It’s just popped in my head from seeing something on one of our previous threads that people are too shy to go up to someone they like and say hi.
It’s a bit comical isn’t it really… we go to a club and walk around naked infront of strangers but yet won’t go up to someone and say hi lol
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But also true even walking naked in a club it can be intimidating aproach someone. In my experience i am very shy and quiet so i found extremely difficult because i am always afraid of the reaction of people in other words rejection or not open even to just socialise. Nevertheless have the knowledge that if one is shy , quiet also can pass an image or energy that can in some way distance people from approaching as the energy they get is not captivating.
In the end is nobody fault is just that we all are diferent and we all perceive things differently from each other's  |
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When I (Mr) first introduced to the lifestyle. I was very shy, because that’s what kind of a person I am anyway, or was I did get told off by the Mrs on numerous occasions, for been oblivious to charge, I have a few people smiling and looking at me but because I’ve got no confidence I wasn’t sure about the signs but with each time I go to a club, my confidence grows and I pluck up the courage to speak to people |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
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I think being shy is perfectly normal behaviour.
I'm sure the same could be said about messaging someone you like on here but think your not good enough or that it will be dismissed out of hand so you never approach.
Shame really but we are nervous |
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I'm the same. Will walk around in lingerie/ with my boobs out in a club and yet I struggle to make the first move in going up to other couples to chat. Something myself and Mr need to work on really so as to not stand around like lemons all night. |
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I'm happy enough to go to a club on my own, and walk around in a sexy dress or undies but I struggle, because I'm shy, in walking up to people and just start talking. I'm the same when I'm out un vanilla life.
Once I'm chatting I'm OK.
I also really struggle with messaging people/strangers.
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I cant speak for anyone else obviously, but for me being in a club, surrounded by strangers in all states of dress or undress means I can be anyone I like.. I can be the confident sexy woman if I want to, noone knows any different..
Out in real life it can be much more daunting I think x |
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"I'm happy enough to go to a club on my own, and walk around in a sexy dress or undies but I struggle, because I'm shy, in walking up to people and just start talking. I'm the same when I'm out un vanilla life.
Once I'm chatting I'm OK.
I also really struggle with messaging people/strangers.
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Exactly the same. People think I’m standoffish or rude. I’m not I’m just painfully, annoyingly, shy and I really struggle making new friends. |
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I really feel this!
People expect me to be really confident, but I am actually shy until I feel comfortable.
The reason I stopped going to clubs is because I found it so hard to approach people, and have such a good resting bitch face no one would approach me! Lol. |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"I really feel this!
People expect me to be really confident, but I am actually shy until I feel comfortable.
The reason I stopped going to clubs is because I found it so hard to approach people, and have such a good resting bitch face no one would approach me! Lol. "
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"I really feel this!
People expect me to be really confident, but I am actually shy until I feel comfortable.
The reason I stopped going to clubs is because I found it so hard to approach people, and have such a good resting bitch face no one would approach me! Lol. "
We’ve both been told we have resting bitch faces hahaa |
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"I really feel this!
People expect me to be really confident, but I am actually shy until I feel comfortable.
The reason I stopped going to clubs is because I found it so hard to approach people, and have such a good resting bitch face no one would approach me! Lol.
We’ve both been told we have resting bitch faces hahaa"
It is a problem! Lol. |
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"I'm happy enough to go to a club on my own, and walk around in a sexy dress or undies but I struggle, because I'm shy, in walking up to people and just start talking. I'm the same when I'm out un vanilla life.
Once I'm chatting I'm OK.
I also really struggle with messaging people/strangers.
Exactly the same. People think I’m standoffish or rude. I’m not I’m just painfully, annoyingly, shy and I really struggle making new friends. "
I'm the same. I do push myself to go to different place and meet new people, and then find starting conversation hard.
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"I think it’s hard to start conversations with people, I tend to find complimenting what the others are wearing helps"
But what if they aren't wearing anything?!? |
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"I cant speak for anyone else obviously, but for me being in a club, surrounded by strangers in all states of dress or undress means I can be anyone I like.. I can be the confident sexy woman if I want to, noone knows any different..
Out in real life it can be much more daunting I think x "
I like this attitude! I might try and adopt it.
I'm hugely introvert in daily life, so approaching people is never high on my to do list. In a club it's even worse. Being naked is fine, I'm ok with that. But actually going up to people and engaging in conversation makes me die inside. |
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I don’t like making the first move and always think people will approach me if they are interested. I do try to subtlely make eye contact or a cheeky smile to show I am interested but i must be too subtle or people just don’t like me as it rarely works.
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"I think it’s hard to start conversations with people, I tend to find complimenting what the others are wearing helps
But what if they aren't wearing anything?!?"
Then you compliment how they look, boobs, bum, cock if needs be lol |
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"I cant speak for anyone else obviously, but for me being in a club, surrounded by strangers in all states of dress or undress means I can be anyone I like.. I can be the confident sexy woman if I want to, noone knows any different..
Out in real life it can be much more daunting I think x
I like this attitude! I might try and adopt it.
I'm hugely introvert in daily life, so approaching people is never high on my to do list. In a club it's even worse. Being naked is fine, I'm ok with that. But actually going up to people and engaging in conversation makes me die inside. "
The way I see it is that clubs are all about fantasy, escapism, fun and feeling the best you can feel... the best thing for me now is leaving insecurities at the door and being who I want to be... if I'm not people's cuppa tea then no skin off my nose.... in the real world though, it's a different story lol x
Good luck, it takes some reminding yourself you can be amazing but you can do it x |
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