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Offended by a wink?Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at all - I just don't take any notice of them anymore.
Lost count of the number of times I've messaged someone who's winked at me, only to be completely ignored |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No offence taken, they don’t really mean anything to me.
They are a little pointless "
Sorry, I disagree. I know some see it as lazy, but it is an unoffensive way of showing interest. I find sometimes when you message, then an offence is taken, even when you mention something in their bio. |
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No.
I may ignore, or look at the profile and block, but that doesn't mean I'm offended.
I ignore because I never respond to winks.
If I look and find a profile where I'd never choose to interact with them in a million years, I'll block. That's not the wink, though, it's me becoming aware of a profile I don't want to interact with. |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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Generally no but sometimes I’ll put on my profile specifically saying dms no winks to see if they actually read, when I do that I’ll ignore winks as much as they ignored my profile
It’s never offensive though |
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By *ent57Man
over a year ago
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... no, don't object ... it can just indicate that the person's a bit shy and doesn't know how to break the ice, I'll either respond or politely ignore them - no harm done. They're always welcome  |
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I think OP meant random winks in public? If that's the case, no I don't get offended. But it does make me feel a bit awkward.
On here though, I welcome winks and send them. We have on our profile that a wink shows interest and we'll wink back if there's mutual interest. Wouldn't send one to anyone who states on their profile that winks mean nothing to them or they never check them. Then it's straight to message.
Beth x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not offended but I do wonder about some of them ,ie the other end of the country or not what I'm after ie I had one recently from a woman."
On mobile wink is next to hotlist, I may have hit the wrong button once or twice  |
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Not at all.
Naturally they may not be for us or we're just not in a place where we are looking to meet new people at that time. If so generally we won't wink back or message back. But that's not because we're offended and also doesn't necessarily mean we're not attracted to them. I really can't see how anyone would be offended? |
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I prefer a wink as I get to check out the profile and see if there is a mutual interest.
However, I have also blocked people who winked because we have no compatibility and completely opposite views or go against what I'm looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need to be winked at first to determine whether I will be offended!
But in all seriousness no, it is a good chance to look at their profile and see if you think you might be interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you offended if someone winks randomly at you,TIAXx"
Not sure how you could be offended?
I take it as a " hi, you look good ". I only get about 3 a year.... So If I did take offence I'd soon forget!  |
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I’m always unsure what to do with winks. I generally get them off of people who say on their profiles that I’m not what they’re looking for….
So if I don’t match your “looking for” but you wink or fab, does that mean you want to chat?
Just message me! |
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How could anyone be offended, I take it as a compliment even if it's from a gay or bisexual man who I'm never going to meet. I wish they were used more, I have no problem with writing someone a nice decent and respectful message but it would be nice to know that they liked my profile enough to be happy to receive a message from me. It gets a bit disheartening writing personalised messages that are ignored so greater use of winks would stop my time being wasted and any disinterested recipient from having their mailbox clogged up with messages they are never going to read. |
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I'm not offended by them but then again I rarely look at them. Last time I did there were some from weeks before that I hadn't noticed.
I never respond to them unless it's someone I'm already chatting to.
Random friend requests are more annoying and I don't accept any of those either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope I used to think they were lazy but I love a wink now. Shows your interest without being intrusive. "
Thats why i use em as to not just fill up people inbox if im not what they are looking for... only to find out people dont look at winks lol. Cant win on here |
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The question for us is, should we respond with a message or a wink back, is a wink back alone lazy?
The other issue is the occasional accidental wink, we’ve done that a couple of times, maybe thats why some get a wink and block, the winker panics  |
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