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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even couples have issues fella. We find a lot of folk at the clubs we go to are there to 'soak in the atmosphere' than actually wanting to swing on the night. We think we've nailed filtering them out now. Just commenting here to let you know its normal unfortunately. |
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A lot of guys struggle - make your profile the best it can be (appealing pictures, text that is both easy to read and gives a good sense of what you have to offer/ who you are); send messages according to the wishes of the person you're messaging.
Alternately, it might be worthwhile going to a club or social. |
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By *iko34Man
over a year ago
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I've been struggling to even get people to message me back I think I've done a good job with my profile I've edited it about 1000 times lol and I always message with a nice and simple message of let's chat and see what happens but nothing I don't know what to do next |
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"Build it and they will come.
We did build it, we did arrange it? And still they never come. Lol x"
This I find odd. If you actually get a response, why wouldn't you meet up? Time wasters? Fantasist? Just clutters the field for the rest  |
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"anyone else finding it so difficult to get a meet ? think i need advice"
Ha yet another couple here finding the site now full of fakes, pic collectors and fantasists. Virtually every conversation leads nowhere even though apparent great interest in meeting us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been struggling to even get people to message me back I think I've done a good job with my profile I've edited it about 1000 times lol and I always message with a nice and simple message of let's chat and see what happens but nothing I don't know what to do next "
Simple mesaages like that won't make people message back.
Nice message asking how we are doing, like profile. Show that they have read our profile and a bit of humour, will always get peoples attention and of course nice pics and well written profile too.
Alot of people just go to clubs, like ourselves. To much of a headache meeting on here now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I just go to my local club and make new friends as and when I can then come on her to chat with them after. You will never beat meeting people in person and showing them who you really are. |
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"Even couples have issues fella. We find a lot of folk at the clubs we go to are there to 'soak in the atmosphere' than actually wanting to swing on the night. We think we've nailed filtering them out now. Just commenting here to let you know
its normal unfortunately."
Found that too in clubs |
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By *iko34Man
over a year ago
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This is the type of message I sent also it's not really great for me to have a profile pic of me as of my work but I do send one with every message
Hey username/name on profile how's your day going.
Just came across your profile and liked what I saw and just wanted to say a quick hello and see if you would like to have a chat and see what happens.
If you are interested in a chat and see where it leads down the rabbit hole just give me a message back, I've also added a recent picture of myself so you know who your speaking too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the type of message I sent also it's not really great for me to have a profile pic of me as of my work but I do send one with every message
Hey username/name on profile how's your day going.
Just came across your profile and liked what I saw and just wanted to say a quick hello and see if you would like to have a chat and see what happens.
If you are interested in a chat and see where it leads down the rabbit hole just give me a message back, I've also added a recent picture of myself so you know who your speaking too."
Please don't tell me you send that exact message to everyone? Apart from the name/profile name, it's sticks out like a sore thumb that it's a copy and paste message |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the type of message I sent also it's not really great for me to have a profile pic of me as of my work but I do send one with every message
Hey username/name on profile how's your day going.
Just came across your profile and liked what I saw and just wanted to say a quick hello and see if you would like to have a chat and see what happens.
If you are interested in a chat and see where it leads down the rabbit hole just give me a message back, I've also added a recent picture of myself so you know who your speaking too."
Personally, I think that this comes across as being a really impersonal opening message (it’s basically a cut and paste job). |
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By *iko34Man
over a year ago
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I don't past and copy I right all the messages out I just edited the name for there privacy I sometimes add in other things like a comment on there current status and stuff but reading it now after you said that does just looks like I am a generic writer lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would like to try going to a club but just don't know where to start but I think I'll try find a newbie night and take it from there but thanks for the advice it's much appreciated "
Research the club you're going to check out the dress code the rules everything like tha, when you go, go with the aim to just meet and chat to people, be friendly say hello to everyone weather thats guy's girls couples, treat the place as if it was just a pub, biggest thing to know is don't go with the expectation that you are going to have sex remember the aim is to just socialise anything else is a bonus,
The first time will always be hard but stick at it keep going and it will soon get easier |
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"I would like to try going to a club but just don't know where to start but I think I'll try find a newbie night and take it from there but thanks for the advice it's much appreciated "
There's nothing to be worried about bud. Everyone is if the same mind. Shape, size....nothing matters, and they are normally extremely friendly places  |
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By *iko34Man
over a year ago
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"I would like to try going to a club but just don't know where to start but I think I'll try find a newbie night and take it from there but thanks for the advice it's much appreciated
There's nothing to be worried about bud. Everyone is if the same mind. Shape, size....nothing matters, and they are normally extremely friendly places "
Thanks for your advice im not the greatest of people to connect with but once nerves go I'm apparently a bundle of laughs that my friends say anyway lol but they are bias lol |
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"I would like to try going to a club but just don't know where to start but I think I'll try find a newbie night and take it from there but thanks for the advice it's much appreciated
There's nothing to be worried about bud. Everyone is if the same mind. Shape, size....nothing matters, and they are normally extremely friendly places
Thanks for your advice im not the greatest of people to connect with but once nerves go I'm apparently a bundle of laughs that my friends say anyway lol but they are bias lol "
The first visit, you'll shit so much you think your intestines are coming out. After that, it's like going to a pub |
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By *iko34Man
over a year ago
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"I would like to try going to a club but just don't know where to start but I think I'll try find a newbie night and take it from there but thanks for the advice it's much appreciated
There's nothing to be worried about bud. Everyone is if the same mind. Shape, size....nothing matters, and they are normally extremely friendly places
Thanks for your advice im not the greatest of people to connect with but once nerves go I'm apparently a bundle of laughs that my friends say anyway lol but they are bias lol
The first visit, you'll shit so much you think your intestines are coming out. After that, it's like going to a pub "
Thanks I'll buy some adult nappies to be on the safe side lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest as a couple we've found problems meeting, guys that don't turn up, couples that we can chat to doesn't go anywhere.
I realise that as a relatively new couple wanting to start out with voyeur/soft swing (oral only), it's off putting to most couples that want full swap, or that neither of us are bi, but it still feels at times impossible, although trying clubs but don't seem to be getting anywhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Build it and they will come.
We did build it, we did arrange it? And still they never come. Lol x
This I find odd. If you actually get a response, why wouldn't you meet up? Time wasters? Fantasist? Just clutters the field for the rest "
We really are living in sheer times
Its all there with a tap of the finger. Onto the next do cslled best thing sitting on the smart phone.
Whats the point of meeting,its out of date. |
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