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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
Yes. But you need to put it immediately out of your mind.
Not always easy, with the preparation and excitement a meet can bring, I know I've been there.
Your never in full control of these things until you are together but stay positive, remain calm, collected and move forward.
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"It’s just incredibly frustrating when you do alll of the prep work and then bam, they’re a no show or something.
Preparing for anal isn’t something that’s like a two second job"
Oh I'm sure it's not. When I noticed you I did take into consideration the time and effort you make |
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"It’s just incredibly frustrating when you do alll of the prep work and then bam, they’re a no show or something.
Preparing for anal isn’t something that’s like a two second job
Oh I'm sure it's not. When I noticed you I did take into consideration the time and effort you make"
Thank you, sorry, I don’t mean to be testy, I’m just incredibly frustrated |
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"The common factor is yourselves
You must be getting worse at selecting paramours "
considering that this type of post is kind of commonplace I would say it’s definitely a trend on the site itself rather than one of those of us who aren’t having any luck.
If anything as time goes on my tastes have become far more selective |
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Absolutely, and I will forever be grateful to the site because it’s been instrumental in helping my feel more sex positive in a time where as a trans person I feel constantly like I’m having to prove my humanity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont get people that arrange meets and then don't show
I couldn't do it to someone, I just couldn't
(I mean the chance to prove this would be nice lol) |
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I've never had a no show or been one in six years here so I can't comment on whether or not there has been an increase.
There has definitely been an increase in threads about them though and on every one of those threads people have said they don't have any experience of no shows so it's strange that some people appear to have a high percentage of no shows while many others have none.
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Since returning I have tried to arrange a few meets,I like to see the person/s I am chatting to.They either don`t want to send a pic or pop on cam for 30 seconds.
or only the man showed up for a social meet (gf couldn`t make it)
So been sticking to friends  |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"Got stood up Friday, and ghosted Saturday day time... had loads of people fuck me around  "
I know the ghosting part too well. Soon as the conversation stops I know they ain't meeting.
Golden rule. If someone wants to meet you they will arrange it quickly not drag it out.
Strike while the irons hot.
Anything else is bullshit and you need to cut them off.
Don't get blinded by tits or pussy. Think with your brain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven’t come across this yet, either on this profile or our couples profile which we’ve had for a few years.
However, I’m ultra cautious and at this stage my bullshit radar is pretty spot on.
There’s no guarantee that someone is going to show up but there are red flags to beware of.
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
A man shouldn't complain about not getting meets on this forum.
It makes you look weak and needy that alone will put people off.
I'm sorry to be brutal but you need to stand up, put your shoulders back and carry on.
It's a hard world, even harder for a man playing the victim.
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"Too many non swingers on the site
Just those who don't understand the etiquette involved in the scene "
Too many day dreamers who here to flirt and wank to stroke their ego. No intention of meeting as already married or with a partner |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
nope cant Remember the last time i got let down and i meet regular too ... if you keep getting let down then you are selecting the wrong people ..its not hard to spot the timewasters on this site or others |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"A man shouldn't complain about not getting meets on this forum.
It makes you look weak and needy that alone will put people off.
I'm sorry to be brutal but you need to stand up, put your shoulders back and carry on.
It's a hard world, even harder for a man playing the victim.
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I’m sorry to be brutal but who are you to be telling men what they need to do? Who are you to be telling men whether they should or shouldn’t complain about not getting meets? Maybe some men are secure and confident enough to show a bit of weakness and aren’t worried about what other people think of them. I agree it’s a hard world but talking about it being a hard world doesn’t make you weak. I think we’ve moved on from the days when men were expected to hide their feelings and carry on regardless as we know the negative affects that has on some people’s mental health.
That’s just me being honest, I know you wouldn’t have it any other way. |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"A man shouldn't complain about not getting meets on this forum.
It makes you look weak and needy that alone will put people off.
I'm sorry to be brutal but you need to stand up, put your shoulders back and carry on.
It's a hard world, even harder for a man playing the victim.
I’m sorry to be brutal but who are you to be telling men what they need to do? Who are you to be telling men whether they should or shouldn’t complain about not getting meets? Maybe some men are secure and confident enough to show a bit of weakness and aren’t worried about what other people think of them. I agree it’s a hard world but talking about it being a hard world doesn’t make you weak. I think we’ve moved on from the days when men were expected to hide their feelings and carry on regardless as we know the negative affects that has on some people’s mental health.
That’s just me being honest, I know you wouldn’t have it any other way. "
Because it's a forum and I can say what I like within the site rules.
Don't like it, I couldn't careless |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"A man shouldn't complain about not getting meets on this forum.
It makes you look weak and needy that alone will put people off.
I'm sorry to be brutal but you need to stand up, put your shoulders back and carry on.
It's a hard world, even harder for a man playing the victim.
I’m sorry to be brutal but who are you to be telling men what they need to do? Who are you to be telling men whether they should or shouldn’t complain about not getting meets? Maybe some men are secure and confident enough to show a bit of weakness and aren’t worried about what other people think of them. I agree it’s a hard world but talking about it being a hard world doesn’t make you weak. I think we’ve moved on from the days when men were expected to hide their feelings and carry on regardless as we know the negative affects that has on some people’s mental health.
That’s just me being honest, I know you wouldn’t have it any other way.
Because it's a forum and I can say what I like within the site rules.
Don't like it, I couldn't careless "
Yeah, that’s my point, but you were telling other people what they should and shouldn’t say in forums, can’t they say what they like as well? Or is it just you who can say what you like?
My whole point was that people can say what they like and it’s not up to you to tell them that they shouldn’t say. |
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"A man shouldn't complain about not getting meets on this forum.
It makes you look weak and needy that alone will put people off.
I'm sorry to be brutal but you need to stand up, put your shoulders back and carry on.
It's a hard world, even harder for a man playing the victim.
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Spot on. Nothing more of a turn off than someone moaning they can't get a meet. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"A man shouldn't complain about not getting meets on this forum.
It makes you look weak and needy that alone will put people off.
I'm sorry to be brutal but you need to stand up, put your shoulders back and carry on.
It's a hard world, even harder for a man playing the victim.
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Agreed mate !!! |
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The people with recent verifications and show genuine interest are more likely to meet up with you...I had alot of time wasters lately but tbf, it's always been that experience on here for me. I been on here for years |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"The people with recent verifications and show genuine interest are more likely to meet up with you...I had alot of time wasters lately but tbf, it's always been that experience on here for me. I been on here for years "
Unfortunately that's not the case anymore since people on here start verifying each other without even meeting .. anyone can verify anyone without even meeting so they mean nothing |
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"The people with recent verifications and show genuine interest are more likely to meet up with you...I had alot of time wasters lately but tbf, it's always been that experience on here for me. I been on here for years
Unfortunately that's not the case anymore since people on here start verifying each other without even meeting .. anyone can verify anyone without even meeting so they mean nothing "
I wasn't referring to someone with just 1 verification, someone with a good range of veris, that's how I got my last few meets |
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"Anyone else noticed an increase in the number of no shows lately?
Unbelievable, you deserve so much better behaviour than that!"
Alot of people receive this behaviour, including me. There must be a better system to avoid this happening alot? |
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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago
Ilkeston |
"Anyone else noticed an increase in the number of no shows lately?
Unbelievable, you deserve so much better behaviour than that!
Alot of people receive this behaviour, including me. There must be a better system to avoid this happening alot?"
There isnt really as its reliant on people actually turning up. Nothing a system can really do to impact that. Unless they had a report no show and after so many they get blocked but then that is easily manipulated |
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