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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my two cents in addition to what the ladies above has said...
I find couple profiles tend to say what they are looking for but never what the other person can expect in the arrangement in terms of satisfaction.
Like for example I'd be inclined to go with a couple who said we like this or that but we're open to ppl who like this or that.. we're willing to help you explore this or that kink or introduce you to this kind of play ...push boundaries.
out couple profiles I read it's mostly we are looking for a play thing to satisfy our needs...
I don't really chat with couples on here outside the ones I've met anymore for said reason.
I'm looking for sexual fulfillment and too often I've found that has been overshadowed or overlooked by what others need from the arrangement. |
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I'm not your target being straight,but more pics of the male are deffo needed.Theres only one from 2015 and bi fems want to see ans be attractes to you both.
Also what are yoy offering them meet wise ?.
Bi fems are in such demand on here that they can be picky,most couples want MFF,so you need to stand out & show them what they would gain from meeting you.
Clubs are a good place to meet fems it seems. |
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"Any ideas for finding that genuine lady who loves to join another couple
I'm here...  only thing is...no fucker wants me  "
Lies! With a gorgeous butt like that, MrAbz would be laughing at me as I leapt to open doors for you just so i could watch you walk in front of me  |
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we wonder this too,  finding it almost impossible...,we would love a lady to join us and be enjoyed with lots of attention given to the lady,and of course orgasms and interaction  ,never too be just that "extra" one,and without any selfishness x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a bisexual woman who plays with couples, more photos of you both (together and separately) would help a lot. Not just action shots, clothed and underwear shots are better in my opinion.
Also, expand your profile a bit, tell us more about you as a couple, help people get to know you a bit. Also, state what you're looking for, as well as what you might not want. Is there a particular dynamic you're seeking? What can the other woman expect from you, are there any particular limits etc.
Wishing you the best of luck.
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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There’s nothing on your profile to say what I should expect when meeting you and nothing about my needs and and wants, just your own
Also as far as I can see you’re a women and a penis, does he not have a body too? Does he sit back and not join in? What part of this will he play, what is expected from me.
Are you looking for a one off a thrupple or something in between
Would I be safe meeting you? There isn’t much info for me to feel secure
Do you insist on this meet being 1:1 or why can’t clubs be considered, they’re a lot safer for me than being alone with two strangers while naked and vulnerable
These are things I will take into consideration before even opening a message
If you’re only going to meet single women, you need to look from a single women’s pov
Make me want you, make me crave you.
Right now, the majority of couples hunting single women are doing exactly that, hunting, it’s a horrible feeling to feel hunted and why I (and a lot of others) refuse point blank to meet couples, in my shoes, wouldn’t you
I’ll stop ranting and shurrup now, do with my opinion there whatever you like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all of the comments from the ladies above are absolutely spot on 
it's great that you're looking, but a greater depth of information into what you are/nt wanting, what can be expected from said meet, maybe stating you aren't just looking to find a single female for your own gratification, but mutual. this in addition to a broader spectrum of current photos of the two of you.
as a single bi female, these are just the basics i look for, when deciding whether or not to engage with a couple.
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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Probably because when we say what we want, our words are ignored
Like in this thread, every couple only responding to the couples all complaining the same while actively ignoring the single women explaining what they want and what they’d be comfortable with
It’s like an echo chamber  |
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"For me it works best if the couple I'm meeting are a Cuck-Queen couple.
I'll happily play Cuckcake all day long.
It's a rare thing though...."
I enjoy this scenario also.
But struggling to find the right couple for this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There’s nothing on your profile to say what I should expect when meeting you and nothing about my needs and and wants, just your own
Also as far as I can see you’re a women and a penis, does he not have a body too? Does he sit back and not join in? What part of this will he play, what is expected from me.
Are you looking for a one off a thrupple or something in between
Would I be safe meeting you? There isn’t much info for me to feel secure
Do you insist on this meet being 1:1 or why can’t clubs be considered, they’re a lot safer for me than being alone with two strangers while naked and vulnerable
These are things I will take into consideration before even opening a message
If you’re only going to meet single women, you need to look from a single women’s pov
Make me want you, make me crave you.
Right now, the majority of couples hunting single women are doing exactly that, hunting, it’s a horrible feeling to feel hunted and why I (and a lot of others) refuse point blank to meet couples, in my shoes, wouldn’t you
I’ll stop ranting and shurrup now, do with my opinion there whatever you like "
this is exactly it , sums it up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said, most couples seem to say what they're looking for, but not what they offer a unicorn.
As a single woman who does play with couples, sometimes having the male half message can be a bit weird. I'm more into the female as a rule though so. |
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If I was looking to I'd start by doing a basic search, single bi Women, Before sending a message, Read their profile, Check their veris if they have them and see if you're similar to what they're looking for also gives you more genuine Bi Women to try your look with,
In your opening message ask them if your pictures that you have set to public are what they're looking for and that you can send face pics/more pics if the messaging goes any further,
Failing that browse the chat rooms, loads of single bi Women use them and most regular Women cam, or try clubs on a couples/Women only night. |
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As a unicorn if you were to approach me for funid say,
Your female pictures are all ok
I'd like to see some more info in your profile, likes n dislikes etc.
And some more pictures of the male half of your couple would be good.
Your veri's are good though.
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"For me it works best if the couple I'm meeting are a Cuck-Queen couple.
I'll happily play Cuckcake all day long.
It's a rare thing though....
I enjoy this scenario also.
But struggling to find the right couple for this "
I actually am a cuck queen I is so hard believe me.x |
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"my two cents in addition to what the ladies above has said...
I find couple profiles tend to say what they are looking for but never what the other person can expect in the arrangement in terms of satisfaction.
Like for example I'd be inclined to go with a couple who said we like this or that but we're open to ppl who like this or that.. we're willing to help you explore this or that kink or introduce you to this kind of play ...push boundaries.
out couple profiles I read it's mostly we are looking for a play thing to satisfy our needs...
I don't really chat with couples on here outside the ones I've met anymore for said reason.
I'm looking for sexual fulfillment and too often I've found that has been overshadowed or overlooked by what others need from the arrangement. "
I think this is a very good point. We don’t say what we are looking for because we don’t know, it’s all about the other person, who they are, how well we connect. But we haven’t said what the other person can expect from us. That’s a very good point! |
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By *WALKinkCouple
over a year ago
Eastbourne |
"As a bisexual woman who plays with couples, more photos of you both (together and separately) would help a lot. Not just action shots, clothed and underwear shots are better in my opinion.
Also, expand your profile a bit, tell us more about you as a couple, help people get to know you a bit. Also, state what you're looking for, as well as what you might not want. Is there a particular dynamic you're seeking? What can the other woman expect from you, are there any particular limits etc.
Wishing you the best of luck.
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Superb advice and thanks! As a couple who look, knowing what you like is like gold! |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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single bi woman bi women in couples are not yep are not rare off of fab.. its so easy to find real bi fun just go to a gay night or a gay club and fill your boots most bi women dont want to be a toy or plaything to a woman just to please a man watching some do but most dont also this silly unicorn tag is well just silly a bi woman is a bi woman ...
when we started this swinging over 30 years ago bi women on the scene were plentyful today most have been turned off by the scene turned off by couple's play turn off by men watching ... thats before all the other hassles all women go thru on this scene..
i have loads of fun with women alot are now friends who would not dream of this scene when its so available face to face and and thriving on there own scene ...ive even met bi/gay women in clubs who suggest doing things in front of hubs (strictly watching only) there's nothing to attract bi /gay women to fab or clubs ..everything hinges on the male half of couples and they are simply not interested (most) also theres a massive difference between the swinger bi than the real bi the sex is so different no fakeness no im only doing this to please him fears no male led forcing/telling women what to do ...such a difference id suggest to any bi woman who really bi to get out to these gay clubs / pubs / nights / village's and have real fun ..
think its sad that theres a fab guys and no fab women as i think that would work to a point...
and most but not all really dont like the unicorn tag ....anyway thats my views and my views only |
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By *WALKinkCouple
over a year ago
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"As others have said, most couples seem to say what they're looking for, but not what they offer a unicorn.
As a single woman who does play with couples, sometimes having the male half message can be a bit weird. I'm more into the female as a rule though so. "
We try and split as evenly as we can, it's not always easy as L is too practical I'm messages, but totally different in a social face to face, whereas I'm the writer (L is the lady btw) |
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Every couple that asks these questions are the same - if you are both looking to meet a single woman then surely having pics of both of you would entice someone more than just cock pics for the guy.
A single woman has hundreds/thousands of people to choose from, so if you don’t stand out or you make it hard for them, or they feel that your profile has more questions than answers then they’ll just move on.
Couples then tend to say, we’ll send more pics when we start chatting…but you’ll never get to that point without making an effort.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We think it’s a lot easier at clubs and events to speak with single women. We try on here but it can be tricky having a 3 way convo, even in group chats on WhatsApp one party can get left behind in the conversation.
We want someone to join us for all 3 to have a great time and for all our pleasure so it can be tough for all to be involved all the time. We’ll keep trying til we find the right balance though |
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By *WALKinkCouple
over a year ago
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"Every couple that asks these questions are the same - if you are both looking to meet a single woman then surely having pics of both of you would entice someone more than just cock pics for the guy.
A single woman has hundreds/thousands of people to choose from, so if you don’t stand out or you make it hard for them, or they feel that your profile has more questions than answers then they’ll just move on.
Couples then tend to say, we’ll send more pics when we start chatting…but you’ll never get to that point without making an effort.
K "
Funny thing, my partner has a single account for herself on here and was approached by loads of couples (as she expected). She was curious with a couple, had a couple of messages where she was interested and said so....
Nothing, ghosted, nada. So odd when it seems difficult to even get that first response |
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"Every couple that asks these questions are the same - if you are both looking to meet a single woman then surely having pics of both of you would entice someone more than just cock pics for the guy.
A single woman has hundreds/thousands of people to choose from, so if you don’t stand out or you make it hard for them, or they feel that your profile has more questions than answers then they’ll just move on.
Couples then tend to say, we’ll send more pics when we start chatting…but you’ll never get to that point without making an effort.
K
Funny thing, my partner has a single account for herself on here and was approached by loads of couples (as she expected). She was curious with a couple, had a couple of messages where she was interested and said so....
Nothing, ghosted, nada. So odd when it seems difficult to even get that first response "
Maybe the guy wanted that often happens. |
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"Any ideas for finding that genuine lady who loves to join another couple "
Top tip is to not call them unicorns. Kinda implies you’re not thinking of them as a person.
Best place to meet would be at a club or organised social. |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"Any ideas for finding that genuine lady who loves to join another couple
Top tip is to not call them unicorns. Kinda implies you’re not thinking of them as a person.
Best place to meet would be at a club or organised social. "
^^^^^
They get it   |
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By *WALKinkCouple
over a year ago
Eastbourne |
"Every couple that asks these questions are the same - if you are both looking to meet a single woman then surely having pics of both of you would entice someone more than just cock pics for the guy.
A single woman has hundreds/thousands of people to choose from, so if you don’t stand out or you make it hard for them, or they feel that your profile has more questions than answers then they’ll just move on.
Couples then tend to say, we’ll send more pics when we start chatting…but you’ll never get to that point without making an effort.
K
Funny thing, my partner has a single account for herself on here and was approached by loads of couples (as she expected). She was curious with a couple, had a couple of messages where she was interested and said so....
Nothing, ghosted, nada. So odd when it seems difficult to even get that first response
Maybe the guy wanted that often happens."
True, true. She felt a bit insulated, but she wants to try something when we go to Manchester off the back of it. Now that will be fun! |
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"Be equally accommodating, as a couple and come over that way in communication. There are a lot of single women around if you’re respectful enough of what they want rather than what you want. "
Yes like me |
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Can I just thank all the ladies who have posted here. It’s great to take on board what you are looking for and how couples can improve their profiles. As a couple we want to be appealing to you ladies so I’ll (Mrs) be looking at updating our profile.
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"Any ideas for finding that genuine lady who loves to join another couple "
We would say to go to some club nights. But not the couples/single Ladies nights. In our experience more single Ladies go to mixed nights that allow single Men, many of those Ladies play with couples. |
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