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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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No it isn't rude
Most of the time people haven't read my profile so why should I reply?.
If I get a good message where they've read my profile & made am effort ,I'll reply (it's v rare).
No reply is a reply. |
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"Is it rude and ignorant not to reply to messages. Takes 2 seconds to type no thanks "
Do you reply to every single spam email or brochure that comes through your letter box, OP?
Also, FAQ on this site does state no reply= no, thanks. Plus, answering "no, thanks" or similar leads, in many cases, to abuse, pleading, or "why not?" messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No its not rude, what is rude is the 99% of people who message without reading your profile. This is why I have guy blocked from messaging first most of the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude and ignorant not to reply to messages. Takes 2 seconds to type no thanks "
It wouldn't have taken much longer than that to read the site FAQs... |
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No. Don’t think it’s rude at all.
Takes 2 seconds to reply no thanks, now times that by 400 a day.
If every single person in my inbox had took the time to read my profile and acted accordingly, I’d spare them a polite no thanks. But the reality is 99.9% of my inbox haven’t read my profile so why should I be polite if they aren’t?
The site FAQ’s state no reply = no thank you. Maybe check out a different site if you don’t like how this one works.
No one owes anyone a reply. |
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"No. Don’t think it’s rude at all.
Takes 2 seconds to reply no thanks, now times that by 400 a day.
If every single person in my inbox had took the time to read my profile and acted accordingly, I’d spare them a polite no thanks. But the reality is 99.9% of my inbox haven’t read my profile so why should I be polite if they aren’t?
The site FAQ’s state no reply = no thank you. Maybe check out a different site if you don’t like how this one works.
No one owes
anyone a reply. "
Fair point, but do you read every message, maybe the ones you do read deserve a reply |
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"Strange that every answer on this question is from a woman. What do you men think
Read what the women say!
So is it just women who don't reply?? Don't think so"
The rules work both ways! Quite simple read the rules |
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"Read the site rules. No reply = not interested.
No one owes a reply to an unsolicited message. "
I guess a huge number of blokes send unsolicited messages.
God knows why they do. Have they not at some stage ever read that women get inundated with illiterate one liners most of the time and, very occasionally, something more substantial from a bloke who might actually have bothered reading the woman's profile and requirements?
In fact, have I never realised that this is probably the number one gripe aired on these pages and why am I even wasting my time commenting? |
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"No. Don’t think it’s rude at all.
Takes 2 seconds to reply no thanks, now times that by 400 a day.
If every single person in my inbox had took the time to read my profile and acted accordingly, I’d spare them a polite no thanks. But the reality is 99.9% of my inbox haven’t read my profile so why should I be polite if they aren’t?
The site FAQ’s state no reply = no thank you. Maybe check out a different site if you don’t like how this one works.
No one owes
anyone a reply.
Fair point, but do you read every message, maybe the ones you do read deserve a reply "
Why do they “deserve” a reply?
As I said, I owe no one on here anything. No one deserves communication with another.
Very entitled attitude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Read the site rules. No reply = not interested.
No one owes a reply to an unsolicited message.
I guess a huge number of blokes send unsolicited messages.
God knows why they do. Have they not at some stage ever read that women get inundated with illiterate one liners most of the time and, very occasionally, something more substantial from a bloke who might actually have bothered reading the woman's profile and requirements?
In fact, have I never realised that this is probably the number one gripe aired on these pages and why am I even wasting my time commenting?"
Scroll back up the thread and the irony of this thread is right there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You should read the site FAQ's OP. It's been covered there - and regularly on the forums too.
Simple answer is 'No', it isn't.
Do you phone up all the takeaways that post their menus through your door just to tell them that you're not interested?
No, didn't think so.
You didn't ask them to post them through your door, and the people you're messaging haven't asked you to contact them.
Site rules are that a non-reply should be taken as a 'no, thank you' |
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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago
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It’s not rude at all nobody forces you to message them. Sometimes people don’t like being told no and send abuse or keep messaging trying to get you to change your mind.
If it bothers you that people don’t reply you should either stop sending messages or man up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude and ignorant not to reply to messages. Takes 2 seconds to type no thanks "
Women her upto 400 emails the first week and that's without posting a pic. My ex used to get that many with a basic profile |
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"Strange that every answer on this question is from a woman. What do you men think
Read what the women say!
So is it just women who don't reply?? Don't think so
The rules work both ways! Quite simple read the rules "
This bloke understands, listen to him.
If you got the messages women and couples get you'd not reply either.
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No its not rude, I (the male) do most of the messaging and if we aren't interested we don't reply. Fab is for fun, its not a job and I'm not going to sit and reply to every one, especially if its clear they haven't read our profile. |
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"Read the site rules. No reply = not interested.
No one owes a reply to an unsolicited message.
I guess a huge number of blokes send unsolicited messages.
God knows why they do. Have they not at some stage ever read that women get inundated with illiterate one liners most of the time and, very occasionally, something more substantial from a bloke who might actually have bothered reading the woman's profile and requirements?
In fact, have I never realised that this is probably the number one gripe aired on these pages and why am I even wasting my time commenting?"
This is the only site that it happens on regularly. I'm on other sites where I always get a response. Maybe because this is a free site and attracts that kind of person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No answer is an answer.
I like that reply,
Very true, but I would prefer if they deleted the message then I know I'm not for there liking,
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If they haven't replied then you already know that. Deleting your message won't change anything. |
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"Did you read the site FAQs OP?
Read and understood, doesn't make it right though "
When we kids used to say "It's not fair", my dad used to say "Nothing's fair in this life".
Same goes for Fab but at least they post the rules even if nobody believes the rules are for them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Read the site rules. No reply = not interested.
No one owes a reply to an unsolicited message.
I guess a huge number of blokes send unsolicited messages.
God knows why they do. Have they not at some stage ever read that women get inundated with illiterate one liners most of the time and, very occasionally, something more substantial from a bloke who might actually have bothered reading the woman's profile and requirements?
In fact, have I never realised that this is probably the number one gripe aired on these pages and why am I even wasting my time commenting?
This is the only site that it happens on regularly. I'm on other sites where I always get a response. Maybe because this is a free site and attracts that kind of person "
Maybe it's not for you then. Especially if it's populated by, as you put it, "those kind of people", and you're unhappy with how the site operates. Why would you bother when you can happily get "no thanks" messages all day long on other sites? |
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"Read the site rules. No reply = not interested.
No one owes a reply to an unsolicited message.
I guess a huge number of blokes send unsolicited messages.
God knows why they do. Have they not at some stage ever read that women get inundated with illiterate one liners most of the time and, very occasionally, something more substantial from a bloke who might actually have bothered reading the woman's profile and requirements?
In fact, have I never realised that this is probably the number one gripe aired on these pages and why am I even wasting my time commenting?
This is the only site that it happens on regularly. I'm on other sites where I always get a response. Maybe because this is a free site and attracts that kind of person
Maybe it's not for you then. Especially if it's populated by, as you put it, "those kind of people", and you're unhappy with how the site operates. Why would you bother when you can happily get "no thanks" messages all day long on other sites?"
I’m on loads of other sites, sex sites swinging sites and vanilla dating sites- I act the same on all.
The attitude of, because you’ve paid for it you deserve replies is terrifying!
Just like men who lay club entry so expect to get laid!
That message just makes me wanna avoid those sites! Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s not rude at all nobody forces you to message them. Sometimes people don’t like being told no and send abuse or keep messaging trying to get you to change your mind.
If it bothers you that people don’t reply you should either stop sending messages or man up. 
I'm never abusive never have been j   "
Most aren't until they've been told no thanks. There's no way to know how someone will respond to rejection until you reject them and by then it's too late |
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"The fact so many people on here have answered your question with a "NO" and you're still here arguing. Is exactly why people don't reply to messages."
This ^^^ 100%
I used to reply to say, sorry not for me but good luck fabbing etc, but that just led to either abuse or "why not, I'm the best you'll ever have please give me a chance, my tongue has won awards blah blah"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Copied from the Faq's here .........
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? |
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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago
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"It’s not rude at all nobody forces you to message them. Sometimes people don’t like being told no and send abuse or keep messaging trying to get you to change your mind.
If it bothers you that people don’t reply you should either stop sending messages or man up.
I'm never abusive never have been j "
How are we meant to know that they are going to act this way if we send them a simple no thanks it’s only after the rejection that they send the abuse. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"The fact so many people on here have answered your question with a "NO" and you're still here arguing. Is exactly why people don't reply to messages."
Spot on .you say no ta and get well why not,or abuse. |
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I always sent a short, polite message, some reply, some don't....don't get hung up on it!! The ladies in particular get bombarded with literally 100's of messages which would take an absolute age to reply to.
Take a "no reply" as a "no thank you" and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right now we have 114 unread messages in our inbox. We don’t have time to reply to every single message, particularly the ones that just say hi. We have a life away from here and that takes priority |
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Well thanks for the advice. If everyone kept to the rules there would be no abuse,so rules will always be broken. I do take on everything that's been said and appreciate the feedback. Off to dogging action now for some No Thanks replies  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Read the site rules. No reply = not interested.
No one owes a reply to an unsolicited message.
I guess a huge number of blokes send unsolicited messages.
God knows why they do. Have they not at some stage ever read that women get inundated with illiterate one liners most of the time and, very occasionally, something more substantial from a bloke who might actually have bothered reading the woman's profile and requirements?
In fact, have I never realised that this is probably the number one gripe aired on these pages and why am I even wasting my time commenting?
This is the only site that it happens on regularly. I'm on other sites where I always get a response. Maybe because this is a free site and attracts that kind of person "
The kind of person that chooses to ignore reasons, instead still demanding everyone behave to suit him?
Yeah, it seems to attract those.
For the record, we do reply to nearly all.
There's an occasion when we don't.
I agree, it would be better if people drew a line under it by replying with a no thank you, though that would also mean everyone responding the same, polite way once they've received that.
Too often, it's not accepted, with either an abusive response or a plea on why they should do things to suit them.
Similar to this thread.
If you want polite manners and respect, be sure to behave the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't reply to messages I'm not intrested in (it is infact 99% of messages) because if they message again in a few months time it shows we haven't chatted before |
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"Strange that every answer on this question is from a woman. What do you men think "
As the male half of the couple absolutely not. If we message and don’t get a reply then that’s the end of it. If they haven’t seen our message and come across it later then they will reply if they want to. Other than that no reply is an answer. don’t pester don’t abuse just move along  |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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no op it not rude ...simply put nobody owes you anything no reply no answer no freebee no sex on a plate ...the scene is built on sexual attraction and rejection and with the massive unbalance % wise thats alot of unhappy men ...
its ascene where there is NOT someone for everyone not by a million miles..
good luck tho some make it work |
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"no op it not rude ...simply put nobody owes you anything no reply no answer no freebee no sex on a plate ...the scene is built on sexual attraction and rejection and with the massive unbalance % wise thats alot of unhappy men ...
its ascene where there is NOT someone for everyone not by a million miles..
good luck tho some make it work "
Thanks for that I'll just be nice and hope for the best,or maybe a shag |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Nope I don't think it's rude at all not to reply. And that includes to messages that I send first.
I personally no longer reply to anyone who sends me messages I don't like, or if they haven't read my profile,cheated through my filters or I just don't like their profile. And I don't care if they think it is rude if I'm being honest,as I don't want to interact with them. It's also why I have filters very tight so I don't get many messages on here which is the way I prefer it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have now been put in my place and will definitely have a different attitude about this subject. Good on all of you to enlighten me xx"
Thats a reasonable response OP
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"I have now been put in my place and will definitely have a different attitude about this subject. Good on all of you to enlighten me xx
Thats a reasonable response OP
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I'm trying and I do listen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have now been put in my place and will definitely have a different attitude about this subject. Good on all of you to enlighten me xx"
It can be difficult for all here, from different angles.
Looking at our inbox at times, I feel men have it easier. |
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"I have now been put in my place and will definitely have a different attitude about this subject. Good on all of you to enlighten me xx
It can be difficult for all here, from different angles.
Looking at our inbox at times, I feel men have it easier. "
Maybe,men just have hard dicks that don't think. I'm realising how picky you couples and single ladies have to be there is a lot of idiots on here.good wishes |
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"Brutal on here at times….. maybe it's you
And thanks for your private message…. Very mature…
You are the idiot!!"
Mate take it as it’s meant with the humour attached…. Maybe you should have started the thread with I fought in the war and I at least expect a reply….. |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
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In general if somebody answers, it leads to continued chat. I've done it myself. The other person/s may not want it so are forced to block. If there is no reply and you forgot you messaged them before then a warning comes up to let you know. Helps you to not repeat message people who clearly have no interest. |
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"Brutal on here at times….. maybe it's you
And thanks for your private message…. Very mature…
You are the idiot!!
Mate take it as it’s meant with the humour attached…. Maybe you should have started the thread with I fought in the war and I at least expect a reply….."
Nothing to do with the war, you told me to Man up, I replied. What have you done for anyone? |
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"Is it rude and ignorant not to reply to messages. Takes 2 seconds to type no thanks "
I don't think so.... is it rude to message someone without reading their profile first and ensuring that you match what they're looking for? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did you read the site FAQs OP?
Read and understood, doesn't make it right though "
would you prefer the block button instead so you couldn't continue to perve? |
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"Read the site rules. No reply = not interested.
No one owes a reply to an unsolicited message. "
If messages are not answered its an answer.
Chances are the person not replying can tell you are looking for something they don't want from you.
The mistake many seem to make here is seeing the pictures and asking for what they want, never mind what the person with the photos wants.
No reply means no thankyou. |
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"Strange that every answer on this question is from a woman. What do you men think "
Male half of couple here.
As others have stated it is not rude to not reply to unsolicited messages.
No reply = no thanks, that's it no further action required.
Interesting messages from people who have obviously read our profile will always get a reply (very few on here)
Lazy one liners from people who have obviously not got past the first line of the profile get binned (by far the vast majority on here)
So if it is rude not to reply, then it must be equally as rude to send a message without taking the time to read the profile first. Cuts both ways.
Now I'll just get back to deleting all those messages asking us for a private meet in Tenerife.
If you read the profile you will understand.
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"Is it rude and ignorant not to reply to messages. Takes 2 seconds to type no thanks "
do you reply back to every piece of junk mail you receive at home ?
I’m sure you don’t so here isn’t any different .
I never understand why guys want a not thanks reply when a no reply tells you the same thing anyway . |
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"I have now been put in my place and will definitely have a different attitude about this subject. Good on all of you to enlighten me xx
It can be difficult for all here, from different angles.
Looking at our inbox at times, I feel men have it easier.
Maybe,men just have hard dicks that don't think. I'm realising how picky you couples and single ladies have to be there is a lot of idiots on here.good wishes "
There really is, and not all one gender, though some might have you believing otherwise.
If willing to meet Men, that can be easy to find a meet, amongst the much wasted time.
However, seeking only Women or Couples, that proves to be more difficult for the majority.
Men assume that because we have had meets, that it's easy for us, it isn't, we've had meets with them but not yet managed a couple or woman.
It's no easier for us, as it is for anyone willing to meet men.
Difference is, we receive a lot more messages, a lot more pointless messages, many more negative responses.
That's the reality of it.
Understanding anothers perspective is a step closer to understanding how to find what you seek.
Good luck with your search. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I think it's a good idea for a thread to be closed early.
OP has listened up and beginning to understand, yet there are many responses still aimed towards the initial post rather than the conclusion.
OP, this comes up often, people bite, you've learned, ignore any response that has missed your update. |
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"Brutal on here at times….. maybe it's you
And thanks for your private message…. Very mature…
You are the idiot!!"
From your own post a little further back; "I'm never abusive never have been......." |
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