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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?
Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?
I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?
Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?
I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. "
When I lived in the midlands I used PT all the time so it wouldn't bother me at all - its only since moving down to the SW that I have driven as its more essential |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
london stratford |
As a man who has been banned from driving for 6 months, I now have to use PT too.
I hate it,
Take this Friday for instance. I am going to a private gangbang, what would take me 30 mins by car us gonna take me over and hour and a half by bus train and bus again.
I haven't had a shag in ages so I have to do it!
Thats life I spose!!!!!
Can't wait till I get my licence back though. |
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"As a man who has been banned from driving for 6 months, I now have to use PT too.
I hate it,
Take this Friday for instance. I am going to a private gangbang, what would take me 30 mins by car us gonna take me over and hour and a half by bus train and bus again.
I haven't had a shag in ages so I have to do it!
Thats life I spose!!!!!
Can't wait till I get my licence back though."
Could try getting an Uber or over such Taxi like service |
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Being at the edge of a public transport network, the last bus back to my village from the nearest town is 18:30.
So is probably only use it for theoretical fab meets on saturdays, and it would still probably take an hour or so to get anywhere. And I'd be stressed about getting home.
So no. I'd be more likely to be cycling anywhere within 10 miles of so.
As a car owner, I'm more than willing to help my date with a lift to my place, if they can't accommodate and have transport issues. |
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I live very close to central London so your be crazy to drive around here, plus PT is very very good no need to wait for longer then 5mins for some sort of service to turn up and also have 24hrs day transport on some services. It also helps I basically get free travel anyway so could go say Scotland returnfor few quid(no I don't own old age pension pass lol) but if I lived in sticks I would definitely have to drive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These are my options
- spent up to £15 each way on Uber
- buss it for £2 pounds singles or wait until PM for £1
- buy a flashy car to use for club nights |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
The nearest bus stop is a mile and a half away, buses don't travel through the village I live, the bus station is 4 miles away and the nearest train station is 20 miles away.
I drive everywhere. |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
london stratford |
"As a man who has been banned from driving for 6 months, I now have to use PT too.
I hate it,
Take this Friday for instance. I am going to a private gangbang, what would take me 30 mins by car us gonna take me over and hour and a half by bus train and bus again.
I haven't had a shag in ages so I have to do it!
Thats life I spose!!!!!
Can't wait till I get my licence back though.
Could try getting an Uber or over such Taxi like service "
due to losing my licence, I became unemployed so cant spend money on Ubers |
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When I lived in London,was pretty easy/fast to use PT for meets.
But now living where I do,costs a arm and a leg just to go a few stops on the train PT isn`t that good/reliable.
Why I am getting a low CC motorbike again,so can meet more further afield and go to some clubs.
Only really meet up with friends I met on here previously,who live close by. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
i guess its different for all i dont plan meet outside of a week for me its thee best way to get rid of timewaters and messers never plan more than a week ahead and sometimes days and sometimes hours so it down to if that person can make it to the arranged meet place if they cant because of public transport then im not meeting them ..
that may sound harsh but om here to meet my needs and thats within my work pattern and life and it suits me fine it works as a great filter too back in the day when i planned meets ahead (weeks and months) most were messers and dreamers since ive been doing the short notice ive not had one let down..
at the end of the day the problem is with the person who can or cannot drive not the other person ..its life i guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?
Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?
I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. "
I neither drive, nor accommodate. Plus I'm not arsed to travel further than the couple of miles into my local town. At a push the next city by 15min train.
I find it helps as a decent filter for those who are actually inclined or not to meet me too though |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"If I was meeting someone I'd always offer to pick them up and if it never went well I'd still drive them baxk"
i know youve not ment it this way .. but imagine being a woman and the meet goes wrong for what ever reason and her only way home is the guy its gone wrong with and then youll understand why most women would not pick that option |
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By *ez669Man
over a year ago
East Kilbride |
"If I was meeting someone I'd always offer to pick them up and if it never went well I'd still drive them baxk
i know youve not ment it this way .. but imagine being a woman and the meet goes wrong for what ever reason and her only way home is the guy its gone wrong with and then youll understand why most women would not pick that option"
Yeah true but im not the sort of person to take the huff if it did not work out so would not make it awkward and I'd want to make sure they got baxk safe. If they never wanted the lift back them thats absoloutlg fine. I'm a bit of a joker so people genuinely feel at ease round me but hey I get whag yohr saying |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
been asked a few time if i can go and pick up a guy (total stranger) as he cant drive .. they just cant see how wrong that sound it should send a shiver down any womans spine .... safety is everything |
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By *ez669Man
over a year ago
East Kilbride |
"been asked a few time if i can go and pick up a guy (total stranger) as he cant drive .. they just cant see how wrong that sound it should send a shiver down any womans spine .... safety is everything"
Yeah absolutely but I simply hate public transport so would always offer them a lift. If they don't feel saft I'd maybe help them get a cab |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
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As a car owner, I'm more than willing to help my date with a lift to my place, if they can't accommodate and have transport issues."
I have done this on a number of occassions.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. PT is a bit hit and miss in my area so not sure how that would play out but each I’d see what I could do to make it easier for all. The way I see it is that your choice of transport is none of my business, you do you |
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Some people are *extremely* judgemental about using public transport – the Tory “If you’re bussing it after the age of thirty, there’s something wrong” crowd.
I am perfectly comfortable with such individuals not wanting to meet me.
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I live in the middle of nowhere. So wouldn’t be an option for me.
But if I agree to meet at a club/ hotel it’s up to them how they get there. Not my issue, I probably wouldn’t know how half my meets arrive. Not really a convo I have x |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"Some people are *extremely* judgemental about using public transport – the Tory “If you’re bussing it after the age of thirty, there’s something wrong” crowd.
I am perfectly comfortable with such individuals not wanting to meet me.
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i dont see any judgement ?? just some people are not going to change the way they play to suit someone catching a bus for alot of people swinging is down to time and the lack of it sadly that means for some pt will not work .... cant blame others for not being able to get there at a certain time ...nobody fault its just what it is... |
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"Some people are *extremely* judgemental about using public transport – the Tory “If you’re bussing it after the age of thirty, there’s something wrong” crowd.
I am perfectly comfortable with such individuals not wanting to meet me.
i dont see any judgement ?? just some people are not going to change the way they play to suit someone catching a bus for alot of people swinging is down to time and the lack of it sadly that means for some pt will not work .... cant blame others for not being able to get there at a certain time ...nobody fault its just what it is... "
Some people do judge on that basis - I have no issue with "logistically it won't work" - but some people do think that there's a difference between whether you get somewhere on a train (bus, tram, etc) or in a car. |
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It definitely makes things more difficult and puts me off. There’s a lot of people I’d like to meet and would if I could drive as time wouldn’t be such a big factor. Makes you wish they could pick you up but obviously it’s not fair to assume the can or will do that. Although those of you that do. You’re the unsung heroes |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I can't drive now so usually use public transport.
As long as I know where I'm going in advance and can plan my journey I'm ok.
I hate being underground and in a packed train or station though, so I try to avoid busy times.
I quite like sitting on the train home, eating my sweets, smelling of the man I've been with.
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Some People are judgemental ..not just if you use public transport..but if you use a different form of transport..I once turned up to a meet on my horse and cart.. the person wasn't happy...ok the cart was full of scrap metal and I did let the horse graze on the front lawn.. but Jesus... some people need to lighten up a bit  |
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"A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?"
I don't own a car because I don't want to own a car.
My mum lives on the other side of the world. |
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"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?
Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?
I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. "
I don't drive use pt trains go most places and taxis where needed but if you made a connection how you get there doesn't matter |
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"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?
Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?
I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be…. "
Why would they mind? |
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"How understanding are people, when you have to use public transport to get to meets? Would it put you off meeting someone?
Does it affect the meets you can/cant have?
I mainly use PT to get around so i do have a small panic factoring in travel to meet people. Much of the time its not a problem, sometimes it would be….
Why would they mind?"
Some people are insanely judgemental. |
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To be fair I am a driver but I often travelled to meets as single guy by public transport. I do like to have a drink and living in the West Midlands does give you great transportation options to most places in the area.
However if live in a more rural location I'm sure it's far more difficult.
Also a lot of Clubs tend to be in the middle of nowhere (or outskirts of the city at best) and inaccessible to public transport. That's what I like about Chameleons in Darlaston, its only a short and frequent bus ride away from Walsall train station. Also what's good about there being two clubs in Leicester City centre within walking distance of the two bus stations and the train station.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?
I don't own a car because I don't want to own a car.
My mum lives on the other side of the world."
You’re a woman so I’m sure men don’t find the lack of car a red flag.
Even so, a man who chooses not to own a car is probably not our type of person, so can’t or won’t own a car is equally a red flag for us.
Each to their own though, but no car no meet for us. |
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"A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?
I don't own a car because I don't want to own a car.
My mum lives on the other side of the world.
You’re a woman so I’m sure men don’t find the lack of car a red flag.
Even so, a man who chooses not to own a car is probably not our type of person, so can’t or won’t own a car is equally a red flag for us.
Each to their own though, but no car no meet for us."
It seems an odd and irrelevant criterion, but to each their own. |
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"I can't see how this could ever matter...
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Sorry, as in whether it's a reason to meet someone or not. Of course I can see it has an impact if you want to meet someone who lives in a very inaccessible location and PT isn't an option. But as a consideration of whether I want to meet a person or not, never. |
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"I can't see how this could ever matter...
Sorry, as in whether it's a reason to meet someone or not. Of course I can see it has an impact if you want to meet someone who lives in a very inaccessible location and PT isn't an option. But as a consideration of whether I want to meet a person or not, never."
Who among us has not considered someone inferior and living with their parents for not owning a car/unicycle/elephant? |
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"I can't see how this could ever matter...
Sorry, as in whether it's a reason to meet someone or not. Of course I can see it has an impact if you want to meet someone who lives in a very inaccessible location and PT isn't an option. But as a consideration of whether I want to meet a person or not, never.
Who among us has not considered someone inferior and living with their parents for not owning a car/unicycle/elephant?"
I know, right. I mean, c'mon! Thinking about it, I'd go further and rule people out on the *type* of car too. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"A guy without a car would be a big red flag for us. Like why don’t you own one? Do you still live in your mums box room?
I don't own a car because I don't want to own a car.
My mum lives on the other side of the world.
You’re a woman so I’m sure men don’t find the lack of car a red flag.
Even so, a man who chooses not to own a car is probably not our type of person, so can’t or won’t own a car is equally a red flag for us.
Each to their own though, but no car no meet for us."
Like us you'd be classed as 'rural', so car ownership would be a bigger priority than elsewhere.
But I lived in London for nigh on a decade without a car and I know plenty of city dwellers who don't own one. Aside from not needing one, there's literally nowhere for them to park, CAZ's are a ball ache and insurance is sky high.
It's way easier to bus/tram/tube/taxi/uber it for many if they're not in the sticks and like us live in the middle of butt fuck nowhere.
So whilst I understand cars are more necessary in rural areas its a tad harsh to say that non car owning men are red flags. What about bikers? Or cyclists? Or people who live close enough to travel to you by taxi?
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I dont drive, live in a city so whats the point? Public transport all the way but I quite like a train journey so happily travel that way.... means more hotel meets for far away but who does a nice lux break away...if someone was so fixated on needing a car to qualify to meet I would think they just arent my type of person.... |
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"I can't see how this could ever matter...
Sorry, as in whether it's a reason to meet someone or not. Of course I can see it has an impact if you want to meet someone who lives in a very inaccessible location and PT isn't an option. But as a consideration of whether I want to meet a person or not, never.
Who among us has not considered someone inferior and living with their parents for not owning a car/unicycle/elephant?"
I can do the car and the elephant, but the unicycle didn't work out. I ordered one from ebay but when it arrived it only had one wheel... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m in an awkward position because I can’t drive but I also can’t accommodate. I try and look for people local so I can get PT there and daytime meets. It does suck cos I would like to visit a social but there’s no buses that run that late |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Like us you'd be classed as 'rural', so car ownership would be a bigger priority than elsewhere.
But I lived in London for nigh on a decade without a car and I know plenty of city dwellers who don't own one. Aside from not needing one, there's literally nowhere for them to park, CAZ's are a ball ache and insurance is sky high.
It's way easier to bus/tram/tube/taxi/uber it for many if they're not in the sticks and like us live in the middle of butt fuck nowhere.
So whilst I understand cars are more necessary in rural areas its a tad harsh to say that non car owning men are red flags. What about bikers? Or cyclists? Or people who live close enough to travel to you by taxi?
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That’s a very good point. We live outside the city and can totally see how our values on car ownership don’t stand for London.
However from personal experience, and not just of fab but people in general, our stance still stands and it would be a red flag. |
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