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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been reading more threads lately in the other sections instead of just the lounge. There's a lot of people requesting multiple men to meet with singles/couples with rules on the meet.
My question for the men is
When you've been chosen/ messaged with yes and the details (not sure if chosen is the right word) by that person to go, do you get anxiety with other men in the room? Do you have butterflies? Do you look at the other men and do a 'comparison/size up' (not cock size) more of a 'he's blonde I'm bald he's brown haired, he's shorter, he's tattooed, I'm neither' kinda thing? Do you just focus on what your doing or do you enjoy watching the other men playing too? Arousal from the anticipation of what's to come? |
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I went to a bukake meet with 5 other guys a few years back, the wife was in the middle and hubby was taking pictures and filming. I didn't really think about the other guys at the time, it was just really hot seeing Mrs sucking so much cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I’m ever messaged to suggest I’ve been “chosen” or “invited” to a group thing then I tend not to go.
The times I’ve been in that type of scenario have been when it’s all people who know each other to some degree. It works best for everyone involved that way - the woman and the guys - because we can all be relaxed and not have to worry about chemistry or anything else. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I've been reading more threads lately in the other sections instead of just the lounge. There's a lot of people requesting multiple men to meet with singles/couples with rules on the meet.
My question for the men is
When you've been chosen/ messaged with yes and the details (not sure if chosen is the right word) by that person to go, do you get anxiety with other men in the room? Do you have butterflies? Do you look at the other men and do a 'comparison/size up' (not cock size) more of a 'he's blonde I'm bald he's brown haired, he's shorter, he's tattooed, I'm neither' kinda thing? Do you just focus on what your doing or do you enjoy watching the other men playing too? Arousal from the anticipation of what's to come?"
yes i feel intimidated and get anxiety attacks I've had to get carried out on a stretcher naked with an erection before now  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Usually am more thinking about things like will everyone have showered, are they going to wear any clothes or socks"
So you can walk in and just 'get stuck in'? No thoughts on what it's like to be there with the other men? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been reading more threads lately in the other sections instead of just the lounge. There's a lot of people requesting multiple men to meet with singles/couples with rules on the meet.
My question for the men is
When you've been chosen/ messaged with yes and the details (not sure if chosen is the right word) by that person to go, do you get anxiety with other men in the room? Do you have butterflies? Do you look at the other men and do a 'comparison/size up' (not cock size) more of a 'he's blonde I'm bald he's brown haired, he's shorter, he's tattooed, I'm neither' kinda thing? Do you just focus on what your doing or do you enjoy watching the other men playing too? Arousal from the anticipation of what's to come?"
I was at a swing club and won't mention the name. But I was in the hot tub with a lady and she invited two other guys in a private room. I got anxiety and nervous and struggled to get hard. But the lads put me at ease and it turned out ok in the end x |
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The very first time I went to an orgy, I did wonder about stuff like this beforehand. But once I arrived, I just got stuck in like everyone else. Have been to many others since and organised gangbangs and it's never been an issue. It's going to be a broad spectrum of real world people and you quickly lose your inhibitions. And I can guarantee the others will not look like or perform like professional porn stars and make you feel inferior. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Great post! Last sentence calls it for me"
So you like watching waiting for your turn kinda thing? Do you play with yourself and watch her enjoyment? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been reading more threads lately in the other sections instead of just the lounge. There's a lot of people requesting multiple men to meet with singles/couples with rules on the meet.
My question for the men is
When you've been chosen/ messaged with yes and the details (not sure if chosen is the right word) by that person to go, do you get anxiety with other men in the room? Do you have butterflies? Do you look at the other men and do a 'comparison/size up' (not cock size) more of a 'he's blonde I'm bald he's brown haired, he's shorter, he's tattooed, I'm neither' kinda thing? Do you just focus on what your doing or do you enjoy watching the other men playing too? Arousal from the anticipation of what's to come?
I was at a swing club and won't mention the name. But I was in the hot tub with a lady and she invited two other guys in a private room. I got anxiety and nervous and struggled to get hard. But the lads put me at ease and it turned out ok in the end x"
Because of more than you and her in the room? Or anxious because you feel that you have to give as much input as the other two? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Doesn't really bother me at all. Totally laid back about it. Have often spent time in a group or gangbang just standing around chatting keeping hard, lol. To quote the movie " chill, Winston ""
While your chatting you are watching though? Any arousal from watching or you need the physical contact? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally don't think off mmf or greater. It's not that I'm intimidated but more to being connected and giving my total attention l.
I guess when it's boils to it. I'm a child and don't like sharing my toys  |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
Tralee |
"Doesn't really bother me at all. Totally laid back about it. Have often spent time in a group or gangbang just standing around chatting keeping hard, lol. To quote the movie " chill, Winston "
While your chatting you are watching though? Any arousal from watching or you need the physical contact? X"
God yes watching, bit of both. A few tugs to keep him in play |
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I’ve done gangbangs, group things, whatever you want to call them … a few times when I was a little younger. I don’t think I’m so into them now, not sure whether I’d do it again. Maybe if the right invitation popped up.
Anyway … anxiety is a thing, of course it is. For me though, it’s always melted away once in the moment. And that’s mostly down to the woman involved. The centre of attention. If she’s clearly loving it - grinning and laughing and relishing every minute - then it’s hard to stay nervous. And easy to stay hard.
I guess what I’m saying is the woman’s my focus. Even with lots of other guys in the room. So if she’s enjoying it, I will be too. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Never done anything like that! Fuck no.
I was at a club once and a really hot woman had 4 or 5 guys all over and she lifted her head up as I walked past and shouted in a scouse accent ‘oy you come and come put some cock in here’ I literally legged it! |
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"I've been reading more threads lately in the other sections instead of just the lounge. There's a lot of people requesting multiple men to meet with singles/couples with rules on the meet.
My question for the men is
When you've been chosen/ messaged with yes and the details (not sure if chosen is the right word) by that person to go, do you get anxiety with other men in the room? Do you have butterflies? Do you look at the other men and do a 'comparison/size up' (not cock size) more of a 'he's blonde I'm bald he's brown haired, he's shorter, he's tattooed, I'm neither' kinda thing? Do you just focus on what your doing or do you enjoy watching the other men playing too? Arousal from the anticipation of what's to come?"
To answer your question from someone who has been in that situation. By the time I have met the couple we're all cool, its like meeting old friends. No competition with the other half as I am always focused on the misses and so is he. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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M never gets nervous with group fun as he has so much experience with it, in fact likes to be watched.
F gets nervous when meeting others but some relaxes as the fun begins
MMF planned for Wednesday  |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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My first experience when I was lucky enough to be invited to one was it was quite stressful. The whole way there, your mind is playing out different scenarios so by the time you get there, you're a bag of nerves. Luckily for me, only one guy turned up but to be fair, they did make me feel very relaxed once they realised I was a bag of nerves lol I didn't partake but watched instead. It helped relaxed me. Never got an invite back but I'm glad I went just to overcome that initial fear. I still get nervous now but at least its nowhere near as bad as that first experience was |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It depends on the nature of the engagement. Cuckolding is different than 3somes, and 3somes are different than orgies.. each setup has a different nature and therfore a different mindset"
I'm talking 4 5,6,7plus men |
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"I'm talking 4 5,6,7plus men"
I wrote a post about exactly this for someone’s blog *years* ago. I think the point I ended up making was that us men naturally get nervous and compare ourselves in these situations but really, we don’t need to - the variety between us all is kind of the whole point. |
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The focus is on ensuring thew ladyt gets pleasured, or gets what she wants, so there is not so much concern about the other guys in the room, in my opinion.
However, I have found that 2 on 1 for a DP or DVP some guys find it hard (or not, so to speak) to stayin the game... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been reading more threads lately in the other sections instead of just the lounge. There's a lot of people requesting multiple men to meet with singles/couples with rules on the meet.
My question for the men is
When you've been chosen/ messaged with yes and the details (not sure if chosen is the right word) by that person to go, do you get anxiety with other men in the room? Do you have butterflies? Do you look at the other men and do a 'comparison/size up' (not cock size) more of a 'he's blonde I'm bald he's brown haired, he's shorter, he's tattooed, I'm neither' kinda thing? Do you just focus on what your doing or do you enjoy watching the other men playing too? Arousal from the anticipation of what's to come?"
Nah, if choosen is correct word than I have unique things and meet the preference/criteria etc and based on that I have been selected, same foes for other person who, so why waste time on comparison when you have better task to handle  |
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