So just curious what set rules do you have for your swinging journey?
Do you handle jealousy well or does it not phase you?
Do your boundaries ever get deviated from in the heat of the moment?
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No kissing. No anal. Condoms always. Never deviated. (But we have only ever had an MFM twice with the same person so who knows what the future will hold lol) |
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To always talk openly and honestly about what we want and don’t want and why we want it
To pick anyone we are going (him/her/both) to meet together
To stick of what we’ve agreed and to ensure anyone we meet knows this
We never get jealous of each other, we are strong and tight as a couple and this is just mutual fun we’ve both agreed on |
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Being completely open and honest, as far as the sex goes we don't set each other boundaries, we're adult enough to know what we like and feel it spoils it a bit if we say you can't do this or that x  |
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I think like most couples we set of with a set of boundaries. For example we were going to be a soft swap couple. However experience has taught us boundaries aren't fix and to some extent fluctuate depending on who we are with, the atmosphere and the chemistry at that moment. So for instance we may generally be soft swap but on occasion when the feeling is right with the right people we full swap.
It's good to have a frame work to start with. But what is most important is your ability to read each other and communicate. For something that maybe OK one time and/or with someone maybe not be OK another time and/or with someone else. |
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"Jealousy has no place in this lifestyle
We keep to three simple rules, kissing is a must for us, no Anal and safe sex always "
I've heard people say they get turned on by the jealousy, I've not experience it but just curious.
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As a couple who are just starting out we constantly talk and evaluate what we want and don’t want. It has changed slightly and now we are starting to meet people it may change again but it will always be what both Mrs and Mrs want. |
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Our boundaries have evolved overtime as we’ve gotten older.At the start we had a long list of things which looking back now was probably unrealistic and a little naive of us.
Their have been times when in the heat of the moment boundaries have been pushed but we have always talked about it openly and honestly with each other after communication is definitely a must in this lifestyle.
I’ve experienced pangs of jealousy but not the type you hear about when the wife jumps up and starts screaming and shouting and storms out I can’t explain why but it does turn me on .It’s a slightly confusing emotion and it hasn’t happened very often but it’s been a nice experience . |
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"Jealousy has no place in this lifestyle
We keep to three simple rules, kissing is a must for us, no Anal and safe sex always"
Exactly the same for us x  |
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"So just curious what set rules do you have for your swinging journey?
Do you handle jealousy well or does it not phase you?
Do your boundaries ever get deviated from in the heat of the moment?
Mrs "
Our journey is based around women or couples with bi females, rules are just don’t get to close to the others involved,by which we mean it’s just sex we are looking for
Happy to have men cum on my tits but no penetration |
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Speaking from an invited male perspective it is usually the husband who organises the meet put out the time can’t bear to share his wife, I recently met a young couple that came to a premature end, because her husband got jealous of her enjoying herself. Too much, she messaged after apologising for him, but she said it was his idea.
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No Jealousy at all so long as we keep our rules.
Our rules are not for everyone though.
We only do soft swing so no penetration and stop means stop.
Kissing is for own partners.
e are happy to have cum on tits mouth if we get to know the people and even on cock to be licked off.
No anal, only partners cock in pussy
\We have had some amazing meets with these rules and made some amazing friends along the way.
Keep to your rules and you can't go wrong but do sit and talk to each other on what you both want and what you don't want. The couple or singles that you meet must be respectful of your wishes. |
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We found each other through swinging so I wonder if that means our boundaries are different due to that.
For example I wonder if a married couple start off with no kissing rules .....
Neither gets jealous either - quite the opposite as we love seeing each other enjoying themselves
Anyways I digress...... our boundaries are;
-safer sex
-Not looking to develop an ongoing relationship with others.
-No one else to call him Sir
- We play together, so not separate rooms
K
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We had a lot of rules when we first started but slowly over time we realised the only way to fully enjoy the lifestyle is to have minimal rules. We trust, be honest and have no jealousy. The only hard rules we have is if any of us start to get feelings for someone, it is cut. Or if one of us is done, then we stop altogether. |
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Thanks for all the responses I find each couples boundaries etc interesting....I never knew jealousy was a turn on for some until recently.
Ours are
No bareback.
No anal.
No getting close/emotionally involved.
That's about it although we've only met women not a couple as yet that may change
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we dont kiss anyone else as we find this more intimate between the 2 of us.
safe sex always
men mr can arrange as he knows what mrs likes, but couples we both have to agree on (sometimes unread messages to go back and have a second read).
anal only between the 2 of us.
currently only looking for voyeur/soft swap with couples as my lady dips her toe in however looking to progress to full swap.
with guys can fuck my lady, cum in condom of on tits etc. but not in mouth |
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"Jealousy has no place in this lifestyle
We keep to three simple rules, kissing is a must for us, no Anal and safe sex always"
This, and we don't meet separately. Swinging is something we do together as it's an extra to our relationship. |
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At the moment our boundaries are same room swap only, no anal and safe sex.
Safe sex will never change but other boundaries are alway subject to change. I (Mr) am happy for Mrs to have anal if she wants.
We used to have a no kissing policy and now we are both happy kissing others.
Neither of us do jealousy. |
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Just the basics really.
No anal no rough stuff.
Don't want to make the experience awkward. Plus don't want to put someone in the position of accidently breaking rules in the heat of the moment when enjoying one's self. |
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Rules that change or evolve:
(1) originally no other women for George, just pleasure me (gone)
(2) originally no natural or bareback (partially gone)
(3) originally no cim (100% gone)
(4) originally only MMF (now 16 man bukkakes etc)
(5) stay in the same room (gone)
... but this evolved organically and logically with me as the lady taking the steps and setting the firm boundaries ...
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"So just curious what set rules do you have for your swinging journey?
Do you handle jealousy well or does it not phase you?
Do your boundaries ever get deviated from in the heat of the moment?
Mrs "
Our only rule is that if either of us doesn't want to do something, then we won't. The point of swinging is to have fun, so if there's any pressure or stress involved, that's no fun.
There are a few hard & fast boundaries, the "three Ps", excessive drink, and drugs. Beyond this though, we like to enjoy what feels good in the moment.
Cal |
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"So just curious what set rules do you have for your swinging journey?
Do you handle jealousy well or does it not phase you?
Do your boundaries ever get deviated from in the heat of the moment?
Mrs
Our only rule is that if either of us doesn't want to do something, then we won't. The point of swinging is to have fun, so if there's any pressure or stress involved, that's no fun.
There are a few hard & fast boundaries, the "three Ps", excessive drink, and drugs. Beyond this though, we like to enjoy what feels good in the moment.
Cal"
Oh... and safe sex too. |
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"So just curious what set rules do you have for your swinging journey?
Do you handle jealousy well or does it not phase you?
Do your boundaries ever get deviated from in the heat of the moment?
Mrs "
1.We do not get jealous at all. From our first meet we just get excited and extremely turned on watching each other having sex with others. If you get jealous and can't shake it this lifestyle is not for you.
2. Rules. Only rule we have is no one takes one for the team. Either we are both included and up for it or we do not play.
3.boundries would only be moved if it's with people We played with before,i.e. Anal us only with john unless the other lady of the cpl lets john have anal sex with her. I am open to the other guy having anal sex with me in that sinario then. Joanne.
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"Jealousy has no place in this lifestyle
We keep to three simple rules, kissing is a must for us, no Anal and safe sex always"
Absolutely agree- communication is also key. |
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"Jealousy has no place in this lifestyle
We keep to three simple rules, kissing is a must for us, no Anal and safe sex always
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It is about all enjoying yourself so get the ground rules out of the way and have fun. |
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"So just curious what set rules do you have for your swinging journey?
Do you handle jealousy well or does it not phase you?
Do your boundaries ever get deviated from in the heat of the moment?
Mrs "
We expected the pangs of jealousy, but we haven’t encountered that in the slightest. Swinging has always been about each other’s pleasure for us - the look in our eyes when we swap is love for each other and purest lust for the person (or people) we’re fucking.
We only have a few rules: same room, condoms always, and that either of us can stop everything without arguments or upset. Pretty much everything else is on the table though, and we’ve been led astray to do new things we never thought imaginable - for us, it’s one of the most exciting things about being part of this lifestyle. A big long list of dos and don’ts might suit some people, but we prefer a more fluid situation. |
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