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why do older women, have no interest in younger guys?
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong "
I go for younger. Just not 30 years younger. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Because I need to have a connection, and there is no way I will have that with a 20 year old! Sometimes, it's quite simple!
Also, with what I am looking for, someone 18 years my junior, just wouldn't have a clue, just think they did......   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You aren't wrong but it just comes down to singular preference. I dated a woman 12 years older than me for half a year. but others don't want the stigma when they go for it on a whim I guess!?? |
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"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong
I go for younger. Just not 30 years younger. "
There all younger than you arnt they????....only kidding |
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"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong "
Not many older women will appreciate the tone and content of your profile, your status update might be a joke and would probably be amusing to younger guys but to a woman of my age its just tiresome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The idea is that youth has power, age experience, that's nonsense I have power but great sex requires patience and technique as well as raw power"
That does bear much truth but you can't sell that without chemistry and a lot of the time that is what it boils down to! |
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"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong
Not many older women will appreciate the tone and content of your profile, your status update might be a joke and would probably be amusing to younger guys but to a woman of my age its just tiresome. "
Just had a read, agree totally.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong "
Oh my goodness are you wrong, I won't meet anyone my own age. I posted on here a couple of days ago and caused a riot. Check out "why do younger guys..." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think in my opinion maybe a older man has more life experience maybe has hus own house nice car and more genuine then maybe someone young who lets face it we all put on a act sometimes lol |
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By *essiCouple
over a year ago
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some lack experience and staminina others just behave as young as there years...a few are amazing so i'm told, personally i prefer an older guy who knows what he likes and more over knows how to get the best out of me...  |
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"I get that but I try to be honest on here but so far that has counted for nothing"
Ok so be honest what have you got to offer an older woman? Your profile is all about what you want and how much you need to unload stress and a woman's place is on her knees, frankly that doesn't recommend you to me. Your youth is not a selling point on its own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that but I try to be honest on here but so far that has counted for nothing"
Being honest is a great thing and you should write your profile anyway you want
If you are happy with how your profile sounds and how it comes across when read by others then leave it just as it is
I will say that how you come across from the content of your profile you will only appeal to a tiny proportion of people here , me not included
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Also, I find your profile quite degrading, A woman should be on her knee's?
Also as someone who is into BDSM as well, there is no way, I would allow someone your age and limited experience loose on me! Sometimes youngsters do need to take direction from those more experienced before thinking they know exactly what they are doing, when they clearly do not, sorry if that sounds harsh, but it is true in my experience  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok this is the way I see it
1. You've only joined 7 days ago this requires patience women weren't gonna throw them selves at you
2. Your only 20 and while this isn't to say you won't be experienced you may be around the age of some older ladies children n a lot will find that strange and further than they want to go.
3. While your profile is longer than the majority of most single guys its reads all "me me me" and therefore a doesn't sell you as your not really telling people what you can offer them remember sexually gratification is about the others persons needs as much as your own.
4. You can't accomodate and aren't really willing to travel very far this limits meets considerably.
5. Finally the fact you've ticked almost all if not every interest available could read as a lack of experience in most people's point if view as to me it seems to say you aren't really sure what you are looking for other than to get your end away!
I seriously think you need to consider a profile rewrite, Apologises if I'm wrong on any of this but it's just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm pleased you've raised the subject of the whole younger guy older woman dynamic, I've searched and searched all day and couldn't find anything relating to it at all "
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I've been with all ages. The young guys are generally good for stamina, however lack in knowledge, experience and technique.
Where as those of a similar age to me have the technique if not quite the stamina they had years ago. Also as women get off on thinking sex as well as doing it, they need to be turned on mentally as well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I have been growing up, I have never been attracted to anyone outside of my age, I don't think I can remember actually seeing anyone where one person was much older than their partner. The first time I encountered it I think, was on another social network type site, young people especially Asians constantly sending me messages asking to meet up, I just didn't like the thought and I still don't. If people want to do it, that is their choice but no way would it ever been mine, I mean you, for example are a good looking lad, but that is all you are a lad.
And I did try it once, after much persuasion met a 25 year old from here, nice lad but the thought of going further really didn't appeal to me at all, being laughed at by friends of his who saw us drinking coffee together was enough to put me off not just his age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had mail off guys around 20,i have teen sons and no way could i go so young i prefer guys around my age or older and normally don't go under 30,you need common ground with someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm pleased you've raised the subject of the whole younger guy older woman dynamic, I've searched and searched all day and couldn't find anything relating to it at all "
There has however been another thread running on similar lines, and this question, in various formats pops up all the time, indeed the first year I was here, there were about 6 over the summer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong "
Maybe it's just you they don't go for...
I for one like to be treated with a little more respect than your profile suggests...crass and immature don't massively float my boat... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although we don't meet single guys, house parties are a different matter.
You don't have the same relationship that you get with regular meets, its more just transient fun.
So with that in mind, as long as there was mutual attraction and the guy was 18+ it's all fun. T
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong
I go for younger. Just not 30 years younger.
There all younger than you arnt they????....only kidding"
Feels like that some days! LOL |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been with all ages. The young guys are generally good for stamina, however lack in knowledge, experience and technique.
Where as those of a similar age to me have the technique if not quite the stamina they had years ago. Also as women get off on thinking sex as well as doing it, they need to be turned on mentally as well.
I much prefer older men, whilst younger guys have the stamina; the respect, manners and technique often isnt.
Some younger guys are the exception, and some older men behave worse than my teenage son, but on the whole, it's more mature for me every time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like younger men, but there are thousands on Fab, and as others have said, your profile isn't one of the most appealing.
Also, one of the things I really dislike is men who say they're attracted to me because I'm 'older'. Nothing turns me off faster than being reminded about my age. I'm not 'an older woman' ffs, I'm a woman! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its all about respect and patience and a good attitude! If you dont have those anywhere never mind here you wont get anywhere! And there are older women on here if you are lucky  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I adore younger guys! But that doesn't mean I just go with anyone cos they are younger.. I do have preferences in looks and things..
If you search other threads on the topic u will see I'm not alone..
Its not an age problem its a single guys outnumbering everyone on here problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having encountered a number of younger guys involved in the scene our experiences have been disappointing without exception.
Lets give you a perfect example of why.
We meet one young guy & I explained to him that the focus of our efforts should be to ensure that my wife's sexual enjoyment should be first & if she was having fun it would be given back tenfold.
He assured me he understood perfectly.
On the big night he immediately slammed his erection into my wife without any foreplay whatsoever. Jerked back & forward for about 30 seconds came into his condom & announced that was him thanks & he was now leaving.
I was still untying my shoe laces!!
In essence they do not have enough experience of either life or sex to please anyone but themselves. |
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I'm not fussed on meeting young guys. I've tried, and with one notable exception they've been lacking. They try and be dominant or their technique is 'bang bang bang' with little or no foreplay (and any done is of the 1-2-3 grope variety) or they just want to try out new things with me and me to be their 'Mrs Robinson' with nothing in it for me. I'm after a guy who knows what he's doing and can 'read' my responses, will take the lead confidently (not arrogantly) and has tried lots of things before and anything new they want to try would be more of a mutual experience than a selfish one - not many young guys fit that - in my experience, anyway.
I know others enjoy seeing younger guys, but it's not for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having encountered a number of younger guys involved in the scene our experiences have been disappointing without exception.
Lets give you a perfect example of why.
We meet one young guy & I explained to him that the focus of our efforts should be to ensure that my wife's sexual enjoyment should be first & if she was having fun it would be given back tenfold.
He assured me he understood perfectly.
On the big night he immediately slammed his erection into my wife without any foreplay whatsoever. Jerked back & forward for about 30 seconds came into his condom & announced that was him thanks & he was now leaving.
I was still untying my shoe laces!!
In essence they do not have enough experience of either life or sex to please anyone but themselves."
So one bad experience with a young and that makes them all the same :/
I've had that sort of thing happen with older guys more than younger and I've been with plenty of younger
Experience is my experience is tosh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having encountered a number of younger guys involved in the scene our experiences have been disappointing without exception.
Lets give you a perfect example of why.
We meet one young guy & I explained to him that the focus of our efforts should be to ensure that my wife's sexual enjoyment should be first & if she was having fun it would be given back tenfold.
He assured me he understood perfectly.
On the big night he immediately slammed his erection into my wife without any foreplay whatsoever. Jerked back & forward for about 30 seconds came into his condom & announced that was him thanks & he was now leaving.
I was still untying my shoe laces!!
In essence they do not have enough experience of either life or sex to please anyone but themselves.
So one bad experience with a young and that makes them all the same :/
I've had that sort of thing happen with older guys more than younger and I've been with plenty of younger
Experience is my experience is tosh"
They actually said they had encountered a number of younger lads but only gave one example therefore were still basing their decision based on more than one |
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By *oojCouple
over a year ago
Exeter |
Nothing against younger men but most seem to have watched too many porno films and base their technique on them, but there are a few and if we come across one at a club or party and they appeal, why not!!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
I enjoy meeting younger men but boy are they hard work conversationally. Lovely to look at though!
I am happy to play with them at clubs, so I can then go and chat to the friendlier people afterwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer younger men - my last partner was 23 - and I have several younger lovers. However, they're all respectful, sensual, intelligent and funny men, who adore the company of women as well as the sex.
And lord save us from twenty year old doms. Thinking that sex begins and ends with your cock makes you a dom. Of course it does. Right.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speaking for my partner, she could not 'shag' a boy younger than her own children. I believe that there are some other women who feel this way. Besides, it has taken me many years to 'hone' my techniques (long story) and am not sure how much anyone has experienced by the age of 21 or so. There is more to it than a 'dick'!
Hope that helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there are women on here that prefer younger men. They are harder to find because the choice for them is vast (Sorry to referring to people as 'them').
Sometimes, as I've learned, younger men don't help themselves. Just because It's a preference for you and it's a swinging site doesn't mean it's just going to come to you.
Being patient, polite and not treating people as objects, surprisingly, helps.
I'm not saying I'm and angel at it sometimes I do lose my temper but you have to remember all people are different. and what you deem acceptable others will not.
Don't moan and be polite will be my advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer younger men - my last partner was 23 - and I have several younger lovers. However, they're all respectful, sensual, intelligent and funny men, who adore the company of women as well as the sex.
And lord save us from twenty year old doms. Thinking that sex begins and ends with your cock makes you a dom. Of course it does. Right.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We meet younger guys ,
Tho sadly some of the young guys that contact us come across as arrogant and think they are gods gift to women , which is not the case .
The quicker these " dreamers " learn how to interact with an older woman they, ll soon realise it will get them more sexy fun , just cos they have a dick doesn't mean they get to use it ........well maybe in their right hand until they drop the attitude that is . |
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By *oojCouple
over a year ago
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"We meet younger guys ,
Tho sadly some of the young guys that contact us come across as arrogant and think they are gods gift to women , which is not the case .
The quicker these " dreamers " learn how to interact with an older woman they, ll soon realise it will get them more sexy fun , just cos they have a dick doesn't mean they get to use it ........well maybe in their right hand until they drop the attitude that is . "
Must add to this we get younger guys who seem to think M is not able to satisfy so they will do us a favour!!! |
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"Having encountered a number of younger guys involved in the scene our experiences have been disappointing without exception.
Lets give you a perfect example of why.
We meet one young guy & I explained to him that the focus of our efforts should be to ensure that my wife's sexual enjoyment should be first & if she was having fun it would be given back tenfold.
He assured me he understood perfectly.
On the big night he immediately slammed his erection into my wife without any foreplay whatsoever. Jerked back & forward for about 30 seconds came into his condom & announced that was him thanks & he was now leaving.
I was still untying my shoe laces!!
In essence they do not have enough experience of either life or sex to please anyone but themselves."
This really made me laugh out loud. As with everything in life we learn through experience and in this case Mr Jimp has learnt to wear slip ons rather than lace up's when arranging a meet for a 3some with a young lad in the future.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally agree ... what on earth are boys in their twenties doing on a swingers site!!"
So because we are younger we should not be able to use a site to find like mind individuals?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are immature and childish enough to think that Rio would be in any way impressed by your dick photos then you are very much mistaken. Send her a message and see what happens! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when someone starts a thread about single guys.. everyone jumps in going on about not tthinking of all single guys the same etc..
so why is everyone doing this to younger guys..
nothign worse than stereotyping.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are immature and childish enough to think that Rio would be in any way impressed by your dick photos then you are very much mistaken. Send her a message and see what happens!"
soits only young guys that have cock pipcs?? riiiggghht.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the young guys themselves. They can't take rejection. We have experienced this so many times ... haven't you? We have had quite revolting messages from young guys who are so immature that they can't accewpt a rejection. Shows their level of mentality we think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's the young guys themselves. They can't take rejection. We have experienced this so many times ... haven't you? We have had quite revolting messages from young guys who are so immature that they can't accewpt a rejection. Shows their level of mentality we think."
well that goes across the board! far from just young guys..
when i started i didnt realise there was a way to block age ranges.. so my profile said my age preference.. the amount of older guys who messaged me abuse was shocking.. and certainly no different from the amount of young guys i said no to either..
ive seen stories of couples and woman not handling rejection well too..
you have a very warped view of life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally agree ... what on earth are boys in their twenties doing on a swingers site!!"
This just stinks of jealousy. Why is it anyone is on a swingers site...
Green is not a good colour on you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally agree ... what on earth are boys in their twenties doing on a swingers site!!
So because we are younger we should not be able to use a site to find like mind individuals?
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i think a lot of people still have the mind set that younger people should be out pulling down the night club, out with mates enjoying themselves with those their own age, not on swinging sites
I started doing this when i was 25 and to be honest, tho nothing is 100% danger free i think meeting people off internet sites is safer than pulling in a pub full of pissed up people
I dont see swinging has a age limit, i wouldnt meet a 18 year old but if they wish to be on here finding sex rather than in a pub, why not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's the young guys themselves. They can't take rejection. We have experienced this so many times ... haven't you? We have had quite revolting messages from young guys who are so immature that they can't accewpt a rejection. Shows their level of mentality we think."
i have to disagree
Im my own experience i have found that most of the nasty messages i get from guys i say no to arnt the younger one
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well.. we simply have a different experience to each other. The older guys seem to us to be more polite and we have only had nasty messages from younger guys. Let's leave it at that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have met some young guys, i enjoyed having some young company for a change.
they get more excited and enjoy it more.
have found they arent so good at foreplay and more likely to be shy and turn up late.
thats just some of the ones i have met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally agree ... what on earth are boys in their twenties doing on a swingers site!!
This just stinks of jealousy. Why is it anyone is on a swingers site...
Green is not a good colour on you. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are right ... Rio is so gagging for a 21 years old, experienced lover! She can't get anyone for love or money. Probably because she is a size 6 and can't get clothes to fit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are right ... Rio is so gagging for a 21 years old, experienced lover! She can't get anyone for love or money. Probably because she is a size 6 and can't get clothes to fit."
*sctraches head* |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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There are always exceptions to a rule but in my experience I do not have enough in common with somebody in their 20ies. We are at a different stage in our lives, seek different things, experience different things as pleasurable. I seek a bit more than a quick shag, mainly at mental, cerebral and communication level and I find that makes me more compatible with guys over 40.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are right ... Rio is so gagging for a 21 years old, experienced lover! She can't get anyone for love or money. Probably because she is a size 6 and can't get clothes to fit."
Again I feel the need to ask what has this got to do with anything? Yeah you think your wife is hot but that in no way increases the validity of your posts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok so I have just been asked by a male friend to help him find a young guy to fuck his 40yr old Mrs on a regular basis. Must be in Portsmouth/Southampton area as they are on the IOW. In his 20's would be perfect, so all you young guys form an orderly queue. Oh must have a good 7 inches at least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are right ... Rio is so gagging for a 21 years old, experienced lover! She can't get anyone for love or money. Probably because she is a size 6 and can't get clothes to fit."
Rather perplexed at this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are right ... Rio is so gagging for a 21 years old, experienced lover! She can't get anyone for love or money. Probably because she is a size 6 and can't get clothes to fit."
Funniest post I've seen today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's all down to personal preference I guess. I too was under the impression that younger guys wouldn't have the stamina and experience but was proved soooo wrong when I met a guy who was only 21!!
I have to say they have probably been my best meets on fab so far not forgetting he is a right little hotty and makes me feel young again |
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We only meet younger guys and have had some great nights but Having checked out your profile we wouldn't look at it twice. It's crass to say the least and doesn't appeal to me as an 'older' woman. If you want to dominate you should list yourself as a Dom Male instead of putting on your profile needing to relieve yourself of stress!!!! And as for 'unleashing the beast' that only impresses 'the guys' and not potential meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally agree ... what on earth are boys in their twenties doing on a swingers site!!"
Wow, what a stupid, hostile comment coming from an 'older' and thus apparently much 'wiser' couple (the contradiction is amazing)!
Here I am, young, inexperienced and apparently in the wrong place, mistakenly thinking that swinging was about openness, acceptance, non-judgement and fun! I didn't realise there was an age tag attached to any of the above... but I am so glad you shared your wisdom with us little boys!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am amazed at how naive some of you are. What is with all the bitching & whining about how older women aren't interested in you?!
1. Some older ladies will undoubtedly be attracted to young men who come across as puerile & needy. May will not- presentation REALLY matters!
2. There is a world of difference between enjoying the company of younger men and being propositioned by someone who is younger than your son.
3. There is also a difference between being cheeky & youthful and being stupid & childish. Petulant comments about women being picky/up themselves/arrogant are not attractive and appear deeply insecure.
4. If you really are attracted to older women you can just go out to a bar, but when you talk to a lady, make sure you talk to the whole person and not as a sexual object or fetish. Some women will find that a turn on, but my guess is that many won't.
5. Readers may legitimately be wondering what would a 24-year old bisexual man know about older ladies and what behaviours they find attractive/off-putting?... Empathy helps as well as direct experience of puerile and downright offensive messages from men on here. As well as the occasional accusation of being a time-waster or being a snob.
This isn't a reply to any one person here in particular, but just to those people who think that just because someone isn't attracted to them that it is a personal slight. It is a personal slight, and this is a sex-site. If you want to make connections based on personality and connection then go elsewhere. Appearance matters here and if in displaying your 'true-self' you are rebuffed you really shouldn't throw your rattle from your pram & whine about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am amazed at how naive some of you are. What is with all the bitching & whining about how older women aren't interested in you?!
1. Some older ladies will undoubtedly be attracted to young men who come across as puerile & needy. May will not- presentation REALLY matters!
2. There is a world of difference between enjoying the company of younger men and being propositioned by someone who is younger than your son.
3. There is also a difference between being cheeky & youthful and being stupid & childish. Petulant comments about women being picky/up themselves/arrogant are not attractive and appear deeply insecure.
4. If you really are attracted to older women you can just go out to a bar, but when you talk to a lady, make sure you talk to the whole person and not as a sexual object or fetish. Some women will find that a turn on, but my guess is that many won't.
5. Readers may legitimately be wondering what would a 24-year old bisexual man know about older ladies and what behaviours they find attractive/off-putting?... Empathy helps as well as direct experience of puerile and downright offensive messages from men on here. As well as the occasional accusation of being a time-waster or being a snob.
This isn't a reply to any one person here in particular, but just to those people who think that just because someone isn't attracted to them that it is a personal slight. It is a personal slight, and this is a sex-site. If you want to make connections based on personality and connection then go elsewhere. Appearance matters here and if in displaying your 'true-self' you are rebuffed you really shouldn't throw your rattle from your pram & whine about it."
That's what I call a rant |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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Just a thought maybe it's because what you're offering they aren't looking for 
If a lady regardless of age is interested in you they will reapond if they aren't accept the 'no thank you' as their choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just a thought maybe it's because what you're offering they aren't looking for
If a lady regardless of age is interested in you they will reapond if they aren't accept the 'no thank you' as their choice "
I agree but some are rude on here they don't even reply saying that if they did I would be able to take that  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Just a thought maybe it's because what you're offering they aren't looking for
If a lady regardless of age is interested in you they will reapond if they aren't accept the 'no thank you' as their choice I agree but some are rude on here they don't even reply saying that if they did I would be able to take that "
............ and some people don't bother to help themselves "help themselves"...... so it is very much a two way street...
plus "desperation" isn't really a particularly sexy trait..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't see how I sound desperate I've never messaged a woman more than once if I don't get a reply. I don't lie just state facts I just say it how it is I really don't mind that no one meets me but when someone put this post on I just wrote the truth if it comes across that I sound desperate I'm not as I've have up even meeting anyone I just come on here for a laugh on here also like looking and going on cam . Desperate I think not |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends on the how much younger the guy is really, and what the lady in question wants.
But speaking from personal experience Im delighted to say that a lot of older ladies do.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong "
Often its not the age its the level of maturity. Think older and you might find it easier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm pleased you've raised the subject of the whole younger guy older woman dynamic, I've searched and searched all day and couldn't find anything relating to it at all "
There's been loads done on this subject over the three years I've been here so I find that hard to believe  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am amazed at how naive some of you are. What is with all the bitching & whining about how older women aren't interested in you?!
1. Some older ladies will undoubtedly be attracted to young men who come across as puerile & needy. May will not- presentation REALLY matters!
2. There is a world of difference between enjoying the company of younger men and being propositioned by someone who is younger than your son.
3. There is also a difference between being cheeky & youthful and being stupid & childish. Petulant comments about women being picky/up themselves/arrogant are not attractive and appear deeply insecure.
4. If you really are attracted to older women you can just go out to a bar, but when you talk to a lady, make sure you talk to the whole person and not as a sexual object or fetish. Some women will find that a turn on, but my guess is that many won't.
5. Readers may legitimately be wondering what would a 24-year old bisexual man know about older ladies and what behaviours they find attractive/off-putting?... Empathy helps as well as direct experience of puerile and downright offensive messages from men on here. As well as the occasional accusation of being a time-waster or being a snob.
This isn't a reply to any one person here in particular, but just to those people who think that just because someone isn't attracted to them that it is a personal slight. It is a personal slight, and this is a sex-site. If you want to make connections based on personality and connection then go elsewhere. Appearance matters here and if in displaying your 'true-self' you are rebuffed you really shouldn't throw your rattle from your pram & whine about it."
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Despite what I have heard older women in my experience don't go for younger men, anyone else experienced this? Or am I all wrong "
I need someone to be on the same level of maturity as myself, as I like to enjoy the company I keep which includes having a conversation as inbetween the sexy stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was introduced to swinging by a 'mature' lady and most of the people i have come across and had the pleasure to meet have been on the more 'mature' side of the age bracket!
Personally, I would prefer someone mature in age mainly because i know that that would also mean they are emotionally mature.
There may be a few women who are out just for the younger person, but i would suspect that the vast majority are looking for some emotional stability as a priority! |
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