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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?
Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female
This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Something along similar lines.
People who are on as "a couple", but somehow there's only ever the fella online at any given time. Who wants to meet you 1st without "his partner" to vet you. Which seems to be over 50% of "couples"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.
If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.
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Basically the same here, people that don’t read profiles. The classic “hey sexy” opening line, whilst very flattering, does tend to get an instant block. I think our profile is quite straightforward and whilst there are some subtleties ( I let references to Hay as my wife slide) if you can’t read the most obvious bits then I don’t think you’re going to pass muster in the flesh.
The other is very long, clever and obviously copypasta opening messages. Particularly when second messages fail spectacularly. I do wonder when Fab will introduce a special tier with built in ChatGPT message creation! |
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"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses "
Quite keen to see action photos/videos, although rather suspect if it’s not backed up with verifications |
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By *t0600Man
over a year ago
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"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses
Quite keen to see action photos/videos, although rather suspect if it’s not backed up with verifications"
Yeah I get that . But interesting to see someone else who sees it as a positive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.
If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.
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Love this. I do love seeing a nice big exhaust pipe but looking at the handlebars and fuel tank is always nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something along similar lines.
People who are on as "a couple", but somehow there's only ever the fella online at any given time. Who wants to meet you 1st without "his partner" to vet you. Which seems to be over 50% of "couples" "
I understand why a guy would want to meet a dude before he lets him have some fun with his wife/partner |
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"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.
If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.
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Absolutely! |
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"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?
Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female
This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "
Ours is them not reading the profile and sending a message. I can tell because in my profile I ask them to include a particular subject. If it isn't there, I don't even read the mail, I just delete it. |
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Was talking to a fella who was part of a couple. All was good messages and phone chat etc. date arranged to meet at their house.
Then the bombshell. They wanted £75 paid in advance to cover costs.
Reported and blocked. |
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Not reading/only dick pics or asking for fun straight away !! but a fair few couples are just bad if not worse than some males and some males are 100% taken of advantage of and should remember the maxim ..If it seems to good to be true...xxx  |
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"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.
If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.
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Love this |
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By *andN2Couple
over a year ago
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1. Dick pic
2. Messaging our couples profile to meet Nat alone.
3. Not reading profile
4. Un-meet-verified folk messaging
5. Abusive messages if we don’t reply
Take your pic lol all an instant turn off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What does appeal to us, is someone that's put in a similar effort into their profile as we have, someone that reads our profile and therefore already having some answers that many ask in the first few messages, having atv least a sight understanding of our dynamics and knowing who they are likely to be chatting with, via message.
I appreciate it seems like hard work reading profiles and sending a fitting message, but ask yourselves ..... Are you here for an easy time, or a good time?
Even with our latest picture captioned that we're unavailable and will delete the picture when that changes, we still have (a lot less, but) too many asking to meet now.
The very first line on our profile explains it's Mr that messages, and still get too many messaging directly to Mrs.
So, for us, match our effort.
Create a profile to appeal and read ours, there's enough there to give insight into what we seek, before you decide whether or not to message.
We find the biggest time waster here is having to send many messages get the basic info that could have been expressed in an profile, making it easier to know whether or not to contact.
I feel a lot of near blank profiles complain about time wasters because they've chatted for a while before the other has ended the conversation.
You could save yourself time by sharing the basics in your profile, appealing to some, while others will know much sooner they're not interested.
Effort is sexy.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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NOT reading profile is my main peeve.
Second to that reading profile but still pushing your luck
Making up scenarios to get a response or a meet (had a guy make up a whe fake party just to get Mr over to his ....)
At the point where I have very little/no tolerance to deal with single males. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"NOT reading profile is my main peeve.
Second to that reading profile but still pushing your luck
Making up scenarios to get a response or a meet (had a guy make up a whole fake party just to get me over to his ....)
At the point where I have very little/no tolerance to deal with single males."
corrected typos ....
and in person the overly eager I know what I'm doing but really don't in person... |
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Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off. |
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"Something along similar lines.
People who are on as "a couple", but somehow there's only ever the fella online at any given time. Who wants to meet you 1st without "his partner" to vet you. Which seems to be over 50% of "couples"
I understand why a guy would want to meet a dude before he lets him have some fun with his wife/partner "
Let’s him? I’m not sure how other couples who meet single men do things and obviously each to their own but for us as I am the one playing then ultimately I am the one who decides who I play with. I can’t imagine sending my hubby out to meet a potential guy alone to decide whether I’m allowed to go ahead with things |
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Not reading my profile.
Namely, male halves of couples thinking they’ll be the exception to my “no couples” rule because they are well verified.
As a single gal on here for 7 years now… single men aren’t the frustration in my inbox haha |
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"Pictures where no effort has been made to at least tidy up a bit in the back ground. I dont want to see last nights half eaten takeaway next to a pic of your ass."
This!!!
If you make it passed the first message and I check the profile out and see messy pics I’m out.
Also single male profiles with loads of pics of women…. Straight out ha |
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"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.
If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.
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Hahaha brilliant |
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"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?
Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female
This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "
Pretty much this we are a couple first and foremost address us as such |
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"Pictures where no effort has been made to at least tidy up a bit in the back ground. I dont want to see last nights half eaten takeaway next to a pic of your ass.
This!!!
If you make it passed the first message and I check the profile out and see messy pics I’m out.
Also single male profiles with loads of pics of women…. Straight out ha "
 if you cant tidy up for a pic makes me wonder if they would for a meet. Straight no thanks. Hygine!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes people, the ones who say yes to anything or who lie and wing it drive me nuts, it always always always fails so what’s the ruddy point
Finding someone who can be honest and open is extremely difficult |
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1.not reading profile calling me hun etc
2. Unsolicited friends request
3. All cock pics
4. Obviously only male on a couple of profile not well out shopping got permission etc etc
5.lovely tidy house. ….not
6.pic always taken from same spot. The door on the landing in the background one lol
Etc etc. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When the message says they’ve read your profile and then ask you something that clearly states in our profile we’re not looking for!!!!
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Wont send a face picture and get offended when we say we’d prefer not to continue to message people we don’t know what they look like as there needs to be some physical attraction, even when we’re very polite with how we say this to them |
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By *end1Man
over a year ago
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Personally I don't think anything us singles guys do gets you any where I always read profiles never start off with hi or how are you. Always address both in a couple attach a face picture if its stated to do so in 1st message. Then to see its deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and a dick pic sat down with trousers round ankles - nope!!"
I was going to say this! Skid mark angle. That and cock picks over a sink or a sky remote /lynx comparison |
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Amended to un-autocarrot.
If this thread title could be changed to biggest turn ons, but with the same answers, it would create the perfect template for those who write a profile to get laid, rather than write about who they are or what they want.
Lets face it, some people won't take advice. Others will latch on to every titbit of advice hoping it will increase their chances of success. Some profiles will end up as people pleasers and not be anything like the person actually is!
Let nature take its course... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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how could I forget these:
1.untidy /dirty background in pics
2.Profile with just several dick pics
3.Dick pics that just look infected 
4. Photos or videos playing with loads of different ppl without protection...I only play safe
5. Crude /demeaning stats
6. Offensive or point of views that rub me the wrong way on the forum
7. And possibly another blood boiler ...messaging under false pretense of concern/ to sympathize abt something I said when it's plain your goal is just to get laid. |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
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"Something along similar lines.
People who are on as "a couple", but somehow there's only ever the fella online at any given time. Who wants to meet you 1st without "his partner" to vet you. Which seems to be over 50% of "couples"
I understand why a guy would want to meet a dude before he lets him have some fun with his wife/partner "
I dont, it's odd. Mr BC has never said this to any guy I've met. |
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If it's 90% plus about their needs, seemingly forgetting to consider mine. Conversely, men who reveal little, asking for lots of details about my sexual tastes for when we'd meet (bad enough, if they're just wanting wank fodder) but just stating that they want what I want.
Men who want to meet at least several hours after a shower, such as straight from work.
Evasive and vague, when asked things. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?
Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female
This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "
Whenever i message couples i assume it's the male messaging 9/10 times it is |
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Trying not to write a novel here but..
- dick picks I didn't ask for.
- not reading my profile
- men who claim to be straight but messages me anyway because any holes a goal.
- people who JUST want sex
- intros less then two sentences long. (Hey xxxx wanna fuck? Xxxxxx)
- if you don't reply right away you get 7 in a row like 'hey xx''hiii xx' like, please.
- gaslighting because it took me a second to reply.
- misgendering
- HeY bAbe WaNt sUm FucK
- First comment is about my tits
I don't care if I sound like a kill joy. I block like 10 people a day I swear. Please, I love talking to people but if you read my profile you'll like...know.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Violation of consent in any form.
Unsolicited dick pics,
Continue messaging when politely turned down,
Not reading our profile and asking to meet not as a couple.
"Hi how's you?" Or other copy paste messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh yeah i forgot to add in mine
"Impatient messages"
Ffs... Once opened a nice intro while at a traffic and then got going... 30 min later a barrage of abuse for not replying in his required timeframe...
Cishet men.....(eye roll) |
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"Oh yeah i forgot to add in mine
"Impatient messages"
Ffs... Once opened a nice intro while at a traffic and then got going... 30 min later a barrage of abuse for not replying in his required timeframe...
Cishet men.....(eye roll)"
This x 1000000.
Like, calm down. I'm going to want to fuck you even less if I come back to 10 missed messages all yelling.
Touch grass. |
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Couples who say in profile please respect us as a couple and address us as a couple (as I do) yet they can't sign off with who has messaged me.
Seeing multiple men in the female and all are bare back.
Mucky mirrors along with mess in the background.
Profile not been read at all.
The continouse messages of fancy a fuck that start from about 6pm on a Thursday till the same time on a Sunday.
Dirty finger nails tho that turns me off in general.
The multiple messages if I don't reply yet profile says I havent logged out since I joined.
The expectation that when I'm on here im playing with meself in lingerie when in reality I'm drinking tea, me hairs whacked up and I'm in joggers resembling a hobo of some sort.
Thems afew without stating like others have said a novel haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and a dick pic sat down with trousers round ankles - nope!!
I was going to say this! Skid mark angle. That and cock picks over a sink or a sky remote /lynx comparison "
Don't forget the can of Stella 
Like seriously?!?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This x 1000000.
Like, calm down. I'm going to want to fuck you even less if I come back to 10 missed messages all yelling.
Touch grass."
And ALL IN CAPS |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The expectation that when I'm on here im playing with meself in lingerie when in reality I'm drinking tea, me hairs whacked up and I'm in joggers resembling a hobo of some sort.....
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This!!!
First message ever and it seems like they're trying to live vicariously through us
"What filth have you two been up to today" not even a hi |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What put me off is when a guy from a couple account messages to say "his wife" wants a cum tribute but gives me his number to send them too. Surely if the wife wants a cum tribute then it should be her asking right? |
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"Personally I don't think anything us singles guys do gets you any where I always read profiles never start off with hi or how are you. Always address both in a couple attach a face picture if its stated to do so in 1st message. Then to see its deleted. "
These are just things that help people whittle down who they're talking to, not deciding factors of attraction. - Xeno |
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"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses "
I find it too brash. It's like he would never offer me the privacy I wanted if he openly shares his past sex life like that, bragging what he did do in the past. Massive turn off for me |
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"The long copy and paste mills and boons style message of a scenario of me waiting for them at mine and what they will do to me. Gives me the ick! "
Super cringeful. Instant block for me. Usually these men can never offer you mills and boons. Too much of a fantasist. Most likely to just not turn up if you agreed with a meet. |
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Saying "hi, lets meet"...when there's no photos or bio. Just empty profile. Don't even introduce themselves in the intro message. Just like 'caveman grabs a woman, throws her over his shoulder and takes into his cave' springs to mind! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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those who don't take the no /no thanks , they want to know why , then challenge you on the why ...like cheez.
This is why most times when I say no thanks I just block.
It's exhausting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A hard on pic with the toilet seat in the pic down as they have just used it and then used the opportunity for a pic uurgh"
cringe ..yes ekkk...let's just snap a pic of my pissy willy while I have it out  |
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"What put me off is when a guy from a couple account messages to say "his wife" wants a cum tribute but gives me his number to send them too. Surely if the wife wants a cum tribute then it should be her asking right?"
Yes this annoys me when a male of the couple will say my wife wants this and this to happen so I always say well if your wife wants it then can I chat to her? They always seem to be in the shower for like 5 days haha I always message back and say well 1 I hope your not on a water meter, 2 glad I'm not paying your energy bills for these 5 day showers and 3 if this is your wife's fantasy then she needs to speak to me |
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My biggest and it generally it gets blocked instantly is I’m better/ I’m bigger etc.
You know nothing about me, or him or our sex life. We are not looking for others because our sex life is lacking, it’s an extra, like cherry on the cake. |
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Because i'm that guy who likes to be dominated and serve, most of the message i get is about paying tribute £££. Send me or us this £££ to demonstrate that you are loyal etc. I get it from couples, females and TS so many times.
What can i say, life goes on. |
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I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?"
I'm not sure this is in line with the thread, as it's not a mistake a guy can simply rectify in his actions here.
Could you possibly state something in your profile to hopefully avoid some messages from the likes?
Maybe add that you like a good head of hair, or such words. |
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"Copy and paste message and they forget they have already sent you the exact same message only 1 week before…"
I never did that even if my english îs not so good i always put some efort. You right many people complains about that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Messages like “are you free now”
“Do you want a big hard dick”
That sort of thing can kill a mood for us.
Even if we are in the mood that won’t get a response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?"
We will take your bald men. (Especially if they have beards and a masculine dad bod) We will send you our men with hair if you would like ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Messages like “are you free now”
“Do you want a big hard dick”
That sort of thing can kill a mood for us.
Even if we are in the mood that won’t get a response "
Exactly, we're looking for like minded, people that know what they want and for a mutual appeal.
What those messages suggest is they're in fantasy mode, masturbating and want someone to simply relieve them in that moment and so check who is online and close.
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"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?
I'm not sure this is in line with the thread, as it's not a mistake a guy can simply rectify in his actions here.
Could you possibly state something in your profile to hopefully avoid some messages from the likes?
Maybe add that you like a good head of hair, or such words. "
The issue isn’t the baldness. It’s the persistent messaging after we’ve said no thanks x |
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"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses "
Single men profiles with action shots are a turn off for me. I am never confident the other party have their permission for the image to be used. Its even worse if its bareback action shots imo.
I know the same could apply to pictures on couple profile but i guess when there is group fun & photos taken you have a fair idea that the people involved are clued in on swinging and swinging sites. On a single profile i always have the fear its been an ex or tinder date that has no idea this place even exists |
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"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses
Single men profiles with action shots are a turn off for me. I am never confident the other party have their permission for the image to be used. Its even worse if its bareback action shots imo.
I know the same could apply to pictures on couple profile but i guess when there is group fun & photos taken you have a fair idea that the people involved are clued in on swinging and swinging sites. On a single profile i always have the fear its been an ex or tinder date that has no idea this place even exists "
100% this!!!! J&M xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?
I'm not sure this is in line with the thread, as it's not a mistake a guy can simply rectify in his actions here.
Could you possibly state something in your profile to hopefully avoid some messages from the likes?
Maybe add that you like a good head of hair, or such words.
The issue isn’t the baldness. It’s the persistent messaging after we’ve said no thanks x"
Ah I see, it seemed otherwise with the mention.
I get you, we get the same with any reason we may state, age group is the main one for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because i'm that guy who likes to be dominated and serve, most of the message i get is about paying tribute £££. Send me or us this £££ to demonstrate that you are loyal etc. I get it from couples, females and TS so many times.
What can i say, life goes on. "
Do state on your profile that you're not into financial domination,
Not a pay-pig (god i hate this terminology)
P.s I'm sorry you've experienced that |
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"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?
Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female
This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling
Whenever i message couples i assume it's the male messaging 9/10 times it is "
We're a couple and it's the Mr's who always messages, must be the minority |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I don't think anything us singles guys do gets you any where I always read profiles never start off with hi or how are you. Always address both in a couple attach a face picture if its stated to do so in 1st message. Then to see its deleted. "
Im sorry but this smells a little of the "but im a nice guy" mentality.
Everything you've listed is the bare minimum, the "I am not a dickhead"
But you don't get a medal for not being a dick. Being nice is the BARE minimum.
Expecting something just for that is an indication of a certain entitlement that invalidates the claim that you're a nice guy.
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"My biggest and it generally it gets blocked instantly is I’m better/ I’m bigger etc.
You know nothing about me, or him or our sex life. We are not looking for others because our sex life is lacking, it’s an extra, like cherry on the cake."
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"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?"
I can't stand beards or dad bods but get stated for having a preference. Sorry I'm meant to love everybody and want to meet everybody? |
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"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?
I can't stand beards or dad bods but get stated for having a preference. Sorry I'm meant to love everybody and want to meet everybody?"
People slate you? That's ridiculous! I must admit I've been really careful with how I word my preferences on our profile  |
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"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.
If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.
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"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?
I can't stand beards or dad bods but get stated for having a preference. Sorry I'm meant to love everybody and want to meet everybody?"
You see, i have a beard, and a dad bod and I totally accept that that is not everyone's preference. Same as I like certain things and not others.
People just hate hearing a "NO" |
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"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?
Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female
This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling
Whenever i message couples i assume it's the male messaging 9/10 times it is
We're a couple and it's the Mr's who always messages, must be the minority "
Us too Mr generally leaves the messaging to me as at the end of the day it’s my decision who I’d like to meet |
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"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you? "
1. Those who clearly haven't read our profile(s) or even the last message !
2. The 'fuck now' brigade and those who put pressure on to meet way too soon.
3. Those who are clearly and falsely operating from a couples profile or behind their partners back.
4. Those with no or unclear photos who come up with all kids of excuses why they can't supply better ones if any.
5. Those who make it clear they are 100% focussed on Cherry as if Tony doesn't exist or try to meet her alone. |
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For me, vixen, and one of the reasons I never delete messages, is the 'copy and paste messages.
You get a message, you don't get around/don't want to reply and then get another message from the same person word for word the same a week or so later.... they obviously only have the one message they send to everyone and hope for a response lol |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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"Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off."
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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.
Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.
BLOCKED NOW LOL
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"Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off.
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Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.
BLOCKED NOW LOL
Happy fabbing.
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Mate... You and your entitlement is exactly the turn off most people here talk about.
No one is obliged to answer your "really nice" messages.
And judging by your reaction... Doubt your perception of 'nice' is same for everyone. |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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"Personally I don't think anything us singles guys do gets you any where I always read profiles never start off with hi or how are you. Always address both in a couple attach a face picture if its stated to do so in 1st message. Then to see its deleted. "
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Same
Know how you feel lol |
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"Personally I don't think anything us singles guys do gets you any where I always read profiles never start off with hi or how are you. Always address both in a couple attach a face picture if its stated to do so in 1st message. Then to see its deleted.
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Same
Know how you feel lol"
Majority of them are just male run profiles anyway wouldn't worry leave the hunt for couples alone for a bit |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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"Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off.
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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.
Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.
BLOCKED NOW LOL
Happy fabbing.
Mate... You and your entitlement is exactly the turn off most people here talk about.
No one is obliged to answer your "really nice" messages.
And judging by your reaction... Doubt your perception of 'nice' is same for everyone."
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And you are entitled to your own opinion like I am.
Have a nice morning
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"First of all I look to see if they will meet smokers, then read the profile, then the pics and message from there if Im interested..
I'll send a well crafted message that's polite humorous and what I'm about, but 9 time out of 10 I rarely get a reply or a polite no thankyou.
Now
if I read in a profile send pics with first message or you will be blocked and if I don't like the look of you take my no reply as a no I get myself the feck out of there, I think if someone has done as you've requested and they don't have the decency to say no thanks they are not for me..
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I don't know if you're aware, but many times a polite NO only opens the door for questioning and pestering.
This might not be every single bloke, but enough do that that it makes it not worth engaging.
Specially if your inbox has more messages than you have minutes a day to open them all |
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"First of all I look to see if they will meet smokers, then read the profile, then the pics and message from there if Im interested..
I'll send a well crafted message that's polite humorous and what I'm about, but 9 time out of 10 I rarely get a reply or a polite no thankyou.
Now
if I read in a profile send pics with first message or you will be blocked and if I don't like the look of you take my no reply as a no I get myself the feck out of there, I think if someone has done as you've requested and they don't have the decency to say no thanks they are not for me..
I don't know if you're aware, but many times a polite NO only opens the door for questioning and pestering.
This might not be every single bloke, but enough do that that it makes it not worth engaging.
Specially if your inbox has more messages than you have minutes a day to open them all"
Oh shit someone seen it lol speed read the post on the way in as it's late as feckkk
Oh I totally get it, understand completely why this happens and the reasons for it,,feck sending a no thankyou to 50 thousand profiles, but on the same note there's a few decent guys here you can tell from the profiles if there worth sending a no thankyou back to...
Is what it is, it's fab lol
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"Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off.
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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.
Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.
BLOCKED NOW LOL
Happy fabbing.
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entitlement like this |
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"Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off.
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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.
Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.
BLOCKED NOW LOL
Happy fabbing.
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The forum is such a good filter! |
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Single men aren’t the only people who make mistakes.
My biggest turn off, by a mile, is when a couple sends me an unsolicited message with a list of demands. Eg “Come to ours now. You must be xyz, abc, do this, do that, gift us this, travel there, blah blah blah”
Always from couples I’ve never even said a word to before. The misplaced confidence from a lot of couples is crazy.
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"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?
I'm not sure this is in line with the thread, as it's not a mistake a guy can simply rectify in his actions here.
Could you possibly state something in your profile to hopefully avoid some messages from the likes?
Maybe add that you like a good head of hair, or such words.
The issue isn’t the baldness. It’s the persistent messaging after we’ve said no thanks x"
Ah, but you have shown interest. Yhey will be like a dog with a bone.
I like a profile to say what they like. Being bald it allows me to move on weithout bothering them.
I am not into people who aren't into me. Its fine. If so.eone takes offence...block and move on.
It should be enough to day you're not interested...but often isn't.
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"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?
Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female
This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "
This!!!! |
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"Close up cock pics, inboxes when they've clearly not read the profile or even the looking for bit.....
Mrs "
It's the close up ones and the several different angles for me, it's the same cock whichever way I look at it  |
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Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female
This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "
I love when they assume it’s the female, specially if they are straight, I have some fun winding them up  |
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as has been said, cock close up pics, especially when they use the telly remote or something to demonstrate size
pms, that show they haven't read our profile, dropping in the message box, crudely asking for a quick shag with the Mrs like we aren't a couple
terms like bull, breed, smash, destroy, anything disrespectful
and mrs pet hate... I'm in your area on such and such a date, are you going to be available?
No.
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"Single women profiles that within 2/3 messages drop in the boyfriend / hubby / fwb wanting to meet only as a 3way.
Usually ends with me reporting them for incorrect profile and ignoring them "
This really bugs me too, so annoying |
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"Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off.
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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.
Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.
BLOCKED NOW LOL
Happy fabbing.
The forum is such a good filter!"
The best of filters ! |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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You take time to read a profile.
Even if 10 pages like mine.
He/she/couple say FACE PICK or BLOCKED.
Next line says for privacy I will NOT SHARE my Face pic.
WOW!.
Cheeky.
Your Blocked.
Is all I can say LOL.
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"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.
If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.
Love this. I do love seeing a nice big exhaust pipe but looking at the handlebars and fuel tank is always nice"
I like an exhaust pipe, but I would much like to see the bodywork. X |
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