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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
Talk openly and earnestly about what excites you. But if she needs "convincing" it's probably not a good thing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do you convince her ?
You don’t is the short answer. It’s not the sort of thing me person should be convincing the other about.
Maybe it was just a poor choice or words on your part but communication really is the key to making this kind of thing work |
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By *rogalCouple
over a year ago
Falkirk |
My Mrs took a while to come round to the idea. She had it in her head that if I wanted to share her then I must not love her, or that I was doing that to try and manipulate her to let me play with another woman (she couldn't have been further from the truth).
I just reassured her constantly and as posters above said, we watched porn together and included it in our dirty talk etc  |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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You don’t convince
She either will when she’s comfortable or not
When one of the couple pushes the other it’s always uncomfortable for anyone joining, if one party is hesitant we can all feel it and most swingers prefer their playmates to be comfortable more than hesitant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Show her your profile, great ice breaker!"
Exactly what I was thinking.
Show her how much fun you're having without her. She'll soon be up for shagging others, though I doubt she'll ever let you touch her again  |
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One of the first questions I asked when my partner suggested swinging was "aren't I enough for you?"
If you can truthfully reassure your wife that she is she might feel confident enough in your relationship to explore further. Talk to her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The key thing is it is you that wants her to, you can't convince her "she wants to have sex with someone else".
If that is the goal and she is open to exploring it, you need to allow her hit milestones. Like a milesrtone might be her comfortable getting to "1st base" with no pressure that it goes past that milestone. Maybe work up to her being on a massage table being massaged by you and another guy but no fingering or sex. You and the other guy could even be naked and she isn't fully. Let her find if she is comfortable and let her mind wander to what she might be open to as the next milestone. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious "
On reflection, what does she think about that gorgeous woman you are fucking in your pics? She could ask her what she thought about her MFM and you could take it from there?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We ended up on here due to texting fantasies. We had no idea that the other would like to try fab and swinging until we found out we would both enjoy having others involved.
Might be worth trying of you haven't discussed fantasies before? You just never know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Beg and badger her about it when she doesn't want to. Ruin relationship, get divorced.
She will soon be having sex with another guy.
Sorted."
Add I show her your profile if she doesn't know about it and jibs a goodun 
OP you can't convince or persuade ahe has to give her willing and enthusiastic consent with no pressure.
And if you don't already look at porn together then tread carefully. Most porn is for male consumption so choose wisely what you show her if you do that. |
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We started off from watching threesome porn. Then we talked openly about how it turned us on and what we might like. I asked her if she would take to try another guy with us and she said yes if we can find the right guy. We didn’t rush and continued to talk openly and honestly about it all. Was probably a year before our first meeting happened.
As others have pointed out it’s not about convincing it’s about discussion and jointly agreeing what if anything you might wish to explore. Done well it’s can enhance a relationship done badly destroy one. Tread carefully, be honest, accept the feedback. |
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"Convincing" is the wrong way to go about it. Approach the subject and see what she thinks. If it's a hard no, it's a hard no. You might be lucky and she could jump at it but convincing and coercing isn't healthy for a relationship. |
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious
On reflection, what does she think about that gorgeous woman you are fucking in your pics? She could ask her what she thought about her MFM and you could take it from there?
Gbat "
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Unfortunately a reverse image search reveals some of the OPs pictures have been clipped from the Internet! |
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
You can't. And even if you could, you shouldn't.
If she ever shows an interest, you could suggest she reads 'How to be a Swinger.' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you tried putting cuck porn on the telly, standing next to it with both arms outstretched down and to your right, palms shown, while displaying a sirrius facial expression?
Have you tried bribery? Women love money. Mr Tate taught me that!
Try withholding rumpy pumpy until she gives in to your persuasion. I'm sure whe can't go a week.
You could mention it fourty times a day, especially when she is doing something really nice for you, like making you a sammich. If your lucky enough to get a blowie, then try telling her you wish it was another man she was sucking. You never know, she might just do that!
Maybe try listening to if she is happy with how things are. If she truly is then continue to enjoy what you have in hand. If not, try to understand what she would like to improve or try out something new, them work hard to fulfil her desire. One day she might be so grateful, maybe. |
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
You don't convince her you have a conversation, a open and honest one, show her your profile, give her a fab tour explain your reasons why.
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
having to Convince your partner is the reason alot split up after trying swinging ....your either a very together couple who know each other inside out (including sexually) or your not ...ive never understood people who dont know there partners that well agter all its the one person you should know the most |
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it?
You don't convince her you have a conversation, a open and honest one, show her your profile, give her a fab tour explain your reasons why.
Mrs "
Exactly this. Talk to each other, don’t hide things from her. It hurts like hell finding out a partner has been lying and seeing other people behind your back but being honest is a big step at making things work if you truly want them to. Don’t hide fantasy’s no matter what they are, straight, bi or anything in between, you never know she may be more open than you think she is but all the time you keep hiding, lying and cheating making her feel worthless and unwanted your just pushing her away
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
She's right to be suspicious given that you've been on here over a year and have had at least 3 in person non social meets 
In my opinion you don't have the sort of relationship that is suitable for swinging. Honesty is key.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would you wish to convince her? Is she aware you’re on here and play? I personally don’t sleep with other men, I don’t want to and T couldn’t convince me otherwise whether he wanted to see it or not.
Respect her choices, if the discussion went no further previously, she clearly wasn’t into it.
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Maybe the OP wasn’t using the correct terminology..
As I’ve seen this asked lots over the years.
Convince isn’t appropriate but maybe ‘breach’ rhe subject.. I have had partners over the years be well up for it but a recent one thought there was some alternative meaning like ‘are you gay’ And couldn’t take the honesty of how hot wife threesomes are hot for exactly that! She couldn’t see how a man would like seeing his wife with someone and it’s all about seeing a man’s cock!
So it can be a tricky one at times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
How did you convince her to let you fuck other women? |
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Many many years ago I put a profile on a site and didn't tell the wife. Then when a couple wanted to meet, I'd been rumbled, either turn the couple down or tell the wife. I opted for the second option. Her reply "we'd better go and meet them, then"  |
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
You can't, she has to convince herself. If she doesn't tuff shit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would anyone want to coerce their partner into doing something they don't want to do?
Also, the OP is a single guy profile with no mention of his wife. I don't believe in monogamy, but for those that do, isn't this a bit....dodgy? Where's the consent from your wife for any of this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do u know she isn't already fucking other men/couples? She was round ours last week and been used by most of the guys on here over the years"
Not me. Have I missed out again?  |
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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago
Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me |
"Beg and badger her about it when she doesn't want to. Ruin relationship, get divorced.
She will soon be having sex with another guy.
Sorted."
Short and sweet of it all lmao
Try approaching visiting a club that way there's no pressure to play but just having a good night out
You'll probably find she'll end up playing if someone catches her eye but the choice has to be hers even if you are married x |
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By *omSnowMan
over a year ago
Woking |
"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it?
How did you convince her to let you fuck other women?"
That's the easy part,we all know how easy it is to get her to let you do it, it will happen.....NEVER!!  |
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By *lipsCouple
over a year ago
LEICESTER |
"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
Maybe being on Fab with a single profile isn't the best place to start |
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By *lipsCouple
over a year ago
LEICESTER |
"Why would anyone want to coerce their partner into doing something they don't want to do?
Also, the OP is a single guy profile with no mention of his wife. I don't believe in monogamy, but for those that do, isn't this a bit....dodgy? Where's the consent from your wife for any of this?"
Absolutely well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
You don't convince people, stop pressuring her. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
You don't. If someone isn't comfortable with the idea of swinging then it isn't swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don't convince her. You talk to her about why you like the idea as a fantasy and ask her if she likes the idea"
This is what we done too, after bringing it up for a while we finally talked about the idea and what I like etc, she agreed to go along with it and see how she felt, we created an account on here and have just been browsing for a few months now.
We haven't progressed and probably wont to be honest. As much as I want to get involved in these type of things you cant make the other person do it if they dont want to.
If they dont enjoy these type of things, even after the suggestions people have made above then realistically its not going to happen. I am sure your wife would have give you some indication by now if she enjoyed this type of thing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She may think it’s just a gesture so u can get with other women if you’d have never done it start with a threesome with a woman she may want to repay the favour and let u get another lad involved but also if ur gf don’t swallow or do anal she may think it’s just to get her to do that and it’s mad how many women don’t swallow or do anal |
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Talk, talk, talk and talk some more.
Before every visit to a club we discuss expectations and what we would like to happen and what we don’t want to happen.
We have had one moment that made me (as male half) slightly uncomfortable* but we talked about it after and got over it.
*We were chatting with a guy and he asked whether we play with others and our sexuality, I’m straight, M is bi and we said as much. He then asked if we played with others, I said I didn’t and M said it’s up to him gesturing to me. I was a bit taken aback and as I never felt it was in my say so, and also didn’t know whether she wanted to play with this guy, as we had never had that on our list of possibilities. When we spoke after M had herself been wondering why she said it and she thought the only reason was she had already entered a subspace even though we hadn’t played yet.
But just proving communication is key, and either party can suddenly feel uncomfortable even the Dom in a D/s scenario. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She has to be comfortable with even the thought of it,then you can move on to next level.A soft play situation is probs the best way for first time,even just being watched then she will know if it’s gonna be for her.She might love it and she might not…I hope she does and gets as much enjoyment as you would.Main thing is….she is not a toy….always remember she is your beautiful wife that you adore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't say I had to convince mine. However a lot of reassurance that it was OK. And then we built up. From some soft play to full play.
Now we have just started on a adventure with a friend. We're she is a shared wife between me and him.
Most of this is all about reassurance and Comunication. |
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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Can't say I had to convince mine. However a lot of reassurance that it was OK. And then we built up. From some soft play to full play.
Now we have just started on a adventure with a friend. We're she is a shared wife between me and him.
Most of this is all about reassurance and Comunication."
Are you not afraid she will go off with him? |
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Yeah you can’t convince of force someone to enjoy this life style, she needs to want it her self as well, me and an ex talked about it openly and then one night we did a little role play and got her to imagine I was a guy from her works she liked the look of and it went from there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My Indian wife is hot and loves a good fuck but I feel it’s time to see her with others just need help convincing her "
Don't be disgusting. Coercive behaviour is abuse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi we’ve spoken about this in the past, but she has always been suspicious as to why I’d want this. How do I convince her to do it? "
It really depends on whether she actually wants to or not. For example, my wife always felt guilty at the thought of it (she felt like it would be cheating) but actually wanted to try it, so after some talking she was comfortable with the fact I didn't look at it as cheating.
If however, she doesn't really want to, I'd just leave it there to be honest. Things can get really messy and ruin a good relationship unless you're both completely on the same page. |
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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago
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Agree with others that you can't Convince her.
You can talk to her, reassure her & encourage her that if situation arises & she wishes to take the opportunity she knows you will support her to e joy all the pleasure she can |
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It all come about a bit different for us whilst we were courting and a lot younger. I visited a trade show in Newcastle and I invited her along. I was looking for a new supplier of something and I found a trade stand and discussed a deal with the rep who was about ten years older than us. He was all over my wife to be, and she ended up legless with the wine he was pouring down her neck.
When we got home we ended up in bed, and she said to me - he wants to fuck me you know.
And she began to tell me the things he had suggested to her whilst we were having sex.
I told her that was fine with me if she was keen to see him, and I would speak to him.
A week or two later we had our first ever 3some and carried on doing so for around 2 years, we had a lot of fun |
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