for women. If you're in a couple its about seeking out those that may fit the dynamic of your couple the best on a social and sexual level.. its no different to single women "looking" or anyone else on this site for that matter.. everyone is here looking for something or someone so to suggest that is the reason women dont meet we think is a little inaccurate
There should be a like button for comments. But as there isn't I'll just say well said!
Agreed with what you said, that’s why there are filter’s for messages and others! Some girls state in their profile that they want meet couples, so it wouldn’t make sense if they are not up to it, right?
Exactly this. If they put this in their profile is it not appropriate to message through fear of being accused of hunting or shopping for them. This to us is a ridiculous statement. We accept that some aren't respectful about it but that doenst go for everyone. If we dont want to be approached we would state on pur profile or block that genre from contacting us. We just felt these comments were a little unfair towards us respectful non pushy couples who take the time to read profiles etc before contacting xx
Notice, it is all the couples that are agreeing. A single female wrote how she felt and you all are basically being dismissive, which is what she actually said in her comment. Try looking at it from a single females point of view.
Honestly it’s the same every time these threads appear, couples refuse to listen to anyone not also a couple, the irony is nuts. Just watch, someone will shred you too pretty quickly
Agree. Couples telling single women how they should think and feel!
Apparently if we’re not specifically looking for couples, our options are moot, I gave up trying to help or explain, they didn’t appreciate it at all"
Im not sure anyone on this forum actually said that did they?
All be it at the time of writing your first post on here you were searching for a sub (according to your status) or should we saying shopping for one or hunting one? Our point was simply that people are all here looking for something or someone and that doesnt mean they are shopping or hunting or are predatory in anyway, searching and making initial contact is simply a way of working out if people are on the same wavelength, unless what you are saying is single women should never be approached and should only be the ones allowed to do the approaching?? |
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I’m a single woman and I play with woman alone and couples but I’d find your profile confusing.
I don’t want your fella present if he’s not playing. I’m not a performing seal for him to sit wanking in the corner. I would be on edge about whether he is or isn’t going to join in.
If he’s not going to be present and it’s just fem then now I’m concerned that actually it’s all rubbish and I’d arrange to meet you and ta da here’s my fella because he’s just making sure I’m safe, he decided to come along to meet you, he was in the area etc etc
If you want to meet fem alone then use your single girl profile to do it is my advice. |
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I've been on both sides as a "third" joining a couple and now in a couple.
I think part of the issue is the number of couples looking for women is far higher than the number of women looking.
Then when you add those who are straight (when you want female play), location of everyone... well, it makes a very small number of women who may want to play.
It is just the way it is.
We've had luck finding a third elsewhere but its always nice to meet new people!
Ps please dont be offended at the word "third" it is to save me writing a big description each time
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"I’m a single woman and I play with woman alone and couples but I’d find your profile confusing.
I don’t want your fella present if he’s not playing. I’m not a performing seal for him to sit wanking in the corner. I would be on edge about whether he is or isn’t going to join in.
If he’s not going to be present and it’s just fem then now I’m concerned that actually it’s all rubbish and I’d arrange to meet you and ta da here’s my fella because he’s just making sure I’m safe, he decided to come along to meet you, he was in the area etc etc
If you want to meet fem alone then use your single girl profile to do it is my advice. "
Very much agree!
OP, I am not really the demographic you're looking for as I don't currently meet couples, due to too many bad experiences in the past. 99% of the time, despite great chats beforehand, setting boundaries etc, I ended up with a "pillow princess" who expected me to pleasure her with nothing in return or just to be fucked by her partner instead of all having mutual play as agreed. So nowadays I only play bi in clubs, when the opportunity arises.
What is more, couples usually put single ladies through way too many hoops before even arranging the meet- I get that you need to be cautious about any potential fake profiles, but if someone is well verified, has some pics on their profile, then some level of trust should be established.
Now going specifically to the OP: I have not looked at your photos but I did read your profile text. As I am "on the bigger side", you'd probably class me as "not looking after my body well enough" for you to be interested in meeting. I am not criticising that you have standards, great, we all need them. What you need on your profile is adding about the lady's experience with her bi side, it would be helpful, as well as how exactly the man is going to be involved (if at all).
One more thing, OP- most of the time, single women look at profiles in "ninja" mode, therefore won't be showing on "who looked at me" list. It's just easier that way. |
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"I’m a single woman and I play with woman alone and couples but I’d find your profile confusing.
I don’t want your fella present if he’s not playing. I’m not a performing seal for him to sit wanking in the corner. I would be on edge about whether he is or isn’t going to join in.
If he’s not going to be present and it’s just fem then now I’m concerned that actually it’s all rubbish and I’d arrange to meet you and ta da here’s my fella because he’s just making sure I’m safe, he decided to come along to meet you, he was in the area etc etc
If you want to meet fem alone then use your single girl profile to do it is my advice.
Very much agree!
OP, I am not really the demographic you're looking for as I don't currently meet couples, due to too many bad experiences in the past. 99% of the time, despite great chats beforehand, setting boundaries etc, I ended up with a "pillow princess" who expected me to pleasure her with nothing in return or just to be fucked by her partner instead of all having mutual play as agreed. So nowadays I only play bi in clubs, when the opportunity arises.
What is more, couples usually put single ladies through way too many hoops before even arranging the meet- I get that you need to be cautious about any potential fake profiles, but if someone is well verified, has some pics on their profile, then some level of trust should be established.
Now going specifically to the OP: I have not looked at your photos but I did read your profile text. As I am "on the bigger side", you'd probably class me as "not looking after my body well enough" for you to be interested in meeting. I am not criticising that you have standards, great, we all need them. What you need on your profile is adding about the lady's experience with her bi side, it would be helpful, as well as how exactly the man is going to be involved (if at all).
One more thing, OP- most of the time, single women look at profiles in "ninja" mode, therefore won't be showing on "who looked at me" list. It's just easier that way. "
Totally off topic but what is this ninja mode you speak of please?
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"I’m a single woman and I play with woman alone and couples but I’d find your profile confusing.
I don’t want your fella present if he’s not playing. I’m not a performing seal for him to sit wanking in the corner. I would be on edge about whether he is or isn’t going to join in.
If he’s not going to be present and it’s just fem then now I’m concerned that actually it’s all rubbish and I’d arrange to meet you and ta da here’s my fella because he’s just making sure I’m safe, he decided to come along to meet you, he was in the area etc etc
If you want to meet fem alone then use your single girl profile to do it is my advice.
Very much agree!
OP, I am not really the demographic you're looking for as I don't currently meet couples, due to too many bad experiences in the past. 99% of the time, despite great chats beforehand, setting boundaries etc, I ended up with a "pillow princess" who expected me to pleasure her with nothing in return or just to be fucked by her partner instead of all having mutual play as agreed. So nowadays I only play bi in clubs, when the opportunity arises.
What is more, couples usually put single ladies through way too many hoops before even arranging the meet- I get that you need to be cautious about any potential fake profiles, but if someone is well verified, has some pics on their profile, then some level of trust should be established.
Now going specifically to the OP: I have not looked at your photos but I did read your profile text. As I am "on the bigger side", you'd probably class me as "not looking after my body well enough" for you to be interested in meeting. I am not criticising that you have standards, great, we all need them. What you need on your profile is adding about the lady's experience with her bi side, it would be helpful, as well as how exactly the man is going to be involved (if at all).
One more thing, OP- most of the time, single women look at profiles in "ninja" mode, therefore won't be showing on "who looked at me" list. It's just easier that way.
Totally off topic but what is this ninja mode you speak of please?
MrsAbz"
You can hide your profile from the who's looked at you section so it doesn't show on people's lists, we have this on all the time, always in ninja mode.
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"I’m a single woman and I play with woman alone and couples but I’d find your profile confusing.
I don’t want your fella present if he’s not playing. I’m not a performing seal for him to sit wanking in the corner. I would be on edge about whether he is or isn’t going to join in.
If he’s not going to be present and it’s just fem then now I’m concerned that actually it’s all rubbish and I’d arrange to meet you and ta da here’s my fella because he’s just making sure I’m safe, he decided to come along to meet you, he was in the area etc etc
If you want to meet fem alone then use your single girl profile to do it is my advice.
Very much agree!
OP, I am not really the demographic you're looking for as I don't currently meet couples, due to too many bad experiences in the past. 99% of the time, despite great chats beforehand, setting boundaries etc, I ended up with a "pillow princess" who expected me to pleasure her with nothing in return or just to be fucked by her partner instead of all having mutual play as agreed. So nowadays I only play bi in clubs, when the opportunity arises.
What is more, couples usually put single ladies through way too many hoops before even arranging the meet- I get that you need to be cautious about any potential fake profiles, but if someone is well verified, has some pics on their profile, then some level of trust should be established.
Now going specifically to the OP: I have not looked at your photos but I did read your profile text. As I am "on the bigger side", you'd probably class me as "not looking after my body well enough" for you to be interested in meeting. I am not criticising that you have standards, great, we all need them. What you need on your profile is adding about the lady's experience with her bi side, it would be helpful, as well as how exactly the man is going to be involved (if at all).
One more thing, OP- most of the time, single women look at profiles in "ninja" mode, therefore won't be showing on "who looked at me" list. It's just easier that way.
Totally off topic but what is this ninja mode you speak of please?
MrsAbz
You can hide your profile from the who's looked at you section so it doesn't show on people's lists, we have this on all the time, always in ninja mode.
Mrs "
I did not know this! Thank you
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"I’m a single woman and I play with woman alone and couples but I’d find your profile confusing.
I don’t want your fella present if he’s not playing. I’m not a performing seal for him to sit wanking in the corner. I would be on edge about whether he is or isn’t going to join in.
If he’s not going to be present and it’s just fem then now I’m concerned that actually it’s all rubbish and I’d arrange to meet you and ta da here’s my fella because he’s just making sure I’m safe, he decided to come along to meet you, he was in the area etc etc
If you want to meet fem alone then use your single girl profile to do it is my advice.
Very much agree!
OP, I am not really the demographic you're looking for as I don't currently meet couples, due to too many bad experiences in the past. 99% of the time, despite great chats beforehand, setting boundaries etc, I ended up with a "pillow princess" who expected me to pleasure her with nothing in return or just to be fucked by her partner instead of all having mutual play as agreed. So nowadays I only play bi in clubs, when the opportunity arises.
What is more, couples usually put single ladies through way too many hoops before even arranging the meet- I get that you need to be cautious about any potential fake profiles, but if someone is well verified, has some pics on their profile, then some level of trust should be established.
Now going specifically to the OP: I have not looked at your photos but I did read your profile text. As I am "on the bigger side", you'd probably class me as "not looking after my body well enough" for you to be interested in meeting. I am not criticising that you have standards, great, we all need them. What you need on your profile is adding about the lady's experience with her bi side, it would be helpful, as well as how exactly the man is going to be involved (if at all).
One more thing, OP- most of the time, single women look at profiles in "ninja" mode, therefore won't be showing on "who looked at me" list. It's just easier that way.
Totally off topic but what is this ninja mode you speak of please?
MrsAbz
You can hide your profile from the who's looked at you section so it doesn't show on people's lists, we have this on all the time, always in ninja mode.
Mrs
I did not know this! Thank you
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"I’m a single woman and I play with woman alone and couples but I’d find your profile confusing.
I don’t want your fella present if he’s not playing. I’m not a performing seal for him to sit wanking in the corner. I would be on edge about whether he is or isn’t going to join in.
If he’s not going to be present and it’s just fem then now I’m concerned that actually it’s all rubbish and I’d arrange to meet you and ta da here’s my fella because he’s just making sure I’m safe, he decided to come along to meet you, he was in the area etc etc
If you want to meet fem alone then use your single girl profile to do it is my advice.
Very much agree!
OP, I am not really the demographic you're looking for as I don't currently meet couples, due to too many bad experiences in the past. 99% of the time, despite great chats beforehand, setting boundaries etc, I ended up with a "pillow princess" who expected me to pleasure her with nothing in return or just to be fucked by her partner instead of all having mutual play as agreed. So nowadays I only play bi in clubs, when the opportunity arises.
What is more, couples usually put single ladies through way too many hoops before even arranging the meet- I get that you need to be cautious about any potential fake profiles, but if someone is well verified, has some pics on their profile, then some level of trust should be established.
Now going specifically to the OP: I have not looked at your photos but I did read your profile text. As I am "on the bigger side", you'd probably class me as "not looking after my body well enough" for you to be interested in meeting. I am not criticising that you have standards, great, we all need them. What you need on your profile is adding about the lady's experience with her bi side, it would be helpful, as well as how exactly the man is going to be involved (if at all).
One more thing, OP- most of the time, single women look at profiles in "ninja" mode, therefore won't be showing on "who looked at me" list. It's just easier that way.
Totally off topic but what is this ninja mode you speak of please?
MrsAbz
You can hide your profile from the who's looked at you section so it doesn't show on people's lists, we have this on all the time, always in ninja mode.
Mrs
I did not know this! Thank you
MrsAbz
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Thanks so much, I had no idea we could do that. Learn something new everyday
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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"Hi I was last on fab 5 years ago and had 2 meets in first week a f and mf couples
I've been back on 3 weeks and not had a sniff ..... Haha so feel free to change that ?? 34 Derbyshire here"
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