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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

Does anyone have any advice on how a guy not getting any sex at home can get laid on here?

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By *rder66Man  over a year ago

Tatooine

Popcorn time and I have cheesecake, fresh.

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By *onyMad123Couple  over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

Be honest with his wife, brooch the subject, attend a club or greedy girls events, or just be honest with your wife and work out why you aren't getting any rather than coming on a public forum to find some relief, deal with your issue.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Put it on your profile so that people know beforehand. There are plenty of people who will meet married men and women whose partners are unaware. You'll get some flack for this post though.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman  over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Be honest with his wife, brooch the subject, attend a club or greedy girls events, or just be honest with your wife and work out why you aren't getting any rather than coming on a public forum to find some relief, deal with your issue."

This is the one

There are some people that don't mind playing with Cheaters. But swinging and ENM tend to look poorly on it overall.

Sort out your problems at home is a better plan than just getting your dick wet elsewhere.

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

She has arthritis and sex is painful for her

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes agreed. Honesty is the best policy. We have been burned a few times by men that turned out to be married and eventually we had to become ok with it so that I don't feel guilty for something that they've done

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman  over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"She has arthritis and sex is painful for her "

That's a shame. Have you talked to her about getting your end away elsewhere?

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

She doesn't want to talk about it! Upsets her

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By *inna and SaintCouple  over a year ago

Sherbourne

Men (and women let's not forget) playing away from home is hardly a new moral concept. Its been happening for generations.

Humans apply some sort of moral code here but even dedicated animal species do it. The term mate for life is a bit of a fantasy.

We will mix with married playing away. Thats their business.

We choose to be up front but some have miss matched sex drives or circumstances like the OP where a partner is unable or unwilling to engage.

Its a very personal shout and its really up to the individuals on both sides to decide.

You are not obliged to tell anyone anything.

We choose to follow this life style and I said I had no problem with my partner playing away from an early stage either with or without my knowledge. She has total freedom.

Nor is it up to people to moralise the rights or wrongs.

If you don't want to engage with someone playing away from home then ALL YOU HAVE TO DO is say so on profile.

Ditto, I have seen several profile's that state they are married and partner unaware.

I would suggest honesty is always the best policy but you know your partners and the risks you take on.

Just don't snivell if you get into a situation.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Not sure if commenting on profiles is allowed these days but as you’re asking for advice I’m kinda guessing it’s okay.

You get one chance on here to make an impression.

Single men are the majority and can struggle. You need to sell yourself via profile.

Look at your profile, add some photos (doesn’t have to be face or nudes ).

Add a profile pic / avatar - being a “shadow man” won’t get you anywhere.

Write a bit more in your text, use some lines to space it out, makes it easier to read.

Can you attend a club?

Can you get involved via forums / chat rooms?

The more interaction with people you have the better your chances will be.

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By *onyMad123Couple  over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

If that's the case talk still tell her you feel you have needs, I've played with married men, that is their issue not mine and only ever in a club, but I'm also in a long term relationship of 24 plus years and we have sorted our "levels" and boundaries inside and outside a club including a regular fwb who is also a great friend to us both.

You never know she maybe understanding, dealing with needs but being honest is the best policy

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

Sadly my wife is not as understanding as you

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By *un couple 2Couple  over a year ago

Tynemouth.

we have met married men, in the past, unknowingly. found out ourselves afterwards, it hurts the fact we have been lied too, then theres the fact he has cheated on his wife. one guy we met who was up front the very first night we met, was a total different story, great guy, told us his story, and we have no reason to disbelieve him, been seeing him for over 11yrs now. and were great friends, its not all about sex, but obviously a big part.

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

I totally agree it's not all about the sex and am honest and say on my profile am married

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By *uff and FruitCouple  over a year ago

Peterborough

Pleased to hear that it is on your profile that you are married so people can choose to avoid if they wish to.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"She doesn't want to talk about it! Upsets her "

And you cheating on her would make her feel so much better!!!!

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By *uiet_69Man  over a year ago

Near

But the bullet myself 3 years ago but she is now happier than ever. Horrible at the time but it’s all worth it when you know you’ve done the right thing

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Popcorn time and I have cheesecake, fresh."

Scootch up ...What flavour cheesecake ... I'll bring the wine

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By *adCherriesCouple  over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"Does anyone have any advice on how a guy not getting any sex at home can get laid on here?"

Grow a vagina, because any woman asking the same question on here would be white-knighted to death! However, as a single guy you're screwed and unfortunately for you not literally

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By *neforutoMan  over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW


"Not sure if commenting on profiles is allowed these days but as you’re asking for advice I’m kinda guessing it’s okay.

You get one chance on here to make an impression.

Single men are the majority and can struggle. You need to sell yourself via profile.

Look at your profile, add some photos (doesn’t have to be face or nudes ).

Add a profile pic / avatar - being a “shadow man” won’t get you anywhere.

Write a bit more in your text, use some lines to space it out, makes it easier to read.

Can you attend a club?

Can you get involved via forums / chat rooms?

The more interaction with people you have the better your chances will be.

"

Sound advice

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By *ndiiiMan  over a year ago

Paisley Scotland

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By *alandNitaCouple  over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Does anyone have any advice on how a guy not getting any sex at home can get laid on here?

Grow a vagina, because any woman asking the same question on here would be white-knighted to death! However, as a single guy you're screwed and unfortunately for you not literally "

To be fair, that historically hasn't been true. Fab people on average are equally as intolerant of cheating wives as cheating husbands...

I would suggest to the OP that Fab is probably not the best site for 1-on-1 meets with ladies. Ladies on fab are in a minority and because of that, they never have to settle for anything less than they desire.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Be honest.

With the woman you wish to play with that your married, and if your cheating or playing away.

And with your wife.

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

Am always honest. Says on my profile am married Do you really think I would stand more chance on here if I told my wife?

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By *adCherriesCouple  over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"Does anyone have any advice on how a guy not getting any sex at home can get laid on here?

Grow a vagina, because any woman asking the same question on here would be white-knighted to death! However, as a single guy you're screwed and unfortunately for you not literally

To be fair, that historically hasn't been true. Fab people on average are equally as intolerant of cheating wives as cheating husbands...

I would suggest to the OP that Fab is probably not the best site for 1-on-1 meets with ladies. Ladies on fab are in a minority and because of that, they never have to settle for anything less than they desire.

Cal"

Yea ok lol we did an experiment on this a few years ago after a guy got roasted. We got a single female we knew to copy and paste his post a few weeks later and her responses were far different.

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

Wondering what the response was like? Lol

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"Wondering what the response was like? Lol"

Probably a lot of men offering to help the lady with her problem, telling her they couldn't understand how her husband could resist her. In general on fab man playing away = man's fault, woman playing away = man's fault.

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By *ootyfruityCouple  over a year ago

andover

Fuck that!

If it’s painful for her to have sex imagine how she would feel to find out your sneaking behind her back and getting it from someone who can give you what she can’t!

Speak to her, she may be understanding, even if she’s not happy with meeting other for full penetration there’s always oral, she may even want to be there, or watch

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith


"Does anyone have any advice on how a guy not getting any sex at home can get laid on here?

Grow a vagina, because any woman asking the same question on here would be white-knighted to death! However, as a single guy you're screwed and unfortunately for you not literally

To be fair, that historically hasn't been true. Fab people on average are equally as intolerant of cheating wives as cheating husbands...

I would suggest to the OP that Fab is probably not the best site for 1-on-1 meets with ladies. Ladies on fab are in a minority and because of that, they never have to settle for anything less than they desire.

Cal"

This is quite true, and a single woman local to me has just posted her 39th meet (from 30 guys) veri after only been in here 3 months. I bet there’s not one single guy profile in here able to come close to that success….

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By *adCherriesCouple  over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"Wondering what the response was like? Lol

Probably a lot of men offering to help the lady with her problem, telling her they couldn't understand how her husband could resist her. In general on fab man playing away = man's fault, woman playing away = man's fault. "

Ah you read it but yes exactly this

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By *arolandnigelMan  over a year ago

Huddersfield

I can play with my wifes consent but none of the ladies on here are interested when i tell them-maybe they think i am lying-not the case

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By *ausage1970Man  over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Some don't care as its for them just sex, what I would worry about is the guilt of not telling your partner the truth. I have this from experience so think very carefully as to why and what the consequences could be

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple  over a year ago

Leeds

Ok so aside from the cheating part (not for us at all)

There's 1000's of men's profiles here if your looking to get laid you need to focus on your profile and stand out, not that I condone cheating in the slightest.

Look at other men's profiles and see what they do that gets them meets.

Mrs

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By *assy LassieWoman  over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Popcorn time and I have cheesecake, fresh."

What flavour of cheesecake. Not asking for a friend

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple  over a year ago

bedford

Just go to a club or social , There are a lot on hear with double standards on playing with married men or women , we have met loads who attend clubs with so called spouses ,and have openly admitted it , wife has played with guys we have later found out to be married. , so we don’t ask questions at club anymore , yes we do play solo ourselfs but better to be open and honest with your partner , believe it or not it is still very exciting ,Those of you who feel the need to cheat , why not try and fix what’s wrong at home , bring your fantasy’s into conversation , I have never looked back from suggesting this with wife after our sex life had gone a bit stale , she was up for trying new things , we started of with just fitting with others , flashing and fondling , she started feeling sexy again , she wasn’t sure if she could go all the way with another guy , That happened by chance , she was at a Xmas party and called me at home to say a guy had been chatting and flirting with her all night , I told her if she wants to let anything happen just go ahead , She come home early hours of morning and practically jump on me , she said he fucked her four times , ever since that day we have fun when we can , so my advice speak with your partner if having relationship problems , you never know what may come out of it , excuse the pun

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

Thanks for the advice. I would go to a club but there are none over here sadly

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman  over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Popcorn time and I have cheesecake, fresh."

Move over

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By *agertoplease1993Man  over a year ago

bolton

Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman  over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites. "

Also though,many men are turned on meeting cheaing women,so they won't slate one and ruin their chances or they actively go after a married woman.

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

Surprisingly I've not had to suffer too much abuse about my post. Quite the opposite. Have had a few messages from ladies and couples who want to meet up if ever they're over this way

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By *ickingdelightMan  over a year ago

Cotswolds

Congrats and these threads typically go only 1 way.

I’m on here with a wife - yes she’s aware, yes it’s on my profile, and yes it still impacts meets and have lost meets due to it.

But I bet so many of both genders are on here and just keep it a secret from their meets

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By *onnie 90Woman  over a year ago

Leeds


"She has arthritis and sex is painful for her "

In that case maybe you should be spending time with her insuring she is comfortable and assisting with her physical (not sexual) needs instead of thinking only of yourself and your wants.

Reverse the roles. How would you feel if it was you living with pain on a daily basis? And instead of your wife being there to assist she was out getting as much cock as she can.

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By *erseykev OP   Man  over a year ago

St Helier

I do a lot for her and she doesn't want for anything if you must know! I respect your opinion but ask yourself what are you looking for on here? NSA sex is all most of us want! Ps I do still love her very much!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Social events and clubs.

Also talk to your wife. Tell her how you still need/want a sex life and try to reach a compromise. You'll feel a lot better getting sex elsewhere with her blessing than cheating on her.

Good luck.

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By *tsJustKateWoman  over a year ago

London


"Does anyone have any advice on how a guy not getting any sex at home can get laid on here?"

Yes, don't make posts about it or the fabswingers morality police will be after you!

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By *ickdasterdly51Man  over a year ago

Lingfield

I really feel for you in that you say you love your wife and do a lot for her but are unhappy about the lack of physical pleasure you get in your life, something we all crave. It's not your fault and it's not your wife's fault. I'm married and she knows I'm on here but because she's lost a lot of interest in sex she's quite happy for me to get it elsewhere rather than me pestering her. Not that it's been successful! However I don't feel guilty about being here because she knows and has even taken a pic or two for my profile. I'm happy that I've been honest with her. It seems like your wife isn't as sympathetic. Do you know why, do you think she's fearful of losing you? You do what you want to do any ignore the moralists on here who know nothing about your private life. But I really think you need to be honest with her. Good luck to you both and I'm always happy to chat.

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By *iverpool 2Couple  over a year ago

Liverpool

I (Mr) used to swing as a single guy while still with my Ex, I was told in her words….go find a fuck buddy as I don’t find you attractive & I’ve gone off sex…..I adored her, it broke my heart and ultimately I knew then our relationship was over, I did go to clubs and have a profile on here for a while, ultimately we did split up & I found Mrs L2 who was curious about this life as I told her straight away about my naughty past, suffice to say she loved her first experience and we’ve not looked back

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple  over a year ago

Weymouth


"Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites. "

I've never once seen the much fabled cheating woman thread, but I live in hope

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By *oyahandrussCouple  over a year ago

Nr Rugby


"Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites.

I've never once seen the much fabled cheating woman thread, but I live in hope "

Yep & you be totally amazing at how many married swingers cheat too.Not jugding just saying.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple  over a year ago

Weymouth


"Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites.

I've never once seen the much fabled cheating woman thread, but I live in hope

Yep & you be totally amazing at how many married swingers cheat too.Not jugding just saying."

Gosh that's surprising!

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By *iverpool 2Couple  over a year ago

Liverpool


"Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites.

I've never once seen the much fabled cheating woman thread, but I live in hope

Yep & you be totally amazing at how many married swingers cheat too.Not jugding just saying."

Yeah blows my mind when swinging couples cheat with others on the scene, like seriously can’t understand it

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple  over a year ago

Weymouth


"Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites.

I've never once seen the much fabled cheating woman thread, but I live in hope

Yep & you be totally amazing at how many married swingers cheat too.Not jugding just saying.

Yeah blows my mind when swinging couples cheat with others on the scene, like seriously can’t understand it"

I must say I honestly feel so much more secure than I ever did in any of my monogamous relationships, it's always a shame when trust is breached

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By *andC1000Couple  over a year ago

Ashford

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I just wish my wife would be up for this lifestyle to be honest

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By *andC1000Couple  over a year ago

Ashford


"Fuck that!

If it’s painful for her to have sex imagine how she would feel to find out your sneaking behind her back and getting it from someone who can give you what she can’t!

Speak to her, she may be understanding, even if she’s not happy with meeting other for full penetration there’s always oral, she may even want to be there, or watch"

Exactly this. Nothing more painful and deflating than finding out you’ve been lied to. Be honest with her, it’s not an easy conversation for anyone to have but if you have any respect and Love for her you’d want to find a solution rather than shutting her out. Everyone has needs and wants of differing levels but if people were more honest with each other things can be worked out. It’s the secrets and lies that hurt and will ultimately kill the relationship no matter how much you say you love her

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By *onnie 90Woman  over a year ago

Leeds


"Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites. "

Are we?

Care to explain why you can't accommodate?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Funny when a woman on here who is cheating on their fella never gets nowhere near as much frowns. Said it for a long time, when it comes to sex women are hypocrites.

Are we?

Care to explain why you can't accommodate?"

Lots of reasons:

House share

Lives with parents

Doesn’t want random strangers knowing where they live….

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By *he James gangCouple  over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY


"Not sure if commenting on profiles is allowed these days but as you’re asking for advice I’m kinda guessing it’s okay.

You get one chance on here to make an impression.

Single men are the majority and can struggle. You need to sell yourself via profile.

Look at your profile, add some photos (doesn’t have to be face or nudes ).

Add a profile pic / avatar - being a “shadow man” won’t get you anywhere.

Write a bit more in your text, use some lines to space it out, makes it easier to read.

Can you attend a club?

Can you get involved via forums / chat rooms?

The more interaction with people you have the better your chances will be.

"

Agreed, no pics, can't accommodate and can't travel. Your chances OP, are diminishing rapidly I'm afraid. No one, I suspect is going to message you, so the effort has to be made by yourself. As it's often said on here, minimal effort equals minimum success.

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By *he James gangCouple  over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY


"Not sure if commenting on profiles is allowed these days but as you’re asking for advice I’m kinda guessing it’s okay.

You get one chance on here to make an impression.

Single men are the majority and can struggle. You need to sell yourself via profile.

Look at your profile, add some photos (doesn’t have to be face or nudes ).

Add a profile pic / avatar - being a “shadow man” won’t get you anywhere.

Write a bit more in your text, use some lines to space it out, makes it easier to read.

Can you attend a club?

Can you get involved via forums / chat rooms?

The more interaction with people you have the better your chances will be.

Agreed, no pics, can't accommodate and can't travel. Your chances OP, are diminishing rapidly I'm afraid. No one, I suspect is going to message you, so the effort has to be made by yourself. As it's often said on here, minimal effort equals minimum success. "

I'll add to above, you're in Jersey!! So do you have to play on the island? Your scenario gets worse. How many on fab are on the island? Who's near will give you some idea. Would be interesting to know. On a small island people tend to be more private, less chances to play in my opinion. We don't usually play with married guys because they find it hard to get time to meet and can be unreliable.

Good luck anyway

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