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honesty and your profile
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is this a trick question?
Seriously, why would you want to lie on your profile? You'll only get found out if you manage to convince someone to meet you - and then what are you going to do if they then go on to report you for being a fake - i.e. not who you claim to be.
I really don't see any reason why anyone could possibly believe it's worth lying on their profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, we have very highly tuned bullshit detectors and a whiff of anything above a little self promotion or exaggeration (which are normal) will be smelt out. We also forensically examine all photos for excessive filters or photoshop.
A good, honest profile says a lot about a person's character and that's far more important to us than a big cock or perk tits.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are totally honest. We’ve been told we could get away with saying we’re younger but why would we?!
We’ve talked to and met lots of liars unfortunately |
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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago
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Ours is totally honest and we would expect the same from anyone that we meet.
We have come across people who weren't interested or one half of a couple and they weren't honest with us about it putting us all in an awkward position. What's the point. We wouldn't be offended, we can't be everyone's cup of tea and likewise people can't be ours just don't go around it the wrong way |
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I'm honest on mine appart from I have not willing to meet single men, which I say later in my profile that I will sometimes but I had it on willing to meet single men for an afternoon the other day and was so overwhelmed with the amount of messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the opening statement in my profile states my opinion. It reads…
So here is the thang, the big old humdingger of an elephant in the room that you think we won’t notice. When you lie on your profile, about your age, your marital status, anything really. You are removing a persons ability to consent. A person sets their boundaries of what they are looking for, you, by changing your age/status etc to fit that bracket/preferences, isn’t cute, it’s deceptive and it gains access to someone via false pretences. If you don’t understand that that is a consent violation, you shouldn’t be playing with anyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ours is open and honest, why wouldn’t it be? There’s nothing more off putting or infuriating than being lied to. Swinging is hugely based on trust, and I think anyone in this lifestyle should know that. The ones lying tend to be the ones who aren’t serious about it.
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"Is this a trick question?
Seriously, why would you want to lie on your profile? You'll only get found out if you manage to convince someone to meet you - and then what are you going to do if they then go on to report you for being a fake - i.e. not who you claim to be.
I really don't see any reason why anyone could possibly believe it's worth lying on their profile"
Depends if you actually want to meet, if it's a profile made just for wank fodder through fake verifications then I guess they couldn't care less. For some it's just a numbers game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.. when I lied about my age I got much more interest... it's surprising how many people want a 99 year old..  "
This comment right here made me actually lol. I often wonder, would they consider a 101 year old or is that too far? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile picture is me and was taken a week ago. The bedding is photoshopped to be white though. If you saw the pattern of his bedding you’d understand. Like something to put you in a trance  |
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"Is this a trick question?
Seriously, why would you want to lie on your profile? You'll only get found out if you manage to convince someone to meet you - and then what are you going to do if they then go on to report you for being a fake - i.e. not who you claim to be.
I really don't see any reason why anyone could possibly believe it's worth lying on their profile"
People lie on a CV, lie to the police, why not lie on a profile. |
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"Is this a trick question?
Seriously, why would you want to lie on your profile? You'll only get found out if you manage to convince someone to meet you - and then what are you going to do if they then go on to report you for being a fake - i.e. not who you claim to be.
I really don't see any reason why anyone
could possibly believe it's worth lying on their profile
People lie on a CV, lie to the police, why not lie on a profile."
Because you always get found out in the end |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the opening statement in my profile states my opinion. It reads…
So here is the thang, the big old humdingger of an elephant in the room that you think we won’t notice. When you lie on your profile, about your age, your marital status, anything really. You are removing a persons ability to consent. A person sets their boundaries of what they are looking for, you, by changing your age/status etc to fit that bracket/preferences, isn’t cute, it’s deceptive and it gains access to someone via false pretences. If you don’t understand that that is a consent violation, you shouldn’t be playing with anyone.
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That's brilliant. A whole lot more useful than that stupid legal disclaimer that so many stick on their profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems more people tell little white lies about ages / height and small things like that……
When wife had her own profile, she met a guy who was 6ft on profile, she turned up and he was smaller than her (she’s 5ft 5)
And another meet who was 42 on his profile but was actually 48 (he attempted to add her on facebook after a few meets)
Oh and another who was a “dom” but ended up just being an egotistical racist who thought repeating “you slut” was a dominant thing |
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I chose a honest profile, hence the empty inbox 
Pretending something your not, might get you a initial meet, but probably not any further.
But while I'm here, is anyone looking for Usain Bolt lookalike with a thick 10" BBC? |
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If you aren't into us based on what you can see and read on our profile, then you aren't going to be into us when you meet us in person.
Can't see the point in making anything up, we are here to meet and we have no interest in awkward meets where the other person feels duped into something... |
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"does it pay to be honest on your profile ??? how many actually are ??"
we are totally what you see is what you get, 100% no point telling fibs, no point pretending, no point misleading folks.
Fake stuff is annoying  |
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"does it pay to be honest on your profile ??? how many actually are ??"
I don't think it pays to be 100% honest. It's rare that people give their real name for instance and I shudder when people give details such as job, having young children at home etc.
Give the information that allows people to decide if they want to meet you or not and no more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty is always a good place to start from. Trust is hard to gain but so easily lost when there is a hint of dishonesty. But some people’s view of honesty is clouded by their own perception of what honesty is. Embellishing the truth, omission of key details and evasion are not always seen as dishonesty by some.
Altering facts to deceive is possibly more along the lines of what we are discussing here and these can take a while to root out. It’s a shame as just seems a waste of time for both parties.
Such is human nature I suppose.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"does it pay to be honest on your profile ??? how many actually are ??
we are totally what you see is what you get, 100% no point telling fibs, no point pretending, no point misleading folks.
Fake stuff is annoying "
And your a bloody lovely couple |
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worlds apart between lying/deceiving and just not giving up information freely..
I don't spill all on my profile/or in conversations with people . I tend to only give something if I am directly asked something that isn't listed ...
as for things like ages/location etc I think its ok if its within a year or 2 as some people are just playing discreet with trying to avoid getting linked from real life onto here I guess ..
If someone is 50 and proclaiming to be 30 well yeah then there is a problem but then easily caught out with a quick video chat prior to meeting anyway . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah lying on your profile isn't too bad.. picture of your cock as your profile picture though... Great to see when you're in the middle of reading... muppet"
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I am and it's probably cost me potential meets but I don't care. Honesty all round is the best policy and I couldn't feel comfortable lying to my wife and to people on here. Unlike many, many others on here who do it day after day and those people who find it easier to believe them. |
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I don't see the point in lying, if you actually going to meet people your going to be found out now aren't you. Mine is truthful maybe old pictures but have recent face pic in private folder for those I add as a friend. |
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