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Do ladies ever had trouble meeting here?
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There's never any shortage of offers for ladies-even lardy mardy ones like me- but finding someone you actually want to meet is still tricky. Dry spells do happen because quality over quantity is always best |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?"
That's the rub, isn't it? Who they want isn't necessarily to be found in the avalanche of erect members being brandished at them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said I get lots of offers and can get any old sex whenever, the problem is I want to enjoy sex too so the wham bam I’m offered constantly isn’t actually worth considering when it’s not going to scratch the itch so to speak
Dry spells are very frequent but when they’re broken it’s worth the long wait to actually be satisfied |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never short of offers.
Often short of men I’d have sex with lol "
Exactly this. Quality over quantity is the answer. People have standards so might be that the people messaging and offering don't meet those. |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
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In theory women here could get sex here anytime they "wanted" But there is the major distinction between what is possible and what is actually wanted.
I haven't met anyone from here for about 4 years and that was only a social. 
Difficultly is for someone to tick all of your boxes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this assumption isn't correct. Yes it's easier to get offers and attention but to find people who actually are true to their word and show up is difficult. It's not as easy for women as people think and after being let down a lot, I only meet at clubs now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's about the quality of the offer for me not the quantity. I absolutely go through dry spells, finding the people that I want to engage with and of course if it actually happens. I get let down too etc. |
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?"
I really dislike that phrase.
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As a couple and the husband of a hot wife I can categorically say yes they do have problems.
It's amazing how many messages she gets asking for a meet yet as soon as she says yes they are all suspiciously busy.
Its the ones who pester and pester for a meet when she agrees it's got to be 100% o. Their terms usually in a weekday between 10 and 1 .
They always disappear at the weekend wonder why |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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never short of offers but im very selective and wont rush the message stage i could get 100s of messages and not fancy one ... sexual attraction is a must but by far not the only thing and if im honest most dont make it pass the message stage ... so no its not easy to find the right meets and im not part of that fuck anything do anything with anyone part of the scene
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By *3xDECouple
over a year ago
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I don’t think that’s wholly the case, but it would appear to many that it is the way it would seem to be.
I don’t believe it’s any diffrent for women as it is men when it comes to meeting people on here. We have found that although you can put time and effort into someone (no matter the sex) there is never a guarantee that there words and intentions will actually be true to form.
We spent a few months talking to a lady who was more than willing to meet and helped organise times and hotels etc but when it came to it she just went silent. She then contacted us a week later as if nothing had happened and still saying she wanted to meet.
Some people just like the excitement of the chat and the naughty exchanges of messaging but there are only a small percentage that would actually put the effort in for it to actually become a genuine thing.
But I guess with that in mind we are all here for our own reasons, be it a bit of naughty messaging or a meet, it is what it is unfortunately.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All you need to do is look through local updates and see what the most common male option is. I can guarantee it's the same anywhere. Then you'd see why women "have their pick" but don't end up meeting. |
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I get several messages most days. It's very rare they interest me. So yeah, I get a lot of trouble meeting.
Even with people I do want to meet, 12hr shifts, and rolling shift patterns can mean it takes ages to organise meets sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get several messages most days. It's very rare they interest me. So yeah, I get a lot of trouble meeting.
Even with people I do want to meet, 12hr shifts, and rolling shift patterns can mean it takes ages to organise meets sometimes."
Very true. Distance is another one. People can be a fair distance away and if you dont drive getting to these places can affect wether you’ll meet. |
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"Are we broadly agreed that, generally speaking, women struggle to find people they want to meet, while men struggle to find people who want to meet them? "
Very broadly, yes.
I think some men have complained that they would be more picky if they could. Meaning, they're sacrificing their standards to get a certain amount of sex.
To me that's backwards - and it sounds like a lot of women here. If I can't find the people I want to meet, I don't have sex. |
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I have seen numerous well verified women claim that while they have no shortage of offers they struggle to get repeat meets.
There could be an argument that some men like the thrill of the chase and have moved on immediately but then again it can't always be the man's fault.
Having great pics and an amazing bio is no guarantee that anyone is good in bed regardless of how they look so the lack of repeat meets could be because they have flattered to deceive. |
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In the 8/9 months I've been on here I've met maybe 15 people for socials, I've then maybe only had sex with 7/8 of them.
But the total number of people who have unboxed me must be about 1383587649176587
It's not actually as easy for women as people think.
You've got to take through a hell of a lot of sh!t messages to find the odd one worth even returning a message, then maybe 50% of those amount to nothing. |
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?"
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YES! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm guessing a lot of ladies are on the site due to meets have dried up on dating sites....the ladies of fab can get sex whenever they want but as someone said above repeat meets will be rare |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have seen numerous well verified women claim that while they have no shortage of offers they struggle to get repeat meets.
There could be an argument that some men like the thrill of the chase and have moved on immediately but then again it can't always be the man's fault.
Having great pics and an amazing bio is no guarantee that anyone is good in bed regardless of how they look so the lack of repeat meets could be because they have flattered to deceive."
Have I read that right - are you suggesting these women don't get repeat meets because they're shit in bed and deceived men with their pics? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Are we broadly agreed that, generally speaking, women struggle to find people they want to meet, while men struggle to find people who want to meet them?
Very broadly, yes.
I think some men have complained that they would be more picky if they could. Meaning, they're sacrificing their standards to get a certain amount of sex.
To me that's backwards - and it sounds like a lot of women here. If I can't find the people I want to meet, I don't have sex."
This discussion sounds familiar. One that cropped up quite frequently with another poster who appears to have departed.
It ended up with claims of a 'top tier 5%'. Lets not go there again.... 
My views have always been the same. Anyone, male or female can struggle to meet the people they want to meet and equally anyone can find people to meet quite easily, despite all the claims of uneven ratios, preferences and pecking orders.
It's often far more about expectancy levels than actual barriers to meeting.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm guessing a lot of ladies are on the site due to meets have dried up on dating sites....the ladies of fab can get sex whenever they want but as someone said above repeat meets will be rare "
Quite an assumption, that. Perhaps they're interested in more open minded individuals as it's a swinging site. All sorts of reasons why anyone is on any site, but Fab attracts people for a multitude of reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are we broadly agreed that, generally speaking, women struggle to find people they want to meet, while men struggle to find people who want to meet them?
Very broadly, yes.
I think some men have complained that they would be more picky if they could. Meaning, they're sacrificing their standards to get a certain amount of sex.
To me that's backwards - and it sounds like a lot of women here. If I can't find the people I want to meet, I don't have sex.
This discussion sounds familiar. One that cropped up quite frequently with another poster who appears to have departed.
It ended up with claims of a 'top tier 5%'. Lets not go there again....
My views have always been the same. Anyone, male or female can struggle to meet the people they want to meet and equally anyone can find people to meet quite easily, despite all the claims of uneven ratios, preferences and pecking orders.
It's often far more about expectancy levels than actual barriers to meeting.
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I am still formulating a response to the "top 20%" trope. I see it so many times and the evidence just doesn't back up the claim. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of the single ladies on the site aren't swingers just like a lot of the single guys
True swingers meet at clubs "
Do they? Who made you the oracle?
Use "reply and quote" please - it helps people see who you're replying to.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Lots of the single ladies on the site aren't swingers just like a lot of the single guys
True swingers meet at clubs "
Eh? 
What about all the swingers that live hundreds of miles from the nearest club?
Or those that attend house parties?
Or those that meet in hotels or at home?
And why can't singles be swingers?
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I find meeting anyone I’m interested in very difficult. Truly excellent guys are in demand and are rare. There’s a seemingly endless sea of dross though; those who are here for an unpaid service or think that those of us who’re not a size 10 should be grateful for every pitiful advance that comes our way. It really is the pits sometimes.
I tend to meet people at parties and if I like them I’ll try see them privately. I’ve had no success meeting strangers through here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find meeting anyone I’m interested in very difficult. Truly excellent guys are in demand and are rare. There’s a seemingly endless sea of dross though; those who are here for an unpaid service or think that those of us who’re not a size 10 should be grateful for every pitiful advance that comes our way. It really is the pits sometimes.
I tend to meet people at parties and if I like them I’ll try see them privately. I’ve had no success meeting strangers through here. "
That's a great way of meeting people you are truly compatible with  |
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"I have seen numerous well verified women claim that while they have no shortage of offers they struggle to get repeat meets.
There could be an argument that some men like the thrill of the chase and have moved on immediately but then again it can't always be the man's fault.
Having great pics and an amazing bio is no guarantee that anyone is good in bed regardless of how they look so the lack of repeat meets could be because they have flattered to deceive.
Have I read that right - are you suggesting these women don't get repeat meets because they're shit in bed and deceived men with their pics? "
I'm suggesting that it's not beyond the bounds of possibility.
I fully agree that women don't have it easy in regards to meeting because it's difficult to find men they are attracted to or compatible with.
I don't agree that all women find it easier to have sex because as so many have already said there is a big difference between choice and preference.
I'm not suggesting that anyone has deceived with their pics.
What I'm saying is that having great pics and a fantastic bio has no bearing on their skills in bed just as looks alone don't either.
That applies to everyone regardless of gender.
They could be highly skilled or they could be crap but there are any number of reasons that women struggle to get repeat meets with the same men.
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I find it extremely difficult to meet guys on here. To echo what others have said above, beyond the practicalities of work hours, periods, life etc, there just aren’t that many that meet the criteria I’m looking for (no disrespect whatsoever to them).
I put up I was looking for a meet a few days ago & a guy asked if I had got sorted & if not he would meet me, I very rarely reply to say no (for this exact reason) but on this occasion I did. He was genuinely baffled why I would turn him down on the basis I wasn’t physically attracted to him AT ALL. Sent quite the incel rant about how women are all for equality until it comes to sex & if someone is willing & able for sex when you want it you should have it with them. The most bizarre sexual socialism manifesto I’ve ever read in my life 
Basically his summation was that women can have sex with whomever they wish & are therefore extremely lucky & should be kind enough to have sex with any man who offers because it’s harder for them to meet. Apparently I’m a narcissist for being unable to have sex with people I don’t fancy… go figure. |
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"I find meeting anyone I’m interested in very difficult. Truly excellent guys are in demand and are rare. There’s a seemingly endless sea of dross though; those who are here for an unpaid service or think that those of us who’re not a size 10 should be grateful for every pitiful advance that comes our way. It really is the pits sometimes.
I tend to meet people at parties and if I like them I’ll try see them privately. I’ve had no success meeting strangers through here.
That's a great way of meeting people you are truly compatible with "
I’ve found it’s the only thing that works. I’m always open to meeting great people via my inbox but it’s happened only couple of times in nearly 5 years here. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I have seen numerous well verified women claim that while they have no shortage of offers they struggle to get repeat meets.
There could be an argument that some men like the thrill of the chase and have moved on immediately but then again it can't always be the man's fault.
Having great pics and an amazing bio is no guarantee that anyone is good in bed regardless of how they look so the lack of repeat meets could be because they have flattered to deceive.
Have I read that right - are you suggesting these women don't get repeat meets because they're shit in bed and deceived men with their pics?
I'm suggesting that it's not beyond the bounds of possibility.
I fully agree that women don't have it easy in regards to meeting because it's difficult to find men they are attracted to or compatible with.
I don't agree that all women find it easier to have sex because as so many have already said there is a big difference between choice and preference.
I'm not suggesting that anyone has deceived with their pics.
What I'm saying is that having great pics and a fantastic bio has no bearing on their skills in bed just as looks alone don't either.
That applies to everyone regardless of gender.
They could be highly skilled or they could be crap but there are any number of reasons that women struggle to get repeat meets with the same men.
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Yep,
A stunning size 10 attractive blonde, with huge boobs and long legs might be many a guy's ideal meet on here.
Until the morning after you've taken her home for the night you've woken up to find one of your bunnies on the hob, the lounge redecorated, a second flat packed wardrobe assembled and stocked in your bedroom overnight whilst you slept, and every book on your shelves reorganised into size and colour rather than alphabetically by author as they were the day before.
And she's shaved your long haired cat.
And nipped out to the 24 hr Tesco down the road to order new joint stationary and get a front door key cut.
I'm sure everyone has met 'crazy' at least once in their life.
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"I'd also like to add that I'm guessing the site as given a lot of ladies a great confidence booster "
Can only speak for me but doesn’t do anything for my confidence, good or bad. I already know what I think of myself, no amount of “hey beautiful” messages from men who haven’t even seen my face could ever change that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd also like to add that I'm guessing the site as given a lot of ladies a great confidence booster
I’m interested why you would think that?
That hasn’t been the case for me. "
Just a generalisation from the ladies I've chatted with on here  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I'd also like to add that I'm guessing the site as given a lot of ladies a great confidence booster
I’m interested why you would think that?
That hasn’t been the case for me.
Just a generalisation from the ladies I've chatted with on here "
I'd guess equally that the site has given a lot of men a confidence boost too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd also like to add that I'm guessing the site as given a lot of ladies a great confidence booster
I’m interested why you would think that?
That hasn’t been the case for me. "
Same here, but his site doesn’t boost my ego at all, quite the opposite at times |
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"I'd also like to add that I'm guessing the site as given a lot of ladies a great confidence booster
I’m interested why you would think that?
That hasn’t been the case for me.
Same here, but his site doesn’t boost my ego at all, quite the opposite at times "
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over a year ago
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"I find it extremely difficult to meet guys on here. To echo what others have said above, beyond the practicalities of work hours, periods, life etc, there just aren’t that many that meet the criteria I’m looking for (no disrespect whatsoever to them).
I put up I was looking for a meet a few days ago & a guy asked if I had got sorted & if not he would meet me, I very rarely reply to say no (for this exact reason) but on this occasion I did. He was genuinely baffled why I would turn him down on the basis I wasn’t physically attracted to him AT ALL. Sent quite the incel rant about how women are all for equality until it comes to sex & if someone is willing & able for sex when you want it you should have it with them. The most bizarre sexual socialism manifesto I’ve ever read in my life
Basically his summation was that women can have sex with whomever they wish & are therefore extremely lucky & should be kind enough to have sex with any man who offers because it’s harder for them to meet. Apparently I’m a narcissist for being unable to have sex with people I don’t fancy… go figure."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have seen numerous well verified women claim that while they have no shortage of offers they struggle to get repeat meets.
There could be an argument that some men like the thrill of the chase and have moved on immediately but then again it can't always be the man's fault.
Having great pics and an amazing bio is no guarantee that anyone is good in bed regardless of how they look so the lack of repeat meets could be because they have flattered to deceive.
Have I read that right - are you suggesting these women don't get repeat meets because they're shit in bed and deceived men with their pics?
I'm suggesting that it's not beyond the bounds of possibility.
I fully agree that women don't have it easy in regards to meeting because it's difficult to find men they are attracted to or compatible with.
I don't agree that all women find it easier to have sex because as so many have already said there is a big difference between choice and preference.
I'm not suggesting that anyone has deceived with their pics.
What I'm saying is that having great pics and a fantastic bio has no bearing on their skills in bed just as looks alone don't either.
That applies to everyone regardless of gender.
They could be highly skilled or they could be crap but there are any number of reasons that women struggle to get repeat meets with the same men.
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?"
I often go to clubs and don't get anything x |
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?"
We go through dry spells when there is no messages  so sometimes it's easy sometimes not |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
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I'm not surprised with the way things are.
I hardly meet because everything has to be right for me and you to enjoy ourselves.
So what if I go without. Time spent is an investment to spend wisely.
Take care |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells? I often go to clubs and don't get anything x
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That's a surprise |
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By *ortyairCouple
over a year ago
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Have no problem with messages from guys but have had some problems finding genuine guys.
Quite a few guys backing out last minute, which is their loss but when you have arranged everything, time off, nice hotel etc, it can be annoying.
But that said I have been lucky and met some great guys from here over the years xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never short of offers.
Often short of men I’d have sex with lol "
Absolutely agree. There are hordes of women and couples but few who pique any real interest! |
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"In the 8/9 months I've been on here I've met maybe 15 people for socials, I've then maybe only had sex with 7/8 of them.
But the total number of people who have unboxed me must be about 1383587649176587
It's not actually as easy for women as people think.
You've got to take through a hell of a lot of sh!t messages to find the odd one worth even returning a message, then maybe 50% of those amount to nothing."
More messages than you can count, 15 socials, and 7 or 8 partners in only 8 or 9 months. "Not as easy for women as people think."
Okay. I would quite like to try having this sort of "difficulty" for a while. Just for comparative reasons, of course.
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"In the 8/9 months I've been on here I've met maybe 15 people for socials, I've then maybe only had sex with 7/8 of them.
But the total number of people who have unboxed me must be about 1383587649176587
It's not actually as easy for women as people think.
You've got to take through a hell of a lot of sh!t messages to find the odd one worth even returning a message, then maybe 50% of those amount to nothing.
More messages than you can count, 15 socials, and 7 or 8 partners in only 8 or 9 months. "Not as easy for women as people think."
Okay. I would quite like to try having this sort of "difficulty" for a while. Just for comparative reasons, of course.
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What I'm saying is..... By comparison to the number of messages I receive, only a teeny tiny fraction lead to even a social.....
And then only about 50% of those socials lead to anything further.....
So from the percentage of messages I receive the tiniest of numbers lead to me actually having sex with someone.... Women have to do A LOT of ing
I don't even read half the messages....
One line messages,
Those containing dick pics from the off,
Are the bulk of what gets sent, and just get instantly deleted, I'd say a good 80% of the men I receive messages from can't bother to put in any effort from the word go.... So there most likely not gonna put the effort in further down the line! So I won't waste my time |
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"In the 8/9 months I've been on here I've met maybe 15 people for socials, I've then maybe only had sex with 7/8 of them.
But the total number of people who have unboxed me must be about 1383587649176587
It's not actually as easy for women as people think.
You've got to take through a hell of a lot of sh!t messages to find the odd one worth even returning a message, then maybe 50% of those amount to nothing.
More messages than you can count, 15 socials, and 7 or 8 partners in only 8 or 9 months. "Not as easy for women as people think."
Okay. I would quite like to try having this sort of "difficulty" for a while. Just for comparative reasons, of course.
What I'm saying is..... By comparison to the number of messages I receive, only a teeny tiny fraction lead to even a social.....
And then only about 50% of those socials lead to anything further.....
So from the percentage of messages I receive the tiniest of numbers lead to me actually having sex with someone.... Women have to do A LOT of ing
I don't even read half the messages....
One line messages,
Those containing dick pics from the off,
Are the bulk of what gets sent, and just get instantly deleted, I'd say a good 80% of the men I receive messages from can't bother to put in any effort from the word go.... So there most likely not gonna put the effort in further down the line! So I won't waste my time "
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"In the 8/9 months I've been on here I've met maybe 15 people for socials, I've then maybe only had sex with 7/8 of them.
But the total number of people who have unboxed me must be about 1383587649176587
It's not actually as easy for women as people think.
You've got to take through a hell of a lot of sh!t messages to find the odd one worth even returning a message, then maybe 50% of those amount to nothing.
More messages than you can count, 15 socials, and 7 or 8 partners in only 8 or 9 months. "Not as easy for women as people think."
Okay. I would quite like to try having this sort of "difficulty" for a while. Just for comparative reasons, of course.
What I'm saying is..... By comparison to the number of messages I receive, only a teeny tiny fraction lead to even a social.....
And then only about 50% of those socials lead to anything further.....
So from the percentage of messages I receive the tiniest of numbers lead to me actually having sex with someone.... Women have to do A LOT of ing
I don't even read half the messages....
One line messages,
Those containing dick pics from the off,
Are the bulk of what gets sent, and just get instantly deleted, I'd say a good 80% of the men I receive messages from can't bother to put in any effort from the word go.... So there most likely not gonna put the effort in further down the line! So I won't waste my time
Would you prefer to have no messages, no meets and no sex at all? "
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By *w1980Man
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?"
Woman rule, if they want sex with a guy they get it if a guy wants sex with a woman he only gets it if the woman says so.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?
Woman rule, if they want sex with a guy they get it if a guy wants sex with a woman he only gets it if the woman says so.
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Yeah, nah.
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"In the 8/9 months I've been on here I've met maybe 15 people for socials, I've then maybe only had sex with 7/8 of them.
But the total number of people who have unboxed me must be about 1383587649176587
It's not actually as easy for women as people think.
You've got to take through a hell of a lot of sh!t messages to find the odd one worth even returning a message, then maybe 50% of those amount to nothing.
More messages than you can count, 15 socials, and 7 or 8 partners in only 8 or 9 months. "Not as easy for women as people think."
Okay. I would quite like to try having this sort of "difficulty" for a while. Just for comparative reasons, of course.
What I'm saying is..... By comparison to the number of messages I receive, only a teeny tiny fraction lead to even a social.....
And then only about 50% of those socials lead to anything further.....
So from the percentage of messages I receive the tiniest of numbers lead to me actually having sex with someone.... Women have to do A LOT of ing
I don't even read half the messages....
One line messages,
Those containing dick pics from the off,
Are the bulk of what gets sent, and just get instantly deleted, I'd say a good 80% of the men I receive messages from can't bother to put in any effort from the word go.... So there most likely not gonna put the effort in further down the line! So I won't waste my time
Would you prefer to have no messages, no meets and no sex at all? "
Why should that be the alternative? I think most of us would prefer to approached respectfully by men who’ve taken the time read our profile and are fairly sure they’re what we’re looking for before approaching. Unfortunately that almost never happens. |
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?
Woman rule, if they want sex with a guy they get it if a guy wants sex with a woman he only gets it if the woman says so.
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?
Woman rule, if they want sex with a guy they get it if a guy wants sex with a woman he only gets it if the woman says so.
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So you're saying that men are not capable of saying no, or are so desperate that they always say yes?
That doesn't make men look good. |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?
Woman rule, if they want sex with a guy they get it if a guy wants sex with a woman he only gets it if the woman says so.
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rubbish. ive turned women down politely because they were not what im looking for.
i will always wait for the right people to come along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I wanted to have sex with no connection, no introduction, no strings and with someone who I might not even be attracted to, then I could have sex within a couple of hours.
But given how much I loathe one night stands, casual meets or the concept of “no strings attached” hook up culture (outside of swinging/kink clubs) then yes it’s tricky.
Finding men on here who are willing to chat, become friends and respects my needs as a human being… THAT is hard.
But finding sex? No. I could open my legs and a queue for entry would form stretching the length of the M9. |
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I’ve been swinging for many years mainly private groups done a few clubs but regularly.
The private groups are so good cause you do get to chat have a drink have a laugh and attraction can build on more than what just some one looks like.
I’ve met with a hand ful of people on here but chatted for a bit first had a social with some first and then had sexual fun from there.
I find a good personality and some one who’s open to having a laugh the most attractive thing
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"If I wanted to have sex with no connection, no introduction, no strings and with someone who I might not even be attracted to, then I could have sex within a couple of hours.
But given how much I loathe one night stands, casual meets or the concept of “no strings attached” hook up culture (outside of swinging/kink clubs) then yes it’s tricky.
Finding men on here who are willing to chat, become friends and respects my needs as a human being… THAT is hard.
But finding sex? No. I could open my legs and a queue for entry would form stretching the length of the M9. "
This but I wouldn't want just sex. I want great sex. |
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"I was just thinking about the phrase “Women have sex with who they want and men have sex with who they can”
Made me think is it always that easy for ladies or do they go through dry spells?
Women rule, if they want sex with a guy they get it, if a guy wants sex with a woman he only gets it if the woman says so.
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No, the rules of attraction always apply.
The simple fact in Fab/swinger clubs is; the amount of men always outnumber the ladies. So, it's easier for a woman to find someone she is attracted to, when she has so many to choose from, and then it's quite handy if that person finds her attractive too.
I've declined offers from ladies in Fab, and in clubs. This 'lifestyle' isn't about sex just because you can  |
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