FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Does anyone else struggle to cum from oral?
Does anyone else struggle to cum from oral?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Just intrigued really, I have not cum from a blowjob EVER which is a) frustrating and b) awkward. I suspect it’s not a mental block and as the giver tires I get more anxious about cumming
Is it just me? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"A few guys have said they can’t come from oral, then Sammi slides balls deep on them and they cum down her throat.
Her technique is pretty great  "
have never cum from a bj put that does sound incredible |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I can, but it can be difficult to get over the edge sometimes. I tend to stay on the edge for ages which brings its own form of pleasurable torture.
Mrs would be more likely to get me there than strangers in a meet, as she knows what I like, though I'd like to try someone that can deepthroat (Mrs gag reflex is particularly sensitive).
One thing I have found is that some people struggle with an uncut cock. Don't know if it's because porn has tons more that are cut, but it's very sensitive/sore when people just yank the skin back and suck like I'm circumsised... takes my breath away and not in a good way! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"No problems here at all. I love to cum from oral
A mental block can be a really hard thing to overcome but, if that's what's preventing you, I hope you do manage it
C x"
i think it is the control aspect maybe |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Only once (one of my first meets on Fab and she had skills I’ve not come across since) and to be honest, although I love the sensation and pleasure of a BJ I find it more relaxing than something that gets me hard and cumming |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Control might be a part of it. My first real girlfriend used to suck me off but get quite aggressive with the "don't cum in my mouth" demands  I used to spend more time concentrating on not cumming that actually enjoying the experience.
Since then I've been lucky enough to meet people who are more than willing to have me cum in their mouth and it doesn't matter how great the act feels for me I just don't get to that point where I'm going to lose control |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think it's quite common. I've had a lot of guys say they've never cum from it but I've changed that for them. Surprisingly quickly in 2 cases!  "
So so you know what you do that makes it so good? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I can struggle to cum from oral at times. I get where you are coming from. It feels good and they’re performing it well but it’s just not quite getting me there. Then you do wonder if the person performing it is getting frustrated. My solution is to go for the 69 and get them moaning, once they start moaning then it pushes me over the edge. It’s definitely a mental thing, maybe not wanting to cum in some respects. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I think it's quite common. I've had a lot of guys say they've never cum from it but I've changed that for them. Surprisingly quickly in 2 cases! "
Lol, you're bragging now but good skills - the cock doctor |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I think it's quite common. I've had a lot of guys say they've never cum from it but I've changed that for them. Surprisingly quickly in 2 cases! "
Yep, having had a look at your pics I can see how that could happen  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *linyMan
over a year ago
Manchester/London |
I’ve only cum through oral twice. I think I’m similar to others above for whom it seems to be more a mental block so to speak. I’ll be hoping to increase that number soon as I’ve learned to relax more nowadays. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *illmywifeCouple
over a year ago
Great Yarmouth |
Matt here, I've never cum from a BJ. Kitten likes trying to make me come that way and I'm not complaining. For me I think it is a mental block, I've been close several times but never quite over the edge. I have to bang a woman hard to cum in her arse or pussy, I'm scared I'm going to give kitten brain Dave pounding her mouth! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have cum like 3 times in my life from oral. I've met some men that don't either. It's no big deal always loads of other fun to be had. I do love to give oral though. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"A few guys have said they can’t come from oral, then Sammi slides balls deep on them and they cum down her throat.
Her technique is pretty great "
Now this sounds like an experience I would love to have.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *pandjMan
over a year ago
Sparkford |
Would guess I've only really enjoyed about 3 of them my entire life and never cum from one. Doesn't help that I consider it foreplay to penetrative sex which is what I want. If I let it go on too long it has the opposite effect and I stop feeling horny
Think if I let the 3 ladies continue I would have cum but stopped them. To cum I need quite vigorous and fast movement shagging or with my hand. Wouldn't say it needs to be hard and the ladies mentioned had technique more than speed. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just intrigued really, I have not cum from a blowjob EVER which is a) frustrating and b) awkward. I suspect it’s not a mental block and as the giver tires I get more anxious about cumming
Is it just me? "
Yep, takes a bit to get me off from a blowjob |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Only ever happened once before.
It’s a physical thing for me, I get too sensitive after a few minutes and have to pull away, then I’m okay for another minute or so, but, I then get desensitised.
It goes back and forth between the both. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *pandjMan
over a year ago
Sparkford |
Also of I'm on a relationship when I feel most at ease sexualy they usually make trying to make me cum their mission.
If I'm with someone long term I end up putting them on a pedestal so the thought of me cumming in their mouth or over their face seems degrading even if that's what they want. Defo a mental thing there |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I’d definitely say it’s partly a mental thing busy also technique. If you’re relaxed and enjoying the moment it definitely helps. Can’t count the guys I’ve had tell me they haven’t cum from bjs and then after a little time on my knees I have a mouth full of nice warm cum. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just intrigued really, I have not cum from a blowjob EVER which is a) frustrating and b) awkward. I suspect it’s not a mental block and as the giver tires I get more anxious about cumming
Is it just me? "
Yes unfortunately |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Have done since divorce - was always an absolute no and guess that implanted a metal block for me (wasn’t something I chased but it was absolutely a no no)
Have had some incredible experiences since - once that freedom is learned and respected |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I tend to think of it as foreplay, because I really want the Main Event, so sometimes I don’t get into it.
But when it’s openly ‘just’ a blowjob for my own selfish pleasure it’s a whole different scenario. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
hmm hi OP for each guy I'd sat it's different in terms of coming from oral ...you've got to be open about what feels good and what does and where to simulate ...may take some time but it will happen |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"hmm hi OP for each guy I'd say it's different in terms of coming from oral ...you've got to be open about what feels good and what doesn't and where to simulate ...may take some time but it will happen "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Yeah I always struggled to cum from a blowjob but C seems to have the right technique! I assumed I just never would but C just had the magic touch!
So hold out hope, the right woman is probably out there somewhere
Mr |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
As a cuck I’ve watched Dee suck a number of cocks over the years and as someone has mentioned on this thread previously, circumcised cocks seem to take more attention to make them cum, but I will be honest and say I don’t think I can remember watching Dee suck a cock that didn’t cum in her mouth. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Absolutely not you, I find it a real struggle and actually end up finishing myself off 99.9% of the time !!
It’s not the quality or anything like that it just doesn’t REALLY do it I don’t think !!
But actually my ex partner used to slide down and suck the balls, then lick the really good bit between balls & arse until I finished in her mouth, so every cloud and all that lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Depends on the woman's enthusiasm for giving head. I have been sucked off by girls that really don't like it at all and doing purely to please me as a compromise, a blowjob like that is usually crap imo and I usually have to take over at the end and beat off to finish.
When a bird loves blowing guys more than anything OMG a dick sucking like that makes me grind my teeth and curl my toes.
A blowjob like that makes me absolutely explode and generally speaking a girl like that will still keep going hell for leather after you nut in her mouth and can be that intense I can't take more and pull out before she stops |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I used to struggle to orgams from oral as I used to be insecure about how I looked down there
Mental blocks during sexy time are actually the worst cause you can get so close to orgasm and then it just goes away randomly |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Personally
I think it depends on when you last had sex ?
as in if you leave it alone for a few days there is more chance of it happening
Also how horny you are at the time and from experience fucking is more frantic as in the moment but we are all different . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just intrigued really, I have not cum from a blowjob EVER which is a) frustrating and b) awkward. I suspect it’s not a mental block and as the giver tires I get more anxious about cumming
Is it just me? "
It’s not just you mate, I rarely cum from a bj either, 2017 was the last time lol!
I think it’s a mental block for me, based around the fact women really only want to make a cock hard for penetration, they don’t want the fun to ‘end’ if they make me cum too soon…..? Who knows? Maybe I just need to find the ‘right woman’…..  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Have never cum from oral. I enjoy it just never gets me there, much to the disappointment of both.
I feel really awkward that I'm letting my partner down, prob doesn't help mentally  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Honestly oral is all about the journey, not the destination. Both parties can enjoy it without it being about whether the guy cums or not.
Need to take the pressure off! Enjoy the sensation and the attention. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *onicZMan
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
Only two people have managed to make me cum from oral and the 2nd person had a lot of help from the 1st.
I don't know what she does different but it's mind blowing. That said, it could be down to the connection we have. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
So I'm in the same boat as somebody else further up the thread - I get right to the edge but can't quite tip over. It's definitely not that I don't enjoy it, it's tremendous fun, it's just that very final step! It gets ridiculously sensitive and quickly quite painful to be on the edge like that for an extended period, so I generally have to stop because it hurts like hell.
Nice to see it's not an uncommon situation though, I always thought I was weird. Well, I know that I'm weird, but you know. I thought THIS was weird. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So I'm in the same boat as somebody else further up the thread - I get right to the edge but can't quite tip over. It's definitely not that I don't enjoy it, it's tremendous fun, it's just that very final step! It gets ridiculously sensitive and quickly quite painful to be on the edge like that for an extended period, so I generally have to stop because it hurts like hell.
Nice to see it's not an uncommon situation though, I always thought I was weird. Well, I know that I'm weird, but you know. I thought THIS was weird."
This seems like a pretty good way to be though. Enjoy riding the edge and then pull out, a couple of quick strokes and you're cumming on a willing participant |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Yeah I always struggled to cum from a blowjob but C seems to have the right technique! I assumed I just never would but C just had the magic touch!
So hold out hope, the right woman is probably out there somewhere
Mr "
Lucky man! And here’s hoping  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just intrigued really, I have not cum from a blowjob EVER which is a) frustrating and b) awkward. I suspect it’s not a mental block and as the giver tires I get more anxious about cumming
Is it just me? "
Cunnilingus does nothing for me. It can be nice but never orgasmic or a must have. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
To be fair it take skill to make me cum from a blow job. Some are too keen and some simply just don’t know what they are doing. But when you find a mouth that slowly caresses your cock , especially while look go to your eyes . That is what gets me going |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oulivCouple
over a year ago
Newtown |
I never could cum from oral until a one night stand made me do it in her kitchen, I literally dropped on the floor and was mind blown. After that nothing for years until Lou, she made me cum from the first blowjob after me warning her it probably wont do much and don't be disappointed, she never fails. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *neforutoMan
over a year ago
Fantasy land in the SW |
Im the opposite, I struggle to cum when shagging, although it has been a while, but I love good blowjobs. I find the head of my cock gets really sensitive and that can be off putting but sucking on me when my head stays in the mouth is great |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I was like this when I was younger and less confident. Now I'm more experienced and confident I'm able to relax and get into the moment more. Obviously the skill level of the lady has an impact too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I can, but it can be difficult to get over the edge sometimes. I tend to stay on the edge for ages which brings its own form of pleasurable torture.
Mrs would be more likely to get me there than strangers in a meet, as she knows what I like, though I'd like to try someone that can deepthroat (Mrs gag reflex is particularly sensitive).
One thing I have found is that some people struggle with an uncut cock. Don't know if it's because porn has tons more that are cut, but it's very sensitive/sore when people just yank the skin back and suck like I'm circumsised... takes my breath away and not in a good way!"
I find this too that my helmet is very sensitive and the wrong technique can be too much for me. I will generally cum from a BJ (and love it), but have had occasions when I've thought ghis could go on all day and I still wouldn't cum.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Probably only have 2 or 3 times in my life. I think sometimes it’s in my head, sometimes it’s technique, but mostly, it’s not my biggest turn on. I like to be in control and display my dominance. I’ve kind of accepted it is what it is and just communicate to my sexual partner (if needed) why it is. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
