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We’ve had experiences in the past (and have had conversations with others who’ve had similar experiences) where a couple have a ‘no kissing’ rule with others.
Personally, we feel it is a huge part of playing with others and adds to the passion. However, of course we completely respect the boundaries of others.
How do other couples feel about this issue? |
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I don't kiss other men, I think kissing is super intimate... I like to kiss another woman if we're all playing together.
I dont think I've seen hound kiss anyone else,I'm not sure how I'd feel about it...much rather watch so_eone else suck his cock  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex without kissing would be like eating dry toast.
I've never understood how anyone can have sex without kissing their partner. Kissing means everything to me. It's the biggest and most important turn on.
I've been on countless dates, and their kiss was awful so nothing ever went any further. I couldn't sleep with a bad kisser, let alone a non kisser. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Somewhere in the middle here!? Kissing sure as it's fun, but deep/ long/ intense snogs no, as I find them super intimate, more personal than casual sex for me, so I'm uncomfortable doing that with friends.
Dont think it needs to be a big issue... some do, some don't - each way, they can be up front & just keep to meeting people who share their preferences?!? xo |
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We started off in the early days with the no kissing rule. We felt at the time that we wanted to keep that one thing for ourselves. Didn’t last long!
It took the right couple, right place where the attraction/click was off the scale. We were soon snogging their faces off. Never looked back and have enjoyed kissing others since.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We take a go with the flow approach now though did initially rule out kissing when we first talked about swinging. Thats the key really; communicating with your partner. |
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As a single and a couple its rare I kiss guys.... I though am mostly here for group fun and a bit hard to kiss when I'm straight to it with a cock in my mouth.. on the rare occasions I do 121, or play with couples it does depend on my mood... the situation and who... I can't kiss a random person.. down to some very personal reasons.
It makes me feel very uncomfortable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Intimacy is for the sammich maker. They deserve to have that for them alone. One wouldn't want the sammich maker preparing some lovely brie focaccia with fig & bourbon chutney for just any old dogs body. |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"As a single and a couple its rare I kiss guys.... I though am mostly here for group fun and a bit hard to kiss when I'm straight to it with a cock in my mouth.. on the rare occasions I do 121, or play with couples it does depend on my mood... the situation and who... I can't kiss a random person.. down to some very personal reasons.
It makes me feel very uncomfortable "
Seconded, even though I’m a single, I won’t kiss just because they want, I need a connection and to feel comfortable. I’ve had meets where they push for kisses and it’s very uncomfortable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Miss - Very particular about how I want to be kissed and rarely ever kiss other men. That is not what I want from them join in with us. I'll know from how they use their mouth elsewhere if they car compatible. 
Mr - Bring on the snogfest  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its entirely dependant on the situation for me...
We've met couples with a no kissing rule...it's their boundary and as long as we kiss each other it's OK but it does tend to interrupt the flow of play...make it a bit stilted
I've never had anyone insist I kiss them in a club and I'm not that keen to kiss random partners in that scenario...especially when I don't know where they've had their faces |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t meet with anyone who didn’t include kissing as part of play.
Met with a couple from my joint profile and play had already commenced when they sprung it on us that they had a no kissing rule.
There was no mention of it on their profile and they hadn’t pre warned us.
It was a deal breaker and we brought the evening to a halt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get it that some people prefer not to, however for us it would be strange being intimate with other without kissing - it's part of the experience to us.
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"We’ve had experiences in the past (and have had conversations with others who’ve had similar experiences) where a couple have a ‘no kissing’ rule with others.
Personally, we feel it is a huge part of playing with others and adds to the passion. However, of course we completely respect the boundaries of others.
How do other couples feel about this issue?"
Kissing is a must for us ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Last weekend I played with a couple who had this rule. I went with it as I am not one to cause issues, even though kissing is a massive thing for me.
However when I was being fucked by the guy he was desperate to kiss me and said so to his Mrs, he begged her to break their rule, she obvs declined. For sure had she not been watching he would have!! |
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"We’ve had experiences in the past (and have had conversations with others who’ve had similar experiences) where a couple have a ‘no kissing’ rule with others.
Personally, we feel it is a huge part of playing with others and adds to the passion. However, of course we completely respect the boundaries of others.
How do other couples feel about this issue?"
Indeed, a huge part of the play and arousal. |
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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago
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I must admit I love a good snog to warm things up but tbh try as I might I just don't understand all those replies that say its too intimate - surely the ultimate intimate act is that of actually having full sex with so_eone,including oral, & I'm sorry if you disagree with that statement, but if you do, then your just having sex for the sake of having sex rather than the full enjoyment that a playdate should bring - after all kissing is what separates our act of sex from that of all the others in the animal kingdom,I always say at meets, we can have great sex with potential playmates, but psychologically can only ever make love to my partner  |
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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago
West midlands |
"I must admit I love a good snog to warm things up but tbh try as I might I just don't understand all those replies that say its too intimate - surely the ultimate intimate act is that of actually having full sex with so_eone,including oral, & I'm sorry if you disagree with that statement, but if you do, then your just having sex for the sake of having sex rather than the full enjoyment that a playdate should bring - after all kissing is what separates our act of sex from that of all the others in the animal kingdom,I always say at meets, we can have great sex with potential playmates, but psychologically can only ever make love to my partner "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't need to understand in order to respect differences...
For me, our super intense snogs as a couple are very emotionally bonding, more in romantic & relationship intimacy that I don't feel comfortable doing with others. Also we do them when no sex is happening, just within the physical intimacy of our relationship which is why they feel specially intimate.
Where as, playful kissing in teasing build up, or hot kissing in the moment during, elevates the experience of sex into great, over good/ ok sex, for me.
I appreciate others may disagree but hope the clarity helps. |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"Kissing is a big no for me , god forbid  ,,, really
Yes never cared for it"
,, if it does nothing for you so be it,,, |
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By *alfrollerMan
over a year ago
West London / Scotland |
"I don’t get the no kissing rule. If my wife is going to suck another man’s cock then why should kissing be seen as more intimate "
This is exactly our thoughts too. Much prefer to share and enjoy everyone. Totally get that it's a personal preference so tend to ask this question up front. |
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"I don’t get the no kissing rule. If my wife is going to suck another man’s cock then why should kissing be seen as more intimate "
Maybe because often couples kiss as an expression of non sexual love and they don't want to share that aspect of their relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I too respect others boundaries however if I am looking to meet up with a couple either solo or as part of a couple that is an absolute deal breaker and it doesn’t matter how attractive they are I need kissing. |
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Each to their own but we prefer to meet cpls who kiss others. It's a major part of the turning on each other before and during sex with each other and our playmates. We respect other peoples choices on the no kissing rule but we would pass on a meet with them. |
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"I too respect others boundaries however if I am looking to meet up with a couple either solo or as part of a couple that is an absolute deal breaker and it doesn’t matter how attractive they are I need kissing. "
as above it's a must to us to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All the good stuff starts with a kiss. Wouldn't meet so_eone who doesn't kiss
Mrs C "
We’re the same x Totally understand that everyone is different but for me it would feel awkward and stilted without kissing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I too respect others boundaries however if I am looking to meet up with a couple either solo or as part of a couple that is an absolute deal breaker and it doesn’t matter how attractive they are I need kissing. "
This is interesting to me and something I’ve pondered as I know some people meet based purely on body pics and chat alone. So their potential facial unattractiveness isn’t a dealbreaker for you? Just curious x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if they are a bad kisser or they think I am a bad kisser. Sometimes a bad kiss can kill the mood, like snogging a washing machine!! "
Then we wouldn’t move passed a social x I always end a social with a kiss x seals the deal one way or the other x |
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Think its different for every couple and individual. I don't mind Mr kissing another woman and i will kiss another woman but kissing the other man (if there is one), isn't for me. We explain it up front but also accept that it can end in same partner only kissing. It's never meant to offend anyone, just my personal preference. |
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"I don’t get the no kissing rule. If my wife is going to suck another man’s cock then why should kissing be seen as more intimate
Maybe because often couples kiss as an expression of non sexual love and they don't want to share that aspect of their relationship "
Yeah I suppose if you look at it that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We are very torn on this subject, we kiss many times a day and its part of our relationship and how much we love each so doing it with somebody else seems somehow wrong to us.
We are also aware that kissing can be a part of the build up and during sexy meets and that is necessary to some people in order to feel properly into it. |
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See, I don't have a no-kissing rule as such, but I don't enjoy it and a bad kisser runs the risk of turning me off.
I can fuck anyone and everyone without feelings, but I need to have feelings for you to want to or enjoy kissing you.
My body explodes when Hubby kisses me, whereas with anyone else it doesn't do anything and I feel like I'm just enduring an act...  |
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"See, I don't have a no-kissing rule as such, but I don't enjoy it and a bad kisser runs the risk of turning me off.
I can fuck anyone and everyone without feelings, but I need to have feelings for you to want to or enjoy kissing you.
My body explodes when Hubby kisses me, whereas with anyone else it doesn't do anything and I feel like I'm just enduring an act... "
I agree that others kissing me don't have the same effect as hubby kissing me as that is due to our very strong emotional connection which id not want with other men. But kissing settles the nerves and is part and parcel of turning me on in preperation for sex. |
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