Has anyone taken a break from this site for a while and then come back but found it hard to reintegrate and reignite conversations/connections with friends from before?
We had to take a break from the site due to illness and injury but since we came back we've found that people we used to think we were quite close to seem to have moved on and are no longer interested in us. Are people here really that impatient? |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
Depends how long "a while" is I suppose?
I was speaking to a couple for quite some time with a view to a meet. Then they suddenly ghosted me.
Two years later, TWO YEARS later, they messaged me again like nothing had happened. I wasn't overly impressed, particularly as I think they were being less than honest with me.
We're no longer chatting!!!
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I think the key thing with fab is don’t overthink other people.
Sounds daft, but plenty of us here, if they are not interested now. Move on to the next, I know it’s a shame if you have built up a friendship etc but it’s what it is!
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"Has anyone taken a break from this site for a while and then come back but found it hard to reintegrate and reignite conversations/connections with friends from before?
We had to take a break from the site due to illness and injury but since we came back we've found that people we used to think we were quite close to seem to have moved on and are no longer interested in us. Are people here really that impatient?"
If you were looking for guys of my age, I'd definitely be interested in you 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone taken a break from this site for a while and then come back but found it hard to reintegrate and reignite conversations/connections with friends from before?
We had to take a break from the site due to illness and injury but since we came back we've found that people we used to think we were quite close to seem to have moved on and are no longer interested in us. Are people here really that impatient?
If you were looking for guys of my age, I'd definitely be interested in you
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That's not answering their question |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone taken a break from this site for a while and then come back but found it hard to reintegrate and reignite conversations/connections with friends from before?
We had to take a break from the site due to illness and injury but since we came back we've found that people we used to think we were quite close to seem to have moved on and are no longer interested in us. Are people here really that impatient?"
I don't think it's impatient it's just life goes on, new profiles start, more profiles are interactive on the forums and gain more chances of finding what they are looking for.
If you felt a connection with others did you exchange info/ numbers and keep contact off site?
Plus people's interests can change |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I think it can be out of sight out of mind sometimes op , especially of it's been a while & there's been no contact in that time.
I don't think people mean it in a bad way,they will just choose people who are meeting.
Try a club or social to get to know more people + join in forums.
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"Has anyone taken a break from this site for a while and then come back but found it hard to reintegrate and reignite conversations/connections with friends from before?
We had to take a break from the site due to illness and injury but since we came back we've found that people we used to think we were quite close to seem to have moved on and are no longer interested in us. Are people here really that impatient?"
Just message the ones you would like to pick up with. Explain you’ve been away for a bit and see what the craic is. Life moves on but if there’s a relationship there.. a friendship then hopefully you can pick that back up and work on it again. Hope it works out ok  |
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We were away for about 5 years. When we came back on we haven't really connected or spoken to anyone we were chatting with/were friends with the first time.
They might all be at different stages of their journey and not in the same place as they were when we left off.
We've just started afresh and tried to meet people based on chat and relationships as they are now. |
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I hid my last profile and didn't log in for over a year.
I came back in mid 2019 and deleted that profile and the 30+ verifications that went with it.
I created this one a few weeks later and deliberately didn't contact anyone I had been verified by before or make it known I had returned.
That was a conscious decision to have no links to the reasons I had for leaving in the first place.
I have had people I used to chat to contact me after a few years but they were hard work previously so I've politely declined.
It's not always lack of patience. There could be many reasons.
Some people leave in a blaze of glory only to reappear a couple of weeks later but others leave for much longer and those they used to be friendly with have no idea if they are coming back so will obviously have moved on. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I suppose it depends on how long you were gone for and how friendly you were with those people on here as well. And I also if you had met in person or not.
I've had people I've chatted to even spoken about meeting just disappear from here either totally,or just not log on for ages and I am talking over a year.No explanation or message or anything beforehand.Then they reappear and think they can just pick up where we left off chatting but I have moved on and sometimes I can't even remember who they are , especially when they come back on a new profile. If they took a long break and didn't say beforehand that they were then I don't really see why they would expect to carry on as though they didn't just disappear, especially if they are people I only chatted to and didn't actually know.
I know you may have valid reasons for taking a break but they have their own reasons why they no longer want to keep in contact or be as friendly as they were. It's like most friendships it has to be a two way thing or else they don't work. |
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