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By *ewsexycpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
I'm so sorry that that's happened so many times! That is so shit and ruins the fun for everyone.
I have had a few guys that seem to want to meet but never actually go though with it. I feel guys arrange stuff when they're horny, have a wank and cancel as it's easier  . |
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By *ewsexycpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!
I'm so sorry that that's happened so many times! That is so shit and ruins the fun for everyone.
I have had a few guys that seem to want to meet but never actually go though with it. I feel guys arrange stuff when they're horny, have a wank and cancel as it's easier . "
I think this is very accurate, I think that might happen on a few occasions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wonder if when it gets close, the reality of it, and the concerns it can bring outweighs the fantasy.
Plus, they're likely to have relieved themselves in the meantime, between messaging and meeting. |
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Happened to us again last night (and many many times before). So frustrating. Try to almost expect it but after you've been chatting to someone for weeks and they put a meet up, you message agreeing to meet, sort details, then silence until much later. Vague apology that they lost track of time then leave fab. Wtf? Had a wonderful replacement meet.  |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire/Northwest |
To be fair, I've had to cancel due to a dead parent.
It's bad form if they are well verified, as normally that's the biggest indicator that they will turn up. Hopefully you aren't out of pocket by booking somewhere.
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By *en ukMan
over a year ago
harrow London |
And I, as a single man, had 7 failed meetings with couples, I showed up at the place established with them and they didn't answer, others sent me a message with 10 minutes to reach their destination saying they were canceling the meeting for various reasons, a couple invited me to the hotel he didn't answer his phone anymore and blocked me. I also had nice meetings with couples who after ten messages invited me to their home and I had an amazing evening and fun. Keep your head up and move on |
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
Sift that sugar from the shit....but then not all men are such dicks... |
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By *ummorefunMan
over a year ago
kent/sussex border |
I’m sure this is the reason us single men sometimes struggle to meet , however it’s not just men that do it. I’ve had supposed couples do the same thing . I just stay polite and move on, probably the only way not to let it irritate the crap out of me! |
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By *JonaMan
over a year ago
walsall |
"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
Iam still awaiting for my invite I wouldn’t let you guys Down given the opportunity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Detective Michaela has hypotheses as follows:
1. Single man is actually married/in a relationship and is only on Fab as a fantasy. He arranges meets, jerks off at the thought of them, and cancels. The very definition of a timewaster; a coward cheating by dishonesty who lacks the balls to actually do it.
2. Couple isn't actually a couple - its a single man. Here to waste the time of genuine single men as some kind of sick sport. I know someone who turned up at a hotel expecting a meet with a couple only to be greeted by a room of jeering "lads" making fun of the fact they "got" him.
3. Couple knows that there are loads of timewasters on Fab so invites 4-5 guys to a hotel. The first one who turns up gets to play. Then cancellations go out to all the others.
The last time I was stood up I suspect was a (1). Went offline from Fab when I was parked outside the venue, and two days later gave me the standard dead relative bullshit.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The trouble is, regardless of their status, most men here married/attached.
They then have to bale out of their meet because the wife has arranged something for them.
Other allegedly single men will also arrange meets and then bale out at the last minute, or not turn up at all. Not sure why they do it, perhaps a game of some sort. |
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By *ewsexycpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
Thanks guys, good to hear the experiences and thoughts. Also I'd very much hope it's not about us but you can't but think it is when it happens do much.
As someone else said, we come to expect it, so it's not a shock when it happens.
We've also put things in place now as well to help fish the wrong uns out, looks moving to what's app beforehand, don't want to do it, it's a good sign they aren't genuine. Also not releasing address until last minute.
We are a genuine, professional, lovely couple looking for that 3rd element with someone else that is the same. We've met some very very lovely couples on here, and they are now friends but that single male is very illusive!
Hey ho, we'll keep hacking away at it...
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I can honestly say, that after using Fab for over 10 years now, I have never failed to make any meet I’ve arranged.
Flakey single ladies, and flakey couples however, I’ve experienced a few in my time, and have been stood up, ghosted, and last minute cancelled on many times. I just accept it goes with the territory, and generally just block and move on (assuming the profile is still here)  |
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It’s shoddy behaviour OP but don’t think it’s the prevail of just single guys. I think you have started to form your own conclusions already on what to do differently but you have to do your due diligence on here with people. Moving onto WhatsApp is a good move so you can see that actually have a mobile number. A phone call or FaceTime prior can help you establish if someone is reliable and genuine. More effort required but it will pay off. |
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By *ewsexycpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
Thanks, yeah agreed.
One other thing that can be a good indicator is hidden veris...I presume anyone can leave a veri and if you don't turn up some people might leave you a bridge one.. Before blocking... We wouldn't do that as it's just not how we roll but we do get suspicious of hidden veris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
It's hard enough for single guys to get meets on here without idiots like that they make it even harder really pisses me off. It's not you op you are absolutely stunning |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just wondering to what extent you share pics and scenarios. Sometimes if you give the other person too much for their wank bank, there's no real incentive for them to meet. |
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By *ewsexycpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
"Just wondering to what extent you share pics and scenarios. Sometimes if you give the other person too much for their wank bank, there's no real incentive for them to meet. "
Not loads that said we have given a clear scenario we want to play out to help them understand the dynamic. Maybe there's too much of that. Will quell that until literally they are about to leave maybe. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
Fantasy is far better than reality for most, also never share photos other than face or clothed, it just feeds the fantasy and wanking. It shouldn't be necessary if they are actually going to meet you. Do you organise a social first? That will also sort out those who are prepared to meet, even if you decide to play directly after. |
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
All we can say is more fool them. We would snap you up in an instant.
At the end of the day 90% of profiles are fake. Don't let it bother you & NEXT |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering to what extent you share pics and scenarios. Sometimes if you give the other person too much for their wank bank, there's no real incentive for them to meet.
Not loads that said we have given a clear scenario we want to play out to help them understand the dynamic. Maybe there's too much of that. Will quell that until literally they are about to leave maybe. "
Nothing wrong with outlining the scenario, and it’s probably gonna be pretty obvious which guys are using it for wank material. They’ll push for more n more detail. Maybe ask for more pics, etc.
Trust your instinct, you’ll find it’s probably quite accurate when assessing who intends to turn up or not.
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By *onicZMan
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
Absolutely mad.
Who in their right mind would sit and have a wank over some photos when they have a sexy meet fall into their lap?
Should be a thumbs down or something on profiles for people like that but there again that would be hard to police and open to abuse too. |
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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago
Butlins Minehead (for the weekend) |
"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
And this is why we only meet new people at clubs 
We had a couple of no shows eary on, and decided we didn't want to waste another precious child free night. Now we say where we will be at what time, if they don't turn up we still have a great night.
Please don't take it personally, it's there loss!
 K x |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
Had one arrange to meet me last Friday. Don't hear so mailed to see if still on.
They were on another meet and asked to move it to Monday.
Monday come same again they were on a meet and asked to move it again.
I was fair, gave a chance, they could have forgotten etc but a second time?
No. Your done. |
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
I know exactly what you mean  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
At least they gave you warning that they weren't going to show.It would be worse if they didn't do that.
And to be honest everyone is actually allowed to change their mind at any time about meeting. It may be dissappointing when it happens but men just like anyone else on here have a right to decide not to meet if they aren't feeling it for what ever reason. No one is entitled to a meet on here just because they want one. |
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By *ewsexycpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
Guess what! Another flakey twat today. What's app and everything ready to go tonight.... And some shit excuse again about not feeling it and going to come off fab etc etc.
Honestly useless twats!! |
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"Guess what! Another flakey twat today. What's app and everything ready to go tonight.... And some shit excuse again about not feeling it and going to come off fab etc etc.
Honestly useless twats!!"
Give us a few months to stop smoking ( or try)   |
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"Guess what! Another flakey twat today. What's app and everything ready to go tonight.... And some shit excuse again about not feeling it and going to come off fab etc etc.
Honestly useless twats!!"
Let me know if you fancy a holiday in the Lakes  |
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"We all know that most of the “Single” men on here are not actually “single”
We also know that some of the “straight” men on here are not actually “straight”
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Well some of us are actually single and straight!.
The place is overrun with female and couple fantasists, why I go to clubs.
As all the locals to me are fantasists and timewasters. |
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By *eastZMan
over a year ago
London |
I honestly believe you are better off them, when someone flakes or ghosts someone else, it means they either lied or simply lack the confidence. And I believe that would give you a terrible meeting.
You dodged a bullet ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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alot of wannabes on here , all talk no show gives good men a bad rep. on the flip good men rarely get a chance i got blocked for sending a compliment and tbh ive had women do the same. my motto is to go for sonething diff rather than the typical which every other standard person wants... |
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"Guess what! Another flakey twat today. What's app and everything ready to go tonight.... And some shit excuse again about not feeling it and going to come off fab etc etc.
Honestly useless twats!!"
They probably saw your forum posts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not just the men but yeah it's annoying. Purposefully wasting someones time out of order"
Definitely not just the men lol. Happened to me three times in the past 2 weeks… Its already hard enough to get a meet on here as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Beat this one then...
Arranged meet with a couple at their place, had been exchanging messages on here and video chats on whatsãpp so all seemed good.
I turned up at the arranged time and was greeted at the door by "oh, you're on a motorbike?" followed by door closing and "we don't like bikers" ????
I had travelled a fair distance as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guess what! Another flakey twat today. What's app and everything ready to go tonight.... And some shit excuse again about not feeling it and going to come off fab etc etc.
Honestly useless twats!!"
 hes allowed to change his mind, doesnt make him useless or a twat. Maybe a break would help as you seem pretty wound up. It's something that people do and as can be seen from other posts here, not just by single men.
All the best |
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I will generally give people a couple of chances after that... no way ... totally get op's frustration as I find it very rude if people just don't turn up ... it doesn't cost anything just to let someone know you've changed your mind.... |
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"We all know that most of the “Single” men on here are not actually “single”
We also know that some of the “straight” men on here are not actually “straight”
Well some of us are actually single and straight!.
The place is overrun with female and couple fantasists, why I go to clubs.
As all the locals to me are fantasists and timewasters."
Yes but you’re fudging ugly….
Can’t have it all I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all know that most of the “Single” men on here are not actually “single”
We also know that some of the “straight” men on here are not actually “straight”
Well some of us are actually single and straight!.
The place is overrun with female and couple fantasists, why I go to clubs.
As all the locals to me are fantasists and timewasters.
Yes but you’re fudging ugly….
Can’t have it all I suppose."
Damn lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Beat this one then...
Arranged meet with a couple at their place, had been exchanging messages on here and video chats on whatsãpp so all seemed good.
I turned up at the arranged time and was greeted at the door by "oh, you're on a motorbike?" followed by door closing and "we don't like bikers" ????
I had travelled a fair distance as well. "
I would of kicked the door off & then left just for the cheek! I would of been PISSED!! |
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We have a total mistrust of the online thing. Free time is difficult for us (like for many of us) and we'd hate it wasted. This is part of why our swinging is mainly in clubs or seducing people while out on planned vanilla nights. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guess what! Another flakey twat today. What's app and everything ready to go tonight.... And some shit excuse again about not feeling it and going to come off fab etc etc.
Honestly useless twats!!
hes allowed to change his mind, doesnt make him useless or a twat. Maybe a break would help as you seem pretty wound up. It's something that people do and as can be seen from other posts here, not just by single men.
All the best "
Totally agree. I wouldn't want someone joining us just because he felt he had to. If someone's not feeling it, better they say so. Everyone has that right, even the demonised single guys. |
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By *occo_1Man
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
First of all - it’s shite that it’s happened to you.
Secondly - it’s not just a single guy thing, it’s a fab thing. I’ve arranged countless meets with single girls, couples and groups and been let down. With a million and one excuses and a number of disappearing profiles.
One thing that fab lacks is the opportunity to leave negative feedback - recently I had a meet arranged in Middlesbrough and the girl confirmed on the day, never showed, then blocked me. She’s still active and posts regularly. I get that folk have the right to change their mind but ffs - at least be civil about it.
Hope you have better luck in the future! And if I’m ever down your way with work then I’d defo be up for meeting. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
yes there are many men women and couples who mess around but they are so easy to see ... all you have to do is put that extra bit of effort in to make sure some one is real and up for it ...
im very blunt and to the point when messaging i do everything via fab no phones no emails no cams no apps just fab everything is aranged for that same week i never plan ahead thats where 90% of your wasters are ...
its really not hard all those i think are messer or are messers blocked on top of those who dont interest me ... and keep in touvh with swinger friends as you may not be allowed to name and shame on here but by word of mouth nobody can stop you ive loads of local guys block who are well known dreamers who mess alot of people around ...i guess having been on this site and the scene for so long its easy to see ..and yes of course one will slip thru but has not for a long time ... if a meet is to easy to arrange its normally not going to happen chat for to long it wont happen plan to far ahead it more than likely wont happen ..sex talk it wont happen it goes on and on ,,,
oh and those say they ruin it for us not true they ruin it for themselves you getting no where is firmly on you nobody else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
It happens on both sides and it's so crap but it's definitely the guys who are the biggest offenders.
My FB has a host of stories of no shows |
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By *ewsexycpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
"Guess what! Another flakey twat today. What's app and everything ready to go tonight.... And some shit excuse again about not feeling it and going to come off fab etc etc.
Honestly useless twats!!
Give us a few months to stop smoking ( or try) "
Do it!!! |
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
Really feel for you as it's no joke - even more so being a single guy. This kind of thing tends to taint all of us and get us a bad name. Got to be up there with the constant tumble of the single fab life. |
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Dead, dying, sick relatives... the record is broken
Sorry folks, I had one of those as well this week. Gave him a second chance coz of said relative... flaked again, after being mega enthusiastic for the days running up. Why, why, WHYYYYY! |
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"Dead, dying, sick relatives... the record is broken
Sorry folks, I had one of those as well this week. Gave him a second chance coz of said relative... flaked again, after being mega enthusiastic for the days running up. Why, why, WHYYYYY!"
Why o why indeed but we'll never find out. Which is annoying! |
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"Dead, dying, sick relatives... the record is broken
Sorry folks, I had one of those as well this week. Gave him a second chance coz of said relative... flaked again, after being mega enthusiastic for the days running up. Why, why, WHYYYYY!
Why o why indeed but we'll never find out. Which is annoying!"
T'is the mystery of life |
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To be honest, I have had to once, but health issues occurred, and I did inform the people I was meeting as soon as I could, this being said that's a one off for me, maybe im just in the minority of people that think like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single guys feel a lot of pressure to agree to every opportunity that is offered to them. They don't want to appear negative to anything for fear of missing out, or being rejected by the community in general. They will agree to anything.
BUT, that won't do it unless that want to. It isn't as easy as ordering up a deliveroo. It takes time to develope the rappour. The time taken is worth it. |
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I always speak with any potential guys before we meet with anyone off here, just so they understand our cuckold dynamic and they aren’t just after a quick fuck.
From experience I’d say around 90% of the guys I’ve chatted to admit to being married if pushed. Not a problem for us, two of our best bulls we’ve known over the years have been married.
But I’d say that if they have a wife in the background it makes meets very difficult for them and that’s why if you look at profiles in detail a lot of guys state daytime meets only. |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
Tralee |
"I always speak with any potential guys before we meet with anyone off here, just so they understand our cuckold dynamic and they aren’t just after a quick fuck.
From experience I’d say around 90% of the guys I’ve chatted to admit to being married if pushed. Not a problem for us, two of our best bulls we’ve known over the years have been married.
But I’d say that if they have a wife in the background it makes meets very difficult for them and that’s why if you look at profiles in detail a lot of guys state daytime meets only."
This.
But still shitty to do. I've chatted with loads of people, had the craic, bit of a turn on, but never agree to meet unless 100% sure I can guarantee I'll make it. It might cut your chances but it's not fair on the other people involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's why I don't share anything explicit before a meet... They have their wank over pics and scenarios then don't need to meet "
I've never been stood up. |
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"Thanks, yeah agreed.
One other thing that can be a good indicator is hidden veris...I presume anyone can leave a veri and if you don't turn up some people might leave you a bridge one.. Before blocking... We wouldn't do that as it's just not how we roll but we do get suspicious of hidden veris."
I don’t think that’s an indicator. I’m pretty sure if you’ve been verified by someone who has subsequently left the site their veris show as hidden.
Very annoying tho, perhaps arrange club meets. If they don’t turn up you haven’t lost anything. |
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!"
Sorry to here you got messed around ( 3 Times )
I’m up and down the M6 on business every week if you need a clean, verified reliable male for a mid week daytime meet as per your profile.
Happy to chat more just drop me a DM if interested. |
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"Thanks, yeah agreed.
One other thing that can be a good indicator is hidden veris...I presume anyone can leave a veri and if you don't turn up some people might leave you a bridge one.. Before blocking... We wouldn't do that as it's just not how we roll but we do get suspicious of hidden veris.
I don’t think that’s an indicator. I’m pretty sure if you’ve been verified by someone who has subsequently left the site their veris show as hidden.
Very annoying tho, perhaps arrange club meets. If they don’t turn up you haven’t lost anything. "
To be fair; I had a couple cancel on me in September for a club meet…. |
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"Thanks, yeah agreed.
One other thing that can be a good indicator is hidden veris...I presume anyone can leave a veri and if you don't turn up some people might leave you a bridge one.. Before blocking... We wouldn't do that as it's just not how we roll but we do get suspicious of hidden veris.
I don’t think that’s an indicator. I’m pretty sure if you’ve been verified by someone who has subsequently left the site their veris show as hidden.
Very annoying tho, perhaps arrange club meets. If they don’t turn up you haven’t lost anything.
To be fair; I had a couple cancel on me in September for a club meet…. "
Yeah but then there will be other people to play with in the club so you’ve not wasted your time. |
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As per usual, when something negative consistently happens to some people they blame everyone else but themselves. They fail to examine their actions, assess what they are doing that gets the same unwanted results, and then change whatever it is.
Frank |
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"Thanks, yeah agreed.
One other thing that can be a good indicator is hidden veris...I presume anyone can leave a veri and if you don't turn up some people might leave you a bridge one.. Before blocking... We wouldn't do that as it's just not how we roll but we do get suspicious of hidden veris.
I don’t think that’s an indicator. I’m pretty sure if you’ve been verified by someone who has subsequently left the site their veris show as hidden.
Very annoying tho, perhaps arrange club meets. If they don’t turn up you haven’t lost anything.
To be fair; I had a couple cancel on me in September for a club meet….
Yeah but then there will be other people to play with in the club so you’ve not wasted your time. "
Not necessarily, there’s so few women go to clubs, and you can’t guarantee you’ll hit it off with any there on the night, assuming you’ll get a look-in with all the other blokes there. I’ll not visit another club as a single guy, without a pre-arranged meet inside |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks, yeah agreed.
One other thing that can be a good indicator is hidden veris...I presume anyone can leave a veri and if you don't turn up some people might leave you a bridge one.. Before blocking... We wouldn't do that as it's just not how we roll but we do get suspicious of hidden veris.
I don’t think that’s an indicator. I’m pretty sure if you’ve been verified by someone who has subsequently left the site their veris show as hidden.
Very annoying tho, perhaps arrange club meets. If they don’t turn up you haven’t lost anything.
To be fair; I had a couple cancel on me in September for a club meet….
Yeah but then there will be other people to play with in the club so you’ve not wasted your time.
Not necessarily, there’s so few women go to clubs, and you can’t guarantee you’ll hit it off with any there on the night, assuming you’ll get a look-in with all the other blokes there. I’ll not visit another club as a single guy, without a pre-arranged meet inside "
no one is 100% going to get fun at a club (especially men)(sorry but its the hard truth) it still works the same way as on here except your face to face ...there no such thing as a free fuck and attraction is still key .... i /we go to clubs we lately rarely play as the attraction is not there but its ok as its still nice to socialize with nice people the problem with some clubs is its the same couples every week the same men every week ( men that wank / watch ) thats why we go all over the uk for clubs....
someone else has hit the nail on the head above they blame everyone else for the let downs or getting nowhere but wont address the real problem and that is why do you attract those that mess around because thats where ther real problem is no looking properly and making sure that person is real ...
and the best tool on fab is the block button ..it works it really does |
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"Why is there so many of them.. We've had 3 now... What's the actually fucking point of talking, arranging, sharing pics and scenarios, getting to an hour or two before the meet then bailing out. Got no balls guys??
Two of them have said they have a dead mum or illness with an uncle miles away they have to sort.... Complete and utter sick bullshit.
I know it's fab all over, but why do it? To piss people off? These profiles are guys that are established and have verifications too!
Makes you feel a bit shit really!
I'm so sorry that that's happened so many times! That is so shit and ruins the fun for everyone.
I have had a few guys that seem to want to meet but never actually go though with it. I feel guys arrange stuff when they're horny, have a wank and cancel as it's easier . "
Yep that's exactly it. After you cum phone gets put down and you can get on with the rest of your day .. lol
It's a kind of reality porn that normal porn can't touch really .. a kind of sore truth for those at the other end but yes I think that's exactly what's going on. It's that or a question of timing. Many guys will also be dating and perhaps they've just met someone and the guilt jitters get in the way. |
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"As per usual, when something negative consistently happens to some people they blame everyone else but themselves. They fail to examine their actions, assess what they are doing that gets the same unwanted results, and then change whatever it is.
Frank"
Absolutely. Things changed for better when I had a little pep talk with myself. |
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"Thanks, yeah agreed.
One other thing that can be a good indicator is hidden veris...I presume anyone can leave a veri and if you don't turn up some people might leave you a bridge one.. Before blocking... We wouldn't do that as it's just not how we roll but we do get suspicious of hidden veris.
I don’t think that’s an indicator. I’m pretty sure if you’ve been verified by someone who has subsequently left the site their veris show as hidden.
Very annoying tho, perhaps arrange club meets. If they don’t turn up you haven’t lost anything.
To be fair; I had a couple cancel on me in September for a club meet….
Yeah but then there will be other people to play with in the club so you’ve not wasted your time.
Not necessarily, there’s so few women go to clubs, and you can’t guarantee you’ll hit it off with any there on the night, assuming you’ll get a look-in with all the other blokes there. I’ll not visit another club as a single guy, without a pre-arranged meet inside
no one is 100% going to get fun at a club (especially men)(sorry but its the hard truth) it still works the same way as on here except your face to face ...there no such thing as a free fuck and attraction is still key .... i /we go to clubs we lately rarely play as the attraction is not there but its ok as its still nice to socialize with nice people the problem with some clubs is its the same couples every week the same men every week ( men that wank / watch ) thats why we go all over the uk for clubs....
someone else has hit the nail on the head above they blame everyone else for the let downs or getting nowhere but wont address the real problem and that is why do you attract those that mess around because thats where ther real problem is no looking properly and making sure that person is real ...
and the best tool on fab is the block button ..it works it really does"
It’s a two hour drive for me, to reach any club, and my experiences of being a solo guy in clubs, puts me off visiting any others. They really aren’t worth the effort or expense.
You can access Fab any time of day, wherever you are, and just use your common sense to filter out the flakes. The block button really is the best tool |
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