OK my last post went down like a lead balloon and then got deleted.
So I'll try this from a different angle.
I have a fwb who is very shy and is not body confident.
When we are together she is very kinky and loves the idea of being naked in public.
The problem comes from her ex husband who never said anything nice about her.
She wants to start swinging but is worried that if we go to a club or somewhere she will get bad comments.
And if she had a profile on here people would send her bad messages.
I told her people on here just say nice things.
So my question is, what advice would people give her please?
Thanks
And sorry if I came across as a bad person.
I just want to help her and give her a confidence boost. |
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There's people of all shapes and sizes she has no need to worry about a club environment, she needs to be ready in herself though, it's hard lacking confidence I'd say key is not to push it too much and maybe return to fab but use the message filters if your worried about bad messages.
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Unfortunately some people think it is ok to belittle others, even more so on line anonymously. However, the positive comments will outweigh the negative and that is what we need to remember when lacking in confidence. It’s easy to say though but in reality, it doesn’t work like that.
Best thing to do is talk to her, find out what she wants to do and build her trust in you first, not a world full of strangers |
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I have a real confidence issue with my body from the same thing only my exes run me down!!
When I joined fab I used it to face the fear n post headless pics of my body n cock to see what happened, I’m not gona say it’s gone 100 good coz that’s not true you get some bad comments/messages but you also get good ones
I’m sure your lady has a great body I’d be happy to chat insecurities if she wanted too |
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Talking about her reservations and worries online isn’t going to help her.
If she wants too, she can have a look herself. When she’s ready too. If she decides too.
Asking people to message for her photos and sharing her insecurities in forum posts isn’t helping anyone’s confidence. |
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Well I didn't see the previous one but based on this one I'll say 2 things:
- If she ever goes on cam here, her confidence will most likely just skyrocket if she can handle the amount of positive attention she'd get, so that might be an angle to give her a boost 
- The most beautiful woman in the Universe would get horrible things messaged to her on here based on her rejecting someone or, not replying in 5 seconds despite having a full inbox. Multiple forum threads show that a lot of times women on here get abuse for absolutely nonsensical reasons. With that said, that does not reflect her worth but rather how the person messaging abuse does not have any.
I'd say show her the possibilities, but at the end of the day, she must do what she feels comfortable with and know she has your support whichever she chooses to do. |
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Start by telling her that her worth shouldn't be based on how many men find her attractive. If she can find it in herself to like her body when *she* looks at it rather than because men like it she's on the road to true body confidence. On fab she will get almost 100% compliments but while well intentioned they're no substitute for true self worth. If you really want to help her support her in building her self esteem . |
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"OK my last post went down like a lead balloon and then got deleted.
So I'll try this from a different angle.
I have a fwb who is very shy and is not body confident.
When we are together she is very kinky and loves the idea of being naked in public.
The problem comes from her ex husband who never said anything nice about her.
She wants to start swinging but is worried that if we go to a club or somewhere she will get bad comments.
And if she had a profile on here people would send her bad messages.
I told her people on here just say nice things.
So my question is, what advice would people give her please?
Thanks
And sorry if I came across as a bad person.
I just want to help her and give her a confidence boost. "
If she had a profile on here she would get some bad messages. Everyone does. She would also get nice messages.
I would advise you both to check out the club's dress policy before you go. She should find something she feels really comfortable and happy in.  People of all shapes sizes and ages go to clubs.
You didn't come across as a bad person. You clearly care about her. 
But some men share pics of women without their consent. We have no way of knowing if she gave consent unless she posts them herself.
Good luck.
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