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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you dont if she dont want to
You say your Mrs wont swing so im assuming you have talked about it, if she dont want to you have to accept that not come on here trying to find tips on talking her into doing something she clearly does not want to do
Shagging random strangers isnt for everyone, as your wife you should respect her wishes not try and talk her into it surely? |
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"you dont if she dont want to
You say your Mrs wont swing so im assuming you have talked about it, if she dont want to you have to accept that not come on here trying to find tips on talking her into doing something she clearly does not want to do
Shagging random strangers isnt for everyone, as your wife you should respect her wishes not try and talk her into it surely?"
Entirely correct-if you push her into it then it may very well have very unpleasant & unforeseen consequences for you as one guy was relating last week when t totally backfired.
Respect her decision & be a man, accept it.
You may find that in future,weeks, months, years, she has the thought to try it, a seed once sown may grow but if you overwater it, then it will drown!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We just started talking about our fantasies one night - she said she wanted a threesome and I said I'd love to see her with another guy... We compromised and have fun with couples too.
Although it took about 6 month or so to dive in , we haven't looked back ( well maybe looked at the videos ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"you dont if she dont want to
You say your Mrs wont swing so im assuming you have talked about it, if she dont want to you have to accept that not come on here trying to find tips on talking her into doing something she clearly does not want to do
Shagging random strangers isnt for everyone, as your wife you should respect her wishes not try and talk her into it surely?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if you show her your profile, with several verifications about how much fun you are having, and no mention of her, she'll jump at the chance to join you.
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or just might kick him out lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think if you show her your profile, with several verifications about how much fun you are having, and no mention of her, she'll jump at the chance to join you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife doesn't play the piano.
I'm not gonna force her into lessons and I won't find another women to play the piano for me. I'll just have to do without. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My wife doesn't play the piano.
I'm not gonna force her into lessons and I won't find another women to play the piano for me. I'll just have to do without.
Like that one Polk  "
Thank you. I do private consultations as well. |
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"My wife doesn't play the piano.
I'm not gonna force her into lessons and I won't find another women to play the piano for me. I'll just have to do without.
Like that one Polk
Thank you. I do private consultations as well. "
Or take up the violin instead...maybe not  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me its about the way a person thinks...
I don't believe anyone but me should control my sexual wants and desires because nobody but me knows how i'm feeling from one second to the next, if my bf or hubby don't feel the same way..they are free to leave and find someone else more oppressed if they choose to!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My wife doesn't play the piano.
I'm not gonna force her into lessons and I won't find another women to play the piano for me. I'll just have to do without.
Like that one Polk
Thank you. I do private consultations as well.
Or take up the violin instead...maybe not "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe would help if you surprised her with tickets to a dress up type formal, that way there's no play but she can see that there's nothing seedy or lude about swinging, people fear what they don't understand...so educate her with the more fun side of swinging first and let her own filthy mind catch up when she's ready! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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(1) Carry on as you are.
(2) Talk to her, be open and honest about your desires etc. See what happens but respect her decision. Note - this may cause issues with number one as she may become suspicious.
(3) Try that TV programme - Wife Swap
(4) Divorce and get a different wife.
(5) Hang it up and take up a hobby like woodworking - you'll have lots of monogamy to work with!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As so many have already said, its all about communication. We started roll playing scenarios with 3 sums and 4 sums. From there we became more open about our sexual desires with each other. 3 years later we both pluked up the courage to eventually put our desires into action. Our first encounter was at Christmas. We was very nervouse and enjoyed the experiance. I few days afterwords my partner said she did not want to do it again. I was gutted, but I did let up that I was disappointed and supported her decision 100%. A few days ago she asked if we can have some fun again! So my advice is to communicate your desires and use it to judge how she feels, but don't push it. You have nothing to lose, but lots to gain in the long run. Good luck. Chris |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she won't swing she won't swing! WTF? Makes me so angry that you and other guys think, like water on stone if I keep at it I'll wear her down. Show some respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she won't swing she won't swing! WTF? Makes me so angry that you and other guys think, like water on stone if I keep at it I'll wear her down. Show some respect. "
Agreed, your relationship with her should come first! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she won't swing she won't swing! WTF? Makes me so angry that you and other guys think, like water on stone if I keep at it I'll wear her down. Show some respect. "
How do you know he isn't showing some respect? |
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Maybe start by discussing your fantasies, reassure her that she is in charge, possibly agree to soft play first or go to a club but agree to only play with each other, that way she gets the chance to see if she likes it with safe boundaries? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a question. Does your wife know your bi?. Because if she doesn't she's got 2 very big shock coming her way. I'd handle this with care."
Oh yes...just looked at that. Might be an interesting conversation!
Incidentally swinging is often a lot more fun for the ladies so once they get over the doubt/fear/guilt there is a lot to enjoy! |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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How do you know he isn't showing some respect?"
Married/attached man on a swingers site with a single profile? I would say that shows a distinct lack of respect for the woman he has chosen as his life partner! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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How do you know he isn't showing some respect?
Married/attached man on a swingers site with a single profile? I would say that shows a distinct lack of respect for the woman he has chosen as his life partner! "
She might know about it. Judgmental? |
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There are a lot of threads from men asking how to get their partners involved in swinging some give a lot of background, some none at all what none of them do is give the wife/partners point of view....FROM the wife/partner.
My answer is the same every time, talk not to us but to your partner. It is a scary thing and ideas on how to broach the subject are one thing but asking for ideas on how to get her to do it another thing completely and shows huge lack of respect, you are discussing your wife with strangers and asking for ideas on how to get her involved in something that is a big and personal step in anyones life.
If you want ideas on how to broach the subject with her have a nice quiet evening in, set the mood with a bottle of wine, bring the subject up and listen to her, listen to what she says and I don't just mean wait until she's finished talking so that you can put yet another persuasive argument forward listen and take it in, discuss and listen some more.
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
Rushden |
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How do you know he isn't showing some respect?
Married/attached man on a swingers site with a single profile? I would say that shows a distinct lack of respect for the woman he has chosen as his life partner!
She might know about it. Judgmental?"
Yes, Judgemental! As is everyone on here (including you) in some way or other! We all make judgements on others given the information we have to hand.. You implied I was judgemental without knowing if I had more information than you have... You made a judgement!! 
With the lack of information as to whether his wife/partner knows and given that he is asking how to get her involved, I would say it is a pretty safe judgement call that she doesn't know! But I am always open to be better informed if the OP wants to enlighten us! |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of threads from men asking how to get their partners involved in swinging some give a lot of background, some none at all what none of them do is give the wife/partners point of view....FROM the wife/partner.
My answer is the same every time, talk not to us but to your partner. It is a scary thing and ideas on how to broach the subject are one thing but asking for ideas on how to get her to do it another thing completely and shows huge lack of respect, you are discussing your wife with strangers and asking for ideas on how to get her involved in something that is a big and personal step in anyones life.
If you want ideas on how to broach the subject with her have a nice quiet evening in, set the mood with a bottle of wine, bring the subject up and listen to her, listen to what she says and I don't just mean wait until she's finished talking so that you can put yet another persuasive argument forward listen and take it in, discuss and listen some more.
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By (user no longer on site)
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How do you know he isn't showing some respect?
Married/attached man on a swingers site with a single profile? I would say that shows a distinct lack of respect for the woman he has chosen as his life partner!
She might know about it. Judgmental?
Yes, Judgemental! As is everyone on here (including you) in some way or other! We all make judgements on others given the information we have to hand.. You implied I was judgemental without knowing if I had more information than you have... You made a judgement!!
With the lack of information as to whether his wife/partner knows and given that he is asking how to get her involved, I would say it is a pretty safe judgement call that she doesn't know! But I am always open to be better informed if the OP wants to enlighten us!"
I wasn't offering the judgment though. Over to the OP, he might indeed fact be a bit of a snake or he might indeed be an upstanding spouse. |
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How do you know he isn't showing some respect?
Married/attached man on a swingers site with a single profile? I would say that shows a distinct lack of respect for the woman he has chosen as his life partner!
She might know about it. Judgmental?
Yes, Judgemental! As is everyone on here (including you) in some way or other! We all make judgements on others given the information we have to hand.. You implied I was judgemental without knowing if I had more information than you have... You made a judgement!!
With the lack of information as to whether his wife/partner knows and given that he is asking how to get her involved, I would say it is a pretty safe judgement call that she doesn't know! But I am always open to be better informed if the OP wants to enlighten us!
I wasn't offering the judgment though. Over to the OP, he might indeed fact be a bit of a snake or he might indeed be an upstanding spouse."
The whole point is that none of us can offer any point if view or judgement if you want to call it that based on the very limited information given. But the use of "Mrs won't swing" as a title doesn't encourage me to think that this has been thought through with much consideration for the lady in question. Of course I could be wrong but none of us will ever know as it seems to be a hit and run post.
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"I want to hear from the OP again as I am particularly interested to know if she knows he is bisexual."
I doubt you'll hear from him because I suspect in common with some of the other men who pose these questions they want sympathy and tools to persuade their wives, a quick fix that will turn a reluctant wife into a fully fledged swinger overnight.
As the actress said to the bishop "you get out exactly what you put in" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I want to hear from the OP again as I am particularly interested to know if she knows he is bisexual.
I doubt you'll hear from him because I suspect in common with some of the other men who pose these questions they want sympathy and tools to persuade their wives, a quick fix that will turn a reluctant wife into a fully fledged swinger overnight.
As the actress said to the bishop "you get out exactly what you put in" "
Spot on. Only place they'll find sympathy is in the dictionary between shit and syphilis..
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By *ss2011Man
over a year ago
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I'd say that would be a bad move to persist in trying to make her do it, and if she doesn't want to and knew you were asking tips here it would greatly hinder your chances of continuing being together...even I can see that and I'm this young.
Don't risk love over something like that. Not worth it in the end. |
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