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"Is it advisable to visit with a male partner?
Am really keen to attend - really want to experience it but as a single female not sure how it would work??
Any advice xx"
As a single woman you would just ask everyone to form an orderly queue for a chat lol. Get a drink, sit down, and you will be aporoached instantly |
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"Is it advisable to visit with a male partner?
Am really keen to attend - really want to experience it but as a single female not sure how it would work??
Any advice xx
As a single woman you would just ask everyone to form an orderly queue for a chat lol. Get a drink, sit down, and you will be aporoached instantly "
Thank you x
All the parties (well those local) seem to indicate that it’s only couples welcome?? |
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"Is it advisable to visit with a male partner?
Am really keen to attend - really want to experience it but as a single female not sure how it would work??
Any advice xx"
I did my very first visit as a single female waaaay back in 2013
Love the club scene
And single ladies are not short of company haha  |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
A lot will depend on what you want from your visit. If you're mostly interested in single men, a couples night won't be much use to you.
And a lot will depend on the culture of the club you choose. At my regular, a new single woman will attract attention from the men. But if you give them a clear "no", they will honour it.
"Couples" nights are usually "couples and single women". It'd be unusual for a club to turn women away. But maybe there's one that is strictly couples only. It's best to contact them and check |
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What are you looking for at a club or a party?
If just couples then go on a Saturday night to a club, most are couples and single females only. If you're wanting single guys then go on a Friday night. Same applies for Parties
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Myself and a friend are both going to club this this weekend for the first time. She wouldn't feel comfortable going alone and to be honest neither would I but probably not for the same reasons.
We're not fb's but both find it really good to keep each other grounded in this sometimes heady scene.
It's nice to have a wing person I think. |
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By *ustj4fMan
over a year ago
North cotswolds |
"Is it advisable to visit with a male partner?
Am really keen to attend - really want to experience it but as a single female not sure how it would work??
Any advice xx"
Go for it! Maybe to a smaller club at first more than happy to go along with you! X |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"I def need a person I think!"
If there's someone you already know and are comfortable with, that can make the first time easier. It's less scary stepping into the unknown with someone beside you.
I recommend against a man you don't know though. It can work - there have been success stories - but usually it's not a good idea. |
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Some blokes are pushy. They are pushy regardless of if you're alone or with someone. Regardless of alone or not you are responsible for you and to a certain extent you always need to be assertive to some degree with people in the club environment. And if people are making you feel uncomfortable the staff is always there to help. So personally I would say don't go to the club with a guy solely for that reason.
We both have enjoyed clubs alone and as a couple. It's a different experience as single from as a couple. There's a certain freedom when you go alone and all you have to do is worry about what you want to do and get out of it without regards to another. Also as a couple it's harder to find connections that work for both of you than it is for finding connections that work for one of you. Personally I would suggest go alone because you will have so many more opportunities open to you and the freedom to fill your boots without having to consider the feeling, desires and needs of your +1.
If you are going to take a guy. Consider how your chemistry, knowledge of each other and how you work together will effect your experience? Will this be a long known lover who you share a deep chemistry and experience with? Or will it be more something of a far more casual nature. We don't care if a couple are fuck buddies, married or having an affair. Whatever their relationship status most can tell if there is great connection and chemistry or not. People can be put off when a man and woman come to a club as a couple but it's obvious they don't share a good bond or chemistry. So Personally unless you intend to come with someone you work really well with and are excited about sharing the experience with just come alone. The only reason we prefer to come to clubs as a couple and not alone is because love to share our filth and debauchery together. Because it enhances our experience and not because we're worried about pushy people.
It's also just worth remembering clubs are a very safe place. Mrs Misfit (like so many other single women we know) are happy to go alone and Mr Misfit is also very happy knowing she is safe when alone in a club. |
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"Some blokes are pushy. They are pushy regardless of if you're alone or with someone. Regardless of alone or not you are responsible for you and to a certain extent you always need to be assertive to some degree with people in the club environment. And if people are making you feel uncomfortable the staff is always there to help. So personally I would say don't go to the club with a guy solely for that reason.
We both have enjoyed clubs alone and as a couple. It's a different experience as single from as a couple. There's a certain freedom when you go alone and all you have to do is worry about what you want to do and get out of it without regards to another. Also as a couple it's harder to find connections that work for both of you than it is for finding connections that work for one of you. Personally I would suggest go alone because you will have so many more opportunities open to you and the freedom to fill your boots without having to consider the feeling, desires and needs of your +1.
If you are going to take a guy. Consider how your chemistry, knowledge of each other and how you work together will effect your experience? Will this be a long known lover who you share a deep chemistry and experience with? Or will it be more something of a far more casual nature. We don't care if a couple are fuck buddies, married or having an affair. Whatever their relationship status most can tell if there is great connection and chemistry or not. People can be put off when a man and woman come to a club as a couple but it's obvious they don't share a good bond or chemistry. So Personally unless you intend to come with someone you work really well with and are excited about sharing the experience with just come alone. The only reason we prefer to come to clubs as a couple and not alone is because love to share our filth and debauchery together. Because it enhances our experience and not because we're worried about pushy people.
It's also just worth remembering clubs are a very safe place. Mrs Misfit (like so many other single women we know) are happy to go alone and Mr Misfit is also very happy knowing she is safe when alone in a club."
This is a very good take for both men and women alike. Thank you  |
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"Some blokes are pushy. They are pushy regardless of if you're alone or with someone. Regardless of alone or not you are responsible for you and to a certain extent you always need to be assertive to some degree with people in the club environment. And if people are making you feel uncomfortable the staff is always there to help. So personally I would say don't go to the club with a guy solely for that reason.
We both have enjoyed clubs alone and as a couple. It's a different experience as single from as a couple. There's a certain freedom when you go alone and all you have to do is worry about what you want to do and get out of it without regards to another. Also as a couple it's harder to find connections that work for both of you than it is for finding connections that work for one of you. Personally I would suggest go alone because you will have so many more opportunities open to you and the freedom to fill your boots without having to consider the feeling, desires and needs of your +1.
If you are going to take a guy. Consider how your chemistry, knowledge of each other and how you work together will effect your experience? Will this be a long known lover who you share a deep chemistry and experience with? Or will it be more something of a far more casual nature. We don't care if a couple are fuck buddies, married or having an affair. Whatever their relationship status most can tell if there is great connection and chemistry or not. People can be put off when a man and woman come to a club as a couple but it's obvious they don't share a good bond or chemistry. So Personally unless you intend to come with someone you work really well with and are excited about sharing the experience with just come alone. The only reason we prefer to come to clubs as a couple and not alone is because love to share our filth and debauchery together. Because it enhances our experience and not because we're worried about pushy people.
It's also just worth remembering clubs are a very safe place. Mrs Misfit (like so many other single women we know) are happy to go alone and Mr Misfit is also very happy knowing she is safe when alone in a club."
We totally agree with this. Would also suggest calling the Club in advance, or at the very least say you are a newbie on the night and ask to be shown around and introduced to some people.
It can be fun on your own, you get to decide what you do, no means no and if you are uncomfortable with anyone pressuring you then let the Club know tight away. Go with no expectations and just see how things pan out  |
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As a single woman you would just ask everyone to form an orderly queue for a chat lol. Get a drink, sit down, and you will be approached instantly "
Absolutely agree with this  Solo women in clubs aren't on their own for long, and the staff will always look out for you. For the ladies, it's just a matter of take your pick.... |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
"This is it - I worry it would be a bit too full on!
Take someone with you, as some blokes can be pushy.
I def need a person I think!"
I don't think you do. All the clubs we have been to have been safe and friendly. If you're worried just tell the staff you're single and it's your first time and they'll keep an eye on you. As for unwanted attention, women in couples can get that too, but there's always someone around to help. Find a couple at the bar to talk to until you find your feet. |
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"If on your own - maybe a couples and single females only nights ?
If ur with a partner then any night but be prepared for the wanking dead to approach x"
This was our first experience at a club and our last because of it. Prefer smaller intimate group fun now but each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went with my friend as 2 single females and it was alot to absorb. I think if I visited again it'd be with a male partner x
This is why I worry about attending alone!!"
I'm usually fine and very social but found it quite overwhelming as a single female - even with my friend with me. Alot of men, saying no alot, but!!! It did wonders for my confidence haha x |
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I'm sure you will be grand.i did exactly that...went on my own 