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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends really, we tend to only be that comfortable with each other. Takes a lot of trust to let someone dominate you and boss you around.
I definitely prefer T being in control and doing what he wants with me. Luckily that’s how he prefers it too 
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We live in a female led relationship. mark is naturally dominant and previously lived in a bdsm relationship as a Dom. However he has chosen to submit to me. He admitted that he had always been looking for the right woman to submit to but thought he would never find her.
I am dominant and don’t switch or sub but can play as an equal.
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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I found OPs question opaque, is he enquiring about swinger D/s, D/s BDSM style, and or topping and bottoming?
I know there are people that get upset by labels, however I find them a good initial guide into which detail is added.
My understanding of BDSM D/s is it's relationship based, there are obligations of all kinds (including) support on both sides. It is far more nuanced than telling people what to do. It exists beyond the bedroom and the sexual. Usually, there will be bdsm skills involved although it can be service orientated.
However swinger D/s does not seem to be relationship based but based on a temporary "connection". It seems to me about telling people what to do within the confines of the bedroom and is firmly sex based. Any other bdsm skills is an added extra.
Topping and bottoming you know about or can Google.
I am not kink shaming but in my view the three broad types of control (and there others such as "Gorean") are very different in terms of psychological control and surrender. As an example someone mentioned a female lead relationship I would suggest that type of control and surrender is very different from a Mistress/sl#ve relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Prefer to be in control with cuffs & blindfold,cuffs attached from bedroom ceiling to tease a guys body before releasing him after ten minutes to attend to my body. |
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I’m a switch and enjoy experimenting and experiences. It varies too with scenario.
Wife is more sub and I’m more naturally dom
Meeting a female that’s more mature I would prefer sub and I equally enjoy being dom for younger or those dabbling their toe in. As you need a connection to truly be a good dom and stretch their needs
If meeting a couple or exploring bi side preference would be sub…
But bdsm is something I enjoy but not a necessity |
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"I found OPs question opaque, is he enquiring about swinger D/s, D/s BDSM style, and or topping and bottoming?
I know there are people that get upset by labels, however I find them a good initial guide into which detail is added.
My understanding of BDSM D/s is it's relationship based, there are obligations of all kinds (including) support on both sides. It is far more nuanced than telling people what to do. It exists beyond the bedroom and the sexual. Usually, there will be bdsm skills involved although it can be service orientated.
However swinger D/s does not seem to be relationship based but based on a temporary "connection". It seems to me about telling people what to do within the confines of the bedroom and is firmly sex based. Any other bdsm skills is an added extra.
Topping and bottoming you know about or can Google.
I am not kink shaming but in my view the three broad types of control (and there others such as "Gorean") are very different in terms of psychological control and surrender. As an example someone mentioned a female lead relationship I would suggest that type of control and surrender is very different from a Mistress/sl#ve relationship.
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We live in a female led relationship. This is bdsm based 24/7. It’s is sometimes called domestic discipline. This is definitely not play and yes he’s not my sl.ve |
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