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Hotwife couples dealing with arrogant guys!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi
For the couples on here. What is your go to way of dealing with guys who are just pushy and dismissive towards your partner!
We often chat to guys and always insist on face pics to start off, then if all happy we chat away and try to establish a connection. We often move to WhatsApp after chatting on FAB for a short while, so all 3 of us (me, hubby & guy) can chat. We have had some who completely ignore msgs from hubby (we know the guys aren’t interested in him lol but at least respect the fact he’s sharing) don’t react to flirty msgs at all & just want to push for a meet straight away 
So do you guys tell them…. thanks but no thanks or do you just block the number, delete the chat and block on FAB??
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As your profile says looking for men only unfortunately you are going to attract many more of the guys who are incapable of understanding relationships and see your husband as a SIMP only and will treat him as such. They will also come with the attitude of doing you a favour as they are gods gift and can fuck like no other. The truth about these guys is none of them have game, experience or even know how to really satisfy and be part of shared hot horny experience. They just want to cum and even better if they are stroking their tiny ego pretending to be bull. This is why you are attracting so many |
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I think the mistake your making is taking the conversation off here, your a couple so on here its easier for you both read and communicate with potential play partners.
The reason people ask for whatsapp, kik, telegram etc is to try and cut one of you out i have read so many accounts of this in the forums, even couples with who have met other couples , its normally the lady of one of the couples starts receiving messages from the other couple asking to meet behind her hubbys back.
If i was you i would keep all communication on here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand we are open to these kind of guys. My question is do they deserve the honesty of a msg explaining why it’s a no or just block and delete  |
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I understand we are open to these kind of guys. My question is do they deserve the honesty of a msg explaining why it’s a no or just block and delete "
I suppose it would depend on the context of the messages. In my experience if someone hasn’t understood your wishes fairly quickly then they never will. Mainly because they are only interested and thinking of themselves and their own interests regardless of anyone else. To us that’s a massive red flag and messaging them explaining does very little as it’s once again not what they want to hear, so once again choose to ignore it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand we are open to these kind of guys. My question is do they deserve the honesty of a msg explaining why it’s a no or just block and delete
I suppose it would depend on the context of the messages. In my experience if someone hasn’t understood your wishes fairly quickly then they never will. Mainly because they are only interested and thinking of themselves and their own interests regardless of anyone else. To us that’s a massive red flag and messaging them explaining does very little as it’s once again not what they want to hear, so once again choose to ignore it.
Do you guys just block and move on "
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We tend to move on. We’re not here to teach others etiquette and manners. If you’re single and looking for couples you should have taught yourself that prior to contacting. This isn’t primary school and other people’s relationships and desires should be respected |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd just explain we're looking for like minded, and maybe something that can develop into a three way friendship, and we're not sure that will be there case here. |
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"As your profile says looking for men only unfortunately you are going to attract many more of the guys who are incapable of understanding relationships and see your husband as a SIMP only and will treat him as such. They will also come with the attitude of doing you a favour as they are gods gift and can fuck like no other. The truth about these guys is none of them have game, experience or even know how to really satisfy and be part of shared hot horny experience. They just want to cum and even better if they are stroking their tiny ego pretending to be bull. This is why you are attracting so many "
This!!!! This is so bloody true. Doesn't help that 90% of the guys treat this as a sex site and not what it is, which is a swingers site |
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"I think the mistake your making is taking the conversation off here, your a couple so on here its easier for you both read and communicate with potential play partners.
The reason people ask for whatsapp, kik, telegram etc is to try and cut one of you out i have read so many accounts of this in the forums, even couples with who have met other couples , its normally the lady of one of the couples starts receiving messages from the other couple asking to meet behind her hubbys back.
If i was you i would keep all communication on here.
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Or you can see it as a trail. Is they at this way, then it's a block and delete, if they don't, then it's all game |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Block and delete. We're not all bad guys (see verifications).
The key thing to remember is you're only 'allowed' to fuck with the males permission anyway, so being dismissive of him etc just makes you look like a dickhead. It's probably RP for some by acting on the 'cuck' part but you can still cuck someone whilst being respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
For the couples on here. What is your go to way of dealing with guys who are just pushy and dismissive towards your partner!
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When a guy we're chatting to tries that crap we take the attitude "some guys need a very blunt reminder they are a dildo with a pulse". Not all guys are that and we don't mean to insult the guys who respect and understand how to work with a couple. |
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I think a simple message to say they are not for you and block is adequate. Just a mismatch in compatability simple as that. No on going drama's (none of us came for that) and all party's can continue their search.
It's not our place to educate people on where they when wrong for us in our opinion. On one hand it's arrogant to dictate how people should behave. But also on the other hand you don't do a service to others by teaching people how mask their natural behaviour in the acquisition of sex. Neither do we just want to be stuck in an endless cycle of messages with someone who is not what we are looking for and who frankly we find dam right rude. |
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The first two couples I met with were both arranged through the male of the couple, and one of those met socially for a chat before the play meet. If the guys that contact you don’t understand that dynamic they’re not what you’re looking for. The role of the ‘husband’ should never be underestimated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't give them your number, they're like this with all women, couple or not.
Arrange a social, see what they're like face to face. You soon find out who's genuine."
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
Tralee |
Speaking from a guys perspective, I would think, blunt message and block. If you've already explained to them at the start your views and boundaries, then you shouldn't have to start all over again just because they're too thick to understand. |
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By *empted23Couple
over a year ago
countryside |
It’s one of our first things we look for
We both reply and sign off our messages saying which of us replied
The amount of people who just won’t respond if it’s J who replied and so we instantly block
Then the next red flag is if everything sexy they say is just about him and her and not what both guys would be doing to her
As it just shows they aren’t thinking about an MFM
they are only thinking about themselves getting laid
Our block list is long
but it means when someone gets through they are actually looking for the same as us |
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To be honest this site is not a patch on what it used to be, only advice i can give is out the genuine ones and use the block button. There are genuine people on here but the idiots spoil it for us all. Drop me a message if you like as i'm not far from Telford |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi
For the couples on here. What is your go to way of dealing with guys who are just pushy and dismissive towards your partner!
When a guy we're chatting to tries that crap we take the attitude "some guys need a very blunt reminder they are a dildo with a pulse". Not all guys are that and we don't mean to insult the guys who respect and understand how to work with a couple.
Love that
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
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Had this a few times and we just block and move on. We always tell guys that they are basically a dildo with a pulse (someone else wrote it above but we've always told guys this  ). We're not meeting them for a social or to be life long friends its just sex and then bye. Every guy we've ever met as loved this arrangement.
The aresholes who are arrogant really don't get swinging they just think the wifes unhappy and wants to fuck around. They are usually quite aggressive and jealous types too. |
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Personally I would rather have most of the convo with the hubby, you often find out more about the wife that way, what turns her on, what she is looking for, what she doesn't like ect.
I agree with the "dildo with a pulse" 1st and foremost single guys are there for the lady's pleasure, then the "couple's" pleasure, the single guys pleasure comes last, but when all go's well, what a great pleasure it can be |
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Think when you all get on hubby wife and the extra is certainly my the best. I have had some horny chats with a guy while his wife is busy for her to come back and read.
Chatting with nice people no matter of gender is great x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We just block them. If someone can't have a respect for us. Why should we wory about them.
Block on fab.
Block.on any other means of communication we had. |
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"Personally I would rather have most of the convo with the hubby, you often find out more about the wife that way, what turns her on, what she is looking for, what she doesn't like ect.
I agree with the "dildo with a pulse" 1st and foremost single guys are there for the lady's pleasure, then the "couple's" pleasure, the single guys pleasure comes last, but when all go's well, what a great pleasure it can be"
Have to disagree with “First and Foremost single guys are there for the ladies pleasure. This is certainly not true in our case and suggests Hoodoo alone can’t satisfy me I need more. Laughable. First and Foremost it is about our pleasure and sharing of our desires, fantasies and satisfaction. For us it definitely isn’t about one person above the other. And as someone has already mentioned single guys who think like that are usually jealous and arrogant which is completely the opposite to what we are looking for. You are a dildo with a pulse and will concentrate on our pleasures first not just mine. I don’t do this for just me I do this for Me and Hoodoo as he does. Hoodoo enjoys seeing me being slutty and I enjoy being slutty for him. It has absolutely nothing to do with other person prowess or skills, it’s Hoodoo’s and mine connection and excitement for each other seeing us both so turned on by the scenario and each other’s reactions. This also goes both ways I love to see another woman enjoying Hoodoo it just makes me want him more  |
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Kitty hoodoo.
Wrong on so many levels, neither I, or to my knowledge anyone else suggested that your husband can't satisfy you, that's something you brought into it, I started my 1st swinging relationship when I was 19yo, the cple was 14 to 16 years older than me, I learned a lot from them, the husband told me, "no matter how much my wife loves me, no matter how good I am in bed, I can't split myself into being two blokes, if my wife wants sex with 2 blokes, then we have to bring another bloke in". That seamed as simple to me then as it does now, absolutely nothing to do with the hubby's prowess or lack off.
To suggest that I am jealous and arrogant, jealous of what? Genuinely no idea what I could be jealous of, re read your post, re read mine then have a think about the arrogance.
As for me putting the lady's pleasure 1st, that is my decision not yours, its worked just fine for me over the years.
This post is about single guys who are pushy and dismissive towards hubby's, it's not about what enjoyment you two get from meeting other cples. |
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"Kitty hoodoo.
Wrong on so many levels, neither I, or to my knowledge anyone else suggested that your husband can't satisfy you, that's something you brought into it, I started my 1st swinging relationship when I was 19yo, the cple was 14 to 16 years older than me, I learned a lot from them, the husband told me, "no matter how much my wife loves me, no matter how good I am in bed, I can't split myself into being two blokes, if my wife wants sex with 2 blokes, then we have to bring another bloke in". That seamed as simple to me then as it does now, absolutely nothing to do with the hubby's prowess or lack off.
To suggest that I am jealous and arrogant, jealous of what? Genuinely no idea what I could be jealous of, re read your post, re read mine then have a think about the arrogance.
As for me putting the lady's pleasure 1st, that is my decision not yours, its worked just fine for me over the years.
This post is about single guys who are pushy and dismissive towards hubby's, it's not about what enjoyment you two get from meeting other cples."
Don't waste your time they shit talk guys all the time apparently no guy but him has any form of respect it's narcissistic |
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By *NV14INVCouple
over a year ago
Inverness |
Has to be mutual with all 3. Our priority is to include another man but he has to understand the lady is the priority for pleasure but either man can’t be excluded even without sexual attraction or desire. The pleasure for the men should come from seeing the women getting pleasure. |
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First of all arrogant approach from any side is disrespectfull and against the nature of cuckold-bull dynamic. Most of the fun of this dynamic is not the sex, it is the joy of chatting knowing each other and sharing is caring idea. But again it is disrespectfull from anyways, it is happening vice versa. Lots of arrogant couples on the other side. |
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"Kitty hoodoo.
Wrong on so many levels, neither I, or to my knowledge anyone else suggested that your husband can't satisfy you, that's something you brought into it, I started my 1st swinging relationship when I was 19yo, the cple was 14 to 16 years older than me, I learned a lot from them, the husband told me, "no matter how much my wife loves me, no matter how good I am in bed, I can't split myself into being two blokes, if my wife wants sex with 2 blokes, then we have to bring another bloke in". That seamed as simple to me then as it does now, absolutely nothing to do with the hubby's prowess or lack off.
To suggest that I am jealous and arrogant, jealous of what? Genuinely no idea what I could be jealous of, re read your post, re read mine then have a think about the arrogance.
As for me putting the lady's pleasure 1st, that is my decision not yours, its worked just fine for me over the years.
This post is about single guys who are pushy and dismissive towards hubby's, it's not about what enjoyment you two get from meeting other cples."
Mojo Pornstar
As you have quite rightly pointed out this post is about pushy guys who are dismissive to the husband and arrogant.
1st point woman’s pleasure comes first! This is immediately dismissive of the husband unless in cuckold relationship.
2nd point I didn’t say that you thought I wasn’t satisfied by hubby but that it suggested you thought that by concentrating first and foremost on the female rather than their desires and connection. And it seems your first encounter at the age of 19 was very much that two cocks cause one wasn’t enough.
3rd point as to thinking you are of a jealous and arrogant nature .Yes we definitely do. You stated “As for me putting the lady’s pleasure first that is my decision not yours it’s worked well in the past “ . All couples are different and want different things again just hearing what you want. As for your decision, there are another two people involved with an investment of a loving relationship or did you forget. Therefore it is most certainly not your decision but the decision of all involved. That there is your arrogance as well as your user name Mojo Pornstar lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don't get that with a couple it's the guy you have to get along with first of all. You're not getting near his wife otherwise. Learned that a long time ago."
very true, very happy for my lady to enjoy herself but im also very protective of her and wont suffer fools.
also get alot assuming that because we invite guys that im cuck instead of approaching as a proper mmf etc.
usually get a sarcastic comment and blocked!! |
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Don't waste your time they shit talk guys all the time apparently no guy but him has any form of respect it's narcissistic "
I did have a feeling she was the type that's best to just ignore, my partner and i have become regulars at a swingers club in their town on Friday nights, I know to steer clear if I see her in there.
Thanks for the heads up |
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Don't waste your time they shit talk guys all the time apparently no guy but him has any form of respect it's narcissistic
I did have a feeling she was the type that's best to just ignore, my partner and i have become regulars at a swingers club in their town on Friday nights, I know to steer clear if I see her in there.
Thanks for the heads up"
Wow SHE WAS THE TYPE???? Are all women of a certain breed MOJO PORNSTAR. And if you do actually come to the club in our town and be regulars why have we never seen you there? Why have you never been mentioned or been active on the kik forums or regulars ??? Who is your partner who you so regularly come with as we know most couples and certainly ones that attend regularly. Just more pretending as was 19 and regularly swinging with a much older couple. You appear immature now god knows what you must have been like at 19 lol. I think like many single guys you are talking above your station and pretending. But Hoodoo and I certainly look forward to seeing you and your partner lol at the club you so regularly attend. |
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You will find these guys aren’t real bulls, just guys claiming to be bulls but looking for an easy fuck.
‘Real’ bulls will get to know a couple and understand their cuckold dynamic as it differs for each couple.
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Don't waste your time they shit talk guys all the time apparently no guy but him has any form of respect it's narcissistic
I did have a feeling she was the type that's best to just ignore, my partner and i have become regulars at a swingers club in their town on Friday nights, I know to steer clear if I see her in there.
Thanks for the heads up"
Honestly it's just a we are holier than thou yous are just single men "like it's hard to be in a relationship" ive never seen that level of narcissism especially just through typing, also if you follow the green arrow trail you can actually see the hypocrite parts to  |
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Honestly it's just a we are holier than thou yous are just single men "like it's hard to be in a relationship" ive never seen that level of narcissism especially just through typing, also if you follow the green arrow trail you can actually see the hypocrite parts to "
The narcissism is shining through in this post, actually blasting through without a hint of irony, if I get board one night I might scroll through their previous post for a laugh.
Now she's decided that if she has never seen or heard of us in the club then I must be a lyer, and apparently I have to prov myself to her,
Some folk just have a freighting level of self importance, I could tell her our profile name with pictures taken from inside the club but that would have me verifying the level of importance she has bestowed opon herself and her opinion.
I'll ask Daniel and Aaron, the lads who work in the club, who are the most arrogant and narcissistic cple who come here on Friday nights.
Hopefully though, she and her hubby are nice people in real life and they just become confused when faced with a keyboard/phone. |
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By *oufouCouple
over a year ago
Somerset |
We’ve reached a point where we push for a social meet pretty much immediately. That tends to eliminate a lot of tourists here, and you get to see if there’s any chemistry. If the social goes well, we often chat via Kik leading up to the first proper meet.
We’ve been totally messed around with guys either endlessly chatting, or pushing for a meeting and then bailing out. An early social cuts through all that… |
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