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By *umblefun OP Man
over a year ago
London/ South West (Devon, Somerset). |
When the hotwife goes out on the pull and pulls what’s the dynamic with the husband. Does hubby get completely cuckolded, does he get to watch / film or is he invited in for a MMF. What do you prefer? |
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By *umblefun OP Man
over a year ago
London/ South West (Devon, Somerset). |
Yes, but I’m asking what the couples themselves prefer. Is there any difference between what the wife wants and what the husband wants? I was just reading another thread and wondered. |
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I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated! |
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"When the hotwife goes out on the pull and pulls what’s the dynamic with the husband. Does hubby get completely cuckolded, does he get to watch / film or is he invited in for a MMF. What do you prefer?"
Hotwife doesn't mean cuckold. It's 1 form of it. There are many and each couple will have there own guidelines and reasons. |
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
Hit the nail on the head for a lot of folks.
Also J is stunning. |
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
We totally agree with you  |
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By *lashyMan
over a year ago
a lather |
Mostly my wife plays without my presence and for the most part she does not inform the man involved that I know what she is doing. So we do not consider this cuckolding. It is much less formatted than that. |
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
Definitely resonates  |
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My Mrs actually has a meet tonight, so very shortly I will be making myself scarce and going out somewhere. I love her playing, be it watching, vids, pics whatever or like tonight just knowing it is happening with nothing getting sent. I don't ever join in. If I'm playing its usually my own meets. |
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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago
Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston |
"Hubby likes to watch and then join in, he's not a cuckold though"
Same for us. And if he wasn’t happy with anything I know he’d tell me.
Equally I’m happy with him playing with another woman, and I’ll just watch or I’ll join in.
We just go with what feels right at the time and never script it.
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
This is how we see it too although in our case Mrs doesn't play without me. There does seem to be a massive level of misunderstanding on the part of some men around the relationship between cuckolding and hotwifing, assuming that all husband's of hotwives are cucks  |
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By *umblefun OP Man
over a year ago
London/ South West (Devon, Somerset). |
Thanks all. I thought this would be interesting. We all put labels on cuckold, stag vixen, Dom, sub, but at the end of the day it what turns us on and what works for us that matters. |
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over a year ago
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
This is how I would prefer it rather than have the humiliation part... More sharing and all having fun... |
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
This is exactly us x |
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By *3xDECouple
over a year ago
nottingham |
"When the hotwife goes out on the pull and pulls what’s the dynamic with the husband. Does hubby get completely cuckolded, does he get to watch / film or is he invited in for a MMF. What do you prefer?"
I wouldn’t say that this is a hotwife scenario more a Stag and Vixen dynamic.
But either way I think with that in mind there has to be a level of understanding with each other and boundaries set when either mr or missus goes out on the pull.
Hubby has full permission to pull on a night out, but I like to know what he’s up to and like to see pictures and visa versa. But we don’t look to meet people every time, when we are out on our own! |
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
Agreed (the HW) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When the hotwife goes out on the pull and pulls what’s the dynamic with the husband. Does hubby get completely cuckolded, does he get to watch / film or is he invited in for a MMF. What do you prefer?"
No cuckholding here. Mr might get pics and vids sent to him while I'm on my way home to him, or he might get to watch, or he might be invited to join in...all depends on the scenario and mood at the time 
Mrs |
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Whenever these threads appear there is always an association with cuckolding and humiliation, which isn’t always the case !
I’ve been a cuck for around 30 years off and on and during that time humiliation has never been a part of of our cuckold lifestyle. |
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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago
Sleaford |
We are looking into hot Wifeing and for us captain would love to watch but at the same time I've had a single meet with a male from a couple we know and captain loved hearing about it when I got home xx |
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"We are looking into hot Wifeing and for us captain would love to watch but at the same time I've had a single meet with a male from a couple we know and captain loved hearing about it when I got home xx"
It’s amazing I highly recommend x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the husband is present or joins in she’s not a hot wife you are stag and vixen couple assuming it’s not Cuckhold dynamic "
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HOTWIFE There is no official definition of the Word Hotwife it's slang word, so what it means can change from person to person and how they see their relationship with the use of this slang word.
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CUCKOLD actually had an official Oxford definition,
'The husband of an adulteress, often regarded as an object of derision, ultimately derived from Old French cucu 'cuckoo', from the cuckoo's habit of laying its egg in another bird's nest.'
Hence why we use this phrase to explain a relationship where the husband is generally denied in replacement of another sexual partner(s) for his wife, temporary or not.
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VIXEN is also an official Oxford dictionary word with an official definition. It merely means 'a woman who is thought to be frightening, especially one who is considered sexually attractive' we tend to focus more on the attractive aspect of this word now.
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Not one has anything defined to do with partners present or not, all are up for interpretation.
All can be used to describe Hotwifing and Cuckolding to a degree. Some feel their slider is more towards Cuckolding(Cuckoldress&Cuck), other slide more towards Hotwifing(Hotwife&(Hubby/Stag)) and most of us probably somewhat perpetual in our needs and desires .
And as all women are beautiful then all the women on this site are vixens 
My opinion, from my understanding.
Mr H |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When the hotwife goes out on the pull and pulls what’s the dynamic with the husband. Does hubby get completely cuckolded, does he get to watch / film or is he invited in for a MMF. What do you prefer?"
For us all the above, it all depends. I personally have no preference as long as my wife is happy and having lots of fun. The different situations all have different effects on my mind; and as they say variety is the spice of life
Mr H |
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"If the husband is present or joins in she’s not a hot wife you are stag and vixen couple assuming it’s not Cuckhold dynamic
Where do you get off telling other people what their dynamic is? "
I’m not telling anyone there dynamic . I’m talking about people getting the terminology and descriptions right . Try reading responses a little better before you start mouthing off I would suggest  |
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"If the husband is present or joins in she’s not a hot wife you are stag and vixen couple assuming it’s not Cuckhold dynamic
Where do you get off telling other people what their dynamic is?
I’m not telling anyone there dynamic . I’m talking about people getting the terminology and descriptions right . Try reading responses a little better before you start mouthing off I would suggest "
Ahh, yeah. I forgot you were the dictionary of the swinging world.
People like you are the worst.
Grow up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A true Hot Wife meets men on her own. Cuckhold is something totally different. I wish people would understand the difference!!!"
why does is bother you so much what people want to be called?
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"A true Hot Wife meets men on her own. Cuckhold is something totally different. I wish people would understand the difference!!! why does is bother you so much what people want to be called? "
It doesn’t. But you wouldn’t call a gay person Bi or a straight person gay would you? Description is important for clarity and understanding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A true Hot Wife meets men on her own. Cuckhold is something totally different. I wish people would understand the difference!!! why does is bother you so much what people want to be called?
It doesn’t. But you wouldn’t call a gay person Bi or a straight person gay would you? Description is important for clarity and understanding. "
If a women or her husband wants to call herself a hot wife big deal.
Do you think the people who are meeting her really care?
I wouldn’t get so hung up ok the smaller issues and just have fun |
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"A true Hot Wife meets men on her own. Cuckhold is something totally different. I wish people would understand the difference!!! why does is bother you so much what people want to be called?
It doesn’t. But you wouldn’t call a gay person Bi or a straight person gay would you? Description is important for clarity and understanding.
If a women or her husband wants to call herself a hot wife big deal.
Do you think the people who are meeting her really care?
I wouldn’t get so hung up ok the smaller issues and just have fun "
It’s no problem, I am a Giraffe really , but fab doesn’t give me the option to choose that for my profile description for some reason  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have done a few different scenarios.
My hubby has driven me to a meet waited outside for me while the man I was meeting was sending him pics and videos.
My husband loved that! Other times at clubs he has either watched or join in.
My preference is when he joins in so much hotter |
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
I totally agree with your comments as will most men with hotwives |
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"I would say I’m not a cuck, as for us there is no humiliation involved at all, and there never will be. It’s interesting how many people don’t understand, but then it’s a complicated dynamic.
I love watching J having fun with others, and sometimes I also join in. Other times I’m happy to just watch.
Sometimes I enjoy J playing when I’m not there too. This is actually very handy as finding the time when we’re both available and have childcare is not easy! I love to get photos/videos of what she’s been up to, and we talk about it lots when we are back together.
I don’t always enjoy the idea of J playing without me though - I have to be in the right mood. Like I said; it’s complicated!"
Perfect answer guys. Gorgeous coupe too xx |
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"If the husband is present or joins in she’s not a hot wife you are stag and vixen couple assuming it’s not Cuckhold dynamic
Where do you get off telling other people what their dynamic is?
I’m not telling anyone there dynamic . I’m talking about people getting the terminology and descriptions right . Try reading responses a little better before you start mouthing off I would suggest
Ahh, yeah. I forgot you were the dictionary of the swinging world.
People like you are the worst.
Grow up. "
“people like me are the worst “!! Is that why I was on your friends list until I just removed myself and blocked you. |
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"If the husband is present or joins in she’s not a hot wife you are stag and vixen couple assuming it’s not Cuckhold dynamic
Where do you get off telling other people what their dynamic is?
I’m not telling anyone there dynamic . I’m talking about people getting the terminology and descriptions right . Try reading responses a little better before you start mouthing off I would suggest
Ahh, yeah. I forgot you were the dictionary of the swinging world.
People like you are the worst.
Grow up.
“people like me are the worst “!! Is that why I was on your friends list until I just removed myself and blocked you. "
You mean when you fabbed out photo for friend request acceptance and we just mass accepted EVERYBODY? |
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"If the husband is present or joins in she’s not a hot wife you are stag and vixen couple assuming it’s not Cuckhold dynamic "
The term Hotwife still fits this dynamic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting to read all the various dynamics at play.
Partner and I are still discussing various things although not ready to jump in just yet, it does certainly highlight that there's a situation for everyone though |
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Sometimes she tells me sometimes she doesn’t. Sometimes she gifts me a pair of cum stained knickers, occasionally she sends me pics and videos out of the blue. We do meet for mfm and have enjoyed a few sexy small gang bangs at clubs and organised parties also. |
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She arranges meets, but Mr always knows who she's with and where. She sends videos back of the fun she's having.
On her return it's immediate reclaim sex which is super hot and up there with the best most intimate sex ever. |
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I think of it as celebratory! I love the idea P is having an exciting time. Makes me love her more. I do like to join in though. One time I dropped her off at a hotel on the way to work. She sent me voice messages and a pic of her and her meet. It was so sexy I had to go and join them in my lunch break. I bought sandwiches for them too. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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as part of a lifestyle cuckold couple every meet is different sometimes he knows before sometimes after sometimes he can watch and do duties sometimes hes not allowed in the room nothing is the same jeeze how boring would that be |
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I’m from midlands and I would love to meet a hot wife anytime and do whatever instructed by hubby so as we all get the enjoyment fulfilled to the max so if anyone wants some horny fun message me let’s chat |
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