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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ? |
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Yeah, I believe they are. I've had a few but you can often tell the type, they go quiet the day before you're suppose to meet. With experience, you'll start to notice the people who won't meet.
But some will surprise you too. I hope you guys don't get too many, and don't let it get you down. The right meets for you will show up and you'll have a great time. |
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
They were probably married!
What I don't get is when someone takes an interest in you and then goes quiet and never replies again! |
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"Yeah, I believe they are. I've had a few but you can often tell the type, they go quiet the day before you're suppose to meet. With experience, you'll start to notice the people who won't meet.
But some will surprise you too. I hope you guys don't get too many, and don't let it get you down. The right meets for you will show up and you'll have a great time."
Is there anything in particular I should look out for? |
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"Yeah, I believe they are. I've had a few but you can often tell the type, they go quiet the day before you're suppose to meet. With experience, you'll start to notice the people who won't meet.
But some will surprise you too. I hope you guys don't get too many, and don't let it get you down. The right meets for you will show up and you'll have a great time.
Is there anything in particular I should look out for?"
They usually insist on dirty chat, ask for cam “fun” (fun who who?), keep asking you for more pictures, keep sending you their erect penises any time of the day or night - list goes on. Never engage in those things and keep all communication on fab.
Then suddenly when meet date approaches, someone from distant family dies, that’s a hard one as you don’t know how to react in case it’s true, childcare issues are also common one, you name it.
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"Yeah, I believe they are. I've had a few but you can often tell the type, they go quiet the day before you're suppose to meet. With experience, you'll start to notice the people who won't meet.
But some will surprise you too. I hope you guys don't get too many, and don't let it get you down. The right meets for you will show up and you'll have a great time.
Is there anything in particular I should look out for?
They usually insist on dirty chat, ask for cam “fun” (fun who who?), keep asking you for more pictures, keep sending you their erect penises any time of the day or night - list goes on. Never engage in those things and keep all communication on fab.
Then suddenly when meet date approaches, someone from distant family dies, that’s a hard one as you don’t know how to react in case it’s true, childcare issues are also common one, you name it.
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Thanks for the advice. |
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"Yeah, I believe they are. I've had a few but you can often tell the type, they go quiet the day before you're suppose to meet. With experience, you'll start to notice the people who won't meet.
But some will surprise you too. I hope you guys don't get too many, and don't let it get you down. The right meets for you will show up and you'll have a great time.
Is there anything in particular I should look out for?
They usually insist on dirty chat, ask for cam “fun” (fun who who?), keep asking you for more pictures, keep sending you their erect penises any time of the day or night - list goes on. Never engage in those things and keep all communication on fab.
Then suddenly when meet date approaches, someone from distant family dies, that’s a hard one as you don’t know how to react in case it’s true, childcare issues are also common one, you name it.
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Yeah, I'd agree with all that. Also their profile. More effort into their profile, the more likely to meet imo. Not certain but its a helpful factor. |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
I'm afraid it is part of this.
Everyone will be stood up or have time wasted.
Last one cost me £300 for the room and we had been talking for months.
It's unfortunate, everyone let's everyone down. |
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Yes. We have been inundated with no shows and being ghosted just before the meet. We’ve nearly given up the lifestyle a couple of times because of the frustration and stress caused. It’s got to the point now where we almost expect it to happen. So much worse since Covid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really can’t ever fathom this. Due to the sheer odds against single men on here if you should get the opportunity to ‘play’ why would you not grab it with both hands ?
A real head scratcher. |
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"I really can’t ever fathom this. Due to the sheer odds against single men on here if you should get the opportunity to ‘play’ why would you not grab it with both hands ?
A real head scratcher. "
Not really, if you think about it.
Not every “single” man is as single as they make us believe they are. That’s one. And another one - there is an uprising in keyboard wankers, not able to engage on a human level with another human being anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really can’t ever fathom this. Due to the sheer odds against single men on here if you should get the opportunity to ‘play’ why would you not grab it with both hands ?
A real head scratcher.
Not really, if you think about it.
Not every “single” man is as single as they make us believe they are. That’s one. And another one - there is an uprising in keyboard wankers, not able to engage on a human level with another human being anymore. "
Maybe I’m just too naive ! |
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By *killsMan
over a year ago
Never Never Land |
I will just continue to keep my 100% attendance record.
I can’t make other hold the same values and it’s a shame some feel the need to ghost or just not turn up.
I’ve met some lovely people and I’m sure I will meet many more.
You have to experience the sour to appreciate the sweet |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
Manchester/London |
As a party host, we had plenty of let downs by single guys so we always over invited. We had met all the guys previously too for a social. As single male I’ve also been let down by single women and a few couples so it’s not exclusively one group but down to the occasional time wasters! |
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"Amazes me the blokes do this when so many struggle to find meets , this is partly the reason so many of us do struggle  when you make plans gotta stick to them!! "
I've found that more often then not the men who tell me that they struggle to meet people are the ones likely to ghost or stand me up. And fair to them, I may not be their type, but it has happened more often than not when they said they wanted 1 chance for a verification then they disappeared. |
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By *94meeMan
over a year ago
Manchester |
Yep. It's not just the guys letting everyone down. I've arranged lots of meets now with women and couples when they have gone quiet usually the morning of a meet then cancelled last minute.
I suppose they wake up that day and are just not in the mood or something!?
Frustrating  |
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By *94meeMan
over a year ago
Manchester |
"ive been let down or ghosted by women , then not a reply such a waste of time and effort  "
It's the worst when you cancel other plans or change stuff at work. So annoying. Like you have nothing else going on in the world! |
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
We've had several experiences like this in the past 6 months or so. People often say it's the unverified guys to look out for but we are actually quite careful and picky about looking through profiles and veris but despite this we've had no shows and ghosting etc. We now accept that as long as we try to meet guys via Fab, as opposed to at clubs etc, this is justgoing to happen from time to time. Even when we've done our due diligence  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never let anyone down and luckily for me it’s not happened to me yet either but from reading the comments it’s both sexes that are letdown by the other.
It’s hard for guys as if it was me then I would probably say I will pay for the hotel and then if no one turned up I would be gutted and think most guys would do this when meeting a woman. |
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"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure "
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x |
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By *killsMan
over a year ago
Never Never Land |
"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x"
I was going to say something very similar but you beat me too it lol |
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
unfortunately yes for 10 years now .the common factor are the ones who ask for photos .then keep sending messages saying what they are going to do to you .also asking to chat on WhatsApp or kik ..and the total 100% giveaway is the ones who reply yeah ..not yes ..silly I know but true...also the ones who can only meet days and won't give number out ..this is easily sorted either everyone pays say £30 a month or single men pay £30 a month that will see off 90% of timewasters
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"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x"
I like fun games,  |
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
Yeah happens up here too, though must admit, did meet 100% genuine couple on Saturday that may turn into more.
These no shows cause us genuine ones some bloody headaches I'll tell you.
Hope you find a genuine one down there soon xx    |
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"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x
I like fun games, "
Is that right well I can guarantee that depending on what you like |
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"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x
I like fun games,
Is that right well I can guarantee that depending on what you like"
Not twister as my backs frail  |
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"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x
I like fun games,
Is that right well I can guarantee that depending on what you like
Not twister as my backs frail "
Haha dont worry I'd take care of that frail back guess you will have to play on your hands and knees |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
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"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x
I like fun games,
Is that right well I can guarantee that depending on what you like
Not twister as my backs frail
Haha dont worry I'd take care of that frail back guess you will have to play on your hands and knees"
My knees are still intact, I mean they might go snap, crackle and pop but hand and knees twister is perfect  |
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By *killsMan
over a year ago
Never Never Land |
"cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
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I would not say it’s the person being let down that’s to blame.
When you agree to a meet with someone and then they don’t turn up, they are at fault. |
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
Hell yes, most we are in contact with these days let us down. One couple three times !!. Many now talk of meeting but give excuses when trying to arrange a meet or go quiet for a few days prior. It's a sea of fakes, pic collectors and fantasists here now, quite tiring and hopeless !, was certainly better when we first joined some 9 years ago  |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
I would not say it’s the person being let down that’s to blame.
When you agree to a meet with someone and then they don’t turn up, they are at fault. "
but if your attracting people who dont turn up then you have to look at how you always seem to pick the timewasters ? when most are so easy to spot after a few message's ... |
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"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x
I like fun games,
Is that right well I can guarantee that depending on what you like
Not twister as my backs frail
Haha dont worry I'd take care of that frail back guess you will have to play on your hands and knees
My knees are still intact, I mean they might go snap, crackle and pop but hand and knees twister is perfect "
As long as you bring with you your perfect body and beautiful smile I will do the rest lol x |
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By *killsMan
over a year ago
Never Never Land |
"cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
I would not say it’s the person being let down that’s to blame.
When you agree to a meet with someone and then they don’t turn up, they are at fault.
but if your attracting people who dont turn up then you have to look at how you always seem to pick the timewasters ? when most are so easy to spot after a few message's ... "
There is a valid point in what you say but it all depends on the amount of let downs versus the actual meets.
I’ve been let down probably three times out of dozens.
Working on those odds I would say it’s more the other peoples attitude and general flakiness |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
I would not say it’s the person being let down that’s to blame.
When you agree to a meet with someone and then they don’t turn up, they are at fault.
but if your attracting people who dont turn up then you have to look at how you always seem to pick the timewasters ? when most are so easy to spot after a few message's ...
There is a valid point in what you say but it all depends on the amount of let downs versus the actual meets.
I’ve been let down probably three times out of dozens.
Working on those odds I would say it’s more the other peoples attitude and general flakiness "
but you still picked them to meet them ?? |
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By *killsMan
over a year ago
Never Never Land |
"cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
I would not say it’s the person being let down that’s to blame.
When you agree to a meet with someone and then they don’t turn up, they are at fault.
but if your attracting people who dont turn up then you have to look at how you always seem to pick the timewasters ? when most are so easy to spot after a few message's ...
There is a valid point in what you say but it all depends on the amount of let downs versus the actual meets.
I’ve been let down probably three times out of dozens.
Working on those odds I would say it’s more the other peoples attitude and general flakiness
but you still picked them to meet them ??"
I also pick lottery tickets that never win. Doesn’t mean I’m not going to find a diamond in the rough. Everyone deserves a chance. |
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"I'm afraid it is part of this.
Everyone will be stood up or have time wasted.
Last one cost me £300 for the room and we had been talking for months.
It's unfortunate, everyone let's everyone down."
was she insane/blind lol |
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Why would any lad turn down the opportunity to meet any woman??
Here's me not even able get a meet with a woman cause the ratio of men to women is just insane and you're telling me there guys flaking on women who want to meet them???? |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
I would not say it’s the person being let down that’s to blame.
When you agree to a meet with someone and then they don’t turn up, they are at fault.
but if your attracting people who dont turn up then you have to look at how you always seem to pick the timewasters ? when most are so easy to spot after a few message's ...
There is a valid point in what you say but it all depends on the amount of let downs versus the actual meets.
I’ve been let down probably three times out of dozens.
Working on those odds I would say it’s more the other peoples attitude and general flakiness
but you still picked them to meet them ??
I also pick lottery tickets that never win. Doesn’t mean I’m not going to find a diamond in the rough. Everyone deserves a chance. "
but you pick a lottery ticket for a gamble you know that its a win or lose ticket ... and i dont agree everybody deserves a chance because not everybody is here for the same reason ....if your going to give everyone a chance then no wonder you get let downs as 75% of the site dont meet ever they are on here for the online life good or bad |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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"Why would any lad turn down the opportunity to meet any woman??
Here's me not even able get a meet with a woman cause the ratio of men to women is just insane and you're telling me there guys flaking on women who want to meet them????"
not just guys plenty of women and couples too |
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By *killsMan
over a year ago
Never Never Land |
"cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
I would not say it’s the person being let down that’s to blame.
When you agree to a meet with someone and then they don’t turn up, they are at fault.
but if your attracting people who dont turn up then you have to look at how you always seem to pick the timewasters ? when most are so easy to spot after a few message's ...
There is a valid point in what you say but it all depends on the amount of let downs versus the actual meets.
I’ve been let down probably three times out of dozens.
Working on those odds I would say it’s more the other peoples attitude and general flakiness
but you still picked them to meet them ??
I also pick lottery tickets that never win. Doesn’t mean I’m not going to find a diamond in the rough. Everyone deserves a chance.
but you pick a lottery ticket for a gamble you know that its a win or lose ticket ... and i dont agree everybody deserves a chance because not everybody is here for the same reason ....if your going to give everyone a chance then no wonder you get let downs as 75% of the site dont meet ever they are on here for the online life good or bad"
I prefer to see the good in everyone and give everyone a chance. Just because they don’t have any meet verifications doesn’t mean they don’t deserve a chance. We all started out somewhere and in my opinion everyone deserves a chance. |
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"Yep, the same for us single folk
Who in the right mind would let you down? They obviously let themselves down x
There have been a couple, some just like to play games I’m sure
I'd like to play some games with you lol but not like that x
I like fun games,
Is that right well I can guarantee that depending on what you like
Not twister as my backs frail "
What about poke her  |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"cant remember the last time i / we got let down but then they are pretty easy to sniff out most of the time ... if you keep getting let down them maybe sit back and think about how you talk / message people ...
I would not say it’s the person being let down that’s to blame.
When you agree to a meet with someone and then they don’t turn up, they are at fault.
but if your attracting people who dont turn up then you have to look at how you always seem to pick the timewasters ? when most are so easy to spot after a few message's ...
There is a valid point in what you say but it all depends on the amount of let downs versus the actual meets.
I’ve been let down probably three times out of dozens.
Working on those odds I would say it’s more the other peoples attitude and general flakiness
but you still picked them to meet them ??
I also pick lottery tickets that never win. Doesn’t mean I’m not going to find a diamond in the rough. Everyone deserves a chance.
but you pick a lottery ticket for a gamble you know that its a win or lose ticket ... and i dont agree everybody deserves a chance because not everybody is here for the same reason ....if your going to give everyone a chance then no wonder you get let downs as 75% of the site dont meet ever they are on here for the online life good or bad
I prefer to see the good in everyone and give everyone a chance. Just because they don’t have any meet verifications doesn’t mean they don’t deserve a chance. We all started out somewhere and in my opinion everyone deserves a chance. "
now youve change the subject its not about seeing good in everyone its about why people let people down and its simple there are alot of people on fab who have no desire to meet tho they love the chase or troll ...if your saying you would give them a chance then no wonder you get let downs ?? its not about good or bad its about why they are here and the sad fact is 75% (ish) do not meet via fab for what ever reason even if they say they are looking ...
50% of couples and womens accounts are fake run by men but you still want to give then a chance to see the good in them ????
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
Hell yeah.
We think they like the idea, but when it comes to reality, it's run for the hills. |
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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
Had a meet all planned for Saturday evening with a couple, then low and behold there was a puff of smoke and they disappeared!
It's a kind of magic!
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Just like couples have choices so do some singles and maybe an offer he/she couldn't refuse came up. He/She could have been pursuing someone else but talking to you on the side keeping his/her options open |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the input and interaction. In some ways it is reassuring were not on our own but still a shame. As a leaving shit, its not all people, still a few good ones out there. |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"I'm afraid it is part of this.
Everyone will be stood up or have time wasted.
Last one cost me £300 for the room and we had been talking for months.
It's unfortunate, everyone let's everyone down.
was she insane/blind lol "
I should of seen it coming and tbh it made me focus on myself , what I do with my time and as a result I don't rush into arranging any meets. |
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By *rb1Man
over a year ago
swansea |
I’m shocked at this.
I can hardly even get one reply let alone a meet to not bother showing up to.
If I’m able to get a reply and a chance to meet then you can bet I’m doing everything I can to turn up.
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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago
West midlands |
It always happens especially when we are in a mood of meeting single guys. They just bottle up .
Our latest experience was, the guy was actually outside the coffee shop but couldn't muster enough courage to walk in,when it was a solo hotwife meet . His loss .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fully know the answer to this question, but why the f*ck you say you want to meet if you don’t really want to meet? What does it cost to go upfront and not wasting not just your time but the person(s) you’re gonna let down by not turning up? F*cking despise that kind of people!
Mrs |
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By *ob357Man
over a year ago
Oswestry |
I actually had a light hearted one this weekend. Met a couple, we got on like wild fire, drinks were flowing all night and we just clicked. We all ended up so d*unk we got split up and none of us could find our hotel |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"I fully know the answer to this question, but why the f*ck you say you want to meet if you don’t really want to meet? What does it cost to go upfront and not wasting not just your time but the person(s) you’re gonna let down by not turning up? F*cking despise that kind of people!
Mrs"
I felt with mine it was a setup and her friends were in on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I fully know the answer to this question, but why the f*ck you say you want to meet if you don’t really want to meet? What does it cost to go upfront and not wasting not just your time but the person(s) you’re gonna let down by not turning up? F*cking despise that kind of people!
Mrs
I felt with mine it was a setup and her friends were in on it."
that’s disgusting, but yeh I would say that kind of thing goes on, you can only wonder what type of person is behind it
And nothing good |
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
Yes
People like to talk the talk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I fully know the answer to this question, but why the f*ck you say you want to meet if you don’t really want to meet? What does it cost to go upfront and not wasting not just your time but the person(s) you’re gonna let down by not turning up? F*cking despise that kind of people!
Mrs
I felt with mine it was a setup and her friends were in on it."
Take it as you dodged a massive bullet. I know it’s not the way, but you need to grab the positive of the situation. I wouldn’t like to spend a second with a c*nt like that. Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Recently had a spate of let downs, "single" males predominantly. Seem to promise the earth, constant message and then when it comes to meeting disappear. Is this a common occurance ?"
Yes, arranged for 3 guys to come help fuck my lady and not 1 turned up!!! |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"I fully know the answer to this question, but why the f*ck you say you want to meet if you don’t really want to meet? What does it cost to go upfront and not wasting not just your time but the person(s) you’re gonna let down by not turning up? F*cking despise that kind of people!
Mrs
I felt with mine it was a setup and her friends were in on it.
Take it as you dodged a massive bullet. I know it’s not the way, but you need to grab the positive of the situation. I wouldn’t like to spend a second with a c*nt like that. Mrs "
Thank you. I bear no grudges and I feel terrible for anyone who has been let down. |
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I'm sick of trying to get a meet and no1 will or even replies. Seems to be all round me in 40 miles and I can accommodate even if I travel to them, no reply and no one to meet so tried phone or webcam chat and still no reply. Its a killer for morale and self esteem when I try my ass off. |
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It's definitely gotten worse since Covid. We were let down by 3 guys on Saturday, the guy we planned to meet ghosted on the day, so did our 'backup' and then we got ghosted by our last minute effort - all 3 were meet verified, though mostly social/club meet verifications.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sick of trying to get a meet and no1 will or even replies. Seems to be all round me in 40 miles and I can accommodate even if I travel to them, no reply and no one to meet so tried phone or webcam chat and still no reply. Its a killer for morale and self esteem when I try my ass off."
Just get yourself to a club.
We always reply to people that make an effort. (Don't get many nice message tho).
Clubs are the best way to meet people. |
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"As a single guy, I feel like I'm the only one it's happening to. Can be disappointing especially when you take time to craft out a letter. Anyone know how to resolve this problem?"
No because it's just online culture |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been lucky as in all the years on fab, I've never experienced this.
However I have changed my mind about people and possibly at times haven't had the courage to just say so I've just gone quiet instead.
I'd never stand anyone up though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So rude and disrespectful to just not turn up! The effort and cost that goes into setting up a meet is usually pretty high too.
We had a few no shows for socials when we first joined, everyone’s right you learn how to spot them with a bit of experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had one lady cancel on the day… leaving me to pay for the hotel room even though it never got used… then treats me like I’ve done something wrong… if they had a change of heart, just say! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me and the gf had a no show Saturday just gone. He was messaging. All seemed great then got to 10 mins before the meet started asking for pics again as if we hadn’t sent them. Then when the gf posted pics of the night on her page he called her a fake etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Filter as effectively as you can, time on site, verifications, reasonable pictures and bio etc.
insist on a social and if that’s difficult to arrange then move on. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"If you keep doing things the same way. Dont be surprised if you get the same outcome.
If someone / people are getting multiple no shows. Whats the one common factor in all of them? "
Shhh. I said that a few weeks ago and was told I was unsympathetic and victim blaming. 
It's true though. If something happens regularly then there's literally onky one common factor.
Sit back, review how you're deciding who to message, what you're discussing in advance, how you move chat into real life (phone/video call) and whether a social in advance is a good idea or not.
Then always remember that this is meant to be fun. Things crop up in life and people have to change plans last minute sometimes.
People can do an awful lot to minimise the risk of engaging with fake profiles but they often don't. There are many ways to reduce the occurrence of no shows but if plans are being made last minute then that's going to be trickier.
If you want to guarantee meeting real people go to a club.
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Had this way to often, both sides of the single sexs, unfortunately it's fantasy pleasing for them we feel, but without telling us that it is...
Probably one of a few reasons we are on here very few times lately. |
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"I'm afraid it is part of this.
Everyone will be stood up or have time wasted.
Last one cost me £300 for the room and we had been talking for months.
It's unfortunate, everyone let's everyone down.
was she insane/blind lol
I should have seen it coming and tbh it made me focus on myself , what I do with my time and as a result I don't rush into arranging any meets."
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"If you keep doing things the same way. Dont be surprised if you get the same outcome.
If someone / people are getting multiple no shows. Whats the one common factor in all of them? "
That the quality of folk on here is definitely declining. It was much better here 9 years ago when we first joined. |
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"If you keep doing things the same way. Dont be surprised if you get the same outcome.
If someone / people are getting multiple no shows. Whats the one common factor in all of them?
Shhh. I said that a few weeks ago and was told I was unsympathetic and victim blaming.
It's true though. If something happens regularly then there's literally onky one common factor.
Sit back, review how you're deciding who to message, what you're discussing in advance, how you move chat into real life (phone/video call) and whether a social in advance is a good idea or not.
Then always remember that this is meant to be fun. Things crop up in life and people have to change plans last minute sometimes.
People can do an awful lot to minimise the risk of engaging with fake profiles but they often don't. There are many ways to reduce the occurrence of no shows but if plans are being made last minute then that's going to be trickier.
If you want to guarantee meeting real people go to a club.
A"
Exactly that. Oh and also if it sounds too good to be true...theres a high chance its too good to be true. |
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"If you keep doing things the same way. Dont be surprised if you get the same outcome.
If someone / people are getting multiple no shows. Whats the one common factor in all of them?
That the quality of folk on here is definitely declining. It was much better here 9 years ago when we first joined."
Possibly... But then if that is true, people have to decide whether trying to meet strangers from "here" is asensible use of time and effort. |
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Does happen more often on here unfortunately than 5 years ago, and we've all seen many a committed fabster become cynical to the lifestyle and lose interest.
Keep it real and honest people. Respect is a priceless value, make it count. |
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By *he SmithsCouple
over a year ago
East Devon & London |
Yep, historical single guy let downs here too. Our staircase video was shot after a repeat bbc failed to show at the Airbnb we’d hired.
His loss, the video has been very popular.
Pity Mrs S is so sceptical of MFM’s as a result of such flakes. |
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"Two out of three of our last meets have been let downs. Begining to think if all the preparations are worth it anymore?
Lxx
Two out three ain't bad"
We know a song about that dont we.? Swing your pants |
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Happened to me a couple of times so tend to be a bit more wary now .. send an introductory message with a face pic if I’m genuinely interested though never expect a response and won’t send to anyone who’s not site verified |
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