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By *adyJayne OP Woman
over a year ago
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So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs? |
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over a year ago
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I guess every guy likes it different but I tend to guide a lady to slow down - it's a passionate and teasing building of pleasure experience ... The porn style stretch bang repeat method doesn't do it for me |
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By *adyJayne OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Jeni’s is pretty good, but then she has had over 20 years with me to get her technique right!!  Loves to just wake up and play with the morning glory most days! "
Not going to lie this is the best bit about waking up next to my boyfriend.
And the fact he will lay there idly playing with him himself first thing in the morning till I wake up and join in is probably the hottest thing ever... |
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
Pretty sure it's all about personal preference. What one man/woman likes could be totally wrong for someone else.
The key is communicating what you like or don't like.
So it's hard to say! If they can adapt then no one should be bad at it.
Though I would say that wrist and arm stamina can be an issue haha you need many years of practice to build up the wanking muscles!
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I enjoy getting a hand job and I enjoy fingering, I think like most things it's being willing to give and take instructions from the other person. Everyone likes things done differently and having the confidence and willingness to say I need X can really be a good thing.
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When people ask about sexual topics "are you good at xxx", no matter what it is, the answer should be "it depends"
The real skill is not that you do it this way or that way but that you respond to the person you are with |
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By *adyJayne OP Woman
over a year ago
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"When people ask about sexual topics "are you good at xxx", no matter what it is, the answer should be "it depends"
The real skill is not that you do it this way or that way but that you respond to the person you are with"
Oh I completely get this.
I guess I was more wondering how many of us women are actually good at the communication/reading body language compared to men.
Being pansexual I have had the pleasure of encounters with many people and women (in my experience) are much more attune to feedback, even the non verbal kind.
If I was ever to go back into academia it's probably the curve all type of thing I'd want to look at.
The impact of porn combined with soft skills of communication and body language and something around the level of sexual satisfaction in hetrosexual couples... |
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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago
Alton |
I think hand jobs get a bad rap but can be pretty great.
Sex BJ are a lot of people's preference but handjobs they have their place.
Especially with cfnm/ domme sub/ edging scenario it can be very erotic |
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I prefer them to a blowjob if done right. That's a big if though, but the same goes for blowjob techniques too.
I guess every guy is different and has given the ladies their feedback accordingly, maybe it's me that's weird with my handjob technique preference!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience there's very few that are good at it.
But then again, every guy is different and enjoys different things I guess. So what's good for one ain't good for another.
I suppose it's more of a luck thing if her technique is one that does it for you.
Then again, if it's not working, then have a chat about it and show her how.
Have to say I love a teasing handjob when it's done right, especially by a woman that is really wanting me to spunk hard for her. So much fun  |
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When taken all the way to orgasm, and beyond, it's amazingly good. There's something quite special about having your own control over when you cum taken away from you by your partner at the time. Love it. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was watching a cooking program on YouTube the other day actually, and they were following a 200 year old recipe and using traditional methods.
So the woman was beating eggs by hand that took 15 minutes to beat, then pounding a mixture up for another 10 minutes.
She was saying that in mediaeval times the women would have had to have very strong wrists and stamina from all the effort to cook anything.
Which made me think about how good the women must have been at giving handjobs back in the day.
Strange how the mind drifts lol |
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"When people ask about sexual topics "are you good at xxx", no matter what it is, the answer should be "it depends"
That's a very good point, well made. I'd agree with that any day of the week. X
The real skill is not that you do it this way or that way but that you respond to the person you are with"
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I love it. Sometimes, I'll guide her, as women's hands are different. I like lots of eye contact, closeness, intimacy, it makes it more of a turn on. There's nothing worse than the furious, porn inspired,wanking hand.... Seduce me. |
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By *rNightMan
over a year ago
Coventry |
I’ve only had one bad one, underlined by the amount of blood on my underwear the next morning. In general though, I enjoy standard handjobs, it’s just an enjoyable massage really.
The good ones though, they’re rare and like fine art. Back arching, toe curling types where they pay attention to surrounding areas and don’t just hammer away like they’re trying to pump up a camping mattress |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience, don’t get me wrong I loved having my cock played with, not many handjobs get me over the edge without myself adding some strokes.
I would say that I prefer them as reach around a though, I’ve enjoyed having my partners treat my cock like it’s theirs. Imagine they had a cock and stroke it like it was, I give some verbal feedback during the process. And yeah that’s definitely my favourite kind of handjob. A guy likes neck kisses and nibbles on the shoulder too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to ask her to slow down, few times.. It needs to be sensual..
"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
There’s definitely an art to a woman giving hand jobs, done wrong it can take forever to cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like many other things, they can be great, good, passable, or rubbish. Most are passable, some are good. Only a few are great! I think porn has to take some blame as too many people like to pump hard and fast, which can be painful and certainly doesn't give the best results.
The good news is that good technique can be learned. It needs practice, though.
I'm available for practice... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's like anything. You have to find out how they like things, always better to go a bit softer and slower and gradually build it. People may not speak up and actually verbally say if they like something but non vernal cues should be plenty to on, if your actually bothering to read the person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's like anything. You have to find out how they like things, always better to go a bit softer and slower and gradually build it. People may not speak up and actually verbally say if they like something but non vernal cues should be plenty to on, if your actually bothering to read the person. "
This 100% = pretty easy to tell if what you are doing is working i think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes they are highly underrated, requires lube though, although it sound’s pretty obvious, you’d be surprised. And they have to commit to wanking until you cum, gotta work through the achey arms lol |
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By *pandjMan
over a year ago
Sparkford |
To partially quote myself from the BJ thread:
Would guess I've only really enjoyed a small number of them my entire life and never cum from one. Doesn't help that I consider it foreplay to penetrative sex which is what I want. If I let it go on too long it has the opposite effect and I stop feeling horny.
Think if I let the ladies continue I would have cum but stopped them. To cum I need quite vigorous and fast movement shagging or with my own hand in a certain way. Think my partners hand would get sore before I came. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
I love doing it, and will ask what they like and/or get them to show me how they like it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love my lady doing this, she has this down to a T and with the tempo she goes at sometimes better than a BJ. Although been with some that didn't have a clue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the intent, if its a hand job because she can't be bothered to give a blowjob then usually it's boring
But if she is enthusiastic and really gets into it and shows that she wants to be doing it usually it's a huge turn on, especially with some lube and both hands. So hot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never enjoyed a handjob and used to get bored but C is amazing with her hands. I think it helps she loves doing it and getting me close to orgasm, she likes feeling the throb and then watching her hard work pay off
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
I can honestly say that I have only ever enjoyed 1 hand job given to me by a woman.
Every other one has been on a scale of simply unexciting all the way through to actually painful |
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A good handjob is amazing,but a bad one is uncomfortable if not painful. But if you aren't guiding and instructing your partner how you like it, then the only one to blame for a bad handjob is you!
I find few women here in the UK know how to properly wank a circumcised cock, but guiding and teaching them is a fun and intimate way to bond with a new lover |
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"When people ask about sexual topics "are you good at xxx", no matter what it is, the answer should be "it depends"
The real skill is not that you do it this way or that way but that you respond to the person you are with"
Just this, it's the response! Giving or receiving it's the response that adds to the pleasure.
That said occasionally someone just does everything "right". A lady friend I used to see regularly had the most amazing hand action; it was just what she did naturally. A very unique hand motion, beautiful to watch, and felt fantastic (the gods who rolled the dice for us that day came up with a winner) |
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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago
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Much like the post regarding women's thoughts on fingering, if done with care and attention, they can be fantastic! It's all about finding out what the person likes as opposed to ripping the head off it
C x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
Love my lady finishing me with a hand job, especially over her boobs or face, and think she enjoys what I do with my hands. Ironically you can be the judge as just posted videos this morning lol |
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
Love a good hand job and the woman I’ve met are good at it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nice and slow... Thats the way I like..
"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
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"Nice and slow... Thats the way I like..
So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
Same as that |
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Handjobs from someone else just feel a bit odd. I guess like most men I am very familiar with my own cock and masturbating, when someone else does it the feeling is strange. It's like they are making the same motions, but as they don't know how it actually feels to me they usually do it too fast/slow/rough/gentle! I am sure for women if someone is fingering them it is the same. |
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
Love a hand job  
I love my cock been touched played with watching it grow in a feminine hand is sexy  |
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By *tomix02Man
over a year ago
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I have had women that don't understand how painful it can be if your to rough pulling back, some were scared they would hurt it and were to soft, some had little interest and just went to fast for it to feel nice.
I believe that if there interested in pleasing you it will always be good and pleasurable. |
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Love them myself and get them regularly at home.
Love being stroked while kissing but it doesn't happen a huge amount during fab meets
Sometimes you might have to suggest a change of tempo.
I don't masturbate anymore so a hand on my cock is always a pleasure... |
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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago
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Glad this thread is still going, who doesn’t like a hand job and enthusiasm can often overcome a lack of technique! Pretty sure that when I’ve been lucky enough to have one I’ve never had a bad one! |
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
I love them, they can be more intimate than blow jobs and she can talk at same time   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t find them pleasurable b/c most ppl (men and women) tug and pull in a way that is bordering on painful. fast jerking movements don’t feel nice at all…
I prefer someone to take their time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I LOVE a good handjob. Lots of coconut oil, patience and a partner genuinely interested in giving pleasure results in multiple orgasms for me. I’ve had handjobs where I’ve cum 3 times in a row without stopping. Love it! |
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Late to this, but just wanted to add I fucking love handjobs. Guys who moan about women not doing it right just aren't using enough oil and lube. With enough oil, the lady can go for it as rough as she likes  I love placing my pleasure and orgasm in a lady's hands and seeing what she does with the power.
Also I'm not great at fingering, but would love some practice and advice |
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"So having commented on this: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1450498
I was thinking about the amount of women who complain that men generally use porn as instructional when it comes to fingering.
I said maybe 10% of men (rough figure but it's not many that's for sure) are actually any good at fingering.
It got me thinking. How many women, in your experience, are actually good at hand jobs?"
Not many i found know their way around a cock. Most are to rough. Tug so hard you are afraid its gonna come off. Some use teeth on the bell end which bloody hurts.then you get the banjo string stretchers who are intent on stretching it to see how far that string will go. Women complain about guys not knowing their way orally around a pussy but women are just as bad |
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