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I think my wife is being naughty
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Years ago my wife and I used to be on here together, and we had many fun adventures. About 6 years ago for reasons of her own my wife decided not to play anymore. In fact she has lost interest in sex completely. Now I'm on here, she doesn't know so I'm not judging in any way but just recently I'm talking maybe six months or more, she has been spending an inordinate amount of time on her phone even by todays standards, then all of a sudden there were late night trips to the shops to return something or other and she would be gone a long time
. So a couple of weeks ago while she was out, I had a little nose around, and at the back of her drawers I found 4 pairs of stockings, 3 basques or body suits and a couple of suspender belts, all sexy, all new and all worn. Needless to say my suspicions had been aroused. She has been a little more frisky of late but only a little. So today we went to the gym together, she did her usual things then disappeared into the ladies only section of the gym, after a while I caught sight of her in there using free weights and doing exercises that she always told me she had absolutely no idea how to do!! Finally this evening we were having a bit of banter and I said to her 'are you going to dress up all sexy for me tonight?' She replied 'I don't have any sexy clothes any more, you know that!' I am now pretty certain that she is being a naughty girl behind my back, and the strange this is..... Damn it has got me horny 
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
id be a little worried at the lies if im honest maybe it not just the sex she like elsewhere ... maybe its she want more from life in general ... see swingers and all those lifestyles under its umbrella are mostly consented between the couples for reason only they know but normally rock solid relationships they know each other are playing ... in your case your finding out and dont know anything and thats dangerous for all you know she could be planning on leaving ?? rather than just sex ...good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After me and J being cheated on by our ex’s and lied to so much by them. I couldn’t take the lies more then the actual act.
If we meet the right people we will break into our swinging journey together. But if J was doing it behind my back and lying to my Face, I would first confront her. And then leave.
Basically as said by another poster, I think if she’s lying to you then there maybe more to it then just sex. That is just mine and J’s opinion.
Confront her soon , it will eat you up otherwise. It is the lies that would end it for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know a couple of couples like yourselves who have ended up straying from each other m8.most of them ened up going with regulars x the only good thing about it is that ut makes you horny. Why do you not mention her lingerie. Don't be surprised if it turns out to be one of your old regulars.  |
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One option is that she just doesn't fancy having sex with you or with you involved anymore ( no cuckold scenarios with you watching). I came across a woman who didn't want to have sex with her husband anymore because his cock didn't get as hard as it used to anymore. So I guess she just wanted 20 and 30-year-old cock only.
However, as we all grow old and it's better to adapt but some people would rather um...have their cake and eat it...or lie about the cake they actually want very badly. Luckily ( or unluckily) I'm single as I age and I know how to work around a softer cock with various toys and it doesn't affect the intimacy I share with a sexual partner. How men feel about not getting very hard is something I can't relate to because I have a vagina which isn't entirely a massive part of my ego.
I had to have a conversation with a boyfriend about finding sex with him uncomfortable and it was very difficult. Needless to say I put my foot in it and he didn't take it well. From my perspective, I wanted to have sex with him but just not in the usual position anymore because I didn't like his weight on me. Why I didn't like his weight on me I don't know. Could have been any number of things with my brain and body, I could have lost weight, I could have gained weight, He could have lost weight, He could have gained weight. maybe my trauma or sensory traits were triggered. After that, I felt like he was more distant and eventually, we broke up months later.
Many people do not want to have these hard conversations because they don't want to rock the boat.....I mean if you both don't mind lying to each other then.....if you are both happy with the current state of play then not much else to be done. You both are compatible with lying.
Some people would rather lie than telling the truth and some people (like me) would rather tell the truth than lie. It takes too much effort for me to lie. My brain isn't wired for it. |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
Have you considered that your wife may be suffering from early onset dementia? If she’s on her phone for a much longer time than she used to be then it could mean that it’s taking her a lot longer to absorb the information that she’s reading and if she’s on her phone chatting with friends then it could be taking her a long time to type out her replies. You said that she has to keep making late night trips to the shops to return things so she could be buying things that she doesn’t need but thinks she does when she’s at the shop and not realising until she gets home that she doesn’t need them, and if she’s out for longer than you’d expect her to be when she goes to the shops then maybe it’s because she’s forgetting the way home and getting lost.
It sounds as though she’s forgotten her usual workout routine when she’s at the gym and is doing things that she doesn’t normally do because she can’t remember what she should be doing. And she’s obviously forgotten about the sexy lingerie she has hidden in her drawers as she told you that she doesn’t have any sexy clothes to dress up in for you.
Is it worth getting her checked out for any physical signs of the early stages of dementia before accusing her of cheating? |
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"id be a little worried at the lies if im honest maybe it not just the sex she like elsewhere ... maybe its she want more from life in general ... see swingers and all those lifestyles under its umbrella are mostly consented between the couples for reason only they know but normally rock solid relationships they know each other are playing ... in your case your finding out and dont know anything and thats dangerous for all you know she could be planning on leaving ?? rather than just sex ...good luck"
This is why so many men want to control it |
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By *onyjoCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"id be a little worried at the lies if im honest maybe it not just the sex she like elsewhere ... maybe its she want more from life in general ... see swingers and all those lifestyles under its umbrella are mostly consented between the couples for reason only they know but normally rock solid relationships they know each other are playing ... in your case your finding out and dont know anything and thats dangerous for all you know she could be planning on leaving ?? rather than just sex ...good luck"
how can he be worried about the lies when he himself is lying by being on here without her knowledge
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By *rb1Man
over a year ago
swansea |
If it gets you horny and you’re not too worried about it then see how it plays out.
She might just need some mental or physical stimulation somewhere else for a bit.
If it gets you going thinking about her being out with someone then enjoy that part while you can and see where things are in 6 months |
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By *onyjoCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Years ago my wife and I used to be on here together, and we had many fun adventures. About 6 years ago for reasons of her own my wife decided not to play anymore. In fact she has lost interest in sex completely. Now I'm on here, she doesn't know so I'm not judging in any way but just recently I'm talking maybe six months or more, she has been spending an inordinate amount of time on her phone even by todays standards, then all of a sudden there were late night trips to the shops to return something or other and she would be gone a long time
. So a couple of weeks ago while she was out, I had a little nose around, and at the back of her drawers I found 4 pairs of stockings, 3 basques or body suits and a couple of suspender belts, all sexy, all new and all worn. Needless to say my suspicions had been aroused. She has been a little more frisky of late but only a little. So today we went to the gym together, she did her usual things then disappeared into the ladies only section of the gym, after a while I caught sight of her in there using free weights and doing exercises that she always told me she had absolutely no idea how to do!! Finally this evening we were having a bit of banter and I said to her 'are you going to dress up all sexy for me tonight?' She replied 'I don't have any sexy clothes any more, you know that!' I am now pretty certain that she is being a naughty girl behind my back, and the strange this is..... Damn it has got me horny
Does anybody else have suspicions about their partner with anything to back it up???"
Too many lies oon both sides here far too many red flags from you both best thing either of you could do is end the relationship as neither of you are getting anything from it and the relationship is fake
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