I'll pass on both options thanks 
It means different things to different people. It's handy for tying up some legal ends if someone is rapidly approaching end of life, but otherwise it's worthless as a concept to me. |
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"If you are planing on kids, yes.
Both patents have legal status over the children, rather than mostly the mother.
And tax!! "
This.
Also, in the event of separation you both have legal rights.
Until you get the same legal rights living together as you do in a marriage or civil partnership, it's is still important.
For me going through the legal process of marriage or a civil partnership also shows true commitment to one another.
Nita
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Legally it's important, yes.
I'm engaged.
Sometimes I'm very much - yep, I want to get married. Other times, well I don't see myself as the marrying type. Or the married sort.
I still think there's value to marriage, it appeals to my romantic heart. |
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I’m biased as we’re married, but to me, it was important. Yes, it’s a piece of paper, but to me, it’s so much more. I’ve never loved anyone like I love T, he’s my everything and I’d stand by him no matter what.
I never used to want to get married, to me it was wasted, but once I met T, that changed.
I know many couples who have never got married and are just as happy. It’s very much a personal choice.
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I've been in a relationship for 16 years, never married. It is just a piece of paper, doesn't add or decrease any value to a relationship. Getting a mortgage with someone is more of a commitment in my opinion. |
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By *atnayCouple
over a year ago
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We've been married 19 of our 25 years together. Waited so long as it wasn't a priority until planning a family. Whilest it is just a piece of paper and some money spent on a one day event. We felt it was important to do so before having children. Legal stuff.
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By (user no longer on site)
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In a legal sense it may be more important than you realise but really I believe it demonstrates a very real sense of commitment to a relationship. Some people find that reassuring and a comfort. |
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We have been together 22 years and not married.
I have made sure as best I can that everything goes to K if anything happens to me.
So marriage is not important to us, plus I am sure if we have religious beliefs in marriage we won't be here playing  |
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It’s not remotely important when life is good.
When life gets bad and the shit hits the fan it can be important / beneficial. Especially legally.
It can make a tough time simpler and that’s always a good thing. |
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We were married last year after living together for 20 years and having children together. I was something we wanted but could never afford to do.
Why? Love, name (we all now have the same surname). Security (just in case) |
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We’re both married, but not to each other. We’ve been thinking about the next of kin concern you raise for unmarried folk and there are ways of addressing it, and your comment has kicked me into action. To cover when you die, then it’s as simple as making sure you have a well written will and that it’s kept up to date. If the next of kin concerns are around being incapacitated, there are two forms of Lasting Power of Attorney that are simple to put in place (check the gov uk website) that allow you to appoint your loved one (married or not) to act in your best interest.
Having said all that, once we sort out our current marriages, we want to get married to each other as we do see it as a commitment and affirmation of love. |
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When it comes to next of kin we had to step in when a relative of ours died who wasn't married to their very long term partner. She couldn't do certain things at the hospital or the undertaker without us. It's worth making things very clear, in writing |
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To us, as others have said in one way or other, it’s not about bits of paper, or legal considerations - we’ve never in more than three decades given a single thought to these (although the lefslnn BM position seems to be easier) - it’s how we very visibly demonstrate our absolute love and commitment to each other and, to a lesser degree, everyone else…
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it important to get married these days or are people happy just living together. Is it just a piece of paper? What are your thoughts? "
I'm currently in the middle of divorcing my ex-husband (which has been dragging on since before I met Mr  ) I got married simply because it thought it was "the right thing to do" and "what was expected of me" - essentially to make other people happy. I won't ever do anything like that again. I wouldn't rule it out in future, and wouldn't rule out living with anyone again (Mr & I live separately) but I kind of like my space, and so does Mr. And it makes our time together more special, if that makes sense? I don't think modern day relationships require you to live together to be successful. As long as you have trust, communication, respect and commitment to each other then it's all good.
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"I don't think modern day relationships require you to live together to be successful.
Mrs
Perhaps not...but they make a lot of financial sense "
I manage financially on my own just fine. And after the shit I've been through previously, my independence and being able to look after myself is important to me. I won't ever live with someone for financial convenience...I value a strong relationship far more than money, and that can be achieved without living together. But the world would be boring if we all thought the same about stuff
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