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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi folks. Just woundeting how many of you had a 'wobble' after you first encounter
A few weeks back we had our first encounter with a wonderfully experienced couple. We enjoyed the night immensely. A couple of days after, my partner said that she felt a bit jealous of the woman playing with me and did not want to swing again. I supported her decision 100%.
A couple of days ago she asked me to organise an other meet, because she wants to do it again.
So guys, has this ever happened to you?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time invited home by a couple I met in The Boardroom in the 80s (Salford, but long gone). Bottled out and just dropped them at home like I was a taxi driver They were ok about it though, and tried me again the following week. This time I went in for coffee...and...well you can imagine the rest. Really glad they locked their Alsatian in the kitchen though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think thats probably pretty common hon. Its s big thing handing your partner over to someone else. Shes probably mulled it over and looking back has realised she did enjoy it and that her trust in you is greater than she first thought. Communication is really important when your swinging and id say go with the flow and you will find that most people say no pressure to play so arrange a meet have a drink and take it from there.
Good luck guys and hope u enjoy
Mrs Nico xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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our first meet was a FFM (not through this site) I (fem) loved it at the time but had serious doubts afterwardsand it has taken me seven years before I felt ready to try again,we have had a few meets in the last few months and loved them. My opinion is that with our first meet we were quite a new relationship and hadn't developed the trust and the security in each other that we have got now. |
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wobbles are normal and natural and happen all the time. As someone else said be sure to communicate honestly and really listen to each other as you clearly have done.
Good luck with however your experiences progress  |
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"I don't get why couples would have jealousy if both get to play. Can understand it when one does and the other doesn't."
It isn't as straightforward as that though, each couple has their own dynamic and issues that can surface when sex is added to the mix |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't get why couples would have jealousy if both get to play. Can understand it when one does and the other doesn't.
It isn't as straightforward as that though, each couple has their own dynamic and issues that can surface when sex is added to the mix"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would not say we have had a "wobble" so to speak after a meet. We have however had a Wobble about the club scene and are taking a month or so off.
Up to and after New year we hit the scene pretty hard and feel a bit jaded after our last visit to a club which was a horrible night so we aim to have a month off and will pick our nights a bit more carefully next time. |
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When we first played with a couple mrs scoobs hated seeing me with another woman, she was not jealous she just could not watch me.
We talked it over and she never said never again but she was not too keen, then after alot more talk we did do it again and over time it has gotten better, she still does not like to watch me per say but it has eased and she does still like to play with couples.
Do it again and see what happens then if she still cannot hack it then take it from there
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By (user no longer on site)
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Still get wobbles even now , after a year on here and many meets down the line !
Think it's natural to be honest , but the fun we have with each other after meets , and during them more than makes ut all worthwhile
Good luck guys and enjoy x |
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our first experience was ffm, (not on this site) point was to fulfil a fantasy for both of us. I (rhi) didn't really enjoy it, the dynamics didn't work for me.
we talked about it, alot, and decided to try this site & find a couple & try again, took 6 months before we were ready for anything more than a social meet & haven't looked back since |
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